FabSwingers.com forum: Not having much luck.... need some help pleaseeeee

By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
34 weeks ago

wellington

Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???

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By *mudge1995Man
34 weeks ago

Hull

Unfortunately thats the needle in the haystack

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By *am882Man
34 weeks ago

Northampton

"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"

Yes mate I’m having exactly the same problem. Starts off really well then nothing

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

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By *am882Man
34 weeks ago

Northampton

"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance."

Elaborate please! What do you mean

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean "

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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
34 weeks ago

wellington

Definitely seems like it lol

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By *am882Man
34 weeks ago

Northampton

"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean

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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention. "

Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
34 weeks ago

wellington

Aww ur to kind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean

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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.

Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you "

He was not bumping it for you, but for the OP - Sam is apparently not a man (unless she has switched places with Dean).

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By *am882Man
34 weeks ago

Northampton

"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean

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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.

Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you

He was not bumping it for you, but for the OP - Sam is apparently not a man (unless she has switched places with Dean)."

I was just being silly and trying to have a laugh but yes I knew it wasn’t about me

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.

Elaborate please! What do you mean

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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.

Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you "

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No. You misunderstood. I wasn't referring to you. I was referring to the lady of the couple who created this thread. Her name is also Sam.

You being on here and also being called Sam is pure coincidence.

This has to be one of the most bonkers threads I've been on!

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
34 weeks ago

wellington

Ah ok apologies then lol

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
34 weeks ago

wellington

Are u just talking between ya selfs? Lol

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By *hrimper36Couple
34 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Hey op if you use reply+quote then people know who you are replying to and your thread flows smoothly.

Best of luck.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
34 weeks ago

somewhere

You've been on for 6 months with 2 verifications under your belt, from that point of view, I would say you are doing ok? When we started our couples account it took way longer than that for our first veri, when we started going to clubs and socials really helped us. Sometimes being part of a couple is tricky, especially meeting other couples (not actually read your profile, apologies) as while the men don't have to fancy each other if not bi but the woman is, she has to find both attractive etc etc, it's a minefield and then if you are only meeting men for a threesome, as much as men want to have a threesome, when it actually comes to it and make arrangements they get cold feet (reality and fantasy) and I'm not saying all men but it's our experience.

Go to some clubs/socials, that's my advice. It's a bit like canvassing I call it, unless you put yourself out there with them, you won't get noticed.

Good luck x

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By *yrshirecurvesWoman
34 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think the easiest way for couples is to go to clubs and/or social events like someone else suggested. Fab can be a dark weird place at times.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
34 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Your profile text is pretty negative OP. That being said… you’ve had meets so are doing better than most xx

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
34 weeks ago

Essex

4 way attraction is really really difficult.

Clubs generally are a little better for couples. But it really depends what you’re looking for.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
34 weeks ago

Leeds

[Removed by poster at 22/06/24 06:48:04]

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
34 weeks ago

Leeds

No, I don't have any issues here or on my singles profile.

I can't give profile advice as you've not asked, but I wouldn't respond based on yours.

Mrs

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By *teveanddebsCouple
34 weeks ago

Norwich

"No, I don't have any issues here or on my singles profile.

I can't give profile advice as you've not asked, but I wouldn't respond based on yours.

Mrs "

The rules say you can give profile advice, asked for or not, as long as it is relevant.

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By *ojo2joWoman
34 weeks ago

Penclawdd

Firstly, your profile picture is good, you look a fun and happy couple.

The profile is on the negative side though with slang/ text language which is less easy to read and you contradict yourself about WhatsApp.

The status update could also be seen as negative.

It’s always harder as a couple as you’re looking for a three or four way attraction. Stay positive and keep messaging x

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

You've been here before, how was your experience then?

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
34 weeks ago

Cheshire

Considering am a single alternative male "too some" I can't complain I do OK on here...

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By *electableicecreamMan
34 weeks ago

The West

I'm not your target audience but as someone who does peruse couple's profiles every now and then I would pass yours by.

It's the same as every man that posts the same kind of thread every couple of days.

Sparse photos and a negative write up are not going to stand out amongst myriad profiles who have taken the time to put together attractive offering.

And when someone hasn't or doesn't feel the need to make the effort and then complains about not getting attention it does sound a little entitled even if not intended.

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By *issmorganWoman
34 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

Most couples are looking for single bi women, so there's alot of competition. You don't say what you offer them or what you're into either.So maybe expand on that, with couples it's so hard to get that 4 way attraction.

I'm half a couple and socials are a great way to meet other couples, rather than just using fab.

I don't know what clubs are near you, but those are also a good way to meet other couples or single ladies.

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
33 weeks ago

wellington

to be far its become an expection for us from peeps lol

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By *entleman JayMan
33 weeks ago

Wakefield

I seem to meet genuine people.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
33 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

It's the dribbling emogis, that's the issue here....

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By *ornucopiaMan
33 weeks ago

Bexley

I thought someone said, a couple of days ago, that there is one of these threads every few weeks!

