FabSwingers.com forum: Never get a reply

By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
21 weeks ago

Leicester

Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?"

No thanks

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By *electableicecreamMan
21 weeks ago

The West

Time. That's the whole of it. No one wants to spend their time saying no thanks 50-100 times a day.

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By *ellhungvweMan
21 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Invert the problem OP - how do you make it so that you have a fab presence (profile, pic, whatever) that makes it impossible for a message to be ignored?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
21 weeks ago

You see op what you have to realise is that one message that you have sent could be one of 300 or more messages. So yes it might take 30 mins to reply no thanks, but times it by 300, that is 2 and a half hours. Would you honestly spend 2 and a half hours replying to people you aren't interested, I would rather leave the site than do that kind of admin.

If someone doesn't reply then obviously they aren't interested,do you really need it written down for you?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
21 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Following for the advice

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Herts

"Invert the problem OP - how do you make it so that you have a fab presence (profile, pic, whatever) that makes it impossible for a message to be ignored?"

This is how to look at it OP ^^

Your problem could be your opportunity. If you aren’t getting replies then loads of guys aren’t. Upgrade your profile and messaging. Make yourself hard to ignore.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
21 weeks ago

"You see op what you have to realise is that one message that you have sent could be one of 300 or more messages. So yes it might take 30 mins to reply no thanks, but times it by 300, that is 2 and a half hours. Would you honestly spend 2 and a half hours replying to people you aren't interested, I would rather leave the site than do that kind of admin.

If someone doesn't reply then obviously they aren't interested,do you really need it written down for you? "
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30 mins? 30 secs unless they are that slow at writing

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By *ascaIMan
21 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

I don’t know why you’d want to browse through your inbox reading no thanks, no thanks, no thanks.

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By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
21 weeks ago

Leicester

I get the time aspect but to me if iv took the time to read the message then just easy to type no and send back but maybe that's just me.

Or even just delete the message then at least that sends the same response with no typing involved

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By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
21 weeks ago

Leicester

It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

No one ever messages me either op

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By *otSoPoshWoman
21 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored "

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP.

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By *imply DeeWoman
21 weeks ago

Wherever

Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ?

Or is it just me.

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By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
21 weeks ago

Leicester

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP."

Thankyou didn't know this. Nee to this forum thing

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP."

BOSSY BOOTS

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
21 weeks ago

Hell

"I get the time aspect but to me if iv took the time to read the message then just easy to type no and send back but maybe that's just me.

Or even just delete the message then at least that sends the same response with no typing involved"

You might have taken the time to send messages out, but nobody asked you to. They don’t owe you a reply

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

"Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ?

Or is it just me. "

Fancy A Quiche?

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
21 weeks ago

Hell

"Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ?

Or is it just me.

Fancy A Quiche?

You spelled quickie wrong

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By *electableicecreamMan
21 weeks ago

The West

Men post threads like this every day OP

The answers are always the same.

No reply IS a reply. They are not interested.

You won't change anyones mind about it.

A really good profile with a good bio and great photos has a much higher chance of getting a reply.

Would you say that your profile is of a very high standard? Because lots of guys do have excellent profiles and that's who your are being compared to.

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By *imply DeeWoman
21 weeks ago

Wherever

"Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ?

Or is it just me.

Fancy A Quiche?

Actually, yes I do.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
21 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP.

BOSSY BOOTS"

Yeah... but you love it

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By *otSoPoshWoman
21 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP.

Thankyou didn't know this. Nee to this forum thing"

You're welcome.

Enjoy

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By *orbidden eastMan
21 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

Ratios OP. Just send a messages and don’t think about it and see what happens

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By *otSoPoshWoman
21 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

This is all useful stuff. Thank you. I shall attempt to implement it

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

"Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ?

Or is it just me.

Fancy A Quiche?

Actually, yes I do."

Cheese and Onion or Lorraine?

*why has Lorraine got a quiche named after her*

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP.

BOSSY BOOTS

Yeah... but you love it

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... do it?

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
21 weeks ago

somewhere

In an ideal world I think we would all love to reply with no thanks to those we aren't interested in but it's not:

I don't get hundreds of messages a day, maybe 50 on a good day, out of those 50 probably 48 of them haven't put any time or effort into the message from "hi" to "how's you" or my absolute favourite going into detail of what they want to do to me (despite having all this on my profile of what not to message me), I don't know the kind of messages you send for a first message OP but the above does absolutely nothing for me.

Plus as someone else said further up, say you message 100 women per day (which says to me you are selective in your type, just trying to get a bite) and all 100 message back and 99 of those are "no thanks" how would this make you feel? Granted not getting a reply probably makes you feel the same way but we don't HAVE to message you back.

