FabSwingers.com forum: Controversial question but just want to see from both male a female perspective

By *jj2012 OP Man
14 weeks ago

Barry

So in more than a few previous relationships when it's not worked out and ended with in days there friends are sliding into your DMS

So are men more loyal to there mates or are they just as bad this is where the female predictive is needed

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By *ansoffateMan
14 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I feel like there may be an interesting question in here.

Can someone translate into RP for me, or Scouse?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
14 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Isn’t this referred to as Networking or something?

Either way, it’s a nope from me.

It wouldn’t feel right (As Saintly as I am)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

East Sussex

Is it disloyal?

Are friends ex partners off limits?

I don't think so

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By *agnar73Man
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

Don’t think I’ve ever had the sliding into DMs.

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By *unchalMan
14 weeks ago

Dartford

"So in more than a few previous relationships when it's not worked out and ended with in days there friends are sliding into your DMS

So are men more loyal to there mates or are they just as bad this is where the female predictive is needed "

Can only speak for myself, of course. But mates exs are out of bounds.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
14 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Is there a reason why former partners shouldn't see your friends?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
14 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

Dont split anything down gender lines O.P.

A decent person is a decent person because of the values they maintain NOT because of their genitals.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Is there a reason why former partners shouldn't see your friends?"

I would be interested in the answer to this.

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By *jj2012 OP Man
14 weeks ago

Barry

"Is it disloyal?

Are friends ex partners off limits?

I don't think so"
Yes there like an unwritten code but I'm talking from my personal experiences where on a few occasions my exes friends have been straight in and making moves

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By *electableicecreamMan
14 weeks ago

The West

My take on this is that I give consideration to the individual situation.

Whenever this has come up for me it's been with mature adults who are able to navigate the situation with integrity and respect.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
14 weeks ago

somewhere

When you say it's fizzled out after a few days, are we talking you've just been on a date/couple of dates and you wasn't really serious or are we talking long term? Because if you wasn't together long enough to get a drawer and leave your toothbrush at theirs, I would say it was just semi casual.

It's never really happened to me but if it was just a casual thing and he slid into a friends DMS it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, there is a reason it didn't work out lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Is it disloyal?

Are friends ex partners off limits?

I don't think so Yes there like an unwritten code but I'm talking from my personal experiences where on a few occasions my exes friends have been straight in and making moves

Better to wait until after you've split up, no?

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By *eordieJeansCouple
14 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Bro code innit.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

As soon as we opened up my old relationship, most her friends were texting.

That's slightly different to tho.

Imo some will go for it, others won't.

I've been approached by ex GFs friends but no idea who is worse.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Bro code innit."

They get to decide who their mates can see?

Got it!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
14 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Bro code innit."

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But why?

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By *agnar73Man
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Bro code innit.

....

But why?"

Not worth the hassle.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
14 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Bro code innit.

....

But why?

Not worth the hassle."

What hassle?

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By *eordieJeansCouple
14 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Bro code innit.

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But why?"

I wouldn’t dream of jumping into bed with my friends ex just after they’d split up. My loyalty lies with my friend.

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By *agnar73Man
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Bro code innit.

....

But why?

Not worth the hassle.

What hassle?"

What were you doing with my ex? Etc etc.

One time I bumped into someone ex in pub, had a chat and got a pile of nonsense for having a conversation and asking how she was.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
14 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Bro code innit.

....

But why?

Not worth the hassle.

What hassle?

What were you doing with my ex? Etc etc.

One time I bumped into someone ex in pub, had a chat and got a pile of nonsense for having a conversation and asking how she was."

Get better friends then.

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
14 weeks ago

St Neots

"Bro code innit.

....

But why?

I wouldn’t dream of jumping into bed with my friends ex just after they’d split up. My loyalty lies with my friend."

Yeah it's just a no-go if you're a proper mate. It's different if it wasn't a proper relationship, then it's just sloppy seconds and alls good

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By *agnar73Man
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Bro code innit.

....

But why?

Not worth the hassle.

What hassle?

What were you doing with my ex? Etc etc.

One time I bumped into someone ex in pub, had a chat and got a pile of nonsense for having a conversation and asking how she was.

Get better friends then."

I did. That was a while ago

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By *eordieJeansCouple
14 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Bro code innit.

....

But why?

I wouldn’t dream of jumping into bed with my friends ex just after they’d split up. My loyalty lies with my friend.

Yeah it's just a no-go if you're a proper mate. It's different if it wasn't a proper relationship, then it's just sloppy seconds and alls good "

I wouldn’t quite put it like that but you’re right, it totally depends on the situation.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
14 weeks ago

walsall

Nobody is sliding into my DM’s, they’re only size 3!

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By *jj2012 OP Man
14 weeks ago

Barry

There's no write or wrong answer ias we all have different views and opinions as good too get both male and female perspectives on topic

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
14 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Just because I was involved with someone, doesn't mean they have domain over my own autonomy either before, during or after the fact

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By *eordieJeansCouple
14 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I think the replies to this thread give you your answer OP.

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By * and R cple4Couple
14 weeks ago

swansea

I think it totally depends, if it's a few meaning less dates a bit of fun but nothing heavy then I don't see why not.

Where theirs feelings involved and a more developed relationship then definitely not.

I definitely wouldn't it would just be to weird..

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By *ad NannaWoman
14 weeks ago

East London

My ex-husband's very good friend said we should go for a drink or something to eat.

We were at a family party, and I think he just felt sorry for me because I was still single and my ex was there with his new girlfriend.

I didn't go.

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By *2000ManMan
14 weeks ago

Worthing

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By *2000ManMan
14 weeks ago

Worthing

In various offices I worked in, it was always the women who made a move onto a male co-worker if it did happen. Maybe it's bordom or drama they watch "on the telly"!

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By *ark n kimCouple
14 weeks ago

Durham

Didn't have dm or mobile phones when we met,so no.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I still haven't worked out the OP (apologies....all inclusive drinks and that).

I don't think men or women are any more 'loyal' based on gender. Surely it's just a 'people' thing?

And if a relationship ends then surely both parties are free agents to do as they please? Some may slate or negatively discuss the other party, but that's a 'them' choice. Make your own mind up. Rather than base any perception of someone on the views of others.

*this post was sponsored by copious amounts of free cocktails. Ignore at your preference.

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By *ellhungvweMan
14 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"I still haven't worked out the OP (apologies....all inclusive drinks and that).

I don't think men or women are any more 'loyal' based on gender. Surely it's just a 'people' thing?

*this post was sponsored by copious amounts of free cocktails. Ignore at your preference. "

I will have whatever Obi is drinking because I agree with this.

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