FabSwingers.com forum: Out of the friend zone

By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

I can Friend-zone people so easily, and sometimes quicker than you log off porn hub when you are finished …

But… when you have a friend, and you know it will ruine things if you snog, have you thrown caution to the wind and how did it go?

Would you hook up with one of your friends now?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
27 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Would you hook up with one of your friends now?"

*looks at friends list*

*looks at camera*

Yes. Yes I would.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
27 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Been there. And it was difficult to rescue the friendship afterwards. It took a long time for things to get back into friend zone without any resentments or passive aggressiveness straining it.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
27 weeks ago

stockport

Of course nothing wrong with friends with benefits lol

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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27 weeks ago

East Sussex

I have not one single friend who interests me sexually. Not one

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By *eliWoman
27 weeks ago

Depends on the level of friendship.

Solely a Fab friend/acquaintance? Maybe. It's unlikely to change that dynamic?

Those I'm very close to? Nope. Friendship means an awful lot to me and if I knew it would end a friendship, I'd kiss someone else instead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.

That’s what I meant though. …

Narrator - woody sighs at the realisation of every time he’s asked a girl for a snog why they always gave him a peck on his lips. Because he was understating what he actually meant and wanted from the women… he actually meant a shag!!

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.

That’s what I meant though. …

But then they wouldn't be in the friend zone.

If it ain't there to begin with, it's a done deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

"Been there. And it was difficult to rescue the friendship afterwards. It took a long time for things to get back into friend zone without any resentments or passive aggressiveness straining it. "

I kinda keep friends on the friend zone because of that reason. I sure as hell know it would never be the same.

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By *eliWoman
27 weeks ago

Also I really dislike the term friend zone. It's grim for many reasons. Sorry Woody.

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By *4bimMan
27 weeks ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Their is no friend zone.

Do or do not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.

That’s what I meant though. …

But then they wouldn't be in the friend zone.

If it ain't there to begin with, it's a done deal.

But, do you fancy a mate? You look at them knowing you’d tear their cloths off in every dream you’d have about them?

But you actualy would hate for the friendship to ruine as that ‘one off’ would only be that?

I’m not talking about the beginning of soneting more. I am talking about a fling’

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By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

"Also I really dislike the term friend zone. It's grim for many reasons. Sorry Woody."

I know. But you know what I mean.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
27 weeks ago

Leeds

Most of my relationships have been with friends, I've never really done the whole dating thing before to be honest the Mr was probably the 1st.

I think there can be amazing relationships with friends, you know them, you know for certain if you fancy them, you know if you have stuff in common it's always been easier for me that way but you do have the risk that goes with it.

But personally I'd say go for it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
27 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I have a work friend who knows I'd like to move things on with her, but it'd be complicated and I respect her wishes for us to not do anything more than a snog. It would be fun though

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.

That’s what I meant though. …

But then they wouldn't be in the friend zone.

If it ain't there to begin with, it's a done deal.

But, do you fancy a mate? You look at them knowing you’d tear their cloths off in every dream you’d have about them?

But you actualy would hate for the friendship to ruine as that ‘one off’ would only be that?

I’m not talking about the beginning of soneting more. I am talking about a fling’"

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
27 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I have a work friend who knows I'd like to move things on with her, but it'd be complicated and I respect her wishes for us to not do anything more than a snog. It would be fun though

Have you snogged her though?

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By *ife NinjaMan
27 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"I have a work friend who knows I'd like to move things on with her, but it'd be complicated and I respect her wishes for us to not do anything more than a snog. It would be fun though

Have you snogged her though?"

Yes, a couple of times

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By *ansoffateMan
27 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I think sometimes friendship is such a beautiful thing it's not worth risking.

I have a very close friend of way over a decade, we discussed it till the cows come home. She doesn't share though, we both know it would be an issue.

I don't know, I think calling it friend-zoning kind of diminishes it when it's something like that. I don't make many close friends, but they mean a lot to me.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
27 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Yes, a couple of times

Good man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

"I have a work friend who knows I'd like to move things on with her, but it'd be complicated and I respect her wishes for us to not do anything more than a snog. It would be fun though

Have you snogged her though?

Yes, a couple of times

Whit woo!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
27 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

If having the sex with friends isnt for you and you think it will spoil a friendship it’s best to keep it on a different level. For me it has never got in the way of a friendship and I highly doubt it ever would

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By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

"I think sometimes friendship is such a beautiful thing it's not worth risking.

I had a smooch with a friend once, 2 kids and a long marriage says it not always a bad idea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

"If having the sex with friends isnt for you and you think it will spoil a friendship it’s best to keep it on a different level. For me it has never got in the way of a friendship and I highly doubt it ever would "

I love this attitude. It shouldn’t get in the way. You can just laugh at it …and each other afterwards

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By *ittlebirdWoman
27 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I love this attitude. It shouldn’t get in the way. You can just laugh at it …and each other afterwards

Of course. Sex is just that. Sex. It’s great between friends

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By *ealitybitesMan
27 weeks ago

Belfast

I did once but it happened very suddenly and until that point there had been nothing but friendship with nothing more than hugs.

