FabSwingers.com forum: Do you ever have a few drinks to calm the nerves

By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

Does anyone have a drink or 2 to calm the nerves before a meet ? J gets more courage when she has a couple of wines

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By *aseylee324Couple
34 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

No, I'll have a drink if I feel like it, if I don't I won't. If the other person were teetotal I wouldn't have any alcohol before playing anyway

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By *ad NannaWoman
34 weeks ago

East London

Not to calm nerves, but to relax my muscles and enjoy the physical pleasure more.

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By *allen Angels CplCouple
34 weeks ago

North East leicestershire

I certainly do, it eases the nerves and I get more flirtatious after a couple of glasses of wine.

Just enough to be slightly tipsy but always remain in control. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"I certainly do, it eases the nerves and I get more flirtatious after a couple of glasses of wine.

Just enough to be slightly tipsy but always remain in control. X"

Yes this is our prospective also. J feels comfortable when she has a few glasses! We still yet to make it a reality but we are very nearly there

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
34 weeks ago

somewhere

Nope, It doesn't take me much to get tipsy and I'd rather not have one.

I've had a couple of socials and had a drink but on the whole if having a meet, I'm sober x

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
34 weeks ago

Maidstone

Nope. I normally drive so I can safely get home.

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By *elloWoman
34 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I would not want an alcoholic drink to calm my nerves because it would make me even more nervous incase I acted like a d*unken twat or say something I shouldn't if the alcohol goes to my head too quickly , I can be quite a dick sometimes when had too many. When meeting at a club I might have 1 glass of wine because I'm out out and deserve a treat but then after the 1 I'll move onto apple juice

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By *orthern BeardMan
34 weeks ago

Warwickshire

The few times I’ve had a few drinks with someone at a meet have been some of the best meets I’ve had. Think it broke the ice really well.

Plus a bit of tipsy sex is always good

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
34 weeks ago

Birmingham

I can meet without drinking. But I do enjoy sex more so when I am a little tipsy. I don't focus so much on my own insecurities when I've had a drink, which makes for much better sex.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
34 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

No I find diazepam and alcohol don't mix very well, unless you like dribbling

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By *enelope2UWoman
34 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

No.. I only meet if I can have a conversation that flows and interests that match, if not it's pointless meeting in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I drink loads of water, several litres, to be well hydrated in case I need to run quickly in an attempt to leave behind someone who isn’t for me during a social meet up.

Yes, that’s what it’s for.

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
34 weeks ago

Truro

I like to have a small drink before a meeting - not for Dutch courage, I just like a quick beverage prior to a meet - it's kinda routine now! X

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By *andKCouple
34 weeks ago

Wrea Green

When we first started swinging about 4 years ago, I (Mrs) needed a drink to calm the nerves. I don't do need to do that anymore. It does get easier and you get more confident over time.Vx

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I don't drink so I just deal with my overthinking and overwhelming nerves stone cold sober. Like God intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Never had nerves before a meet

Not had a meet to get nervous about though

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By *ornywife20Couple
34 weeks ago

North Cork

"I don't drink so I just deal with my overthinking and overwhelming nerves stone cold sober. Like God intended."

God turned water into wine so I think he intended us to drink lol

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"I don't drink so I just deal with my overthinking and overwhelming nerves stone cold sober. Like God intended.

God turned water into wine so I think he intended us to drink lol "

That's certainly a take

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By *eyond PurityCouple
34 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We hardly drink when meeting - maybe have one.

Would never go any further with anyone who was drinking a fair bit as we wouldn’t want someone to change or not remember or be sick when they put something in their mouth

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By *ealitybitesMan
34 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't drink and never have done but don't have any issue with those who do.

When it comes to sex though I have no interest in spending time with someone who needs a drink for whatever reason as it has the potential to blur lines.

I want that person to be fully cognitive of their actions.

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By *xfordjohnMan
34 weeks ago

Oxford

When I was a lot younger, I used to drink a lot of red wine before a meet which seemed to work really well in helping performance but more recently I've pretty much stopped drinking altogether before meets and now I'm taking Viagra, it's not a good idea at all.

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By *iss DevilWoman
34 weeks ago

Bedford

"I don't drink and never have done but don't have any issue with those who do.

