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Not having much luck.... need some help pleaseeeee

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
22 weeks ago

wellington

Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???

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By *mudge1995Man
22 weeks ago

Hull

Unfortunately thats the needle in the haystack

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By *am882Man
22 weeks ago

Northampton


"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"

Yes mate I’m having exactly the same problem. Starts off really well then nothing

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By *eroLondonMan
22 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

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By *am882Man
22 weeks ago

Northampton


"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance."

Elaborate please! What do you mean

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By *eroLondonMan
22 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean "

It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
22 weeks ago

wellington

Definitely seems like it lol

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By *am882Man
22 weeks ago

Northampton


"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean

It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention. "

Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
22 weeks ago

wellington

Aww ur to kind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago


"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean

It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.

Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you "

He was not bumping it for you, but for the OP - Sam is apparently not a man (unless she has switched places with Dean).

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By *am882Man
22 weeks ago

Northampton


"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean

It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.

Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you

He was not bumping it for you, but for the OP - Sam is apparently not a man (unless she has switched places with Dean)."

I was just being silly and trying to have a laugh but yes I knew it wasn’t about me

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By *eroLondonMan
22 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean

It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.

Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you "

No. You misunderstood. I wasn't referring to you. I was referring to the lady of the couple who created this thread. Her name is also Sam.

You being on here and also being called Sam is pure coincidence.

This has to be one of the most bonkers threads I've been on!

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
22 weeks ago

wellington

Ah ok apologies then lol

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
22 weeks ago

wellington

Are u just talking between ya selfs? Lol

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By *hrimper36Couple
22 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Hey op if you use reply+quote then people know who you are replying to and your thread flows smoothly.

Best of luck.

T

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
22 weeks ago

somewhere

You've been on for 6 months with 2 verifications under your belt, from that point of view, I would say you are doing ok? When we started our couples account it took way longer than that for our first veri, when we started going to clubs and socials really helped us. Sometimes being part of a couple is tricky, especially meeting other couples (not actually read your profile, apologies) as while the men don't have to fancy each other if not bi but the woman is, she has to find both attractive etc etc, it's a minefield and then if you are only meeting men for a threesome, as much as men want to have a threesome, when it actually comes to it and make arrangements they get cold feet (reality and fantasy) and I'm not saying all men but it's our experience.

Go to some clubs/socials, that's my advice. It's a bit like canvassing I call it, unless you put yourself out there with them, you won't get noticed.

Good luck x

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By *yrshirecurvesWoman
22 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think the easiest way for couples is to go to clubs and/or social events like someone else suggested. Fab can be a dark weird place at times.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
22 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Your profile text is pretty negative OP. That being said… you’ve had meets so are doing better than most xx

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
22 weeks ago

Essex

4 way attraction is really really difficult.

Clubs generally are a little better for couples. But it really depends what you’re looking for.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
22 weeks ago

Leeds

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
22 weeks ago

Leeds

No, I don't have any issues here or on my singles profile.

I can't give profile advice as you've not asked, but I wouldn't respond based on yours.

Mrs

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By *teveanddebsCouple
22 weeks ago

Norwich


"No, I don't have any issues here or on my singles profile.

I can't give profile advice as you've not asked, but I wouldn't respond based on yours.

Mrs "

The rules say you can give profile advice, asked for or not, as long as it is relevant.

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By *ojo2joWoman
22 weeks ago

Penclawdd

Firstly, your profile picture is good, you look a fun and happy couple.

The profile is on the negative side though with slang/ text language which is less easy to read and you contradict yourself about WhatsApp.

The status update could also be seen as negative.

It’s always harder as a couple as you’re looking for a three or four way attraction. Stay positive and keep messaging x

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

You've been here before, how was your experience then?

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
22 weeks ago

Cheshire

Considering am a single alternative male "too some" I can't complain I do OK on here...

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By *electableicecreamMan
22 weeks ago

The West

I'm not your target audience but as someone who does peruse couple's profiles every now and then I would pass yours by.

It's the same as every man that posts the same kind of thread every couple of days.

Sparse photos and a negative write up are not going to stand out amongst myriad profiles who have taken the time to put together attractive offering.

And when someone hasn't or doesn't feel the need to make the effort and then complains about not getting attention it does sound a little entitled even if not intended.

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By *issmorganWoman
22 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

Most couples are looking for single bi women, so there's alot of competition. You don't say what you offer them or what you're into either.So maybe expand on that, with couples it's so hard to get that 4 way attraction.

I'm half a couple and socials are a great way to meet other couples, rather than just using fab.

I don't know what clubs are near you, but those are also a good way to meet other couples or single ladies.

