FabSwingers.com forum: Help me out here

By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex

People do meet.

You've only been here for two weeks it usually takes a lot longer for lone men

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By *agnar73Man
20 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"People do meet.

You've only been here for two weeks it usually takes a lot longer for lone men "

Yep.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex

Can I ask what you hoped would happen when you joined?

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I’m confused, you are ‘getting nothing’ but you are also getting ‘sorry, I don’t meet married guys’ (which is perfectly reasonable), so you are getting something?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

"Can I ask what you hoped would happen when you joined?"

Work on my own 10 hours a day and then all night on my own in hotel. Hoped to meet women or couples for company and fun. Offered to meet with the guys only first for social and see how we get on and compatible but, most the time not getting a message back. Worst is when message is read and no reply, at least if it’s deleted I know the answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

"I’m confused, you are ‘getting nothing’ but you are also getting ‘sorry, I don’t meet married guys’ (which is perfectly reasonable), so you are getting something? "

Should have added message read but no reply also

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By *iddlesticksMan
20 weeks ago

My nan’s spare room.

Would it help if I replied to your question with

Yes, actually lots and lots of people meet on here, literally lots.

I’ve even met some lovely people and I’m just ordinary me.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Yeah night shift worker here also get limited response when messaging so it's just part of the game

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair

You've been here two weeks. That is but a picosecond in the Fab timeline. If you are truly and genuinely expecting success and satisfaction within a fortnight...I suggest you obliterate your profile and seek adventures elsewhere.

Otherwise, patience, stick with it...

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By *iddlesticksMan
20 weeks ago

My nan’s spare room.

"You've been here two weeks. That is but a picosecond in the Fab timeline. If you are truly and genuinely expecting success and satisfaction within a fortnight...I suggest you obliterate your profile and seek adventures elsewhere.

Otherwise, patience, stick with it..."

Pre-pubescent in fab time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

"Would it help if I replied to your question with

Yes, actually lots and lots of people meet on here, literally lots.

I’ve even met some lovely people and I’m just ordinary me. "

I get the replies about me being married but, how am I meant to get verified if people only meet verified people? See it in message replies and on a lot of profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

Otherwise, patience, stick with it..."

thanks, I’m gonna stick with it

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By *iddlesticksMan
20 weeks ago

My nan’s spare room.

"Would it help if I replied to your question with

Yes, actually lots and lots of people meet on here, literally lots.

I’ve even met some lovely people and I’m just ordinary me.

I get the replies about me being married but, how am I meant to get verified if people only meet verified people? See it in message replies and on a lot of profiles. "

Time young man. The forum is a great introduction to lots of people, first impressions are you want instant shagging, here’s where we talk and get to know people.

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By *electableicecreamMan
20 weeks ago

The West

Instead of messaging, spend that time working on your profile.

I very, very rarely send an opening message.

Look at others guys profiles. Read the bio's and look at the photos of guys who do well.

Plus, if your married, your chances of meeting are greatly reduced.

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By *uliette500Woman
20 weeks ago

Hull

The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.

Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

"Would it help if I replied to your question with

Yes, actually lots and lots of people meet on here, literally lots.

I’ve even met some lovely people and I’m just ordinary me.

I get the replies about me being married but, how am I meant to get verified if people only meet verified people? See it in message replies and on a lot of profiles.

Time young man. The forum is a great introduction to lots of people, first impressions are you want instant shagging, here’s where we talk and get to know people. "

Thanks

Certainly not looking for instant shagging or to get through every woman and couple on here either. Can only post in forums after 2 weeks so been messaging the profiles that look like I could have fun with. Guess I’ll have to stick around here and wait for someone that thinks the same about me and my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

"The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.

Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space. "

Thanks for the advice. May take that off but get it out there within the first couple of messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

"The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.

Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space.

Thanks for the advice. May take that off but get it out there within the first couple of messages

If I ever get any back

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
20 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Jesus! You've been on 2 weeks. Its not guaranteedashag here. Adjust your expectations. You're in the majority looking for the minority. Dig in for the long haul fella!

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By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Most guys don't meet quickly on this site, it can be hard work.

Best thing to do is to work on an appealing (and honest) profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

"Jesus! You've been on 2 weeks. Its not guaranteedashag here. Adjust your expectations. You're in the majority looking for the minority. Dig in for the long haul fella!"

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By *illy IdolMan
20 weeks ago

Midlands

There is literally a beautiful lady on another thread currently looking for hot husbands.

Carpe Diem

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By *aptaincaveman88Man
20 weeks ago

malice

Should host a meet at your hotel discounted rates loads of visitors then

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By *nlygirlzallowedWoman
20 weeks ago

N ireland

Another single bloke complaining.

