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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to post to see if everyone’s experience is the same and if so why, literally every single man that messages us when we advise we don’t meet single men follows up with they have a FWB they meet with, most single women we chat with will chat away pretty pleasantly for a period then all of a sudden they have a FWB they want to bring along probably 9 out of the last 10 we’ve spoken too, and then there is the couples accounts when it’s clearly a single person which is actively just deceptive, why the need to blur the lines we get there’s couples with people that meet individually if so make a individual account and chat as if so, if your a couple even FWB make a couples account and if you want to meet together chat through that as such not on your individual ones, keen to see if anyone else has this experience as it’s something that’s becoming a little frustrating when trying to navigate this already difficult site !

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Men think bringing an FWB will give them a chance at fucking you. Women may bring an FWB so it's less intimidating meeting two strangers. They each may not want to creat a couples account because it's extra admin and they don't want others thinking they are exclusive with each other. I'm just guessing, but that's what I reckon

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
23 weeks ago

Hell

The fwb doesn’t exist and would come down with a mysterious illness the day of meeting. But the male half would still be available

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By *esthetic21Man
23 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Chuck it in the fuck it bucket and move on

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"Men think bringing an FWB will give them a chance at fucking you. Women may bring an FWB so it's less intimidating meeting two strangers. They each may not want to creat a couples account because it's extra admin and they don't want others thinking they are exclusive with each other. I'm just guessing, but that's what I reckon "

Totally understand that for sure, but sure if they do create couples accounts which are a fairer reflection as FWB and give people a clearer indication of their intention to meet as a FWB couple it makes it less confusing for everyone else, after all it’s their decision to meet as single person and as a couple, or at the very minimum highlight the fact that if they have a friend that they’d be looking to join them in their individual account ?

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"The fwb doesn’t exist and would come down with a mysterious illness the day of meeting. But the male half would still be available "

What about the single women that do it almost regular, not an implication you personally do but most we have encountered especially the past few month have.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

The invisible fwb happens way too often, I just give the polite no and don't message again.

It maybe easier to block single guys and you do the searching.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"Chuck it in the fuck it bucket and move on "

Hahaha we do but it is pretty frustrating chatting to someone for a few days for that to get fired in the mix, we could have spent our time on someone more direct

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By *aomilatteCouple
23 weeks ago

Midlands

We don't share those experiences. We'll arrange to meet at a club which straight away acts as a filter. If they turn up great, if not we'll have a good night anyway. You're right that many profiles aren't actually as they seem, there's someone else tapping away.

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
23 weeks ago

Hell


"The fwb doesn’t exist and would come down with a mysterious illness the day of meeting. But the male half would still be available

What about the single women that do it almost regular, not an implication you personally do but most we have encountered especially the past few month have. "

They’re not single women

Honestly I’ve been on and off fab for many years now, it all sounds so far fetched but it really isn’t!

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"The invisible fwb happens way too often, I just give the polite no and don't message again.

It maybe easier to block single guys and you do the searching."

We put in the hard yards for sure and certainly search but that doesn’t make any odds and we do have single gents blocked now but thanks

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"We don't share those experiences. We'll arrange to meet at a club which straight away acts as a filter. If they turn up great, if not we'll have a good night anyway. You're right that many profiles aren't actually as they seem, there's someone else tapping away. "

Is that not edging your bets though ?

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"The fwb doesn’t exist and would come down with a mysterious illness the day of meeting. But the male half would still be available

What about the single women that do it almost regular, not an implication you personally do but most we have encountered especially the past few month have.

They’re not single women

Honestly I’ve been on and off fab for many years now, it all sounds so far fetched but it really isn’t! "

Oh so it’s a single fella pretending to be a woman you think ?

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By *illy IdolMan
23 weeks ago

Midlands


"The fwb doesn’t exist and would come down with a mysterious illness the day of meeting. But the male half would still be available

What about the single women that do it almost regular, not an implication you personally do but most we have encountered especially the past few month have. "

Still a man's account

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By *illy IdolMan
23 weeks ago

Midlands


"The fwb doesn’t exist and would come down with a mysterious illness the day of meeting. But the male half would still be available

What about the single women that do it almost regular, not an implication you personally do but most we have encountered especially the past few month have.