Plus there are folks out there that don't take no for an answer, get pushy, arsey etc and we don't need that ag in our life from someone that throws their dummy out the pram because we don't wanna bump uglies with you.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
21 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP.

BOSSY BOOTS

Yeah... but you love it

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... do it?

I'm gonna go get the boots now

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

"Men post threads like this every day OP

The answers are always the same.

No reply IS a reply. They are not interested.

You won't change anyones mind about it.

A really good profile with a good bio and great photos has a much higher chance of getting a reply.

Would you say that your profile is of a very high standard? Because lots of guys do have excellent profiles and that's who your are being compared to."

I've started a challenge. Everyone it gets posted I add 20 press ups to my daily 100. Last week was a tough week.

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP.

BOSSY BOOTS

Yeah... but you love it

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... do it?

I'm gonna go get the boots now

You go grab those cock stompers

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By *oodiesCoupleCouple
21 weeks ago

Leicestershire

You need to improve your profile… You’ve apologised for it being bad. so you know it’s not great, do something about that!

Read other men’s and use what you like but make it original and personal to you.

Make sure when you are messaging people that you are what they’re actually looking for.

More photos… full body, suited/dressed not just naked. I don’t need to see lots of dick pics.

If you don’t want your face showing blur it out or pop an emoji over it.

Attach a face pic! I will only respond if I can see who I am chatting with… even if it’s a no because I’m not attracted to you.

Opinions of the wife in WoodiesCouple.

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By *he KakapoMan
21 weeks ago

A nice rock

There seems to be a direct correlation between people who expect replies and people who don't get replies.

It's almost like a vibe of entitlement comes through a message. Or that because a no thank you seems like such little effort that same effort is put into messages and profiles...

Weird

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By *eyond PurityCouple
21 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

It’s mostly men who say they don’t get a reply so why don’t men message men and that may solve the problem

You’re welcome

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By *orthern BeardMan
21 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

No reply is a reply in itself.

Would take some women all day to write no thanks to every message they’re not interested in.

It’s a buyers market and clearly you’re not selling what they want to buy

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

The best genuine advice I can give you OP is this.

I was once like you. I posted a short bio up. A half arsed picture. And thought left the ladies and couples roll on in.

I waited... and I waited. But nothing came of it.

So I sent a few messages, most went unread.

I thought. Well, T&A what are you going to do.

So, I came on the forums and I started blabbing my thumbs off. I used to refer to "little t&a" as if he was another person.

NSP will vouch for me.

But what I found was. On the forums I could put ME, the real me. Not this chassis with which my mind is carried. But the actual me across.

People will notice my writing style. Some I assume see me post and thing "ah what's that weird big fittie posted" and click to see.

So the best advice I can give you, is put a little time into what you want your profile to "sell" and put yourself across in the forums...

People will either love you or hate you. Some Will do both.

But you'll make friends and you'll soon have people make regular contact with me.

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By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
21 weeks ago

Leicester

"The best genuine advice I can give you OP is this.

I was once like you. I posted a short bio up. A half arsed picture. And thought left the ladies and couples roll on in.

I waited... and I waited. But nothing came of it.

So I sent a few messages, most went unread.

I thought. Well, T&A what are you going to do.

So, I came on the forums and I started blabbing my thumbs off. I used to refer to "little t&a" as if he was another person.

NSP will vouch for me.

But what I found was. On the forums I could put ME, the real me. Not this chassis with which my mind is carried. But the actual me across.

People will notice my writing style. Some I assume see me post and thing "ah what's that weird big fittie posted" and click to see.

So the best advice I can give you, is put a little time into what you want your profile to "sell" and put yourself across in the forums...

People will either love you or hate you. Some Will do both.

But you'll make friends and you'll soon have people make regular contact with me.

Cheers all helpful advice appreciate it I don't spend my life on here so admittedly was pretty thrown together kind of thing.

I will be reevaluating my profile and what I choose to make public.

See what changes and take it from there.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
21 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored

If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP.

BOSSY BOOTS

Yeah... but you love it

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... do it?

I'm gonna go get the boots now

You go grab those cock stompers

The ones with the evil stiletto

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By *ittlebirdWoman
21 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?"

There are a number of reasons OP but THE most important one is that once you reply that person then breaks any future filters you may put on.

Lots and lots of people don’t take no as the complete sentence it is and therefore continue to message more crap… some of it absolutely disgusting to the person who has simply put no.

Then that person has to take more time out of their day to block initial person they’re not interested in at the start.

Do you see the conundrum?

The guidelines here of no response = no thanks are totally right. For a reason

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By *otSoPoshWoman
21 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"The best genuine advice I can give you OP is this.