When it comes to sex though I have no interest in spending time with someone who needs a drink for whatever reason as it has the potential to blur lines.

I want that person to be fully cognitive of their actions. "

This, very much so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"I can meet without drinking. But I do enjoy sex more so when I am a little tipsy. I don't focus so much on my own insecurities when I've had a drink, which makes for much better sex.

This is very much what j is like she's like you in that way for sure haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"When we first started swinging about 4 years ago, I (Mrs) needed a drink to calm the nerves. I don't do need to do that anymore. It does get easier and you get more confident over time.Vx "

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Definitely not, I like to be incharge of my faculties.

Beside on a meet is not the time to be drinking.

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By *ellhungvweMan
34 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I don’t really get nerves anymore and, as a single guy, I don’t think alcohol and meets mix particularly well. Happy to have a soft drink but I like to be aware of what is happening.

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By *illy IdolMan
34 weeks ago

Midlands

"I don’t really get nerves anymore and, as a single guy, I don’t think alcohol and meets mix particularly well. Happy to have a soft drink but I like to be aware of what is happening."

There's a difference though in having a couple of drinks beforehand and getting pissed

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By *orthern BeardMan
34 weeks ago

Warwickshire

"I can meet without drinking. But I do enjoy sex more so when I am a little tipsy. I don't focus so much on my own insecurities when I've had a drink, which makes for much better sex.

You put it so much better than me

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By *hunky GentMan
34 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Does anyone have a drink or 2 to calm the nerves before a meet ? J gets more courage when she has a couple of wines

Would she like red or white?

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By *onkeynutWoman
34 weeks ago

somewhere

"I can meet without drinking. But I do enjoy sex more so when I am a little tipsy. I don't focus so much on my own insecurities when I've had a drink, which makes for much better sex.

Yes, this. I much more relaxed after a drink or two

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By *oxy jWoman
34 weeks ago

somerset

no i dont drink at all when it comes to sex with others i will not meet others who do drink that includes those in clubs and private parties ... 100% consented sex and if your drinking then its not 100% ... if you need it for dutch courage then i question if you should swing or not i dont get people who need booze to fuck

ive seen far too many people do thing they wish they had not or even remember whom they did it with ive seen men take advantage of tipsy women ive even see husbands encoraging theirs wive to drink so he can run the show ... its a very slippery slope ...

on a non swinging note a high percentages of r*p* cases are because of booze ...

its only my opinion but the one thing i dont need to enjoy flat out sex with others is booze and the same goes for drugs ...

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By *ellhungvweMan
34 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"I don’t really get nerves anymore and, as a single guy, I don’t think alcohol and meets mix particularly well. Happy to have a soft drink but I like to be aware of what is happening.

There's a difference though in having a couple of drinks beforehand and getting pissed"

I agree but I don’t tend to drink anyway (just got out of the habit) so it is no real loss to me.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
34 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No, I don't drink and I wouldn't meet someone who needed a drink to have sex with me.

I think it can blur the lines/affect people's judgement.

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By *allipygousMan
34 weeks ago

Leicester

Nope, I never drink if I think there's a chance of having the sex.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
34 weeks ago

Wirral.

"No, I don't drink and I wouldn't meet someone who needed a drink to have sex with me.

I think it can blur the lines/affect people's judgement. "

This

Not so much the blurring of lines though, just that if he needs a drink to fuck me.....

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By *orphia2003Woman
34 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Sometimes.

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By *aizyWoman
34 weeks ago

west midlands

Not before a meet, if its a social I'll have a drink or two.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
34 weeks ago

Stratford

Not really. Generally wanna keep my wits about me

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By *luebell888Woman
34 weeks ago

Glasgowish

Don't need a drink and usually driving. A few drinks if we are staying overnight in the hotel maybe but not necessary. As long as I get my coffee in the morning no other drinks matter.

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By *hunky GentMan
34 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Don't need a drink and usually driving. A few drinks if we are staying overnight in the hotel maybe but not necessary. As long as I get my coffee in the morning no other drinks matter."

