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"I think you need to sit down and have a Frank discussion with her...yes she'll feel hurt but she'll get over it ....." Alternatively give her my contact details  | |||
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"So I slept with a lady friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years as a 1 off. She has started to tell me she loves me and is bombarding me with messages. It's not that serious at the moment but I would feel bad if I blocked her as I don't want to ruin or friendship. Any advice?" Keep copies of every message and get a tv series wrote about it, oh wait  just don’t make it real unless you’ve got a deep pocket ! | |||
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"Awkward … how do you feel about her … ? I can easily mail you some gaffer tape and how to build a patio plan ( sorry just re read this .. not funny eeeek ! ) but I am giggling .. " Thanks for the advice Josef Fritzl  , i don't feel the same way about her | |||
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"So there were no signs she was attracted to you in the last 6 years building upto this ??" Evidently not. Or There was. He's ignored it and now he's got himself into a pile and he struggling to get out because he feels emotionally guilty for leading her on.... Buuuut I could be wrong. | |||
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"Awkward … how do you feel about her … ? I can easily mail you some gaffer tape and how to build a patio plan ( sorry just re read this .. not funny eeeek ! ) but I am giggling .. Thanks for the advice Josef Fritzl , i don't feel the same way about her"Ok - what’s your address lol | |||
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"So there were no signs she was attracted to you in the last 6 years building upto this ?? Evidently not. Or There was. He's ignored it and now he's got himself into a pile and he struggling to get out because he feels emotionally guilty for leading her on.... Buuuut I could be wrong." I’ll go with the latter too | |||
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"So there were no signs she was attracted to you in the last 6 years building upto this ??" Unfortunately not, went around hers to have a meal and chilled watching a movie, 1 thing lead to another and here I am  | |||
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"So there were no signs she was attracted to you in the last 6 years building upto this ?? Evidently not. Or There was. He's ignored it and now he's got himself into a pile and he struggling to get out because he feels emotionally guilty for leading her on.... Buuuut I could be wrong." This. OP you need to tell her clearly and firmly (but be kind) that those feelings aren’t reciprocated. | |||
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"Just tell her again you're not interested in her sexually, and be done with it. Probably better to say you want to take a little break from the friendship to give you both some breathing space " This. Be upfront & clear. Don't sleep with her as that's messing with her feelings even if she thinks she can handle it. Space to heal/ both do your own thing is wise. Being honest salvages the hope of a friendship in the future. Trying to be her friend now when she has the feels/ you slept together/ not clearly saying no, could be leading her on. | |||
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"So there were no signs she was attracted to you in the last 6 years building upto this ?? Unfortunately not, went around hers to have a meal and chilled watching a movie, 1 thing lead to another and here I am "Ok mum style talk coming up You're an adult. Deal with this in an adult manner by being absolutely straight with her completely unambiguously. Don't say things like one thing led to another as if you had no control over the situation. You did and you do. | |||
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"So there were no signs she was attracted to you in the last 6 years building upto this ?? Unfortunately not, went around hers to have a meal and chilled watching a movie, 1 thing lead to another and here I am "Then speak to her on the phone. Don’t text. And tell her you don’t feel the same way. Today. Now even. Instead of asking people on the forum. If you care about her as a friend as you said in your OP that is the least she deserves  | |||
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"So there were no signs she was attracted to you in the last 6 years building upto this ?? Evidently not. Or There was. He's ignored it and now he's got himself into a pile and he struggling to get out because he feels emotionally guilty for leading her on.... Buuuut I could be wrong. I’ll go with the latter too " Well you would be completely wrong  | |||
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"What are you going to do op?" She asked me to be her bf..i said no. She then said ok lets just be fwb..i said no. We video called and i told her that it will go nowhere and it was a one off (i didn't want to say it was a mistake as i don't want to hurt her) I am just stuck at the moment as we have been to each others place many many times and nothing has ever happen between us. | |||
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"What are you going to do op? She asked me to be her bf..i said no. She then said ok lets just be fwb..i said no. We video called and i told her that it will go nowhere and it was a one off (i didn't want to say it was a mistake as i don't want to hurt her) I am just stuck at the moment as we have been to each others place many many times and nothing has ever happen between us." I think it sounds like you need to put a bit of distance between you x | |||
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"Make a Netflix series out of it. " Been there, done that | |||