We both decided after a couple of months that it had the potential to damage our friendship which was more important so we went back to how we had been before.

We are still friends now 6 years later and there is no awkwardness.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
27 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I love this attitude. It shouldn’t get in the way. You can just laugh at it …and each other afterwards

I fucked a colleague. The morning after, at work, she ran over, gave me a massive hug, grinned and said “We’re okay, aren’t we? Nothing’s weird.”

And she was right. Still pals, 20-odd years later.

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By *ellinever70Woman
27 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Does this mean men are only friends with women in the hope they'll get to shag eventually?

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By *issBellaWoman
27 weeks ago

Wales

I've only been in this situation once thankfully. He wanted something more serious but I wasn't in the right place to give it at the time. Our friendship slowly fizzled to nothing. I miss him

but that's life for you

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
27 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Does this mean men are only friends with women in the hope they'll get to shag eventually?"

That’s quite a leap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

"Does this mean men are only friends with women in the hope they'll get to shag eventually?"

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No.

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By *rRiosMan
27 weeks ago

dublin

Out of the friend zone into the fire… or something

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By *a LunaWoman
27 weeks ago

South Wales

I tend not to look upon my friends with lust in my eyes.

I just don’t see them that way.

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By *ansoffateMan
27 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Does this mean men are only friends with women in the hope they'll get to shag eventually?"

I think that's buying flowers.

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By *unchalMan
27 weeks ago

Dartford

"I can Friend-zone people so easily, and sometimes quicker than you log off porn hub when you are finished …

But… when you have a friend, and you know it will ruine things if you snog, have you thrown caution to the wind and how did it go?

Would you hook up with one of your friends now?"

It’s a process, init! Some survive and some don’t. If you get to the point that you want to fuck your friend then the relationship has changed forever, whether you admit it or not.

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By *unchalMan
27 weeks ago

Dartford

"I have not one single friend who interests me sexually. Not one"

Well played. I assume you are always the good looking friend in that group.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
27 weeks ago

Coventry

how much do you want to keep your friendship? how strong is the friendship, would it survive if the other wasnt what you wanted to be - tried it once and we decided the friendship was stronger and never spoke about it again

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By *ohnysteMan
27 weeks ago

newcastle under lyme

My first ever was best mate both v d*unk. He fuxked me. Destroyed friendship as he couldn't handle it once sober

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By *unchalMan
27 weeks ago

Dartford

"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.

That’s what I meant though. …

But then they wouldn't be in the friend zone.

If it ain't there to begin with, it's a done deal.

But, do you fancy a mate? You look at them knowing you’d tear their cloths off in every dream you’d have about them?

But you actualy would hate for the friendship to ruine as that ‘one off’ would only be that?

I’m not talking about the beginning of soneting more. I am talking about a fling’"

It has really only happened to me once. With a tasty older woman I worked with. Thinking about it now, she was 20 years older than me. I told her about my sex dream (of course I had to!) and in a few short months, when the opportunity was offered to us, we found ourselves fucking on a beach (it’s a long uninteresting story) … She was nice. I liked her.

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
27 weeks ago

Southampton

"I can Friend-zone people so easily, and sometimes quicker than you log off porn hub when you are finished …

But… when you have a friend, and you know it will ruine things if you snog, have you thrown caution to the wind and how did it go?

Would you hook up with one of your friends now?"

...lol... I dunno... I suppose I'm too busy building a wall around myself to stop myself getting hurt again that I don't really think about it

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By *carlett!Woman
27 weeks ago

I've played with friends on the scene, these are friends with benefits. Then they're are people in the friends zone. They're usually there for a reason so generally wouldn't go there. Lot of variables to consider really

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Outside of fab ... in my 20's yes I did and no awkwardness .... other than their when they went in to meet future wives ... and some of the wives didn't like me !?!?

In last 5 years .

.... first post divorce shag was with friend of my ex's. He was a fwb for a while but then stopped it was he wanted more .... still chat from time to time and he still makes suggestive comments ... so been very firm it is not going to happen again.

... 1 very d*unk snog and fumble with a v old male best friend ... both laughed it off when hungover next morning and still best friends.

Fab friends v different...

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
27 weeks ago

Leamington Spa

"I can Friend-zone people so easily, and sometimes quicker than you log off porn hub when you are finished …

But… when you have a friend, and you know it will ruine things if you snog, have you thrown caution to the wind and how did it go?

Would you hook up with one of your friends now?"

We did it the other way.. Met a couple on here became friends and then couldn't play any more didn't seem right

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