Still a man's account "

I'm too slow today. Apologies

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
23 weeks ago

somewhere

If a "woman" messages me, I'm always skeptical (unless it's forum related), I'm not saying they don't ever message first but rarely happens, usually you can tell by the way they have written something, usually use the word "panties" (I'm sure some women do use it but not regularly lol).

If we wanted to meet as a couple we would use our couples account and as singles, our single account and if I did get chatting to someone or my husband did and the conversation led to a threesome or foursome, we would always say "this is our couples profile" x

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If I meet someone for the first time it will be with a friend or partner present.

I'm not making a couples account for every variation of partner combinations.

If I like people enough to meet them by myself some time after that, I may do so solo.

But I'm not meeting people for the first time alone. For a wide variety of reasons.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"If a "woman" messages me, I'm always skeptical (unless it's forum related), I'm not saying they don't ever message first but rarely happens, usually you can tell by the way they have written something, usually use the word "panties" (I'm sure some women do use it but not regularly lol).

If we wanted to meet as a couple we would use our couples account and as singles, our single account and if I did get chatting to someone or my husband did and the conversation led to a threesome or foursome, we would always say "this is our couples profile" x"

Yeah we totally agree with your approach that’s 100% what we would expect from people it’s just open and honest from the get go isn’t it, but it does seem pretty rare, we totally get there’s a big degree of people trying to deceive on here to get what they want and I guess maybe we didn’t make it very clear as it more about the genuine singles that do it with FWB’s or partners etc but then I guess that’s a degree of deception also, aahhhh mind fuck haha

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"The fwb doesn’t exist and would come down with a mysterious illness the day of meeting. But the male half would still be available

What about the single women that do it almost regular, not an implication you personally do but most we have encountered especially the past few month have.

Still a man's account

I'm too slow today. Apologies "

Hahaha

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"If I meet someone for the first time it will be with a friend or partner present.

I'm not making a couples account for every variation of partner combinations.

If I like people enough to meet them by myself some time after that, I may do so solo.

But I'm not meeting people for the first time alone. For a wide variety of reasons."

Personally I’d see that as part of the problem unless your profile states it loud and clearly that, that is the case.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"If I meet someone for the first time it will be with a friend or partner present.

I'm not making a couples account for every variation of partner combinations.

If I like people enough to meet them by myself some time after that, I may do so solo.

But I'm not meeting people for the first time alone. For a wide variety of reasons.

Personally I’d see that as part of the problem unless your profile states it loud and clearly that, that is the case."

*checks. Not interested in meeting one on one. Only at clubs and group socials. I figure I'm covered if anyone bothers to read it.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"If I meet someone for the first time it will be with a friend or partner present.

I'm not making a couples account for every variation of partner combinations.

If I like people enough to meet them by myself some time after that, I may do so solo.

But I'm not meeting people for the first time alone. For a wide variety of reasons.

Personally I’d see that as part of the problem unless your profile states it loud and clearly that, that is the case.

*checks. Not interested in meeting one on one. Only at clubs and group socials. I figure I'm covered if anyone bothers to read it."

I’d not say it’s relative at all to you, as you don’t meet privately, in both the above scenarios there would be an assumption others will be in attendance any ways ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"I’d not say it’s relative at all to you, as you don’t meet privately, in both the above scenarios there would be an assumption others will be in attendance any ways ? "

So what sort of profile should I have if I won't be meeting anyone alone privately the first time if single female is misleading?

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By *orl1971Couple
23 weeks ago

Glasgow

We get guys contact who have FWBs. We believe them sometimes as you can see on their veris.

Our first meet is always a social only so if FWB doesn’t appear we’d probably cut the meet short and tell them we’d need another social.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"I’d not say it’s relative at all to you, as you don’t meet privately, in both the above scenarios there would be an assumption others will be in attendance any ways ?