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"What are you going to do op? She asked me to be her bf..i said no. She then said ok lets just be fwb..i said no. We video called and i told her that it will go nowhere and it was a one off (i didn't want to say it was a mistake as i don't want to hurt her) I am just stuck at the moment as we have been to each others place many many times and nothing has ever happen between us." Ok. Have you worked out in your mind how you want this to go forward? If not take some time to sort that out then ask her how she sees your future relationship. You might need to give each other some space | |||
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"What are you going to do op? She asked me to be her bf..i said no. She then said ok lets just be fwb..i said no. We video called and i told her that it will go nowhere and it was a one off (i didn't want to say it was a mistake as i don't want to hurt her) I am just stuck at the moment as we have been to each others place many many times and nothing has ever happen between us." OP, you sound like a nice guy. Who I assume feels bad because you don't feel the same. That is ok. There's nothing wrong with not feeling the same. And there's nothing wrong with saying so. Don't feel bad. You CANNOT control her reaction to your feelings. Take some time. Be straight and talk from the heart. Best way  | |||
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"What are you going to do op? She asked me to be her bf..i said no. She then said ok lets just be fwb..i said no. We video called and i told her that it will go nowhere and it was a one off (i didn't want to say it was a mistake as i don't want to hurt her) I am just stuck at the moment as we have been to each others place many many times and nothing has ever happen between us." You've told her no now, if she keeps messaging you need to really put your foot down and ask her to stop, explain it's a bit much & it's going to end up ruining the friendship. | |||
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"What are you going to do op? She asked me to be her bf..i said no. She then said ok lets just be fwb..i said no. We video called and i told her that it will go nowhere and it was a one off (i didn't want to say it was a mistake as i don't want to hurt her) I am just stuck at the moment as we have been to each others place many many times and nothing has ever happen between us. You've told her no now, if she keeps messaging you need to really put your foot down and ask her to stop, explain it's a bit much & it's going to end up ruining the friendship." Don't forget the breakup sex! | |||
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"So I slept with a lady friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years as a 1 off. She has started to tell me she loves me and is bombarding me with messages. It's not that serious at the moment but I would feel bad if I blocked her as I don't want to ruin or friendship. Any advice?" You don't think she has ruined the friendship already? Block her. Evie | |||
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"Guy has female friend, takes it further as you know, sex is sex. Guy complains when female friend has feelings. Next time don't fuck your friends. Oh, and don't make out said friend to be a crazy stalker bitch. " Martha? | |||
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"What are you going to do op? She asked me to be her bf..i said no. She then said ok lets just be fwb..i said no. We video called and i told her that it will go nowhere and it was a one off (i didn't want to say it was a mistake as i don't want to hurt her) I am just stuck at the moment as we have been to each others place many many times and nothing has ever happen between us." In which case if she cannot accept the word no then I’m afraid you have no choice but to block and move on | |||
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"Guy has female friend, takes it further as you know, sex is sex. Guy complains when female friend has feelings. Next time don't fuck your friends. Oh, and don't make out said friend to be a crazy stalker bitch. Martha?" Sent from my iphone | |||
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"Guy has female friend, takes it further as you know, sex is sex. Guy complains when female friend has feelings. Next time don't fuck your friends. Oh, and don't make out said friend to be a crazy stalker bitch. Martha? Sent from my iphone" I’m sure you have an android phone. Very Martha of you. | |||
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"So I slept with a lady friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years as a 1 off. She has started to tell me she loves me and is bombarding me with messages. It's not that serious at the moment but I would feel bad if I blocked her as I don't want to ruin or friendship. Any advice?" Sorry mate if you tell her you're not interested that's the loss of a friend you should have thought about this before you did the deed ,you have no choice but to have a conversation with her but she's going to be very upset I guess,so softly softly. | |||
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"So I slept with a lady friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years as a 1 off. She has started to tell me she loves me and is bombarding me with messages. It's not that serious at the moment but I would feel bad if I blocked her as I don't want to ruin or friendship. Any advice? You don't think she has ruined the friendship already? Block her. Evie " It takes two to tango, I played my part by letting it turn sexual, so I am partially to blame too. I am just trying to recover fragments of our friendship, but I know it will never be the same again. | |||
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"Guy has female friend, takes it further as you know, sex is sex. Guy complains when female friend has feelings. Next time don't fuck your friends. Oh, and don't make out said friend to be a crazy stalker bitch. Martha? Sent from my iphone I’m sure you have an android phone. Very Martha of you." I model myself on her | |||
