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"I'm here because the forums are the only place I can see what's on at many of the clubs in one place instead of having to actively look up each club individually if I fancy a night out. But dating is hard work. So fuck that." This ^^^^^^ | |||
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"The free porn " And this | |||
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"Tried regular online dating last year, attracted nutters and came away licking my wounds. Figured here at least everyone knows where they stand and what they want and nutters are probably a given I’m happy being single, life’s good, but miss the physical side of things and there are a few things I wanted to satisfy my curiosity about, and so, here I am." Pretty much this. That said, regular dating sites are just as thirsty from my experience | |||
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"I like coming on the forums to be sarcastic mostly… I am on another site but that’s mostly kink based " You’re on here to be sarcastic!! Who would have guessed? | |||
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"I like coming on the forums to be sarcastic mostly… I am on another site but that’s mostly kink based You’re on here to be sarcastic!! Who would have guessed? " I’ve never faked a sarcasm in my life | |||
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"I'm here to shine sunshine on the world. Also everyone I've met on other sites ends up wanting monogamy or babies. Or has an obsessive interest in hamsters." Ooh…. Hamsters | |||
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"I like coming on the forums to be sarcastic mostly… I am on another site but that’s mostly kink based You’re on here to be sarcastic!! Who would have guessed? I’ve never faked a sarcasm in my life " Uhh huh said no woman ever in history | |||
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"Pretty much this. That said, regular dating sites are just as thirsty from my experience " Yes, that's what I meant I see people say often on here that they have better luck on dating sites, so wondered what the score was. | |||
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"I'm here because the forums are the only place I can see what's on at many of the clubs in one place instead of having to actively look up each club individually if I fancy a night out. I think I probably still have a tinder profile somewhere. But dating is hard work. So fuck that." Sounds practical to be fair. Yes fuck dating x1000000 | |||
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"The free porn " Knew someone would say this but you're not wrong | |||
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"I prefer fab. I'm on a few dating apps but at the end of the day they all run bon algorithms that are designed to keep you on the app so the chances of finding a good match are reduced by design. There was a good article in the guardian about dating app burnout." I read that, it was very apt. Dating apps are all just about what's round the next corner. This guy's good, but maybe the next one's better. I've been on so many dates I can't even remember them. Given up now, and on here. I'm 51, can't get a date, blood pressure medication and probably prostate issues and nothing's working anyway so it's just as well. Sorry, this thread has just set me down to the usual place... | |||
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"Sexual compatibility in my humble opinion are one of those key things that few are willing to compromise on and can tank a relationship. However, discussing sex on dating sites seems to give the impression that I’m only looking for sex, which annoys me to no end. There doesn’t seem to be many on dating sites looking for a relationship either so why bother? I can navigate fab, know how it works, what to expect and so the bullshit is less. " Interesting, yes that makes sense. I suppose it's easier to build connection without strings attached here | |||
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"Dating on Fab can be full of nutters too. After all, they all shove their cock pics at you straight away. " Well, there is that | |||
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"I'm here to shine sunshine on the world. Also everyone I've met on other sites ends up wanting monogamy or babies. Or has an obsessive interest in hamsters. Ooh…. Hamsters " You too... FML | |||
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"Here is just easier, everyone is clear what they want, I am on a woman's dating site but I find here much easier." Yes, it's far more straight forward and you're not having to second guess people's agendas *most of the time | |||
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"I get just as little attention on dating sites as I do here, so figure might as well just come here and be annoying." You might as well | |||
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"Here is just easier, everyone is clear what they want, I am on a woman's dating site but I find here much easier. Yes, it's far more straight forward and you're not having to second guess people's agendas *most of the time " That's the big difference I feel. At least you normally know where you stand on here... | |||
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"Fuck me, when anyone talks about dating, I cannot stress how stupid it is in this day and age. Why the hell when you are dating somebody would you date somebody else? So I’m not here for dating, Fab is not a dating site. It’s a swinging site. (that’s not to say I don’t look ar a lot of women on here as somebody who I would imagine would make somebody an absolute perfect partner) If I’m dating somebody, I am solely 100%, giving them my 100% intention of having a relationship with them. I’m not talking about open relationships or hook ups. I’m talking about the intent to date and find out all about them intimately. But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. " I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either. I guess communication is the key. | |||
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"Dating on Fab can be full of nutters too. After all, they all shove their cock pics at you straight away. " Some don’t have any cock pics. | |||
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"…. But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either. I guess communication is the key." So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it. | |||
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"…. But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either. I guess communication is the key. So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it. " It’s fucking Woody… | |||
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"…. But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either. I guess communication is the key. So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it. It’s fucking Woody…" So it’s swinging? | |||
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"…. But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either. I guess communication is the key. So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it. It’s fucking Woody… So it’s swinging? " Pretty much… | |||
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"…. But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either. I guess communication is the key. So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it. It’s fucking Woody… So it’s swinging? Pretty much… " So that’s not dating! Friends with benefits is not dating. Because that’s what ‘casual’ dating sounds like. To me, I would be dating someone if I was intending to go steady with. And that means something consistent., and possibly with the intention of it leading somewhere more than just fucking every other weekend. Maybe I’m too old school for half of this lingo. | |||
