FabSwingers.com forum: Should I or shouldn’t I?

By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

Me & my now (ex) partner broke up recently, we were together 4 years. The relationship was really great, intimate & very sexy! Relationship cut off due to both of us battling with our own inner demons, both came to an agreement to call it off on good terms.

She has suggested we have “ONE MORE NIGHT” together, of fun, intimacy & everything in between.

I feel slightly conflicted??? We both clearly got feelings for one another, but both far too stubborn to admit it.

Do I give her a good seeing too & a goodbye or is it a bad idea?

FYI I feel like I’m writing to Dear Deidre here

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By *ags73Man
34 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Nah.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
34 weeks ago

Somewhere near here

Don’t, there’s a reason they’re an ex

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I’d say do it but only if you’re not completely against the thought of yous 2 getting back together further down the line

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
34 weeks ago

somewhere

It's never just one night. I was shagging my ex husband for the best part of a year before Rubik came along.

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By *ythenMan
34 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin

"It's never just one night. I was shagging my ex husband for the best part of a year before Rubik came along."

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By *ags73Man
34 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"It's never just one night. I was shagging my ex husband for the best part of a year before Rubik came along."

Was it worth it?

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Seems like a recipe for disaster

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By *rHotNottsMan
34 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Why don’t you do the opposite agree to meet and go out and talk and definitely not have sex

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
34 weeks ago

Excommunicdo.

Nah.

If you’re walking away, do it properly.

No half measures.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

so your not ready to leave! Maybe more talking is required!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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34 weeks ago

East Sussex

Do it! What could possibly go wrong? Apart from emotional damage, lingering doubt, upset and heartache.

Things are over or they're not. Someone will get hurt unless you both have the intention of getting back together. If you do both get help for your 'demons'

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By *hatKlungeEnigmaMan
34 weeks ago

St Leonards

It's a bad idea.

But what else have you both got going on?

If nothing better, do it.

You might even get back together, and that will probably be shit too.

But if you've got nothing else going on, at least the shit will fill your time until you DO get something better going on.

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By *ripfillMan
34 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Have you thought about seeing a councillor who is an expert on relationships

It may exozise those inner demons ?

Create a new platform from which you can both work from

A councillor is a neutral objective person

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By *erfHerder74Man
34 weeks ago

Inverclyde

Going back with an ex is as fun as shoving a poo up your bum after you got it out

It’s going to be unsatisfying and messy

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
34 weeks ago

Sheffield

I’d say no and stay well clear.

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By *2000ManMan
34 weeks ago

Worthing

Move on mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

If you're already over thinking the whole scenario now and already in two minds about it, it's not worth it and will be much more of a head fuck afterwards.

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By *aTina HeadTurnerWoman
34 weeks ago

Not in UK currently

You already know the answer.

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By *oadsafun1960Man
34 weeks ago

Somerset & Hertfordshire

I don't hold with the belief that they are an ex for a reason and should stay that way.

If you have feelings and it's two way then there's no reason not to try again. Hopefully you'll both have learnt a lesson from the break up and can move forward this time, I know I'd try.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Do it. Her.

Life without phases of excruciating emotional and mental misery, self doubts and resentment isn’t a life well lived. Pogo on that landmine. Gargle that chainsaw. Get that NOW TV subscription.

Or walk away. Maintaining your mental peace. Probably.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
34 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Get in there, fill yer boots.

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By *ucka39Man
34 weeks ago

Newcastle

Go for it, it might give you both a chance to discuss other things and get past those demons

Somethings/some people happen for a valid reason and able to rebuild everything

Do plenty of talking and hopefully you both get what you both want

Good luck

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By *eyond PurityCouple
34 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

‘Let’s f**k with each others heads a bit more’

Stupid idea if you want to remain friends at some point in the future.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
34 weeks ago

Llanelli

Bad idea if still have emotional attachment, good idea if can just have sex and that's all it is.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Chichester

Swerve it op

. It will just mess you up

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By *he Silver FuxMan
34 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Do it, if you both want to have sex with each other, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s intimacy with a 4 year history. The fact you can both get along, walk away afterwards and be apart but still be friendly is wonderful. Some of us just aren’t designed or compatible to be together all the time but that doesn’t stop you having some great sex

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By *oodmessMan
34 weeks ago

yumsville

You'll replace anything you had with one night of something half as good

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By *xmfrvnMan
34 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Do it. Her.

Life without phases of excruciating emotional and mental misery, self doubts and resentment isn’t a life well lived. Pogo on that landmine. Gargle that chainsaw. Get that NOW TV subscription.

Or walk away. Maintaining your mental peace. Probably. "

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By *eliWoman
34 weeks ago

If you've ended it on good terms and you think you can still have sex and those good terms not change? Why not meet and chat? See how things are?

Personally I couldn't do it. Once I've sent that "it's not working" message, probably before that any sexual attraction I felt has long since vanished. It sounds different for you though OP.

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
34 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Only if she takes it up the bum while 69ing her sister!

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By *ocksareoffMan
34 weeks ago

Out n About

Is it out of the question to help each other get over your respective inner demons?