So what sort of profile should I have if I won't be meeting anyone alone privately the first time if single female is misleading?"

I’d expect that anyone not just you to have a clear direct profile of their expectations if you do plan to meet privately I’d say your profile from the snippet you put in isn’t as it doesn’t state that, as I said before your entitled to do what ever you like but also people not being clear and direct on here are what makes it hard work half the time for the few genuine people that do take the time to read profiles etc, what I said to open the thread was simply a suggestion to make it easier but direct profiles are obviously another solution what ever type it is

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By *he love catsCouple
23 weeks ago

South Wales

I think this approach may work with a newbie who isn't sure of the whole scenario, but it's just laughable to us how these mysterious people can just appear, if we did fall for it what the hell do they think is going to happen when they turn up on their own to face the wrath of the both of us, do they think that the meet will continue after the lies they have fed us.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"I think this approach may work with a newbie who isn't sure of the whole scenario, but it's just laughable to us how these mysterious people can just appear, if we did fall for it what the hell do they think is going to happen when they turn up on their own to face the wrath of the both of us, do they think that the meet will continue after the lies they have fed us."

Exactly it’s just stupid and laughable and what ever the situation if it’s just messaging or meeting it’s all wasted time that could be avoided for the ones that are direct and genuine

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

I have to say, I've never chatted to a couple where it's just a single bloke, I've/we've (on our couples profile) have never had issues with single women/couples not being who they say or adding a bloke in later, we've never had cancellations etc.

It's just due diligence, it's easy to note the different in tone between man & woman, if plans are hard to make them it's generally not happening. Check verifications too, it's not difficult to spot the fakes or the fake singles.

I agree with the above meet at a club, if they don't turn up you still have a good night out.

Some people genuinely don't log onto fab daily & I'm one who hates daily small talk before a meet it's a turn off I'm not into contact daily for the sake of it, but I'll plan a day and a time and that's that. If you can't get a day and time out of them then leave them to it.

I send 1st messages if I'm interested (most couples can't read profiles though)

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"I have to say, I've never chatted to a couple where it's just a single bloke, I've/we've (on our couples profile) have never had issues with single women/couples not being who they say or adding a bloke in later, we've never had cancellations etc.

It's just due diligence, it's easy to note the different in tone between man & woman, if plans are hard to make them it's generally not happening. Check verifications too, it's not difficult to spot the fakes or the fake singles.

I agree with the above meet at a club, if they don't turn up you still have a good night out.

Some people genuinely don't log onto fab daily & I'm one who hates daily small talk before a meet it's a turn off I'm not into contact daily for the sake of it, but I'll plan a day and a time and that's that. If you can't get a day and time out of them then leave them to it.

I send 1st messages if I'm interested (most couples can't read profiles though)"

Thanks for the above, we are pretty happy with how we approach it all in truth as we are genuine, clear and direct, we don’t do the clubs and have no intention at the moment of changing that, we can’t really do due diligence or come to some sort of conclusion if we feel it’s a bit iffy if you like unless we have some degree of conversation, like you everyone we’ve met in person has been lovely and no complaints what so ever in that sense I guess it’s more about the wasted time the intention of the post due to people just not being direct and trying to help with that for everyone.

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By *ealitybitesMan
23 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never had a conversation with a couple where it's really a single male in all my years here but I have spoken to numerous couples where the male half had either left the site or never existed in the first place.

These were all profiles with 50+ verifications, not one of which mentioned a male half.

I also have a couples profile here with my best friend and was told recently on the forums that I'm deceiving others by not linking that account on this profile or visa versa.

The fact that I haven't sent a single message on either profile in more than 4 years and also that the first line on both profiles says we aren't currently meeting doesn't seem to matter to some.

Like many people we have slightly different rules for each profile.

While we are both open to meeting one to one through our single profiles we won't be meeting couples as individuals because of issues that arose in the past.

If others are uncomfortable with that it's not really our problem and they are more than welcome to move on to someone else.

