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"By ignoring all you wrote and just be nice. "And there we have it ........ EVERYTHING is okay as long as you are nice. I'm not sure this has been thought through fully. | |||
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"So the days of chatting up people in bars/streets have gone? Bring back the 80's and 90s where people could do all of the things the OP mentioned without snowflakes getting upset and can only now meet using a dating app lol." If we are returning to the 80's / 90's approach. I'd just like to say, nice tits. Fancy a fuck ?   | |||
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"As always personality ,your smile ,if you look friendly. " Oh the bear grin and crazy look! Where they look behind them to see if they missed something...then run  | |||
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"So the days of chatting up people in bars/streets have gone? Bring back the 80's and 90s where people could do all of the things the OP mentioned without snowflakes getting upset and can only now meet using a dating app lol. If we are returning to the 80's / 90's approach. I'd just like to say, nice tits. Fancy a fuck ? "Only if you're buying my drinks all night and a bag of chips on the way home. Lol Oh those were the days lol | |||
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"So the days of chatting up people in bars/streets have gone? Bring back the 80's and 90s where people could do all of the things the OP mentioned without snowflakes getting upset and can only now meet using a dating app lol. If we are returning to the 80's / 90's approach. I'd just like to say, nice tits. Fancy a fuck ?
Only if you're buying my drinks all night and a bag of chips on the way home. Lol
Oh those were the days lol "No problem. I just need to find somewhere we can drink all night, get chips and a bus home and still have change from £20 | |||
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"Bring back village hall discos and youth clubs ! My daughter met her partner on Tinder My son met his wife at school But it gets harder and harder to meet especially with social media pressing the personal fear button weekly - Thank goodness for Fab this platform is liberating " Aah yes, the village hall discos and Friday night youth club. The good old days when my friends and I definitely got up to no good | |||
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"We could all take the dog approach, wear a harness that says. Friendly Friendly but does like other humans Anxious Don’t talk to ( will never shut up ) Scared Or we could just put people’s mental disorders on there and then it depends how big your bollocks are, if you want to interact with said person. The mr " That's not a bad idea I'm going to think about this | |||
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"Film your interactions, say you’re an “influencer” on whatever is the social media app currently in vogue, and people will only be too happy to engage with you in this world of attention seeking narcissism. Right, solved. Next question. " That had me laughing out loud. Well done Willy ...... i'm getting a camera pronto! | |||
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"I need to buy more lace hankies " Oh you really do sophie.... and try to look distressed and bewildered around shallow but wide puddles | |||
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"we could just put people’s mental disorders on there and then it depends how big your bollocks are, if you want to interact with said person. The mr " I'd need an awfully big harness to get them all on.  | |||
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"Anyone can talk to someone but HOW do you make the approach?" It's probably just pretty privilege letting me get away with being autistic as heck. But I usually just word vomit straight at someone if I already speak to them casually and find something about them particularly striking or interesting. | |||
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"… How the hell do you meet someone new today? " I kind of know who I can and can’t approach. Thankfully the people I wouldn’t go near show signs.
I just say hello. | |||
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"I need to clarify what I meant ...... There are quite a few replies along the lines of ..... ' Oh i just talk to people.' .... Well me too BUT .... that's not what I meant. What I meant was. How do you get past ..... Oh the bus is late isn't it. Yes and it's cold. To ..... fucking hell you are good to look at and nice to talk to fancy a swift half in the Dog n Duck and exchange numbers. Anyone can talk to someone but HOW do you make the approach?" Given the above scenario. Missed bus and its cold. "Would you like to get a coffee and wait for the bus. I know a place just around the corner" I would offer my coat. But after my post about chivalry a few weeks ago. I'd just assume now the ladies could handle the cold just the same. | |||
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"I need to clarify what I meant ...... There are quite a few replies along the lines of ..... ' Oh i just talk to people.' .... Well me too BUT .... that's not what I meant. What I meant was. How do you get past ..... Oh the bus is late isn't it. Yes and it's cold. To ..... fucking hell you are good to look at and nice to talk to fancy a swift half in the Dog n Duck and exchange numbers. Anyone can talk to someone but HOW do you make the approach?" Hey there baby, I noticed our gaze meeting across the pet food aisle. I wonder if you’d care to join me for a Babycham and some pickled whelks? | |||
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"I need to clarify what I meant ...... There are quite a few replies along the lines of ..... ' Oh i just talk to people.' .... Well me too BUT .... that's not what I meant. What I meant was. How do you get past ..... Oh the bus is late isn't it. Yes and it's cold. To ..... fucking hell you are good to look at and nice to talk to fancy a swift half in the Dog n Duck and exchange numbers. Anyone can talk to someone but HOW do you make the approach? Hey there baby, I noticed our gaze meeting across the pet food aisle. I wonder if you’d care to join me for a Babycham and some pickled whelks? " .... and the labrador wagged its tail and licked its lips. You've pulled! | |||
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"I need to clarify what I meant ...... There are quite a few replies along the lines of ..... ' Oh i just talk to people.' .... Well me too BUT .... that's not what I meant. What I meant was. How do you get past ..... Oh the bus is late isn't it. Yes and it's cold. To ..... fucking hell you are good to look at and nice to talk to fancy a swift half in the Dog n Duck and exchange numbers. Anyone can talk to someone but HOW do you make the approach? Hey there baby, I noticed our gaze meeting across the pet food aisle. I wonder if you’d care to join me for a Babycham and some pickled whelks? " Lead the way! rainbow dick ! | |||
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"I need to clarify what I meant ...... There are quite a few replies along the lines of ..... ' Oh i just talk to people.' .... Well me too BUT .... that's not what I meant. What I meant was. How do you get past ..... Oh the bus is late isn't it. Yes and it's cold. To ..... fucking hell you are good to look at and nice to talk to fancy a swift half in the Dog n Duck and exchange numbers. Anyone can talk to someone but HOW do you make the approach?" I don't know, I've forgotten. | |||
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"By ignoring all you wrote and just be nice.