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"What are you going to do op? She asked me to be her bf..i said no. She then said ok lets just be fwb..i said no. We video called and i told her that it will go nowhere and it was a one off (i didn't want to say it was a mistake as i don't want to hurt her) I am just stuck at the moment as we have been to each others place many many times and nothing has ever happen between us. You've told her no now, if she keeps messaging you need to really put your foot down and ask her to stop, explain it's a bit much & it's going to end up ruining the friendship. Don't forget the breakup sex! "This reply wins the thread  | |||
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"Guy has female friend, takes it further as you know, sex is sex. Guy complains when female friend has feelings. Next time don't fuck your friends. Oh, and don't make out said friend to be a crazy stalker bitch. Martha? Sent from my iphone I’m sure you have an android phone. Very Martha of you. I model myself on her" As if you could ever go to a bar and not have an alcoholic drink. | |||
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"Gloat in knowing you’ve given her a memorable dick-down. That will give you high ratings with future sex partners. Tell her you can’t give her what she’s after. Block her. Don’t be an idiot and find yourself in another similar situation again. "Lmao I'll drop the "check out my trustpilot reviews" on my next endeavour | |||
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" It takes two to tango, I played my part by letting it turn sexual, so I am partially to blame too. I am just trying to recover fragments of our friendship, but I know it will never be the same again. " "Partially to blame"! You did the deed. You needn't have. But I think OP that you are going to to take her up on the FWB offer (#RuledByYourDick) | |||
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" It takes two to tango, I played my part by letting it turn sexual, so I am partially to blame too. I am just trying to recover fragments of our friendship, but I know it will never be the same again. "Partially to blame"! You did the deed. You needn't have. But I think OP that you are going to to take her up on the FWB offer (#RuledByYourDick)" Absolutely not, you don't know anything about me but quick to judge. I have plenty of fwb offers but I am selective on who I sleep with. I just made a bad call on this, if I wanted her as a fwb I would have done that 6 years ago if this was my intentions | |||
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Then speak to her on the phone. Don’t text. And tell her you don’t feel the same way. Today. Now even. Instead of asking people on the forum. If you care about her as a friend as you said in your OP that is the least she deserves "Exactly. I've a friend. She has such rigid rules about compartmentalizing sex from intimacy. She caught the feelings recently and it was so hard for her. It took so much courage for her to say how she felt. All she wanted was the guy to be straight with her. She's not some stalker or whatever, the woman is razor sharp. I'd be gutted for her if he'd have left her hanging, it's a horrible place to be. Pull it together OP you know what you need to do, you don't even need to be asking. | |||
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" I just made a bad call on this " So take some responsibility for the situation | |||
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" It takes two to tango, I played my part by letting it turn sexual, so I am partially to blame too. I am just trying to recover fragments of our friendship, but I know it will never be the same again. "Partially to blame"! You did the deed. You needn't have. But I think OP that you are going to to take her up on the FWB offer (#RuledByYourDick) Absolutely not, you don't know anything about me but quick to judge. I have plenty of fwb offers but I am selective on who I sleep with. I just made a bad call on this, if I wanted her as a fwb I would have done that 6 years ago if this was my intentions ""The OP doth protest too much, methinks!" | |||
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"So I slept with a lady friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years as a 1 off. She has started to tell me she loves me and is bombarding me with messages. It's not that serious at the moment but I would feel bad if I blocked her as I don't want to ruin or friendship. Any advice?" Serious this one - TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL!! You’re a grown up and should be able to have these conversations….dont ghost them without telling them how you feel and where they stand….its a horrid thing to do….i had something similar but i actually told her i loved her and she ghosted me….hurts like hell!! BE HONEST OP | |||
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"So I slept with a lady friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years as a 1 off. She has started to tell me she loves me and is bombarding me with messages. It's not that serious at the moment but I would feel bad if I blocked her as I don't want to ruin or friendship. Any advice? Serious this one - TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL!! You’re a grown up and should be able to have these conversations….dont ghost them without telling them how you feel and where they stand….its a horrid thing to do….i had something similar but i actually told her i loved her and she ghosted me….hurts like hell!! BE HONEST OP "Hugs xx | |||
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"So I slept with a lady friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years as a 1 off. She has started to tell me she loves me and is bombarding me with messages. It's not that serious at the moment but I would feel bad if I blocked her as I don't want to ruin or friendship. Any advice?" Send your pet rabbit away at any cost to a rabbit pet sitter at the furthest corner of the earth until this blows over | |||
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