Lots of people have written on their single profile that they often meet with a friend and have been reported and admin have changed some of those profiles to couples accounts so that can be the reason most people don't do it.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"I've never had a conversation with a couple where it's really a single male in all my years here but I have spoken to numerous couples where the male half had either left the site or never existed in the first place.

These were all profiles with 50+ verifications, not one of which mentioned a male half.

I also have a couples profile here with my best friend and was told recently on the forums that I'm deceiving others by not linking that account on this profile or visa versa.

The fact that I haven't sent a single message on either profile in more than 4 years and also that the first line on both profiles says we aren't currently meeting doesn't seem to matter to some.

Like many people we have slightly different rules for each profile.

While we are both open to meeting one to one through our single profiles we won't be meeting couples as individuals because of issues that arose in the past.

If others are uncomfortable with that it's not really our problem and they are more than welcome to move on to someone else.

Lots of people have written on their single profile that they often meet with a friend and have been reported and admin have changed some of those profiles to couples accounts so that can be the reason most people don't do it.

"

I can’t see why someone would take issue if your a couple and you have a couples account but within that you have singles account and meet as individuals as that surely a choice for you and to me that is pretty clear on your preferences and intentions, not misleading in any light surely ? And surely admin can’t enforce a change to profiles I know I’ve never spoken too or encountered this with anyone but I can understand why it would happen as if you are meeting as a couple that surely the base line then if you go off and meet individually use that singles account to do so you’ve no need to reference a couples account as you aren’t gonna meet as a couple from that account, I guess that in itself just goes to shows how the many blurred lines of fab are a mess really

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By *ittlebirdWoman
23 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I think OPs if you said you didn’t like the sky being blue some would reply that they could make it red.

It’s all just BS and is just a fact of life. Not everyone is straightforward. Some like to waste their own time and others by promising shit they can’t deliver.

Clearly they’re not for you. Just do you

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"I think OPs if you said you didn’t like the sky being blue some would reply that they could make it red.

It’s all just BS and is just a fact of life. Not everyone is straightforward. Some like to waste their own time and others by promising shit they can’t deliver.

Clearly they’re not for you. Just do you "

Littlebird your a lady after our own heart, so much respect, but a little adult discussion about the bullshit never hurt anyone

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By *ittlebirdWoman
23 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"I think OPs if you said you didn’t like the sky being blue some would reply that they could make it red.

It’s all just BS and is just a fact of life. Not everyone is straightforward. Some like to waste their own time and others by promising shit they can’t deliver.

Clearly they’re not for you. Just do you

Littlebird your a lady after our own heart, so much respect, but a little adult discussion about the bullshit never hurt anyone "

No it really didn’t. The other ones can’t or don’t read anyway

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By *ealitybitesMan
23 weeks ago

Belfast


"I've never had a conversation with a couple where it's really a single male in all my years here but I have spoken to numerous couples where the male half had either left the site or never existed in the first place.

These were all profiles with 50+ verifications, not one of which mentioned a male half.

I also have a couples profile here with my best friend and was told recently on the forums that I'm deceiving others by not linking that account on this profile or visa versa.

The fact that I haven't sent a single message on either profile in more than 4 years and also that the first line on both profiles says we aren't currently meeting doesn't seem to matter to some.

Like many people we have slightly different rules for each profile.

While we are both open to meeting one to one through our single profiles we won't be meeting couples as individuals because of issues that arose in the past.

If others are uncomfortable with that it's not really our problem and they are more than welcome to move on to someone else.

Lots of people have written on their single profile that they often meet with a friend and have been reported and admin have changed some of those profiles to couples accounts so that can be the reason most people don't do it.

I can’t see why someone would take issue if your a couple and you have a couples account but within that you have singles account and meet as individuals as that surely a choice for you and to me that is pretty clear on your preferences and intentions, not misleading in any light surely ? And surely admin can’t enforce a change to profiles I know I’ve never spoken too or encountered this with anyone but I can understand why it would happen as if you are meeting as a couple that surely the base line then if you go off and meet individually use that singles account to do so you’ve no need to reference a couples account as you aren’t gonna meet as a couple from that account, I guess that in itself just goes to shows how the many blurred lines of fab are a mess really "

I've had messages in the last few months from two couples profiles.

