FabSwingers.com forum: Getting horny after a funeral..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well, today I maintained an un-broken record going back over two decades: Went to a funeral this morning, got as horny as horny could be, and let it all out (and I do mean 'all') in a frenzied hour as soon as we got back home.

I have two questions arising out of today: What the hell is it about funerals that makes me SOOOOO horny, and does anyone else feel the same OR get equally horny (to the point of ripping someones kit off and beyond) about events which should, I suppose, have the opposite effect??

Open to the panel.... off to seek some therapy... I think...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Well I guess its good you waited til you got home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say the funerals I have attended have ever had that effect on either of us

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

good luck with this one OP

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a turn on for us personally, but I guess it does have a certain "live now" message that could cause horny reactions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can honestly say the funerals I have attended have made me nothing but sad, not wanting to hit the sack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shall I be the first to mention "Stiff" lol. Well I know one funeral you definitely won't be getting horny at........Yours lol.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I think it is perfectly normal to want to reaffirm life after a funeral. There is nothing quite so life-affirming as primal, visceral sex.

What we usually do instead is go to the wake and have a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never felt horny during or after a funeral, ever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is perfectly normal to want to reaffirm life after a funeral. There is nothing quite so life-affirming as primal, visceral sex.

What we usually do instead is go to the wake and have a drink."

What she said!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shall I be the first to mention "Stiff" lol. Well I know one funeral you definitely won't be getting horny at........Yours lol."

You reckon....? lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it is perfectly normal to want to reaffirm life after a funeral. There is nothing quite so life-affirming as primal, visceral sex.

What we usually do instead is go to the wake and have a drink."

Hmmm... that could be it. Didn't go to the wake... Note to self......

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London

speechless

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I guess its good you waited til you got home.

Seeing as we passed a Travelodge, PremierInn AND a Hilton on the way, yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The odd thing is, I met a woman off POF a few weeks back who said the same thing. But it was a little more weird with her... she had an FWB thing going on with a 'cousin' on and off for years, every time there was a family event.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"The odd thing is, I met a woman off POF a few weeks back who said the same thing. But it was a little more weird with her... she had an FWB thing going on with a 'cousin' on and off for years, every time there was a family event."

That would make her cousin a FCWB (funeral cousin with benefits).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That would make her cousin a FCWB (funeral cousin with benefits)."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

definately not at his funeral but when my last partner was in hospital for his last week or so before he passed away i was incredibly horny - and i felt awful about it - and i chatted to him about it at the time even tho he couldnt really reply - one of the last moves he made was to caress my arse ( wasnt able to even squeeze it) and give me as much of the look as he could - the nurse saw and smiled at him and made a bit of a joke and he turned and winked (ish) - i said he will never lose the sexy side to him - i could read his eyes - and it really aroused me - does now when i think of it - thats a lovely thing to have as one of our last memories - but no way at the funeral could i have gotten that way -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of stockings and high heels. And it's not usually a funeral of anyone I am that close to. I did get dragged into the gents by my girlfriends sister once at her nans funeral and she was nibbling on my cock through my trousers when someone came in and interrupted us. Nothing ever came of it, but she still gives me "that" look 20 years later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this thread is more than a little fucked up isn't it!

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

its quite a well known phenomenon,its a primative way of life affirmation,its not an uncommon reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend who is a therapist and I remember her saying a male way of dealing with grief is sex.

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

Sounds like you're one step away from necrophilia. Lol

Dave

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Well this thread is more than a little fucked up isn't it!

Why? I've seen threads that make me

much more than this one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its quite a well known phenomenon,its a primative way of life affirmation,its not an uncommon reaction"

Nice to know I'm still in touch with my primitive side...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I have a friend who is a therapist and I remember her saying a male way of dealing with grief is sex."

I hadn't heard that before but I have been propositioned more at funerals than at weddings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like you're one step away from necrophilia. Lol

Dave"

Oi! I can assure you it had nothing to do with the bloke in the coffin! Lol! Jeeeeez!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a friend who is a therapist and I remember her saying a male way of dealing with grief is sex."

Now that DOES make sense. A lot of sense actually...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I only attend funerals of loved ones, not acquaintances etc. Therefore I'm so bereft the last thing on my mind is sex!

Didn't think I'd be surprised by anything posted on here: I should have known better. Wow...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only attend funerals of loved ones, not acquaintances etc. Therefore I'm so bereft the last thing on my mind is sex!