And there we have it ........ EVERYTHING is okay as long as you are nice. I'm not sure this has been thought through fully."Oh its been thought through, overthinking stuff such as what you wrote about making the approach and such just puts tension in the air, if you like someone and fancy a drink, just ask them if they fancy a drink, whats the worst that can happen, they say 'no thanks'... Thank them for their time and move on, | |||
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"If you cannot speak to anyone whilst you are 'on duty' in any job. If you can't approach anyone in the street.( even picking up the beautiful lace hanky they dropped ) If people take all advances as a threat and think you are a creep or report you to someone. How far are we from Minory Report ? Will you soon be done for thinking? How the hell do you meet someone new today? " Through the friends of friends method? People introduce you because the mutual acquaintance thinks you can have things in common. Not necessarily romantically speaking even..I got some good friends that I've met this way. | |||
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"By ignoring all you wrote and just be nice. "The nice ones are the ones you have to watch out for. | |||
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"I think it's down to where in the region you live, it's so easy around here, move to the Valleys the houses are cheap and so are the sheep "I'll be there now, in a minute. | |||
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"I think it's down to where in the region you live, it's so easy around here, move to the Valleys the houses are cheap and so are the sheep
I'll be there now, in a minute."Baaaabera and maaaary basically pay me now. | |||
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"I think it's down to where in the region you live, it's so easy around here, move to the Valleys the houses are cheap and so are the sheep
I'll be there now, in a minute.
Baaaabera and maaaary basically pay me now. "
"Who's coat is that jacket?"
I've got some awesome mates in Wales. Really need to get to visit them. | |||
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"So the days of chatting up people in bars/streets have gone? Bring back the 80's and 90s where people could do all of the things the OP mentioned without snowflakes getting upset and can only now meet using a dating app lol. If we are returning to the 80's / 90's approach. I'd just like to say, nice tits. Fancy a fuck ?
Only if you're buying my drinks all night and a bag of chips on the way home. Lol
Oh those were the days lol
No problem. I just need to find somewhere we can drink all night, get chips and a bus home and still have change from £20 "Wetherspoons lol. | |||
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"I find it very easy to talk to strangers, but very difficult to form /maintain friendships... I watch other people do it and marvel " I look at the media representation of friends and friendship and wonder where they got the impression that everyone has at least three very good friends, usually more. | |||
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"If you cannot speak to anyone whilst you are 'on duty' in any job. If you can't approach anyone in the street.( even picking up the beautiful lace hanky they dropped ) If people take all advances as a threat and think you are a creep or report you to someone. How far are we from Minory Report ? Will you soon be done for thinking? How the hell do you meet someone new today? " Just a thought: Hiding won't help. Lol! Whether it's your profile or under the duvet. I'm neurodivergent and have to make the effort to remind myself that staying in my comfort zone in my flat alone under my duvet with streaming/screens won't do me any social favours whatsoever. Work does not count as a social life. I go outside and do a group activity that doesn't involve being attached to a screen. So nudist/fetish/kink/BDSM/swinger clubs and spas where no phones are allowed. Gym classes where no phones are used. Women's outdoor football where no phones are used. Dance groups where no phones are used. My local pub where people still hold conversations without being attached to their phone. I went to a book signing and met loads of people as we all had a similar interest in the book! When I was a kid they said that a TV screen would rot your brain. Now they've given us screens that need to be permanently attached to us. ( work, education, kids, health monitors) So those are the 2 choices...go outside to meet people or stay inside and be alone. My colleague had a stroke so she's lost some mobility and is stuck at home a lot. However, the rehabilitation team have already set her up to get hospital transport to make her go to her local stroke support group. She was annoyed and embarrassed that they wheeled her in a chair down to a local pub for the group. Lol! I told her it's all part of recovery to ...go outside even if it's not in the way you want and is uncomfortable. Someone quoted on my streaming " if you are not uncomfortable, you are not growing" They are probably right. You won't meet anyone new if you stay in your comfort zone. I'm not confident..I have anxiety attacks going to clubs. Lol! But I just get fed up of being stuck and stagnant so I just feel the fear and do it anyway.