Neither of them had any information on them regarding the man and at the top of the profile where that info usually is such as height and age etc was completely blank.

Both profiles had multiple verifications, every one of which were verifying her as a single woman.

They said they were actually a single woman but admin had changed their accounts to a couple because they stated on their bio that they sometimes met with a male friend.

Both women were 10 years below my age filters and therefore wouldn't have been able to message me as a single woman but because it had been changed to a couples profile they were able to bypass my age filters.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"I've never had a conversation with a couple where it's really a single male in all my years here but I have spoken to numerous couples where the male half had either left the site or never existed in the first place.

These were all profiles with 50+ verifications, not one of which mentioned a male half.

I also have a couples profile here with my best friend and was told recently on the forums that I'm deceiving others by not linking that account on this profile or visa versa.

The fact that I haven't sent a single message on either profile in more than 4 years and also that the first line on both profiles says we aren't currently meeting doesn't seem to matter to some.

Like many people we have slightly different rules for each profile.

While we are both open to meeting one to one through our single profiles we won't be meeting couples as individuals because of issues that arose in the past.

If others are uncomfortable with that it's not really our problem and they are more than welcome to move on to someone else.

Lots of people have written on their single profile that they often meet with a friend and have been reported and admin have changed some of those profiles to couples accounts so that can be the reason most people don't do it.

I can’t see why someone would take issue if your a couple and you have a couples account but within that you have singles account and meet as individuals as that surely a choice for you and to me that is pretty clear on your preferences and intentions, not misleading in any light surely ? And surely admin can’t enforce a change to profiles I know I’ve never spoken too or encountered this with anyone but I can understand why it would happen as if you are meeting as a couple that surely the base line then if you go off and meet individually use that singles account to do so you’ve no need to reference a couples account as you aren’t gonna meet as a couple from that account, I guess that in itself just goes to shows how the many blurred lines of fab are a mess really

I've had messages in the last few months from two couples profiles.

Neither of them had any information on them regarding the man and at the top of the profile where that info usually is such as height and age etc was completely blank.

Both profiles had multiple verifications, every one of which were verifying her as a single woman.

They said they were actually a single woman but admin had changed their accounts to a couple because they stated on their bio that they sometimes met with a male friend.

Both women were 10 years below my age filters and therefore wouldn't have been able to message me as a single woman but because it had been changed to a couples profile they were able to bypass my age filters.

"

Strange, I have encountered couples profile where they’ve split up and one has kept it going but not like what you’ve mentioned above, I’ll have to keep a eye out, but like I say if they do meet as a couple that should be the profile for them meeting as a couple and both have individual profiles for them meeting as individuals why blur the lines and keeps it simple for everyone

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By *ansoffateMan
23 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Interesting one for me as I do have a partner, but then it's poly and we are quite comfortable with separate single profiles.

I don't think it's always some deceptive ulterior motive, but I also appreciate that it's impossible for another person to know. I don't take offence if someone wants some reasonable proof to put their mind at ease, before we meet.

If I have three partners should I have a 3 couples profiles or one single? How much information I share and what that decision is ultimately is going to be decided with my partner's rather than what I imagine the views people I don't know have online are. I think that's quite reasonable? If anyone wants more clarity there's no reason not to ask me.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"Interesting one for me as I do have a partner, but then it's poly and we are quite comfortable with separate single profiles.

I don't think it's always some deceptive ulterior motive, but I also appreciate that it's impossible for another person to know. I don't take offence if someone wants some reasonable proof to put their mind at ease, before we meet.

If I have three partners should I have a 3 couples profiles or one single? How much information I share and what that decision is ultimately is going to be decided with my partner's rather than what I imagine the views people I don't know have online are. I think that's quite reasonable? If anyone wants more clarity there's no reason not to ask me."