Didn't think I'd be surprised by anything posted on here: I should have known better. Wow...! "

I must say and not in a judgemental offensive way to the OP, I am entirely in agreement and erm maybe some things/stories are best left not said/told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really going to put myself infront of the lynch mob now, but a serious question op. ( which I expect no answer to. ) however, did you ever go through any abuse as a child? ( again please don't answer.) My very little knowledge of it suggests that some people that have suffered abuse associate sad or difficult circumstances with happy or good times as a way of dealing with the situation. Hence being aroused by feeling bad or sad. I am I no way suggesting this is the case but merely putting it out there. Now Im going to put myself in a cave until the dust settles

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Well, today I maintained an un-broken record going back over two decades: Went to a funeral this morning, got as horny as horny could be, and let it all out (and I do mean 'all') in a frenzied hour as soon as we got back home.

Open to the panel.... off to seek some therapy... I think...

I hope I won't have to play dead to make you horny! Just....lie on the couch and tell me all about it...you know you want to!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm really going to put myself infront of the lynch mob now, but a serious question op. ( which I expect no answer to. ) however, did you ever go through any abuse as a child? ( again please don't answer.) My very little knowledge of it suggests that some people that have suffered abuse associate sad or difficult circumstances with happy or good times as a way of dealing with the situation. Hence being aroused by feeling bad or sad. I am I no way suggesting this is the case but merely putting it out there. Now Im going to put myself in a cave until the dust settles"

I think that is a bit far out?

Has everyone eaten too much chocolate over the w/e that it is having some psychological effect on them withdrawing and therefore warping their sense of reality?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I reckon you've been reading too much of that Dave Sims thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my goodness, maybe this thread needs closing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Perfectly happy to answer that. Physical or sexual abuse - absolutely not, although I would class elements of the upbringing I had from my Mother (not my Dad at all) to be, to some extent, of a psychological nature - and SHE certainly WAS abused as a child.

To answer your other point about feeling bad/sad etc, I can't say that anything like that has ever entered my head in connection with what I was saying in my OP.

I think the couple of posters who mentioned that men sometimes have a way of dealing with grief through sex may be on to something. When my Nan died when I was 21, the first thing I did was to go round my then GF's and guess what we did..???

The subject of death, grieving and mourning does not hold the same taboos for me as it does for, possibly, the majority. Since I was about 14/15, I have been a lifelong Atheist and card-carrying member of The British Humanist Association. I have little or no belief in an afterlife, and certainly none in a resurrection. Maybe that is what allows what may well be a primitive 'urge' to come to the surface when others are in the depths of sadness and despair? Who knows... It's just something in me which I have been aware of for some years, and I thought it may provoke some intelligent discussion in the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I reckon you've been reading too much of that Dave Sims thread

No, I've read his 'musings'... with interest.....

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

" I thought it may provoke some intelligent discussion in the forum."

High expectations!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I thought it may provoke some intelligent discussion in the forum.

High expectations!

Contrary to popular belief, you do often get that in the forums....

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I am an atheist too; the only thing in this life that I know is sure is that one day I will die and I will therefore live with no excuses and love with no regrets; Being an atheist does not mean I have no morals nor that I negate other people's religious beliefs. I have attended funerals in my life from people of various religions....and took great interest in the people around me. Some were in tears and were obviously very sad and displaying grief, some had a stern look on their face, trying really hard to be dignified when all they wanted was to collapse and cry with the rest. Others did not give a monkey, they probably did not even know the deceased and their attitude was shoking and disrespectful. Another group of individuals, displayed fleeting smiles, head shaking gestures as if they had just remembered a funny, precious moment of their lives with the person they were saying good bye to! And they made me smile too. Is it wrong to smile at a funeral? Is it wrong to think of sex at a funeral or have sex after a funeral? Nobody gives me the right to judge the reactions of others when faced with death and grief! I give myself the right to remember the person with joy and I will want to celebrate Life rather than Death!! As some other posters have mentioned, it is quite understandable that after being exposed to death in such a personal way, people want to do the thing that makes them feel the most alive...having sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" As some other posters have mentioned, it is quite understandable that after being exposed to death in such a personal way, people want to do the thing that makes them feel the most alive...having sex."

After all the - in most cases -, intelligent responses to my thread, I am rapidly coming round to acknowledging that what I have been doing IS making a statement that I am very much alive in what I have done following funerals for relatives, friends, people I didn't even know (when I have gone along to offer support). It's just ME - living in the present. That's all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open to the panel.... off to seek some therapy... I think...

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you do 5/ 10 a day like some of my family see how you feel , lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Open to the panel.... off to seek some therapy... I think...

you do 5/ 10 a day like some of my family see how you feel , lol"

So I take it the family business is.... Funeral Directors?