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By *oadsafun1960Man
34 weeks ago

Somerset & Hertfordshire

"Is it out of the question to help each other get over your respective inner demons? "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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34 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Is it out of the question to help each other get over your respective inner demons? "

I think so because he wants to 'give her a good seeing to and say goodbye '. Unless that's a form of exorcism...

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By *4bimMan
34 weeks ago

Farnborough Hampshire

No.

The answer is no.

You will regret it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
34 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I do every now and then. Have for years. Up to you

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Me & my now (ex) partner broke up recently, we were together 4 years. The relationship was really great, intimate & very sexy! Relationship cut off due to both of us battling with our own inner demons, both came to an agreement to call it off on good terms.

She has suggested we have “ONE MORE NIGHT” together, of fun, intimacy & everything in between.

I feel slightly conflicted??? We both clearly got feelings for one another, but both far too stubborn to admit it.

Do I give her a good seeing too & a goodbye or is it a bad idea?

FYI I feel like I’m writing to Dear Deidre here

Do tell us

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By *eordieJeansCouple
30 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Is this Martha or another ex?

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

Ah, is this the now stalker ex??

In that case, I'm guessing the answer to this thread was you did, OP!

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By *eordieJeansCouple
30 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Ah, is this the now stalker ex??

In that case, I'm guessing the answer to this thread was you did, OP!"

The green arrow shows a very interesting relationship with said ex

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

She has suggested we have “ONE MORE NIGHT” together, of fun, intimacy & everything in between.

I feel slightly conflicted??? We both clearly got feelings for one another, but both far too stubborn to admit it.

Do I give her a good seeing too & a goodbye or is it a bad idea?

FYI I feel like I’m writing to Dear Deidre here

You already know the answer...

It's impossible to have a platonic relationship when there is part intimacy and still an attraction. Even if you've decided to split, that's a head decision and the heart doesn't always agree.

You mentioned inner demons so I think you'll be playing with fire.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Oh fuck hell no!!!

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By *utdoorfun7474Couple
30 weeks ago

armagh

For sure yes. It will be the best sex you ever had together. It’s like meeting for the first time but you know what the other one needs

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

She has suggested we have “ONE MORE NIGHT” together, of fun, intimacy & everything in between.

I feel slightly conflicted??? We both clearly got feelings for one another, but both far too stubborn to admit it.

Do I give her a good seeing too & a goodbye or is it a bad idea?

FYI I feel like I’m writing to Dear Deidre here

Nope don’t do it as it will cause drama

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

"Ah, is this the now stalker ex??

In that case, I'm guessing the answer to this thread was you did, OP!

The green arrow shows a very interesting relationship with said ex

I'm just going to whizz back in time and reply to this thread telling the OP to leave well alone. It will end in tears, mark my words.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
30 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Ah, is this the now stalker ex??

In that case, I'm guessing the answer to this thread was you did, OP!

The green arrow shows a very interesting relationship with said ex

I'm just going to whizz back in time and reply to this thread telling the OP to leave well alone. It will end in tears, mark my words."

*Fires up the DeLorean*

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By *ookie46Woman
30 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"Ah, is this the now stalker ex??

In that case, I'm guessing the answer to this thread was you did, OP!

The green arrow shows a very interesting relationship with said ex

I'm just going to whizz back in time and reply to this thread telling the OP to leave well alone. It will end in tears, mark my words.

*Fires up the DeLorean*"

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By *utdoorfun7474Couple
30 weeks ago

armagh

Do it you will regret if you don’t

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

"Do it you will regret if you don’t "

He'll regret it if he does. Don't ask me how I know, but I have a funny feeling about this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Do it you will regret if you don’t

He'll regret it if he does. Don't ask me how I know, but I have a funny feeling about this one."

The pesky green arrow

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Do it you will regret if you don’t

He'll regret it if he does. Don't ask me how I know, but I have a funny feeling about this one.

The pesky green arrow"

I must correct my wording

The pesky fab green arrow, no connection to any other arrow

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Don't do it.

It will turn into angry sex and it won't be good for either of you. You'll just be going through the motions and the wrong emotions may make themselves come to the surface.

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By *nnCeeWoman
30 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

Nope.

Do yourself a favour.

Say no. As tough as it may be.

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By *oofy321Man
30 weeks ago

moon base zero

"Do it you will regret if you don’t

He'll regret it if he does. Don't ask me how I know, but I have a funny feeling about this one."

Lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Central

No Have a clean break

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

She has suggested we have “ONE MORE NIGHT” together, of fun, intimacy & everything in between.

I feel slightly conflicted??? We both clearly got feelings for one another, but both far too stubborn to admit it.

Do I give her a good seeing too & a goodbye or is it a bad idea?

FYI I feel like I’m writing to Dear Deidre here

Discipline, say no. Set boundaries.

I recently ended 8 year marriage and would shudder at the thought of "one more time". Stirs up the wrong feelings and you will both feel "used".

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Unlos.

Hopefully he took good the good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"Unlos.

Hopefully he took good the good advice. "

I was hoping for an update myself and agree he should stay well clear no point ruining his potential at real happiness for a few minuets of head fuck

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