I think a profile with each partner is more than reasonable if you use fab to get meets with each of them as a couple surely ? I can’t imagine you will use one couples profile for all three relationships or that’s bound to get very confusing for yourself sure to god, how do we know if we want to meet you on your own ? Or with partner 1,2 or 3 ? Maybe a miss of them partner 1 and 3 ? How would we ever know maybe the dynamic would be better with 3 and 2 or you on your own ? I’d think in your situation it’s even more appropriate to be clear and direct but like you say someone you’ve never met from

The internet doesn’t really matter so what’s

The point in responding if the initial post doesn’t really matter ?

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By *electableicecreamMan
23 weeks ago

The West

I was just talking to friends, a couple, yesterday about the amount of men that conjure an fwb when told no single guys.

It's pretty obvious when people are fantasising or wasting time for shits and giggles.

On the other hand. I have connections that I don't itemise on my profile and see no reason to. It occasionally happens that those connections are a good fit with a couple or a party and it's easy to be transparent about this in a way that is obviously honest.

Time wasters are just a part of fab. Dealing with them efficiently is the only way forward.

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By *ansoffateMan
23 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"Interesting one for me as I do have a partner, but then it's poly and we are quite comfortable with separate single profiles.

I don't think it's always some deceptive ulterior motive, but I also appreciate that it's impossible for another person to know. I don't take offence if someone wants some reasonable proof to put their mind at ease, before we meet.

If I have three partners should I have a 3 couples profiles or one single? How much information I share and what that decision is ultimately is going to be decided with my partner's rather than what I imagine the views people I don't know have online are. I think that's quite reasonable? If anyone wants more clarity there's no reason not to ask me.

I think a profile with each partner is more than reasonable if you use fab to get meets with each of them as a couple surely ? I can’t imagine you will use one couples profile for all three relationships or that’s bound to get very confusing for yourself sure to god, how do we know if we want to meet you on your own ? Or with partner 1,2 or 3 ? Maybe a miss of them partner 1 and 3 ? How would we ever know maybe the dynamic would be better with 3 and 2 or you on your own ? I’d think in your situation it’s even more appropriate to be clear and direct but like you say someone you’ve never met from

The internet doesn’t really matter so what’s

The point in responding if the initial post doesn’t really matter ? "

See it's really simple when you think about it

People's feelings matter to me and I want to be open and honest, I can't always preemptively know what it is relevant or not to people though. I say I'm in a Poly relationship and then if it's important for them to know more, I talk openly about that. It seems to work reasonably well. It's not usually an issue as I tend to want those conversations myself anyway.

If you mean why reply to your post? It's interesting to me, affects me and if I throw my thoughts out there maybe I'll learn something from others. If I can get that balance of conscientiousness better somehow, I am happy to. An opportunity for open discourse, which I thank you for.

I also get the frustration, I've been here many years on a couple profile and can relate to what you say.

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"I was just talking to friends, a couple, yesterday about the amount of men that conjure an fwb when told no single guys.

It's pretty obvious when people are fantasising or wasting time for shits and giggles.

On the other hand. I have connections that I don't itemise on my profile and see no reason to. It occasionally happens that those connections are a good fit with a couple or a party and it's easy to be transparent about this in a way that is obviously honest.

Time wasters are just a part of fab. Dealing with them efficiently is the only way forward."

Hence the reason behind the post to help deal with them efficiently, I assume your main driver isn’t to meet initially with your connections, I also assume you wouldn’t use your numerous connections to legitimise the reason to meet a couple for example ? I assume your main drive is to meet as a single man, If so why would you itemise them ?

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"Interesting one for me as I do have a partner, but then it's poly and we are quite comfortable with separate single profiles.

I don't think it's always some deceptive ulterior motive, but I also appreciate that it's impossible for another person to know. I don't take offence if someone wants some reasonable proof to put their mind at ease, before we meet.