Hmmmm.... yep, even I couldn't keep up with that!!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's not something I've ever experienced. The funerals I have attended always made me cry. They make me do things I have been putting off.

What I've always wanted though is funeral photographs. They do them for weddings. I always look cool at funerals.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"It's not something I've ever experienced. The funerals I have attended always made me cry. They make me do things I have been putting off.

What I've always wanted though is funeral photographs. They do them for weddings. I always look cool at funerals. "

Other parts of the world it is normal to have funeral photos.

We did it for the party/concert we had last year after a funeral and they really captured the joy of us celebrating the life of a person we loved so much.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's the only time the whole family gets together apart from weddings. A group photo would be good.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"It's the only time the whole family gets together apart from weddings. A group photo would be good. "

My family from America did that when they came over for my aunt's funeral. I felt a bit strange about it at the time but I'm glad they did it now.

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London

"It's the only time the whole family gets together apart from weddings. A group photo would be good. "

to be honest i've always seen people taking pics at funerals it's only weird if people are taking pics of the person in the coffin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open to the panel.... off to seek some therapy... I think...

you do 5/ 10 a day like some of my family see how you feel , lol

So I take it the family business is.... Funeral Directors?

Hmmmm.... yep, even I couldn't keep up with that!!!

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lol maybe you should have a job see other side ... would put pay to you feeling horny xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..................just so bizarre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you`ll be digging up ur next date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is so wrong the o p should get jeremy kyles assistance

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Amongst the tears, our family usually have a great laugh at funerals remembering the daft, thought-provoking and often downright bizarre things the dearly departed got up to before shuffling off the mortal coil. As horny is my default setting, funerals aren't usually any different and I've had a couple of memorable times post-wake - as a couple of other posters said, it's a visceral way of confirming that we are still alive

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"you`ll be digging up ur next date "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets put this into perspective, as the lady on the receiving end of today's events, lets just say that it started with tears and a kiss and admittedly i did feel a whole lot better afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open to the panel.... off to seek some therapy... I think...

I've only ever been to five funerals, one was my granddad, another was my aunt, another was an uncle and two were male friends.

None of them made me feel remotely horny. You're weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely this is a response? Pleasure to overcome grief

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London

Open to the panel.... off to seek some therapy... I think...

I've only ever been to five funerals, one was my granddad, another was my aunt, another was an uncle and two were male friends.

None of them made me feel remotely horny. You're weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weird or not, maybe the OP should have put it across differently as he did.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

give the guy a break, he hasnt intimated in any way shape or form any association between the event and what followed..

not sure its at all wierd tbh, whilst not having felt that way personally the need for us as members of a species is to procreate..

at times of war and conflict etc there has often been an increase in sexual activity / birth rate increases ..

maybe for some being close to others death triggers something subconcious..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"give the guy a break, he hasnt intimated in any way shape or form any association between the event and what followed..

not sure its at all wierd tbh, whilst not having felt that way personally the need for us as members of a species is to procreate..

at times of war and conflict etc there has often been an increase in sexual activity / birth rate increases ..

maybe for some being close to others death triggers something subconcious..

Thank you - The link between war/conflict and the need for sex increasing hugely was one of the other instances I was touching on in my OP.

Could be a sort of 'brush with death' thing? Just don't know...

And for others who seem to make a link, bordering on necrophilia, with what I have posed as a question, I can assure you that is the LAST thing that would have entered my head!!

After what surreysensual said, I am beginning to think this is not so different to soldiers coming back from a theatre of war - they have often stared death in the face ... and what's the first thing they do when they set eyes on the wife (or hubby)???

Well, it certainly isn't to tell them about all the horrors they've seen, is it......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's the thought of life and the circle of it... in a non Lion King way

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By *icked kittyCouple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Sex is a natural way of relieving emotions a cathartic act not wrong in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess everyone deals with a loss in their own way, and i've nothing against that. But the only funerals i attend are family and good friends that have passed, so me personally, a fuck is the last thing on my mind.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Only once and I think that was more a reaction to grief rather than being turned on by the funeral.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been thinking some more about this - wondering if folk have sex after a fallout - i never could as i get too upset with anger - but its possibly the same/ similar way of dealing with things -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bump challenge!

And I have to own up that I am the 'user no longer on site' who OP'd this....

ted

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Did you get horny after the funeral for your old profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you get horny after the funeral for your old profile?"

Felt a bit of a stirring actually...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bump challenge!

And I have to own up that I am the 'user no longer on site' who OP'd this....

ted

I remembered it was you as soon as I saw the title!

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