Single males are ten a penny. You will have to put on some big boy pants and put plenty of hours and effort in. Even then, you might not get anywhere. Seems you thought that you could just sign up and have instant success.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
20 weeks ago

Leeds

( careless whisper intro )

I’m never gonna fab again

Guilty thumbs ain’t got no rhythm

So I’m never gonna fab again

The way I fab with youuuuuuuu

Ohhhh ohhhhhhhh

The mr

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By *onnyJohnMan
20 weeks ago

Doncaster

"Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time?"

Patience, honesty, politeness the skin of an elephant for the knock backs and realisation that chances are more likely for no or very few actual meetings, and above all else never expect anything. Most guys come on here thinking its a full on fuck fest, breaking news! Its not.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
20 weeks ago

"There is literally a beautiful lady on another thread currently looking for hot husbands.

Carpe Diem"

Unfortunately for the poster, hot husbands need the approval of Thier wife

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
20 weeks ago

Leeds

People do meet here.

Are you wasting your time? How much time do you put in? Why did you expect sex so quickly? What efforts have you made?

As a cheat many will be put off.

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By *r John WickMan
20 weeks ago

The Continental

People do meet.

You might be wasting your time.

If you don’t like the effort you might have to put in……leave.

Adjust your expectations. You joined thinking that you’d be drowning in pussy just for having a profile here. The reality you discover however, has shot that shit down.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
20 weeks ago

Coventry

Two weeks!

lower expectations and do more of FAB, there's forums and chat rooms .. but the married bit is a bit of a turn off for many!

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By *immyinreadingMan
20 weeks ago

henley on thames

"I’m confused, you are ‘getting nothing’ but you are also getting ‘sorry, I don’t meet married guys’ (which is perfectly reasonable), so you are getting something?

Should have added message read but no reply also

That’s normal. People don’t have to reply to messages, and some get hundreds of messages so can’t respond to all.

In terms of blockers though , you missed age restrictions and “only receives messages from side supporters. Along with only respond to people with veris

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By *iker JackMan
20 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Expect nothing. Anything else is a bonus

That’s my motto of life

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By *teveanddebsCouple
20 weeks ago

Norwich

"The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.

Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space.

Thanks for the advice. May take that off but get it out there within the first couple of messages

I've got to say if we were messaging someone and they came out with that "Fab is a public traded entity bollocks we would instantly delete and block

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By *ittlebirdWoman
20 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

People do actually meet here OP.

Give it time. Give it effort in both your profile and messages.

And most of all lose that stupid disclaimer before you do any of that. It only acts as another filter to many. It actually means nothing

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By *ripfillMan
20 weeks ago

havant

Op,

A very wise and delightful Fab Friend gave me lots of advise to which I am eternally grateful for

One comment she made is be patient,

It takes time

I am personally extremely glad of Fab - this platform like no other and reach the parts others can not reach !

Remember too -

There are many many more men in here than

Ladies so obviously …. It takes time

But oh so worth it - it’s a life changer for the much better

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
20 weeks ago

Tamworth

"The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.

Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space.

Thanks for the advice. May take that off but get it out there within the first couple of messages

Really, don’t do that. It’s pointless, has no legal standing and will just make you look like you have nothing to say.

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By *hiversMan
20 weeks ago

Dinas Powys

Lots of good pointers already given, but I'd add that it's worth seeking out an organised social meet or two... It will introduce you to people in person and get you a few verifications which (whilst it won't instantly guarantee you meets) will definitely improve your chances.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
20 weeks ago

andover

More photos as well, nice to see a cock pic to see what we’d be working with, but any profile without other photos showing more, we would skip instantly.

Your on a site with ALOT of competition, and a lot of cocks, make yourself stand out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

Thanks for the tips and advice all, keep them coming

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By *reggSausageMan
20 weeks ago

derby

Socials socials socials get yourself out there, fab is a tool, but not the only one you should use

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By *ootyfruityCouple
20 weeks ago

andover

Maby take a look at other single guys profiles, ones with good verifications to see how you can improve on your own profile

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By *till gameMan
20 weeks ago

two doors down

Go to a club near to where your staying , talking face to face with people may help get your personality across better.

Who know you might get verified through that

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By *reggSausageMan
20 weeks ago

derby

Socials socials socials get yourself out there, fab is a tool, but not the only one you should use

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

Thanks for all the tips guys and girls. Ive only been using nearby and messages due to not being able to post in forum for 2 weeks. Seems the forums are the way forward. Got a lot more profile views just from this thread, hopefully lead to something.

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By *entleman JayMan
20 weeks ago

Wakefield

I meet lots of lovely people.

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By *entleman JayMan
20 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Can I ask what you hoped would happen when you joined?