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
21 weeks ago

wellington

to be far its become an expection for us from peeps lol

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By *entleman JayMan
21 weeks ago

Wakefield

I seem to meet genuine people.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
21 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

It's the dribbling emogis, that's the issue here....

Mr

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By *ornucopiaMan
21 weeks ago

Bexley

I thought someone said, a couple of days ago, that there is one of these threads every few weeks!

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By *revaunanceCouple
21 weeks ago

Exeter

Whilst it may not be the only factor, looking for a FF couple that want to play with a MF couple could be difficult. As someone else has already said in this thread, 4 way attraction can be difficult, and lets be honest FF couples are amongst the rarest of profile here, so the odds must be even shorter.

Keep your chin up, you'll find what you want eventually, it just might take a little longer than you thought.

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
21 weeks ago

wellington

ALWAYS seams like a mission trying to find peeps thats actually intrested

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
21 weeks ago

wellington

A LOT better tbh lol dunno whats happened with the world lol everythings going absolutely shit and down hill

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
21 weeks ago

wellington

seams REALLY difficult for us

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By *Silver-Man
21 weeks ago

Mold

Just keep at it with no expections OP.

Learn as you go along, workout how to communicate using the bio's, they are a good indicator on what to say when you message.

Dont be disheartened, when you get a no response.

Best of luck

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By *eyond PurityCouple
21 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

You are asking for people to cam with you and then you say you might meet then.

If you're looking to actually meet then I'd probably change that as it's confusing.

Then it's a series of hoop jumping and you say you forget who you've messaged, like they'll not be important to you.

Generic pic you can't tell anything about you.

I'd say work on your profile and you'll have a better chance of appealing to people.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

Same here, people want verified but can’t verified without that 1st meet. BTW looking for women or MF couples to watch and join in and dogging sites in DG8

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By *Silver-Man
21 weeks ago

Mold


"Same here, people want verified but can’t verified without that 1st meet. BTW looking for women or MF couples to watch and join in and dogging sites in DG8"

Advertising for meets on this forum won't help your case

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

Thanks for the info

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
21 weeks ago

wellington

Gotta try something lol

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By *couse manMan
21 weeks ago

liverpool

It hard to meet on here

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
21 weeks ago

wellington

Ya telling us lol

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By *couse manMan
21 weeks ago

liverpool


"Ya telling us lol"
I will help you

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By *xccouple4fun OP   Couple
21 weeks ago

wellington

Ya can but try lol

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
21 weeks ago

Merseyside

I would attend social tbh that’s what helped us and chat on here in the forum to learn more about the swinging world.

If I came across your profile we would bypass it too given the tone because it is mostly negative.

Best advice we were given at our first large organised social was put more pics and details up. So say like-dislikes, show some effort in pics as this shows people what you both are like a little more and this should pique the interests of others hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago


"No, I don't have any issues here or on my singles profile.

I can't give profile advice as you've not asked, but I wouldn't respond based on yours.

Mrs "

Exactly, nor would we.

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By *oppadocMan
21 weeks ago

haggis country

Has anyone experienced catfishing . Ws talking to someone for few days . Swapped pics . Kinda getting feeling now that they are not person in picture

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By *Silver-Man
21 weeks ago

Mold


"Has anyone experienced catfishing . Ws talking to someone for few days . Swapped pics . Kinda getting feeling now that they are not person in picture

"

Never gone cat fishing, must need a big rod

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
21 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"

If I was dipping back in the couples game I'm sorry but I wouldn't see the attraction at all. So much confusing negative text speak in the bio. How about telling us what you want and are really looking for and a little bit about yourself etc. A few more pics wouldn't go amiss either.

Inject some positivity. There are plenty of superb couples profiles on here to look at and I am sure some of them find it hard enough to get the right person/people/couple dynamic.

Good luck.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
16 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Fab, like life, is like a bank account. You can take out what you put in.

Lots of work, effort and value for the community will result in the ability to draw on this, making connections and getting great meets. We have had some amazing meets and made really great friends.

Chucking a couple of quid into a monzo and thinking an infinite line of account will appear is not going to happen. Regardless of how much the coin chucker thinks of themselves. The barrier to opening an account is low, so the effort and input to build credibility tends to be higher.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
16 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Fab, like life, is like a bank account. You can take out what you put in.

Lots of work, effort and value for the community will result in the ability to draw on this, making connections and getting great meets. We have had some amazing meets and made really great friends.

Chucking a couple of quid into a monzo and thinking an infinite line of account will appear is not going to happen. Regardless of how much the coin chucker thinks of themselves. The barrier to opening an account is low, so the effort and input to build credibility tends to be higher.

"

Did Swiss Tony write this?

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