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"So many replies indicate that people just read the title. Yes there are pubs. Yes there are clubs. Yes there are smiles Yes there is work .. Yes there volunteering ........ But as there are so many social and legal barriers now to approaching people, how do you get past that ? In my day you stated your case and no one got accused of inappropriate behaviour or arrested or cancelled or shunned as a pariah I never asked if pubs still exist. Never asked if you can go out with your sisters mate...... HOW do you approach people and state your case ? or do you wait for four years taking a step closer each day eventually sitting next to them for lunch and then wait another four years to touch them ?" Well....you don't state your case.... usually you make a joke or an observation... Like in the local swingers club, if I really like someone's outfit, I just go up and say so. I do meet people at work because I live and work in the same area in a supermarket so I end up talking about food or making a joke about food. In my local pub we usually end up talking about the sports on the telly or the weather if we are out in the garden or if they are playing darts or pool we talk about that. However if you are neurodivergent, small talk is like the worst thing ever!! I'm not naturally approachable..I have to make the effort and it requires me to mask some of my neurodivergent traits initially...otherwise I'd never do anything or approach anyone. The only way I can do it is by using all my therapy skills that I've learnt in the last 20 years even though I didn't know I was autistic officially until this year. The pandemic made me lose a lot of my social skills and I had to re-learn how to go outside. Unfortunately it's by practice. I live alone so I can't practice social skills on my own and usually your family are biased. So far no one has accused me of anything but for a start, you can just observe and listen and not say much or say only neutral stuff. None of this is easy.  | |||
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"Look in the Windows of florists you will notice the card's of dead people there will also be the details of when and where the funeral is. You where something black sit through the boring bit and then back to the wake for a feast of sausage rolls etc. You going to meet load's of people. Do about 4 a week and you will become that social butterfly in no time at all. Thank me later " death tourism. | |||
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"Look in the Windows of florists you will notice the card's of dead people there will also be the details of when and where the funeral is. You where something black sit through the boring bit and then back to the wake for a feast of sausage rolls etc. You going to meet load's of people. Do about 4 a week and you will become that social butterfly in no time at all. Thank me later
death tourism."Yes and big savings on your shopping bill. | |||
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"Look in the Windows of florists you will notice the card's of dead people there will also be the details of when and where the funeral is. You where something black sit through the boring bit and then back to the wake for a feast of sausage rolls etc. You going to meet load's of people. Do about 4 a week and you will become that social butterfly in no time at all. Thank me later
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Yes and big savings on your shopping bill. "I do like a buffet. | |||
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"Look in the Windows of florists you will notice the card's of dead people there will also be the details of when and where the funeral is. You where something black sit through the boring bit and then back to the wake for a feast of sausage rolls etc. You going to meet load's of people. Do about 4 a week and you will become that social butterfly in no time at all. Thank me later "No ! I won't that you later. I'll thank you now - thank you very much! It made me laugh .... it wasn't as sombre as a couple of other replies. ( i'm sure at least one person thinks i'm asking for me ) anyway your funeral plan stinks..... again we get the venue but NOT how to get it on ...... jaysus ! | |||
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"So the days of chatting up people in bars/streets have gone? Bring back the 80's and 90s where people could do all of the things the OP mentioned without snowflakes getting upset and can only now meet using a dating app lol." I don’t think it’s appropriate to try and hit on someone in a bar or pub when they are out with friends but there are plenty of legitimate ways to make friends in your community if you want to make friends new friends | |||
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"Bring back village hall discos and youth clubs ! My daughter met her partner on Tinder My son met his wife at school But it gets harder and harder to meet especially with social media pressing the personal fear button weekly - Thank goodness for Fab this platform is liberating Aah yes, the village hall discos and Friday night youth club. The good old days when my friends and I definitely got up to no good "Point proved ! | |||
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"Great and then how did you tell her how much you fancied her and asked to see her again and tell her that you wanted to be a couple ?" I’ve been going to the same Thai masseur for a couple years and got very friendly, I took her into the peak district last week, & she’s been teaching me Thai cooking. We never did anything sexual when it was professional, but things develop naturally when you start with friendship | |||
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"If you cannot speak to anyone whilst you are 'on duty' in any job. If you can't approach anyone in the street.( even picking up the beautiful lace hanky they dropped ) If people take all advances as a threat and think you are a creep or report you to someone. How far are we from Minory Report ? Will you soon be done for thinking? How the hell do you meet someone new today? " People use dating or hook up apps.Facebook dating too for example. | |||
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