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"twice - one was ummmm a bigger size than any photo sent and apparently he had the munchies during covid the other was - well lets say the pictures had hair, I thought it was his dad dropping him off!! apparently the pictures were taken in the summer - he failed to mention which year "He had the munchies during COVID?! | |||
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that… I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues… We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me. I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left. The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too. I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it. Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing. He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again. Pretty crazy shit." Yeah that's my definition of catfishing. That's awful and pretty frightening | |||
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that… I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues… We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me. I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left. The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too. I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it. Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing. He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again. Pretty crazy shit." Fucking hell | |||
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that… I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues… We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me. I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left. The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too. I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it. Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing. He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again. Pretty crazy shit. Yeah that's my definition of catfishing. That's awful and pretty frightening " It was horrendous, my whole world was crashing down around me. I through I was going to love MY job over all this, with him saying I was abusive and all… I’m so lucky I was able to see people make sense. It was nothing like it, but watching Baby Reindeer really brought back memories of how one person with a crush can really fuck things up for you | |||
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that… I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues… We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me. I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left. The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too. I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it. Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing. He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again. Pretty crazy shit." Remind me why I don't want to know about Facebook! | |||
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed "Free drink and all.. | |||
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"I thought a catfish was when they pretended to be someone else, using their photos etc" It’s also used for people who pertain to look a way they don’t I believe | |||
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed
Free drink and all.."Never say no to a free drink | |||
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"Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair. A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch" Sounds like the same man I met | |||
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"Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair. A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch Sounds like the same man I met "Is that the blow job guy nanna | |||
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"Oh yes...twice, both VERY large. They were obviously very good with angles. One had a nice personality at least, the other not at all." This is what worries me about meeting people from here, they send messages saying I have a great body and I then think I've uploaded catfish photos because I just see wibbly wobbly flab, I'd hate to meet someone I had been keen to meet and they have disappointment clearly showing on their face when they lay eyes on me  | |||
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"Has anyone actually turned up to a date and essentially been “catfished” a rare Monday has me making random posts again so I’ll start with mine Matched with someone off of fab, turned up to meet her for a drink, looked nothing like her pictures and I was totally catfished I did however stay for a few drinks as she was a nice enough person Interested to know if you’ve been catfished and stayed for the date, made an excuse, or just left? " It’s not happened to me OP but could happen to anyone and I’ve often wondered what I would do in this situation. Can I ask? Did you raise this with the lady or just let it go? | |||
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"Has anyone actually turned up to a date and essentially been “catfished” a rare Monday has me making random posts again so I’ll start with mine Matched with someone off of fab, turned up to meet her for a drink, looked nothing like her pictures and I was totally catfished I did however stay for a few drinks as she was a nice enough person Interested to know if you’ve been catfished and stayed for the date, made an excuse, or just left? It’s not happened to me OP but could happen to anyone and I’ve often wondered what I would do in this situation. Can I ask? Did you raise this with the lady or just let it go? " I stayed for drinks had a good chat and gave it the old “had a great time just didn’t feel a spark” text I’m not a fan of hurting feelings! | |||
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting… "Never meet before a video call anymore..once bitten twice shy | |||
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting… "I have to agree. I don't know why people don't do this. I've been put off a few from a video call so it's saved me the effort of meeting them. Shrugs. | |||
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It's was awful scenario to see someone use my face to hurt another.
Sadly there are so many ai filters is alarming and that catfishing happens so much.
The sad thing is so many don't realise they don't need to use them. | |||
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"Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair. A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch Sounds like the same man I met
Is that the blow job guy nanna "Lol no, some dude who used photos from his youth. I just thought he was doing up an old Capri, in his photos. | |||
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I have to agree. I don't know why people don't do this. I've been put off a few from a video call so it's saved me the effort of meeting them. Shrugs. "Don't you hate it though, when you're in bed in your ugliest pyjamas, with a big spot on your forehead and they spring a video call on you. | |||
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I have to agree. I don't know why people don't do this. I've been put off a few from a video call so it's saved me the effort of meeting them. Shrugs.
Don't you hate it though, when you're in bed in your ugliest pyjamas, with a big spot on your forehead and they spring a video call on you."Oh god yeah! I wouldn't answer an unplanned call. O don't even answer my phone most times but it's easy enough to plan a call in. | |||
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I have to agree. I don't know why people don't do this. I've been put off a few from a video call so it's saved me the effort of meeting them. Shrugs.
Don't you hate it though, when you're in bed in your ugliest pyjamas, with a big spot on your forehead and they spring a video call on you."Noooo, video calls have to be planned in advance | |||
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"Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair. A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch Sounds like the same man I met
Is that the blow job guy nanna
Lol no, some dude who used photos from his youth.