I was once like you. I posted a short bio up. A half arsed picture. And thought left the ladies and couples roll on in.

I waited... and I waited. But nothing came of it.

So I sent a few messages, most went unread.

I thought. Well, T&A what are you going to do.

So, I came on the forums and I started blabbing my thumbs off. I used to refer to "little t&a" as if he was another person.

NSP will vouch for me.

But what I found was. On the forums I could put ME, the real me. Not this chassis with which my mind is carried. But the actual me across.

People will notice my writing style. Some I assume see me post and thing "ah what's that weird big fittie posted" and click to see.

So the best advice I can give you, is put a little time into what you want your profile to "sell" and put yourself across in the forums...

People will either love you or hate you. Some Will do both.

But you'll make friends and you'll soon have people make regular contact with me.

I vouch for him

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By *oodiesCoupleCouple
21 weeks ago

Leicestershire

Great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

"Invert the problem OP - how do you make it so that you have a fab presence (profile, pic, whatever) that makes it impossible for a message to be ignored?"

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By *inger_the_NinjaMan
21 weeks ago

Frome

Imagine getting 1000 emails a day, all just saying dull things like 'Hey' or 'nice cock' and being expected to spend all your spare time having to reply to them all. Put in effort and be rewarded with effort.

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By *heelerMan
21 weeks ago

Northants

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?"

Don't worry we all experience that if they don't reply or anything it's a no thanks don't keep messaging you piss them off and they block you.

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By *cnugatugMan
21 weeks ago

Chatham

Most people state on their bio that a no reply is a no thanks I mean if you take the time to read profiles then maybe you wouldn't be messaging the wrong people

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21 weeks ago

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?"

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By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
21 weeks ago

Leicester

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?

There are a number of reasons OP but THE most important one is that once you reply that person then breaks any future filters you may put on.

Lots and lots of people don’t take no as the complete sentence it is and therefore continue to message more crap… some of it absolutely disgusting to the person who has simply put no.

Then that person has to take more time out of their day to block initial person they’re not interested in at the start.

Do you see the conundrum?

The guidelines here of no response = no thanks are totally right. For a reason

Thankyou I get it.

Tbh I think it's more fucked up that people can't take no for a answer.

I mean I gey I ain't for alot of people and that's fine alot of people ain't for me it's both ways but people that are aggressive and pushy and don't take no for a answer should just be a report and kicked situation in my eyes.

But that's just me

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By *ittlebirdWoman
21 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?

There are a number of reasons OP but THE most important one is that once you reply that person then breaks any future filters you may put on.

Lots and lots of people don’t take no as the complete sentence it is and therefore continue to message more crap… some of it absolutely disgusting to the person who has simply put no.

Then that person has to take more time out of their day to block initial person they’re not interested in at the start.

Do you see the conundrum?

The guidelines here of no response = no thanks are totally right. For a reason

Thankyou I get it.

Tbh I think it's more fucked up that people can't take no for a answer.

But that's just me "

It would be lovely if everyone had the same approach OP. Unfortunately not everyone does. Hope the answer helps.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
21 weeks ago

Llanelli

No reply has always been the equivalent to sending a no thank you.

If my fwb said no thanks to everyone that messaged her then we would have a lot less time for fun.

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By *elloWoman
21 weeks ago

alpha centauri

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?"

Yes it's just you

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
21 weeks ago

Leeds

Would a no thanks make you feel any better though OP?

Would 10 no thanks be better than nothing?

I used to reply nicely to everyone but then you get some that try persuade you that they are infact your type, or they'll state I'm a fat cunt and didn't wanna fuck me anyway or I'm a self entitled prick.... You get the jist, so now I don't say no thank you.

Just like you probably won't reply to each and every comment people have put on your post thanking them for their views on the matter.

No reply = no thank you

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By *allandathleticMan
21 weeks ago

Asgard

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?

Yes it's just you

Savage!

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By *issmorganWoman
21 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Often it can be because a no thanks leads to either abuse or the sender asking why not, so many prefer to delete.

I will always look at a profile first, if it's unappealing I don't even look at the message.

Same if its clear they haven't read what I'm looking for.

I use filters to keep mail low, but for some women and couples it would be a full time job saying no ta to all the messages they receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

No thanks

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By *ex HolesMan
21 weeks ago

Up North

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?"

Good question OP

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
21 weeks ago

Essex

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?"

If it makes you feel better, I never get any “no thanks” either.

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By *illybeachboyMan
21 weeks ago

Guernsey

I've just sent a friendly message to a new profile in my area and received a one word message back ,it read 'huh'

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By *elloWoman
21 weeks ago

alpha centauri

"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message.

Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?

If it makes you feel better, I never get any “no thanks” either."

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