"Has anyone got any helpful advice for me. I joined this site a while back but haven’t really given it a proper go yet. I know i’m probably outside a lot of people’s age ranges but i’m just not getting any responses from people. What do I need to do differently to catch people’s attention? x"
Hello OP
Firstly, if you 'haven’t really given it a proper go yet' then perhaps you need to understand that it takes effort. No different to getting ready to go out for the night. Would you really wander into a trendy nightclub without having a shower, stuck some decent clothes on, brushed your teeth etc? No, didn't think so. Fab is no different, it's just you get to make the all important first impression in a totally different way. So here goes....
Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet.
Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.
Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, it WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. It doesn't have to be war and peace, just enough to show some interst and stand out from the cheesy one liners.
Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further, they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly the 34 words you have managed to write on your profile won't impress anyone. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make.
At present your profile couldn't sell a Big Mac to a starving man, so it's not going to sell you to prospective meets. We are a couple that do meet guys of your age, and one look at your profile would instantly put us off looking any further. Nobody knows you as well as you know you, and if you have nothing to say about yourself it could be interpreted as there is nothing worth saying about you. That's probably not true, but would you start a conversation in person with someone if you thought you would only get single word answers because they have nothing to say?
Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. the first impression is the first hurdle after all.
Put on some pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, and anything in between is great. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice. You can always pixelate your face if you are really concerned that every one of the 15 miliion or so people in London will recognise you instantly.
However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves.
Try to get off the site and meet people socially or even try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do?
Good luck  |
