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"Top tip: Have no expectations and you will not be disappointed." *^ this is what I came in with and stuck to once I worked out how fab was unbalanced and it’s honestly the best way…. | |||
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"I am enjoying the friendly interaction… I’ve been to a few socials and I really, really enjoy meeting new people, hearing their stories and how they found Fab etc. I find it fascinating. But on the non-vanilla side, Fab has been the least fruitful of all my time here lately. I get chatting to lots of people, but either the attraction/chemistry is not there, or it’s distance or a number of other obstacles. I am also looking for a repeat of 2019 where i met not one, or two, but three wonderful men and things went on for nearly 5 years! I am very aware that might never happen again but the bar was set so high that I may be missing out… don’t know. But all in all, I always enjoy my Fab experience. Wouldn’t be here if I didn’t. " A positive ..good to hear | |||
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"I rarely use Fab to meet now, instead do what I did last night when I get a rare night free, head to a club and have fun there instead. Had an epic time yesterday and the whole thing was entirely unrelated to anything FabSwingers. Much less hassle in organising and going through a painful process of trying to find and agree meets on here. Nowadays it’s just about the forums really on here. Just to pass some time, so Fab works just how I want it to now tbh. If I was actively looking for meets on here I’d put a lot more effort in and probably end up frustrated at the lack of progress tbh!" Do clubs tend to be open most days then? | |||
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"I've been on fab about a year and half now and I've always enjoyed it. I think what works is effort. Fab requires a level of understanding in how things work. That means understanding how to make a good profile, how to make yourself visible in update feeds and on the forum/cams, how to cultivate connections through messaging and how to conduct yourself in person at clubs and social events. And most importantly how the swinging/ENM lifestyle works (and varies) for the people involved. Then there's the question of understanding clearly what we are looking for and being able to articulate it and having a clear path forward to achieving what you want. I don't think it matters what that is. Could be a hook up, FWB, or just making friends in the forum. Having personal clarity is very important. Lastly, fab isn't for everyone. Just like dating apps are not for everyone. So if you've tried your best and it's still not working..." Mix it up …sounds like a good approach | |||
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"I've been here since 2016 and it has never been a lifestyle choice. It is just a hobby and as such I dip in and out and I'm as successful as I want to be. I've never seen it as a competition so numbers and ratios are irrelevant and I haven't sent an introductory message since January 2020. I comment on the forums when I feel like it and let my forum engagement and my pics and bio say all I want to say. Therefore fab is going exactly as I want it to go. I can't and won't give tips because then people wouldn't be true to themselves. " That’s good last point… be yourself… | |||
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"I've always been very very successful so here are my tips for those that are losing faith..... 1. Be exactly like me What else can I say .....? I'm not even going to charge for that" Free!!!! From the success story… grab it while you can folks … | |||
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"How’s your experience of fab? It's good. So often you see ‘can’t get a meet’ or ‘guys have no respect’ or ‘I’m leaving because of ….’ So I was wondering … are you enjoying the experience? Absolutely. Is it working out for you? As far as meeting (online) some seriously sexy people. Absolutely. Is it what you expected? I don't have one. Without expectation there cannot be disappointment (that one's free) Maybe even tips & pointers from those who are ‘doing well’ for those that are ‘losing faith' Be yourself, don't be contentious. People are drawn to authenticity. Don't log in expecting people to drop everything they are doing in order to meet you. Use it to make friends. Friends who have the same wants and needs and aren't afraid to openly say "I'd happily stick my **** in your ****" What do you think ? Great thread op. Makes a change for someone to ask for an opinion. Rather than starting a thread giving one. Also, a thread that helps. & " Sometimes (rarely) I have thoughts that come across helpful | |||
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"Nice thighs op! No complaints here, been on and off for numerous years, I dip in and out. Love the social side, and have made good friends, best tip have no expectations and just have fun. " Why thank you very much for saying So it seems socials have come up a lot..maybe an in person meet with like minded group could be the answer to not losing faith | |||
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"I’ve only been here 7 months & for the 1st 3 months I just read reviews, the forums & profiles & took in as much information as I could, trying to ignore the inbox bombardment. I’m really lucky, I’ve only had good social meetings on here, great nights at Jaydees, talked to some great guys, and hooked up with the 1st guy I added to my hotlist, who lives in the next village! I take it for what it is, fun, if it isn’t fun, I’ll occupy my mind with something else " Did your research … great thinking … worked it out first before getting ‘lost in all the mail’ | |||
