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The Gentleman’s approach

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

"

This might be essentially a sex site but women still expect men to be friendly and respectful. Being a decent person isn't boring.

Starting with sex talk is extremely unlikely to be a successful approach.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

"

no - its much better than some of the full on explicit messages that seem to have evaded the curtsey of a hello!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on if it’s a nice friendly or a creepy friendly.

We are not always perceived how we think we are by others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure those that are on your wavelength will appreciate your approach. Anyone who doesn't just isn't compatible. Simple as that.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here "

It's just that men are hugely outnumbered, so you need to stand out.

You would benefit from a more detailed profile and attending socials and clubs.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here "

It is appreciated but actions speak louder than words so if you continuously refer to yourself as a gent or use it as your usp it can be perceived as a false persona.

A proper gent doesn't need to tell anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

It is appreciated but actions speak louder than words so if you continuously refer to yourself as a gent or use it as your usp it can be perceived as a false persona.

A proper gent doesn't need to tell anyone. "

this.

And the ladies just love a bad boy too!

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here "

Oh I certainly appreciate a gentleman

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By *ot to giggleWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

It is appreciated but actions speak louder than words so if you continuously refer to yourself as a gent or use it as your usp it can be perceived as a false persona.

A proper gent doesn't need to tell anyone.

this.

And the ladies just love a bad boy too! "

with flags !!!

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By *ot to giggleWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

Oh I certainly appreciate a gentleman "

^^^^^^^^ agreed

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

It is appreciated but actions speak louder than words so if you continuously refer to yourself as a gent or use it as your usp it can be perceived as a false persona.

A proper gent doesn't need to tell anyone.

this.

And the ladies just love a bad boy too! "

No bad boys, thank you.

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By *nnCeeWoman
over a year ago

East of Eden, West of Hell


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

Oh I certainly appreciate a gentleman

^^^^^^^^ agreed"

Thirded

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Manners is always a good start.

And a good bio. I wouldn't write criticism of other men in my own bio. I don't think it would reflect well on me.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

I think the key words are respect and consideration...which are part of being a gentleman. People that are too friendly can sometimes come across as pushy... ignoring boundaries. But to answer your question...being respectful, educated and well mannered is never a bad look in my eyes.

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By *akbearMan
over a year ago

Newbury

Always try and be polite, works about 20% of the time getting a response even if it's a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m always polite never pushy but most of my msgs just stop. So think i may come across as boring. Which is far from the case haha

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Another vote here for a gentleman, as long as he has that glint in his eye

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By *ifestyle1Man
over a year ago

kent


"Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

This might be essentially a sex site but women still expect men to be friendly and respectful. Being a decent person isn't boring.

Starting with sex talk is extremely unlikely to be a successful approach. "

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By *ifestyle1Man
over a year ago

kent

Thumbs up

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

"

What will you do if it is giving the wrong impression?

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By *allandathleticMan
over a year ago

Asgard

Be authentic and genuine OP.

It'll go a long way with the ladies.

Coming from an utter scumbag

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

What will you do if it is giving the wrong impression?"

Looking at the advice i think i should update my profile to express myself better.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

This might be essentially a sex site but women still expect men to be friendly and respectful. Being a decent person isn't boring.

Starting with sex talk is extremely unlikely to be a successful approach. "

What she said

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By *hyKentGuyMan
over a year ago

sheerness


"Another vote here for a gentleman, as long as he has that glint in his eye"

I’ve always been polite on here! Gets me absolutely nowhere!x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

It is appreciated but actions speak louder than words so if you continuously refer to yourself as a gent or use it as your usp it can be perceived as a false persona.

A proper gent doesn't need to tell anyone.

this.

And the ladies just love a bad boy too! "

That's as maybe but women want a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice bum

what was the question?

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By *rgasmatron1970Man
over a year ago

Bromley

I was brought up, not thrown up. My mind and humour might be in the gutter or below, but I know how to behave online and in person.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"Nice bum

what was the question? "

Great tits.

Where was we?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In my opinion basic respect and good manners are basic requirements. It doesn't make anyone boring or less likely to get meets. However neither does it mean you're more likely to get meets.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Be authentic and genuine OP.

It'll go a long way with the ladies.

Coming from an utter scumbag "

Being anything but yourself isn’t going to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice bum

what was the question?

Great tits.

Where was we? "

Oi im not here for your gratifica..... Ahhhh oh yes actually I am. Sorry. Carry on

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By *allandathleticMan
over a year ago

Asgard


"Nice bum

what was the question? "

You Irish girls are just something else

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"Nice bum

what was the question?

Great tits.

Where was we?

Oi im not here for your gratifica..... Ahhhh oh yes actually I am. Sorry. Carry on"

Lovely, now please bend over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice bum

what was the question? "

Blushes haha

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

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It is appreciated but actions speak louder than words so if you continuously refer to yourself as a gent or use it as your usp it can be perceived as a false persona.

A proper gent doesn't need to tell anyone. "

•

Absolutely.

A gentleman will simply act like one without any airs and graces. Similarly, when I come across profiles of women who proffer to be sapiosexual I give them a wide berth. If you're sapiosexual I'll be able to discern it immediately. Don't boilerplate it on your profile.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"Good to hear thank you. I’ll not change my mother raised a Gent. But it’s doesn’t seem appreciated here

·

It is appreciated but actions speak louder than words so if you continuously refer to yourself as a gent or use it as your usp it can be perceived as a false persona.

A proper gent doesn't need to tell anyone.

•

Absolutely.

A gentleman will simply act like one without any airs and graces. Similarly, when I come across profiles of women who proffer to be sapiosexual I give them a wide berth. If you're sapiosexual I'll be able to discern it immediately. Don't boilerplate it on your profile."

I've never Claimed to be intelligent in any way shape or form ...

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I prefered gentle ben

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I've never Claimed to be intelligent in any way shape or form ... "

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That's because you're the thinking man's crumpet.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

"

I think you’re partly true, I’m always a gentleman on here and sometimes think the ladies prefer a bad boy.

But tbh it is what it is and fair play to any guy getting a meet on fab

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"I've never Claimed to be intelligent in any way shape or form ...

•

That's because you're the thinking man's crumpet. "

... smothered in butter ?.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is all great advice

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"This is all great advice "

Good luck x

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts


"Good eve. How are you?

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

Perhaps the view is that someone with manners is boring or not a total deviant haha

Be good to hear what people think.

"

Be yourself

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Nottingham and Stamford

I've been on here a few years now and I try to be a gentleman.

So people will like you for being a gent, some won't.

Some will thank you for your kindness, some will block you.

Just be yourself and you should come out on top with the majority of people.

Patience is required though. Lots of it.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"

Is being a friendly gent giving people the wrong impression when it come’s to this site?

"

Only if being friendly is accompanied by an attitude that people then owe them something because of it

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I prefer the respectful, face pic and at least a hint of attraction for him (and me obviously) kind of approach... Not the smutty or "I am in your area and looking for xyz and I am just interested as you have holes", business transaction approach

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