I just thought he was doing up an old Capri, in his photos."My first ever car | |||
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed "Frail??? | |||
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting… "I need to make an appointment for this. I look like a thumb at the best of times. Can’t be ringing me when I’ve got a face mask on and the cucumbers | |||
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I need to make an appointment for this. I look like a thumb at the best of times. Can’t be ringing me when I’ve got a face mask on and the cucumbers "Got to look Our best haven’t we NB! | |||
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I need to make an appointment for this. I look like a thumb at the best of times. Can’t be ringing me when I’ve got a face mask on and the cucumbers "Well, I don’t make it a habit of having surprise video calls. That’s a bit much for me too. I have to hold up the assumption I run around in lingerie daily. | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing." Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? " Well played well played | |||
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed
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I'm alot more picky now though and I'd stay for a drink but nothing more | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? " You’ll never catch me clean shaven… | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? " My beard is. Without it I look like a child. | |||
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"Yep. I met this guy who claimed to have won Rear of the Year 2024, only it turned out to be a someone else's photos as his own derrière was shockingly flat, and he'd carved some sofa foam into a bum shape and stuffed it down the back of his pants." I told you to be cautious of Beyond Purity | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? " Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it "If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation! | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing." When you look like two different people with it off yes so are filters! but doesn't really matter when men can't tell a natural makeup free woman from those with it or if they say they dislike fakes filters yet choose them everytime... | |||
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"Yep. I met this guy who claimed to have won Rear of the Year 2024, only it turned out to be a someone else's photos as his own derrière was shockingly flat, and he'd carved some sofa foam into a bum shape and stuffed it down the back of his pants. I told you to be cautious of Beyond Purity " total catfish us | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. When you look like two different people with it off yes so are filters! but doesn't really matter when men can't tell a natural makeup free woman from those with it or if they say they dislike fakes filters yet choose them everytime..." So everyone is deceiving in some way? | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation! "I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something! | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation!
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something!"It's nice to google something from here that doesn't make you scrub your eyes with bleach after | |||
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"A few year ago was on another app. Talking to this woman realy my type. Talked alot on the phone. Come to meeting up. I was at a coffee shop when i hear a voice call me. It was my ex. Which I did lose my shit and left. Ever since then its video calls. " That was your chance to realise you were made for each other and live happily ever after!  | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation!
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something!
It's nice to google something from here that doesn't make you scrub your eyes with bleach after "It is, I very, very rarely google anything I see on here anymore! | |||
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" So everyone is deceiving in some way? " People tell me I look better in person than in my photos. When they say things like wow, you’re beautiful, smoking hot, etc and then meet me and say I’m more beautiful in person, I feel deceived. | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation!
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something!
It's nice to google something from here that doesn't make you scrub your eyes with bleach after
It is, I very, very rarely google anything I see on here anymore! "Don't Google _onko | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation!
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something!
It's nice to google something from here that doesn't make you scrub your eyes with bleach after
It is, I very, very rarely google anything I see on here anymore!
Don't Google _onko "Don't google blue waffle or swirly chest | |||
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that… I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues… We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me. I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left. The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too. I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it. Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing. He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again. Pretty crazy shit. Yeah that's my definition of catfishing. That's awful and pretty frightening It was horrendous, my whole world was crashing down around me. I through I was going to love MY job over all this, with him saying I was abusive and all… I’m so lucky I was able to see people make sense. It was nothing like it, but watching Baby Reindeer really brought back memories of how one person with a crush can really fuck things up for you " Yes I had an experience at work that while not the same involved someone telling awful lies about me. It can have potentially devastating consequences. Sorry you had to experience this | |||
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"Yep. I met this guy who claimed to have won Rear of the Year 2024, only it turned out to be a someone else's photos as his own derrière was shockingly flat, and he'd carved some sofa foam into a bum shape and stuffed it down the back of his pants. I told you to be cautious of Beyond Purity total catfish us " | |||
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"I haven’t but C met a woman for a drink who looked completely different from her pics. C walked past her and it was only after she was called back she realised the woman was who she was meeting - a few sizes different and greying hair. Needless to say only one drink was had. The next day the lady blocked us after C pointed out that she didn’t look like her pics
K"It does feel a little strange as to why people do it, insecurities obviously but still how they think people won’t know is somewhat bizarre. | |||
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"I had one once from another site. I was expecting a mumsy sort - a plain Jane, a little overweight, and flat shoes. When she turned up, she was STUNNING - playing with hr hair and all that. She was like a model or something. I still shagged her though. " Reverse catfish then | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing." Depends on the amount of make up
I've been recognised in the Asda in my scruff, no make up & unwashed hair. Some women look like different people without make up!
