FabSwingers.com forum: How do you like to be approached

By *eaterman OP Man
5 days ago

Reading

How do you expect the first message you receive from another person on fab to be.

Do you like it straight to the point of a meet or would you rather them say 'hi' etc?

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By *kphooeyMan
5 days ago

Finchley

"How do you like to be approached?"

From in front. If you come up behind me I am likely to jump, or swing round an thump you (nervous disposition or ticklish)

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
5 days ago

S. Herts

If I want meets without getting to know them at all I can just go on grin.dr

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By *ansoffateMan
5 days ago

Sagittarius A

I like it when they tell me what they want to do to me, in graphic detail.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 days ago

King's Crustacean

FAF is straight to the point and so is..........

Hello, I'm Tom - I've read your profile and see that we are looking for the same kind of meets in similar areas.

If you read my profile and think that it'd be a good idea to speak further on this get back to me.

Have a great day.

( change the wording of the above according to the perceived personality of individuals )

I just won't do yards and miles and light years of nattering tho .....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 days ago

King's Crustacean

Okay O.P.

Having thought about it .....

Hi, FAF seems to fit both requirements

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By *ivilised matureMan
5 days ago

Barnes

Often lol

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By *rriseMan
5 days ago

liverpool

"FAF is straight to the point and so is..........

Hello, I'm Tom - I've read your profile and see that we are looking for the same kind of meets in similar areas.

If you read my profile and think that it'd be a good idea to speak further on this get back to me.

Have a great day.

( change the wording of the above according to the perceived personality of individuals )

I just won't do yards and miles and light years of nattering tho ....."

Good start... Think I will copy and paste lol

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By *rHotNottsMan
5 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I like them to introduce themselves, say what it is they like about me / my profile, and what it is they want.

But if they’re hot they can just say hi, I’ll do all the work.

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By *ougarsilkWoman
5 days ago

Pleasure heaven

Think how you would approach someone in a pub or at an event and how you strike up a conversation there.

FAF, graphic descriptions, copy and paste and three pics normally gets you a block or delete

Hwuu2 is pretty common however its hit and miss for a reply

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By *onkeynutWoman
5 days ago

somewhere

Normally. No graphic message, no one word messages… just say hi, introduce themselves a little etc.

Oh preferably no dick pic, but I can overlook that if the message contains other pictures.

But if said dick pic is flacid and hairy or inside someone else….yeh that’s a delete.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
5 days ago

Cheshire

No problem if their profile is larder full of interesting information and reasons why our fantasies or personality match. Then a quick ‘Hi’ message or something along the lines of, let’s talk.

But a Hi with no profile pictures, text or verifications is a tendency in my inbox.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
5 days ago

Sherwood Forest

We do like straight to the point but do like a chat first also to make sure we are on the same page. We really don't like long chats for weeks on end and especially dirty text chat... that definitely isn't our thing at all.

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By *immyinreadingMan
5 days ago

henley on thames

"How do you expect the first message you receive from another person on fab to be.

Do you like it straight to the point of a meet or would you rather them say 'hi' etc?"

More than one word.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
5 days ago

The Big Smoke

"How do you expect the first message you receive from another person on fab to be.

Do you like it straight to the point of a meet or would you rather them say 'hi' etc?"

Neither tbh OP.

A conversation is always good

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By *issmorganWoman
5 days ago

Calderdale innit

I like a message that shows they've read my profile & are what if be looking for.

I don't like crude or graphic 1st messages, it's an instant delete. Same with those asking to meet when we've never spoken before.

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By *immyinreadingMan
5 days ago

henley on thames

"How do you expect the first message you receive from another person on fab to be.

Do you like it straight to the point of a meet or would you rather them say 'hi' etc?

More than one word. "

… 2 isn’t much better … just had “hello you”

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By *8on33Man
5 days ago

winfrith

can I have a " fuck me please " reply thank you so much .

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By *imi_RougeWoman
5 days ago

Portsmouth

With respect

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By *igR93Man
5 days ago

Sarcasm City

Carefully

The same way you’d approach a stray dog

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
5 days ago

It doesn't matter how attractive someone is, if they go straight in with a let's meet, I zone out and it will always be a no

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By *otSoPoshWoman
5 days ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Honestly, it entirely depends on my mood at the moment I open the message (ignoring, for the moment, that I very rarely look in my inbox).

If I like the look of the profile, just a "Hi, how are you?" might spur me to an answer. But if I'm not in the right head space to reply, I won't even if it looks like a well thought out, perfectly matching message from someone who ticks all my boxes.

The best messaging advice anyone can give is to be yourself, and just hope that the person you are sending the message to is in a receptive place and feels you're someone they'd like to talk to.