I never look to see if a message has been read. Don’t torture yourself by doing this.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
20 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Otherwise, patience, stick with it...

Pre-pubescent in fab time. "

A fab embryo still

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Don't forget OP, people can view you in ninja so you'll never know how many views you get

Have a look at other profiles for inspiration

Take pics with a timer so you can snaze up a pose

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By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not sure removing the married part was wise. People will read into "cannot accommodate" and "discretion expected" anyway. (Whether they're correct or not) And if you're planning to tell people, some people will be annoyed you wasted their time.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

...

So, removing the facts that would put people off makes you more likely to trick someone into bed?

I'm out on that note

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By *rHotNottsMan
20 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I meet most weeks ! But not married I’m verified men….. “sorry”

Srsly, The ones saying sorry, it’s probably a red flag. If someone doesn’t wanna meet you they simply did not reply. If the apologising there must be feeling guilty about something so probably best avoided any anyway

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By *affron40Woman
20 weeks ago

manchester

You dont want to meet smokers.

Others don’t want to meet married without consent.

Such is life.

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By *rill PhilMan
20 weeks ago

Crediton

I've been on and off this site for about 13 years and so far, I've met one person and when we met, we didn't know we were both on here so, we verified each other after the fact.

That verification hasn't helped me get meets!

Sounds like you're doing better than most of us men by getting replies at all!

We outnumber the women on here by a very wide margin, and a lot of guys are pushy and desperate. That makes it very difficult for those of us who aren't but, that's not really any different to the real world.

Be patient, don't expect, don't demand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

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So, removing the facts that would put people off makes you more likely to trick someone into bed?

I'm out on that note

Wouldn’t want to trick anyone, would make my situation perfectly clear within the 1st few messages and if it’s a no, it’s a no, no drama.

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By *omptationMan
20 weeks ago

liverpool

Meets and veris will come when they come.

I’ve only been properly back on for a few weeks myself after setting up the account then getting into a relationship.

Since I’ve been back this last week I’ve had a few meets… still waiting on them to drop their veris but I know they’re coming

It’ll happen when it happens, just be honest though. Someone will be into a married guy who is meeting without the wife knowing but the overall majority won’t.

It’s important to remember that lying to someone for sexual gratification is actually illegal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
20 weeks ago

"Meets and veris will come when they come.

I’ve only been properly back on for a few weeks myself after setting up the account then getting into a relationship.

Since I’ve been back this last week I’ve had a few meets… still waiting on them to drop their veris but I know they’re coming

It’ll happen when it happens, just be honest though. Someone will be into a married guy who is meeting without the wife knowing but the overall majority won’t.

It’s important to remember that lying to someone for sexual gratification is actually illegal"

I’ve put it back in my profile, even though I wouldn’t have done anything without telling the other person/persons my full situation

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Central

Satisfaction is going to be linked to expectations. The more realistic expectations are, the more likely that you won't struggle with it.

Men typically get this wrong and most will crash out, after most people would say that they haven't made reasonable efforts to do themselves justice, in such a competitive arena

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
20 weeks ago

Hell

Nobody ever meets on here. I definitely have never met anyone on here. Not once.

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By *omptationMan
20 weeks ago

liverpool

Nobody ever meets on here. I definitely have never met anyone on here. Not once. "

Well let me say that I would not want to meet you to break your streak. Nope, not ever.

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
20 weeks ago

Hell

Nobody ever meets on here. I definitely have never met anyone on here. Not once.

Well let me say that I would not want to meet you to break your streak. Nope, not ever."

Thank goodness, I’m going strong on this streak

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By *omptationMan
20 weeks ago

liverpool

Nobody ever meets on here. I definitely have never met anyone on here. Not once.

Well let me say that I would not want to meet you to break your streak. Nope, not ever.

Thank goodness, I’m going strong on this streak

Stay strong. I can be like your sponsor, if you feel like you’re going to give into temptation you can always contact me and I’ll be there for you

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair

I would offer her ^ a Woo-Woo

to woo her.

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By *andi da ThrushTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Round the Corner

"I would offer her ^ a Woo-Woo

to woo her."

What the heck are you talking about?

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I would offer her ^ a Woo-Woo

to woo her.

What the heck are you talking about?

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By *ornucopiaMan
20 weeks ago

Bexley

... Your on a site with ALOT of competition, and a lot of cocks, make yourself stand out"

Surely can't be that many working in a forest somewhere remote in Scotland.

Presumably none of the normal 'working girls' round those parts, either.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
20 weeks ago

Colchester

"Plus, if your married, your chances of meeting are greatly reduced. "

But not nil. If you make it clear you are in an ENM relationship, and also initial contact will involve your partner (she does know right ?), then some folks are fine with that if they know everything is above board and transparent.

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