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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?" No thanks | |||
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"Invert the problem OP - how do you make it so that you have a fab presence (profile, pic, whatever) that makes it impossible for a message to be ignored?" This is how to look at it OP ^^ Your problem could be your opportunity. If you aren’t getting replies then loads of guys aren’t. Upgrade your profile and messaging. Make yourself hard to ignore. | |||
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"You see op what you have to realise is that one message that you have sent could be one of 300 or more messages. So yes it might take 30 mins to reply no thanks, but times it by 300, that is 2 and a half hours. Would you honestly spend 2 and a half hours replying to people you aren't interested, I would rather leave the site than do that kind of admin. If someone doesn't reply then obviously they aren't interested,do you really need it written down for you? " b 30 mins? 30 secs unless they are that slow at writing | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored " If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP. | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP." Thankyou didn't know this. Nee to this forum thing | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP." BOSSY BOOTS | |||
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"I get the time aspect but to me if iv took the time to read the message then just easy to type no and send back but maybe that's just me. Or even just delete the message then at least that sends the same response with no typing involved" You might have taken the time to send messages out, but nobody asked you to. They don’t owe you a reply | |||
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"Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ? Or is it just me. " Fancy A Quiche? | |||
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"Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ? Or is it just me. Fancy A Quiche? " You spelled quickie wrong | |||
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"Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ? Or is it just me. Fancy A Quiche? " Actually, yes I do. | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP. BOSSY BOOTS" Yeah... but you love it | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP. Thankyou didn't know this. Nee to this forum thing" You're welcome. Enjoy | |||
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"Surely it’s not that hard to make oneself familiar with website FAQ? Or is it just me. Fancy A Quiche? Actually, yes I do." Cheese and Onion or Lorraine? *why has Lorraine got a quiche named after her* | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP. BOSSY BOOTS Yeah... but you love it " Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... do it? | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP. BOSSY BOOTS Yeah... but you love it Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... do it? " I'm gonna go get the boots now | |||
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"Men post threads like this every day OP The answers are always the same. No reply IS a reply. They are not interested. You won't change anyones mind about it. A really good profile with a good bio and great photos has a much higher chance of getting a reply. Would you say that your profile is of a very high standard? Because lots of guys do have excellent profiles and that's who your are being compared to." I've started a challenge. Everyone it gets posted I add 20 press ups to my daily 100. Last week was a tough week. | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP. BOSSY BOOTS Yeah... but you love it Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... do it? I'm gonna go get the boots now " You go grab those cock stompers | |||
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"The best genuine advice I can give you OP is this. I was once like you. I posted a short bio up. A half arsed picture. And thought left the ladies and couples roll on in. I waited... and I waited. But nothing came of it. So I sent a few messages, most went unread. I thought. Well, T&A what are you going to do. So, I came on the forums and I started blabbing my thumbs off. I used to refer to "little t&a" as if he was another person. NSP will vouch for me. But what I found was. On the forums I could put ME, the real me. Not this chassis with which my mind is carried. But the actual me across. People will notice my writing style. Some I assume see me post and thing "ah what's that weird big fittie posted" and click to see. So the best advice I can give you, is put a little time into what you want your profile to "sell" and put yourself across in the forums... People will either love you or hate you. Some Will do both. But you'll make friends and you'll soon have people make regular contact with me. " Cheers all helpful advice appreciate it I don't spend my life on here so admittedly was pretty thrown together kind of thing. I will be reevaluating my profile and what I choose to make public. See what changes and take it from there. | |||
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"It's not that I want to do that suppose I just prefer to be told than ignored If you use reply+quote people know who you're talking to, OP. BOSSY BOOTS Yeah... but you love it Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... do it? I'm gonna go get the boots now You go grab those cock stompers " The ones with the evil stiletto | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?" There are a number of reasons OP but THE most important one is that once you reply that person then breaks any future filters you may put on. Lots and lots of people don’t take no as the complete sentence it is and therefore continue to message more crap… some of it absolutely disgusting to the person who has simply put no. Then that person has to take more time out of their day to block initial person they’re not interested in at the start. Do you see the conundrum? The guidelines here of no response = no thanks are totally right. For a reason | |||
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"The best genuine advice I can give you OP is this. I was once like you. I posted a short bio up. A half arsed picture. And thought left the ladies and couples roll on in. I waited... and I waited. But nothing came of it. So I sent a few messages, most went unread. I thought. Well, T&A what are you going to do. So, I came on the forums and I started blabbing my thumbs off. I used to refer to "little t&a" as if he was another person. NSP will vouch for me. But what I found was. On the forums I could put ME, the real me. Not this chassis with which my mind is carried. But the actual me across. People will notice my writing style. Some I assume see me post and thing "ah what's that weird big fittie posted" and click to see. So the best advice I can give you, is put a little time into what you want your profile to "sell" and put yourself across in the forums... People will either love you or hate you. Some Will do both. But you'll make friends and you'll soon have people make regular contact with me. " I vouch for him | |||
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"Invert the problem OP - how do you make it so that you have a fab presence (profile, pic, whatever) that makes it impossible for a message to be ignored?" | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?" Don't worry we all experience that if they don't reply or anything it's a no thanks don't keep messaging you piss them off and they block you. | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me? There are a number of reasons OP but THE most important one is that once you reply that person then breaks any future filters you may put on. Lots and lots of people don’t take no as the complete sentence it is and therefore continue to message more crap… some of it absolutely disgusting to the person who has simply put no. Then that person has to take more time out of their day to block initial person they’re not interested in at the start. Do you see the conundrum? The guidelines here of no response = no thanks are totally right. For a reason " Thankyou I get it. Tbh I think it's more fucked up that people can't take no for a answer. I mean I gey I ain't for alot of people and that's fine alot of people ain't for me it's both ways but people that are aggressive and pushy and don't take no for a answer should just be a report and kicked situation in my eyes. But that's just me | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me? There are a number of reasons OP but THE most important one is that once you reply that person then breaks any future filters you may put on. Lots and lots of people don’t take no as the complete sentence it is and therefore continue to message more crap… some of it absolutely disgusting to the person who has simply put no. Then that person has to take more time out of their day to block initial person they’re not interested in at the start. Do you see the conundrum? The guidelines here of no response = no thanks are totally right. For a reason Thankyou I get it. Tbh I think it's more fucked up that people can't take no for a answer. I mean I gey I ain't for alot of people and that's fine alot of people ain't for me it's both ways but people that are aggressive and pushy and don't take no for a answer should just be a report and kicked situation in my eyes. But that's just me " It would be lovely if everyone had the same approach OP. Unfortunately not everyone does. Hope the answer helps. | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?" Yes it's just you | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me? Yes it's just you " Savage! | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?" Good question OP | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me?" If it makes you feel better, I never get any “no thanks” either. | |||
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"Why is it so impossible to even just get a simple no thanks reply from people when they have read the message. Surely it's not hard to just reply no thanks. Or is it just me? If it makes you feel better, I never get any “no thanks” either." | |||
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