And don't take a lack of reply personally. Because it can't be... the stranger you sent a message to doesn't know you either.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
5 days ago

Leeds

Like a human not a hole.

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By *agatoXXXMan
5 days ago

2nd door on the right.

Stealthily.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
5 days ago

cardiff

With a nice cup of tea

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By *artfordBlokeMan
5 days ago

Dartford

Without assumptions

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By *entBarryUKMan
5 days ago

Ashford

From the dark, with chocolate

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By *oody BMan
5 days ago

Mcr. - The Gilded Palace of Sin

Anything realy, I assume any message in my inbox or face to face is a polite icebreaker.

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By *WINGStars23Couple
5 days ago

Chorley, & East Lanc's

We prefer people to be polite in their first message and be able to start up a conversation. It's not difficult.

We answer all messaged in the same way.

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By *heBelladonnaWoman
5 days ago

Central London

I just won't do yards and miles and light years of nattering tho ....."

I received a message once from a person that quoted my profile sentence by sentence with an associated reply. If you’ve read my profile it’s miles and miles. This was doubly so. It was one of the strangest opening messages ever. I didn’t know if it was a critique of my profile in school essay review format or what to make of the approach.

I deleted it without reply in the end.

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By *aughtyfun_121Man
5 days ago

Bradford

So, having read this thread, apart from my profile being crap on a good day, sending 'let's fuck' as a first message hasn't done me any favours has it

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By *erfHerder74Man
5 days ago

Greenock

Personality I prefer a norm as l conversation then we would compliment each others pictures etc.

I’ve found there’s no real attraction until meeting for the first time outside, then the flirting can begin naturally

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By *oody BMan
5 days ago

Mcr. - The Gilded Palace of Sin

"Anything realy, I assume any message in my inbox or face to face is a polite icebreaker.

Haha. And to follow on, unlike the message I might have recieved a few moments ago.

*if you can read this, you are a complete asshole if you think saying that to me then blocking me before I can deal with a wanker who doesn’t give me a chance to come back at you with my own humourous observation of your looks and build is brave. Act like an adult dickhead this place is normally for grown ups.

I would reply that^IF I recieved a bad icebreaker

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
5 days ago

Glasgow

I only tend to message people if I actually have something to say. Manufacturing some sort of ‘way in’ feels bizarre.

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By *agnar73Man
5 days ago

Glasgow

I guess I get responded to.

Friends do occasionally message too.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
5 days ago

manchester

"How do you expect the first message you receive from another person on fab to be.

Do you like it straight to the point of a meet or would you rather them say 'hi' etc?"

We won’t meet anyone who approaches us. So we like people to read the profile and show respect.

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 days ago

The West

99% of the messages I get from women and couples are along the lines of a simple 'hi, how are you' and that's totally fine for me. It's usually clear in about three messages what direction things are going in and I don't over think it.

If I send a message it's usually no more than two lines and probably references the reason I'm messaging. Most of my messages get replies but I don't send many.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
5 days ago

Portsmouth

"Carefully

The same way you’d approach a stray dog "

And with food?

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By *rown_Bread78Man
5 days ago

LS8

On your knees, mouth open

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By *entBarryUKMan
5 days ago

Ashford

"Carefully

The same way you’d approach a stray dog

And with food?"

Being approached with food is always good, especially if it's being offered!

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By *oastal1968Man
5 days ago

Ascot

With beer and pork scratchings.

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By *onkoMan
5 days ago

here and there

Ok prefer them to approach the person behind me

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
5 days ago

Launceston

"Like a human not a hole.

This succinctly sums it up for me!

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
5 days ago

Merseyside

Just like a normal human would approach another with a sensible conversation

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 days ago

East Sussex

By someone waving a white flag of surrender

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By *ark n kimCouple
4 days ago

durham

Yes we just love the 1st message to be,hi,how's yous,what you looking for(hint read our profile)

It actually gives you a good idea what we are looking for.

Then the pics.multible cock shots just from different angles or up against a lynx can or a sky remote.

You then take a look at their profile,and what do you know they are complaining about how hard it is to get a meet on here.

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By *agatoXXXMan
4 days ago

2nd door on the right.

"I guess I get responded to.

Friends do occasionally message too."

Responses? Friends? Messages?

I call bullshit!

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By *8on33Man
4 days ago

winfrith

"By someone waving a white flag of surrender "
really what are you about to do to him?

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
4 days ago

St Leonards

My favourites are combinations of cheek, humour, playfulness, fear, defiance, intelligence, and vulnerability.

But I can work with a "Hi".

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
4 days ago

Ayrshire

Never from behind, PTSD kicks in!

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
2 days ago

London

With an interesting unknown fact about an animal

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
2 days ago

Second star to the right…

A little joke and a little flirty is the way to get me to flick out my attachment

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