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By *revaunanceCouple
33 weeks ago

Exeter

Whilst it may not be the only factor, looking for a FF couple that want to play with a MF couple could be difficult. As someone else has already said in this thread, 4 way attraction can be difficult, and lets be honest FF couples are amongst the rarest of profile here, so the odds must be even shorter.

Keep your chin up, you'll find what you want eventually, it just might take a little longer than you thought.

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
33 weeks ago

wellington

ALWAYS seams like a mission trying to find peeps thats actually intrested

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
33 weeks ago

wellington

A LOT better tbh lol dunno whats happened with the world lol everythings going absolutely shit and down hill

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
33 weeks ago

wellington

seams REALLY difficult for us

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By *Silver-Man
33 weeks ago

Mold

Just keep at it with no expections OP.

Learn as you go along, workout how to communicate using the bio's, they are a good indicator on what to say when you message.

Dont be disheartened, when you get a no response.

Best of luck

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By *eyond PurityCouple
33 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

You are asking for people to cam with you and then you say you might meet then.

If you're looking to actually meet then I'd probably change that as it's confusing.

Then it's a series of hoop jumping and you say you forget who you've messaged, like they'll not be important to you.

Generic pic you can't tell anything about you.

I'd say work on your profile and you'll have a better chance of appealing to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Same here, people want verified but can’t verified without that 1st meet. BTW looking for women or MF couples to watch and join in and dogging sites in DG8

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By *Silver-Man
33 weeks ago

Mold

"Same here, people want verified but can’t verified without that 1st meet. BTW looking for women or MF couples to watch and join in and dogging sites in DG8"

Advertising for meets on this forum won't help your case

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Thanks for the info

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
33 weeks ago

wellington

Gotta try something lol

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By *couse manMan
33 weeks ago

liverpool

It hard to meet on here

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
33 weeks ago

wellington

Ya telling us lol

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By *couse manMan
33 weeks ago

liverpool

"Ya telling us lol"
I will help you

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
33 weeks ago

wellington

Ya can but try lol

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
33 weeks ago

Merseyside

I would attend social tbh that’s what helped us and chat on here in the forum to learn more about the swinging world.

If I came across your profile we would bypass it too given the tone because it is mostly negative.

Best advice we were given at our first large organised social was put more pics and details up. So say like-dislikes, show some effort in pics as this shows people what you both are like a little more and this should pique the interests of others

hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"No, I don't have any issues here or on my singles profile.

I can't give profile advice as you've not asked, but I wouldn't respond based on yours.

Mrs "

Exactly, nor would we.

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By *oppadocMan
33 weeks ago

haggis country

Has anyone experienced catfishing . Ws talking to someone for few days . Swapped pics . Kinda getting feeling now that they are not person in picture

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By *Silver-Man
33 weeks ago

Mold

"Has anyone experienced catfishing . Ws talking to someone for few days . Swapped pics . Kinda getting feeling now that they are not person in picture

Never gone cat fishing, must need a big rod

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
33 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"

If I was dipping back in the couples game I'm sorry but I wouldn't see the attraction at all. So much confusing negative text speak in the bio. How about telling us what you want and are really looking for and a little bit about yourself etc. A few more pics wouldn't go amiss either.

Inject some positivity. There are plenty of superb couples profiles on here to look at and I am sure some of them find it hard enough to get the right person/people/couple dynamic.

Good luck.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
28 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Fab, like life, is like a bank account. You can take out what you put in.

Lots of work, effort and value for the community will result in the ability to draw on this, making connections and getting great meets. We have had some amazing meets and made really great friends.

Chucking a couple of quid into a monzo and thinking an infinite line of account will appear is not going to happen. Regardless of how much the coin chucker thinks of themselves. The barrier to opening an account is low, so the effort and input to build credibility tends to be higher.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
28 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Fab, like life, is like a bank account. You can take out what you put in.

Lots of work, effort and value for the community will result in the ability to draw on this, making connections and getting great meets. We have had some amazing meets and made really great friends.

Did Swiss Tony write this?

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
6 weeks ago

wellington

F**k it lmao

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By *ffervescentMan
6 weeks ago

winfrith

"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"
Maybe it's your profile write up ,maybe it's your one pic maybe it's just the area you live in but I'm sure we'll meet again some sunny day .

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By *ootypleaserMan
6 weeks ago

New Brighton

Don't take this site serious, use it as a pass time, if anything come from it then that's cool.

you could meet the criteria on a profile and not even be given the time of day and yet you can meet the same person or persons in a club get on like a house on fire, just do you and don't let the frustration get to ya.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

I'm half a couple and it's really hard to find a couple where there's attraction for all people.

Add to that you're mostly looking for cam fun and it will be even harder, not all couples would be looking or into that. With just a possibility of a meet.

I don't think you'll get many ladies that would just cam with a couple either, I'm not into couples so maybe there is.

You don't really say much about what you're offering people on your profile, maybe expand on that and add a couple more pics too.

You could look at a club if you just want to watch/be watched.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
6 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I'll probably get a 48hr nitpicking timeout forum ban for this but it's done with the best intentions.