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"Oh yes...twice, both VERY large. They were obviously very good with angles. One had a nice personality at least, the other not at all. This is what worries me about meeting people from here, they send messages saying I have a great body and I then think I've uploaded catfish photos because I just see wibbly wobbly flab, I'd hate to meet someone I had been keen to meet and they have disappointment clearly showing on their face when they lay eyes on me "A but think of the fun Cat could have hiding behind those twin moons, whilst as for Rimmer... | |||
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"I had one once from another site. I was expecting a mumsy sort - a plain Jane, a little overweight, and flat shoes. When she turned up, she was STUNNING - playing with hr hair and all that. She was like a model or something. I still shagged her though. " At the last sentence | |||
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that… I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues… We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me. I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left. The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too. I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it. Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing. He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again. Pretty crazy shit. Fucking hell "I would of beat him to death and I'm being serious | |||
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"The use of filters on here is redonkulous! Some pictures are so heavily filtered that it's really obvious. do they think they are fooling people? We don't use filters on our pics as I don't think its fair. People are genuinely surprised that we look exactly like our pics on here when we meet, it's madness! " The worry then is that because soooooo many people use filters, those of us who don’t use them, people will look at our “normal” photos and assume that we are going to be less attractive in real life because everyone is getting so used to that! Your photos are awesome btw. You both look loads of fun and very sexy | |||
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"The use of filters on here is redonkulous! Some pictures are so heavily filtered that it's really obvious. do they think they are fooling people? We don't use filters on our pics as I don't think its fair. People are genuinely surprised that we look exactly like our pics on here when we meet, it's madness! The worry then is that because soooooo many people use filters, those of us who don’t use them, people will look at our “normal” photos and assume that we are going to be less attractive in real life because everyone is getting so used to that! Your photos are awesome btw. You both look loads of fun and very sexy " Thank you xx | |||
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed "Was it Granny Crumpet or Bad Nanna?! 
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"The use of filters on here is redonkulous! Some pictures are so heavily filtered that it's really obvious. do they think they are fooling people? We don't use filters on our pics as I don't think its fair. People are genuinely surprised that we look exactly like our pics on here when we meet, it's madness! " Mine are always filtered, but I don't lie about the fact they are. It's a surprise what you get with me. | |||
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"Surely Catfishing is using someone elses photos and identity" It’s also used when someone doesn’t look as to how they portray. | |||
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"Surely Catfishing is using someone elses photos and identity" It appears to have evolved. I thought the same as you. Ghosting seems to have expanded as well to include when someone stops messaging even if you've never met. | |||
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"Pretty much don't even look at pictures... I've generally been disappointed lowered my age range because 50 here looks like 80.. " Same. And not only looks, usually also is very close to that age. | |||
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"Surely Catfishing is using someone elses photos and identity It appears to have evolved. I thought the same as you. Ghosting seems to have expanded as well to include when someone stops messaging even if you've never met." See im a little indifferent on this one, if you’ve never met someone it’s not really ghosting | |||
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"Surely Catfishing is using someone elses photos and identity It appears to have evolved. I thought the same as you. Ghosting seems to have expanded as well to include when someone stops messaging even if you've never met." ..and not forgetting the other old favourite, breadcrumbing. | |||
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"Years ago yes absolutely not even the same person as the pictures had been using her cousins one and only time I ever used an actual dating site and never again " Oh no! | |||
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed "Yeah-thats why you stayed! | |||
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"Yes, I thought he'd sent his dad to make his excuses. He told me if he put his real age he didn't get any messages, but that to me would be a better option. I can take photos that don't show my full heft, but I don't want someone's first impression of me to be a horrified recoil when they see me in the flesh. Surely it doesn't make any sense at all if you're looking to meet people?" Well if we meet I’ll lookout for a big pair of googly eyes to make sure it’s you lol | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing." I've always thought, if you think I naturally have glittery gold eyelids, that's a you problem, not a me problem | |||
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"twice - one was ummmm a bigger size than any photo sent and apparently he had the munchies during covid the other was - well lets say the pictures had hair, I thought it was his dad dropping him off!! apparently the pictures were taken in the summer - he failed to mention which year "Ouch ….. | |||
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that… I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues… We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me. I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left. The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too. I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it. Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing. He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again. Pretty crazy shit." Just read this
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"Has anyone actually turned up to a date and essentially been “catfished” a rare Monday has me making random posts again so I’ll start with mine Matched with someone off of fab, turned up to meet her for a drink, looked nothing like her pictures and I was totally catfished I did however stay for a few drinks as she was a nice enough person Interested to know if you’ve been catfished and stayed for the date, made an excuse, or just left? It’s not happened to me OP but could happen to anyone and I’ve often wondered what I would do in this situation. Can I ask? Did you raise this with the lady or just let it go? I stayed for drinks had a good chat and gave it the old “had a great time just didn’t feel a spark” text I’m not a fan of hurting feelings!" Totally agree about not hurting people's feelings, that's why we only meet for a drink and chat on first meets. We find men tend to be in less good condition and ladies somehow don't understand the difference between size 14 and 24. As a mature couple ourselves we always tell folks to check our age a few times before meeting. Clubs, parties and swingers holidays seem to work better as no awkward moments or less awkward moments. | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it "Umm.... I wear a hat, wtf is hat fishing?? | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
Umm.... I wear a hat, wtf is hat fishing?? "Usually it's bald guys. You only see pics with a hat on... Turn up, they take the hat off and they don't look half as attractive. | |||
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing. Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara. Are beards? Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
Umm.... I wear a hat, wtf is hat fishing??
Usually it's bald guys. You only see pics with a hat on... Turn up, they take the hat off and they don't look half as attractive. "Oh heck 
I take mine off snd my hair tumbles out - i think I'm safe! | |||
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