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"…. But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either. I guess communication is the key. So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it. " My experience on fab has been meeting people for a coffee or at a social event and then having casual sex. For me this usually means on a relatively ongoing basis because I don't look for one nighters. I also enjoy dates that don't involve sex necessarily so I like to meet people who are up for going out for a nice meal or a walk or to the cinema. In fact where I live it's not unusual to have swimming dates as we live by the sea. A bit of romance is nice sometimes and it's something I like to have in my life. It doesn't have to involve commitment or exclusivity and I've met enough people who feel the same that I've added it to my profile on fab too. So, as another poster suggested, it isn't just fucking. | |||
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" But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. " I get what you're saying, dating should be dedicated to one person at one time. Unfortunately, less people seem to think that way. Possibly due to online platforms making it easier to "keep options open". But what I was actually getting at is the fact that lots of people on dating sites are looking for NSA and hook ups. So what is the difference between fab and dating sites in that respect for the people that use them that way. | |||
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" But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I get what you're saying, dating should be dedicated to one person at one time. Unfortunately, less people seem to think that way. Possibly due to online platforms making it easier to "keep options open". But what I was actually getting at is the fact that lots of people on dating sites are looking for NSA and hook ups. So what is the difference between fab and dating sites in that respect for the people that use them that way. " I can't imagine why dating should be dedicated to one person at a time if there are people who obviously enjoy dating more than one person at a time. It's not like the world is divided into casual sex and potential life long commitment. There's a whole spectrum of possibilities and combinations and it feels very limiting to arbitrarily say dating should be a monogamous activity. Consenting adults and communication is all it takes to enjoy a whole plethora of activities that can add to a great a sexual relationship and not demand exclusivity. Perhaps it's just a different definition if dating and that's where the problem is. | |||
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"…. But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either. I guess communication is the key. So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it. It’s fucking Woody… So it’s swinging? Pretty much… So that’s not dating! Friends with benefits is not dating. Because that’s what ‘casual’ dating sounds like. To me, I would be dating someone if I was intending to go steady with. And that means something consistent., and possibly with the intention of it leading somewhere more than just fucking every other weekend. Maybe I’m too old school for half of this lingo. " But that’s not casual dating darling. That’s dating dating. Which tbh you won’t get on somewhere like Tinder (mostly) in fact you won’t even get FWBs on there (mostly) because they may say they want to “date” but invariably they just want to fuck. Dating sites… | |||
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" But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I get what you're saying, dating should be dedicated to one person at one time. Unfortunately, less people seem to think that way. Possibly due to online platforms making it easier to "keep options open". But what I was actually getting at is the fact that lots of people on dating sites are looking for NSA and hook ups. So what is the difference between fab and dating sites in that respect for the people that use them that way. " Apparently none. I think someone said above why Fab is more appealing. There’s a lot more openness and honesty on here about what you want and where you are with all of this. *don’t laugh!!! It’s not that I wouldn’t date a woman from Fab. It’s just I don’t see Fab as an option to look for a date. | |||
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" But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it. …. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. I get what you're saying, dating should be dedicated to one person at one time. Unfortunately, less people seem to think that way. Possibly due to online platforms making it easier to "keep options open". But what I was actually getting at is the fact that lots of people on dating sites are looking for NSA and hook ups. So what is the difference between fab and dating sites in that respect for the people that use them that way. Apparently none. I think someone said above why Fab is more appealing. There’s a lot more openness and honesty on here about what you want and where you are with all of this. *don’t laugh!!! It’s not that I wouldn’t date a woman from Fab. It’s just I don’t see Fab as an option to look for a date. " I guess can find dates anywhere. Even prison, though maybe with someone in for different offences so ya got something to talk about in the showers. | |||
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"One for for the singles, couples can join in they like though. Why are you here opposed to dating sites? Or are you on both, and is either better than the other in your experience? I'm a bit bored and fancy being nosey " Because I'd rather not have to explain why I'm happy dating more than one person to someone who would just turn round and hurl insults, rather than understand the concept of ENM. And have you seen how bad vanilla dating profiles are? They make some Fab ones look epic...... | |||
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" … I guess can find dates anywhere. Even prison, though maybe with someone in for different offences so ya got something to talk about in the showers. " The butchers!!! If you factor in the sunshine and barbecue season, it makes sense. Either she is the Butcher, and it’s free meat. Or She love sausages juicy sausages | |||
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"One for for the singles, couples can join in they like though. Why are you here opposed to dating sites? Or are you on both, and is either better than the other in your experience? I'm a bit bored and fancy being nosey " | |||
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" … I guess can find dates anywhere. Even prison, though maybe with someone in for different offences so ya got something to talk about in the showers. The butchers!!! If you factor in the sunshine and barbecue season, it makes sense. Either she is the Butcher, and it’s free meat. Or She love sausages juicy sausages " Tut tut you had to lower the tone with juvenile smut | |||
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" … I guess can find dates anywhere. Even prison, though maybe with someone in for different offences so ya got something to talk about in the showers. The butchers!!! If you factor in the sunshine and barbecue season, it makes sense. Either she is the Butcher, and it’s free meat. Or She love sausages juicy sausages Tut tut you had to lower the tone with juvenile smut " Haha. It’s all I’ve got. I also might be on the wine | |||
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" Apparently none. I think someone said above why Fab is more appealing. There’s a lot more openness and honesty on here about what you want and where you are with all of this. *don’t laugh!!! It’s not that I wouldn’t date a woman from Fab. It’s just I don’t see Fab as an option to look for a date. " You would be quite surprised about the people I know from here who have openly said they wouldn’t date from Fab. I honestly think it is very much their loss. I have and would do again | |||
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"I’m just rubbish at dating and get socially “tired” quickly. I am best in short bursts (!). If I was actively dating I think it’d be disingenuous as, after many years alone, I just don’t have it in me to be a life partner for someone and I don’t want them to think that could change (at my dating age, time is a precious commodity). Which is why fab works for me and dating sites don’t. " | |||
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