If I have three partners should I have a 3 couples profiles or one single? How much information I share and what that decision is ultimately is going to be decided with my partner's rather than what I imagine the views people I don't know have online are. I think that's quite reasonable? If anyone wants more clarity there's no reason not to ask me.

I think a profile with each partner is more than reasonable if you use fab to get meets with each of them as a couple surely ? I can’t imagine you will use one couples profile for all three relationships or that’s bound to get very confusing for yourself sure to god, how do we know if we want to meet you on your own ? Or with partner 1,2 or 3 ? Maybe a miss of them partner 1 and 3 ? How would we ever know maybe the dynamic would be better with 3 and 2 or you on your own ? I’d think in your situation it’s even more appropriate to be clear and direct but like you say someone you’ve never met from

The internet doesn’t really matter so what’s

The point in responding if the initial post doesn’t really matter ?

See it's really simple when you think about it

People's feelings matter to me and I want to be open and honest, I can't always preemptively know what it is relevant or not to people though. I say I'm in a Poly relationship and then if it's important for them to know more, I talk openly about that. It seems to work reasonably well. It's not usually an issue as I tend to want those conversations myself anyway.

If you mean why reply to your post? It's interesting to me, affects me and if I throw my thoughts out there maybe I'll learn something from others. If I can get that balance of conscientiousness better somehow, I am happy to. An opportunity for open discourse, which I thank you for.

I also get the frustration, I've been here many years on a couple profile and can relate to what you say."

The likelyhood is on review most people that engage in the forums are likely to be genuine really aren’t they, I can’t imagine the looking for a quick jump or timewasters of this community actively engaging in open adult discussion about eliminating exactly those issues from the site, maybe us genuine folks can be a little smarter though for sure and discussion can’t ever be a bad thing so thank you for your points and understanding it’s great to hear insight from all parties

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By *ansoffateMan
23 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


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The likelyhood is on review most people that engage in the forums are likely to be genuine really aren’t they, I can’t imagine the looking for a quick jump or timewasters of this community actively engaging in open adult discussion about eliminating exactly those issues from the site, maybe us genuine folks can be a little smarter though for sure and discussion can’t ever be a bad thing so thank you for your points and understanding it’s great to hear insight from all parties "

Oh that felt lovely to read and mutual. You are very welcome, my pleasure.

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By *rispyDuckMan
23 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

As a member of the CRA (Comment Reading Association), I’m here only to read comments. Please keep the comments short and simple. We do appreciate your typing efforts. Also please be careful for your spellings. Thank you and have a great day!

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
23 weeks ago

Stoke

We love to play along with these fake profiles, it makes us piss!!

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"As a member of the CRA (Comment Reading Association), I’m here only to read comments. Please keep the comments short and simple. We do appreciate your typing efforts. Also please be careful for your spellings. Thank you and have a great day! "

Always liked Satay Chicken better, now I know why

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"We love to play along with these fake profiles, it makes us piss!! "

I hope your doing so whilst in reasonable distance of a toilet or that could get messy

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By *ot to giggleWoman
23 weeks ago

Coventry


"Chuck it in the fuck it bucket and move on "

ooh i like this bucket

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By *ondonMagicCouple
23 weeks ago

Durham


"We love to play along with these fake profiles, it makes us piss!!

I hope your doing so whilst in reasonable distance of a toilet or that could get messy "

Lolol we’ve had a few and we report them.we arranged to meet a female, but she was suddenly “ill” and said she’d send her VERY male friend…….

Block!

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"Chuck it in the fuck it bucket and move on

ooh i like this bucket "

Think we may need to upgrade to a skip for this site

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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle


"We love to play along with these fake profiles, it makes us piss!!

I hope your doing so whilst in reasonable distance of a toilet or that could get messy

Lolol we’ve had a few and we report them.we arranged to meet a female, but she was suddenly “ill” and said she’d send her VERY male friend…….

Block! "

That in no way is a reasonable trade !

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

I met a couple once .... wasn't until part way through the night ... he admit they were partners but he was actually still very married to someone else .... so best to never assume .....

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