I'll stick the kettle on.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
34 weeks ago

Merseyside

Yes a drink or two is never an issue for us if it helps people relax and enjoy themselves

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By *oubleswing2019Man
34 weeks ago

Colchester

I never drink on a meet to "calm my nerves". Not do I drink during play, as the sort of play I engage demands a clear head and mind. Safe, Sane and Consensual, always. Nerves, for me personally, are uncontrolled emotions, which are counter to how I think and behave.

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By *evoncouple4funCouple
34 weeks ago

Near Exeter

Yes probably too many if honest, then we enjoy it as fun , probably a lack of confidence

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By *uperted39Man
34 weeks ago

bushey

OP you talking about watching England at the euros?

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By *ansoffateMan
34 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

No. If I drink, which is relatively rare, it's because the person whose company in also wants to drink.

Saying that I'm meeting some old friends this weekend and I don't think we've ever spent time sober together in nearly 30 years. Unless being hungover and getting a fry-up whilst we wait for the pub to open counts?

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By *ags73Man
34 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

I usually don’t drink and am driving.

Had to catch myself on nerves before going to things but usually I’m okay.

Not sure alcohol would lower inhibitions, it might ease the social side of going to things.

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By *tarting2exploreCouple
34 weeks ago

Biggleswade

Yep..

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
34 weeks ago

Hull

I usually drive so I tend not to also I never seem to get nervous anymore.

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By *reya73Woman
34 weeks ago

Whitley Bay

Hmmm maybe one. But I'm a bit of a natural high person. I like my own natural states.. They're bonkers enough!!!

It puts me off if people are clearly tipsy or d*unk.

But I do understand why you would want to calm nerves. There are lots of other ways

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By *agatoXXXMan
34 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

No. I talk enough shite without the need for assistance!

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By *cotsguyyMan
34 weeks ago

Belfast and Fife

Every morning.....

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By *akequeen90Couple
34 weeks ago

Sydney

Always for us. Eases the nerves and removes all inhibitions

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

At the large group socials usually yes because I stay over and know some of the people attending already.

One on one socials nope as I usually drive myself there and back.

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By *rHotNottsMan
34 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not for a date but for a club or a group social definitely, otherwise I don’t think I would talk to anyone

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By *ot to giggleWoman
34 weeks ago

Coventry

depends! Group socials, if I am staying, but more often I drive so no

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By *icketToRudeCouple
34 weeks ago

Wellingborough

It's not something either of us "need " before sex but can akin to those feelings of nerves and in turn that comes across as shyness... at a social meet (pending on the time of day and who we're meeting and if they choose to do so) we may have a drink, it doesn't do much calm the nerves but does make it easier to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Rum makes me horny, always rum.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
34 weeks ago

Ryde

We always offer a drink to visiting guys, with the option of before or after. Without exception, they've all had drink (whiskey) afterwards as a climb-down during a chat.

Drinking before possibly invokes the old adage: "drink enflames the ardor - the more you drink, the 'arder it gets..."

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By *ML49Man
34 weeks ago

Burnley

No not one bit as I'm almost a none drinker anyway.

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By *erfHerder74Man
34 weeks ago

Inverclyde

I met someone from fab who showed up staggering after he needed a drink to calm his nerves

He continued to drink on the meet and started smoking.

I asked him why when we already chatted about no alcohol or smoking, he started crying, I did try to work it through then he pounced on me kissing, got offended for whatever reason and left.

From that any smell of alcohol puts me off.

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By *2000ManMan
34 weeks ago

Worthing

I don't drink so no pre meet ritual as such. I am quite chilled in my advancing years compared to years ago so no real issues.

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By *JandCMCouple
34 weeks ago

cardiff

No, just deal with it.

If need drink to calm down would be drinking most days.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Chichester

I don’t drink alcohol

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
34 weeks ago

manchester

Sex under the influence can be classed as sexual abuse

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By *verageSausageMan
34 weeks ago

Flintshire

No.

I find that having a drink or two calms more than just the nerves.....

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Nah, I’m straight edge

sXe

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

No. Happy to meet for a drink for a social, but never felt the need to have a drink to calm the nerves. Also quite like the butterflies in my stomach.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
34 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Nope. I like a couple of drinks sometimes when meeting someone new but it’s not to calm my nerves. It’s because I like a couple of drinks

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By *ellinever70Woman
34 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"No

Sex under the influence can be classed as sexual abuse"

That's quite a hyperbolic view

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