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"I rarely use Fab to meet now, instead do what I did last night when I get a rare night free, head to a club and have fun there instead. Had an epic time yesterday and the whole thing was entirely unrelated to anything FabSwingers. Much less hassle in organising and going through a painful process of trying to find and agree meets on here. Nowadays it’s just about the forums really on here. Just to pass some time, so Fab works just how I want it to now tbh. If I was actively looking for meets on here I’d put a lot more effort in and probably end up frustrated at the lack of progress tbh! Do clubs tend to be open most days then? " Kestrel Spa / AbFabs do | |||
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"I rarely use Fab to meet now, instead do what I did last night when I get a rare night free, head to a club and have fun there instead. Had an epic time yesterday and the whole thing was entirely unrelated to anything FabSwingers. Much less hassle in organising and going through a painful process of trying to find and agree meets on here. Nowadays it’s just about the forums really on here. Just to pass some time, so Fab works just how I want it to now tbh. If I was actively looking for meets on here I’d put a lot more effort in and probably end up frustrated at the lack of progress tbh! Do clubs tend to be open most days then? Kestrel Spa / AbFabs do " Ooo maybe i need to see how close these places are. | |||
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"Top tip: Have no expectations and you will not be disappointed." Exactly the same view for me | |||
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"Top tip: Have no expectations and you will not be disappointed." with the lowering of expectation comes the lowering of standards | |||
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"Top tip: Have no expectations and you will not be disappointed.with the lowering of expectation comes the lowering of standards" Errr. No… this doesn’t follow | |||
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"Top tip: Have no expectations and you will not be disappointed.with the lowering of expectation comes the lowering of standards Errr. No… this doesn’t follow " no it leads | |||
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"Top tip: Have no expectations and you will not be disappointed.with the lowering of expectation comes the lowering of standards Errr. No… this doesn’t follow no it leads " Nope… | |||
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"It's a bit of fun. I've met some lovely people - in both friendly & carnal situations. These days I just use it to get kicks outta folk fabbing my boobs. If a nice chap comes along, chats and doesn't disappear, it's a bonus " You have boobs on your profile ..I hadn’t noticed ..I’ll be right back | |||
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"I agree with the have no expectations. My experience is mainly good, my filters are tight I don't get hassle from those I don't want to meet, women are lovely it's great. On the couples profile we've met some amazing people, made some great friends and had some great sex. I chat to people as friends if more comes of it then great if not I've made a friend it's all good. Your approach and mindset will be what makes or breaks your fab experience." Mindset…. Don’t get too drawn into what should be and maybe think of what it might / could be …. And just enjoy the journey | |||
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"As a female on fab I get my pick of the men. It's great. 10/10. " Well…that’s it then!!! Fab wins | |||
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"It’s an awful site promoting free sex before marriage or even sharing your partner’s with others!! Having multiple sexual encounters is nothing short of a sin and everyone who is involved in this hedonistic lifestyle should hand their heads in shame!! The forum is filled with lewd talk and asking to see each other’s private parts!! Why I am here? To save as many souls as possible and show them the errors of their ways. I am arranging private meetings to teach them how to remain on the right path Praise the lord!" Amen | |||
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"Our FAB experience has been great - we’ve met some amazing people, had amazing sex, become friends with people we’d have never have met with. But you have to put effort in, FAB only provides the tools - we go to socials, clubs, parties, all arranged from FAB, we add new pics, spruce our profile up and we do feel we see the benefit of that. I think the old adage, you get out what you put in is apt for FAB. K " Certainly …effort keeps cropping up…. So it’s clear to see. I think someone mentioned earlier about refreshing things to keep it interesting And socials seem key too | |||
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"I think the game changer for me was going to organised group socials. I went to my first one around 8 months after joining and never looked back Some of the best people in my life I met them at socials " Socials ..socials …socials…. That’s why I am hearing so I’m guessing there’s a pattern | |||
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"It’s better than Mumsnet " What on earth is that? | |||
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