Your only pic isn't brilliant. It would help getting a suit that fits and maybe one or two more to show any potential meets what they are missing out on.

Your bio lacks quite a lot of detail and is a semi-rant. Cast your eyes over it for spelling/grammatical errors.

Read it with the eyes of anyone else but you and ask if you would meet yourselves. If the answer is 'yes' look at other couple profiles and then ask the same question until you have a 'no' then use theirs as a handrail.

If I don't reply, I've been given a ban but hope it helps.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
6 weeks ago

cardiff

'peeps', is all I have to say

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"'peeps', is all I have to say"

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
6 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"'peeps', is all I have to say"

Haha. Yeah. Beats my wordy answer in one hit 😂

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
6 weeks ago

The Continental

I can’t be arsed to answer seeing as you’re off shortly.

I’ll respond in more detail when you return with your next profile.

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
3 weeks ago

wellington

Any couples or single females wanna swap chat app Addy's??

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
3 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Any couples or single females wanna swap chat app Addy's??"

You have been given lots of sound advice, yet have done nothing. Consider going to the Warwickshire social (they have a waiting list running), or Chams (it’s not massively far from you). It’s clear the profile doesn’t work and there is no willingness to change it.

Perhaps, in-person socials might be a more productive way forward. We hope you have the best time and find what you’re looking for!

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By *evina-CD-11-69Man
3 weeks ago

Shoreditch

yes some add you as friends on here ,but don't reply to messages

left in Limbo

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
3 weeks ago

wellington

Unfortunately we don't add single guys only looking for couples or single females sorry

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By *naswingdressWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Have you taken the advice given earlier in the thread, including your profile write up?

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By *YNSEYLEE12Couple
3 weeks ago

lincolnshire, tattershall

It’s all defo a struggle seems alm want just sex talk and pics then disappear lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It’s all defo a struggle seems alm want just sex talk and pics then disappear lol "

I find most of the time when that happens, it's a guy pretending to be a woman or couple

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By *YNSEYLEE12Couple
3 weeks ago

lincolnshire, tattershall

"It’s all defo a struggle seems alm want just sex talk and pics then disappear lol

I find most of the time when that happens, it's a guy pretending to be a woman or couple "

We do get that a lot lol. When we ask for 4 way group chat. That seems to work them out straight away!.

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
3 weeks ago

wellington

Wish we had that kind of luck with peeps

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
3 weeks ago

wellington

We know what that's like definitely

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By *xccouple4fun OP Couple
6 days ago

wellington

It's frustrating ain't it lol

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By *iss.BellaWoman
6 days ago

Wales

34 weeks and you've still not taken any advice

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By *andadbodMan
6 days ago

Liverpool

The issue we found when the mrs was swinging too was finding a couple were we all gelled, we had many social meets with other couples but there was usually one person who just wasn’t willing to go further than that, we did have success a few times but they didn’t come round very often.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
6 days ago

Behind the bike shed!

"It's frustrating ain't it lol "

Genuinely got excited as there’s a town called wellington near us, but then saw you’re in the one near Telford!

You’re a super hot couple just be patient! Socials are a great way of finding a large group of people in one go!

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By *lasgowMinxWoman
6 days ago

glasgow

Like what's been said 33 weeks ago tour profile is confusing an very negative, in one part you say you dont give out whatsapp so dont ask then you say you have whattsapp.

Youve been given lots of good advice regarding your profile but you dont seem to have taken any on-board.

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By *elboy1978Man
6 days ago

Jarrow

I am having the same problem not much luck

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By *itty N CremeCouple
6 days ago

Buckinghamshire

Hi Sam and Dean, your profile lacks a bit of text and for us personally we are not interested in ‘Cam fun’, it’s not easy for anyone to meet but the forums are a great place to build connections so you’re in the right place and we wish you all the best. x

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By *oughmanMan
6 days ago

Sunderland

Story of the site for most isn't it?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
6 days ago

Leeds

Genuinely got excited as there’s a town called wellington near us, but then saw you’re in the one near Telford!

Better than them being in Wellington New Zealand!

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By *ant...stay...awayCouple
6 days ago

South Wales

"34 weeks and you've still not taken any advice

☝️☝️☝️

You could be the hottest couple on earth, we would still scroll on by after reading your bio

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By *allySlinkyWoman
6 days ago

Leeds

"Gotta try something lol "

What have you tried since you said this 33 weeks ago ?

Hope you have had success

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
6 days ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"

If I can be honest, if I was looking at a couple profile after they’d message me I am afraid yours would be one I would simply delete. The lack of photos of you both and your bio; it does not give me anything about you as a couple, your dynamic and where/how you would like a single female to enhance your play. It’s quite abrupt and cold and I personally would immediately be put off by that.

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By *ea monkeyMan
6 days ago

Manchester (he/him)

You met someone a month ago…

The fact that you’ve met people but not taken any of the advice on offer indicates that this thread isn’t about getting help, it’s a look at me thread.

Personally your profile is a bit of a red flag, the pictures are scarce and old, the text reads like a guy wrote it. Your profile has ‘guy pretending to be a couple’ all over it

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