FabSwingers.com forum: Would you

By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

That’s a tough one probably not as it would be an emotional headfuck

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
35 weeks ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

I'd be tempted but it's a tricky one... I wouldn't want to get hurt

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By *uriously-KinkyCPLCouple
35 weeks ago

Shropshire

Agreed could be playing with fire there

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
35 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

No. I think it would be emotional torture afterwards.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
35 weeks ago

kent

I got a lot of feelings to share around, it’s no big deal. So yeah, probably, so long as we still had a laugh together.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
35 weeks ago

Stratford

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

The hurts not worth it in the end

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
35 weeks ago

Hell

I’ve done it loads of times

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By *B69Woman
35 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Yes I would, one for the memory bank

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Difficult as I'm wired differently.

I'd probably do it.

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By *eliWoman
35 weeks ago

I don't think I've ever experienced that.

I don't think I'll ever experience it.

So... no. Because it's very unlikely to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Nope

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
35 weeks ago

…

Hard to resist but definitely one of the quickest ways to get hurt

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
35 weeks ago

North West

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Me? No. I wouldn't want to just be some random "shag n go" if my feelings are very different.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
35 weeks ago

cardiff

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By *929Man
35 weeks ago

bedlington

Did it for 15 year haha

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

More than likely not I'd imagine.

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By *amie HantsWoman
35 weeks ago

Atlantis

Probably not. I’m not setting myself up for any type of heartbreak. If they don’t have the same feelings towards me as I do them then it’s best we don’t see each other at all. I wouldn't want to fall out, it doesn't have to be a huge drama, just let me ride out whatever I’m feeling then reassess.

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By *arley QuimWoman
35 weeks ago

Somewhere

Eww, no. Why?

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By *na64Woman
35 weeks ago

Manchester

If I’m being honest

Even though I know it would burn in the end, the idiot in me would still do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Find me a man who would say No! In other words, take the opportunity to change their mind about you? You know….so they’re fully informed? And risk an additional headfuck?!

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Absolutely not

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By *ib.Man
35 weeks ago

Hampshire

You never know - play it right and they might change their mind.

Optimist.

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By *urry BlokeMan
35 weeks ago

Stalybridge

My self esteem used to be quite low

Fucking strangers made me feel wanted and validated

Some were very hot, others not so

Thankfully, that's in the past

It still niggles at times, but what's done is done

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By *iss.BellaWoman
35 weeks ago

Wales

Sorry OP the mention of feelings made me

It's a hard no from me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Agreed could be playing with fire there"

Hot kinky fire though.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
35 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Yeah, I did that once. It turned out as you'd expect

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By *illy IdolMan
35 weeks ago

Midlands

What do you mean by feelings?

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By *ony MannMan
35 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Andover

I would if she was willing. I don't look for commitment but it's kind of happened a few times.

Please read fwb for commitment. I can having feelings and often do, but I've never had a problem walking away.

I did have a problem with a woman who had feelings for me, I made it clear we were swinging and swinging meant I would see others. That was fine at first, then came the demands. I'm glade I never actually met her.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
35 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Do they bring food with them

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By *ansexualPandaMan
35 weeks ago

cumallover

Yeah, I'm good with understanding that how other people feel about me is none of my business. If they have the same feelings for me, great, if not so be it. We can still have fun and it's certainly not like I'm the jealous type.

On the filpside its probably one of the reasons I'm still single. I'm cool with my partner having freedom as I expect myself to have the same freedom. Quite often my girlfriend or boyfriend has seen that as me not having feelings for them when that's not true.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
35 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I've done it yes

Tinder

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By *eliWoman
35 weeks ago

"Yeah, I did that once. It turned out as you'd expect

This is why you should stick to eating elevenses and farming. Maybe some partying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"What do you mean by feelings?"

Not the "L" word, I don't think. But actually caring about them I guess. For them it's just the sex.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
35 weeks ago

Wales

Wait, I assume pretty penis.. and hot..

I just might forget the feelings bit and deal with that later for those two factors

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
35 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Um.

Not sure actually.

If there was mutual sexual attraction still, probably.

I wouldn't fuck someone I didn't have feelings for if I knew they had feelings for me though. So I don't know if knowing that they would in the opposite circumstance would affect it in that moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Difficult as I'm wired differently.

I'd probably do it. "

Me too.

I probably would/will....

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By *ffervescentMan
35 weeks ago

winfrith

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

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Difficult to say as never been in that position although I did allow a friend who had feelings for me to have sex on holiday ,I regretted afterwards .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Yeah, I did that once. It turned out as you'd expect

Awesome sex right!?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Wait, I assume pretty penis.. and hot..

I just might forget the feelings bit and deal with that later for those two factors

Hot as hot can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"Difficult as I'm wired differently.

I'd probably do it.

Me too.

I probably would/will...."
it's a date then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Um.

Not sure actually.

If there was mutual sexual attraction still, probably.

I wouldn't fuck someone I didn't have feelings for if I knew they had feelings for me though. So I don't know if knowing that they would in the opposite circumstance would affect it in that moment."

Mutual sexual attraction...tick.

Yeah, he doesn't know. That's not good right? Eurgh, never mind.

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By *erity888Woman
35 weeks ago

bridgend

I think I would

Just think of it as one hot experience to put in the memory bank

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
35 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

That's a tricky one. Are you sure there are no feelings at their end? I'd be tempted and then probably kick myself forever whichever way I decided.

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By *illy IdolMan
35 weeks ago

Midlands

"What do you mean by feelings?

Not the "L" word, I don't think. But actually caring about them I guess. For them it's just the sex. "

I'm not sure how to answer this one. I've been very fond of people before I've had sex with people but I think those "feelings" build over time for me. If both aren't on the same level, it never ends well

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By *iberius61Man
35 weeks ago

Pontefract

If they're hot as fuck then I have feelings for them (lust is a feeling right?). If they have no feelings for me, then I assume this is a stress relief shag for them? I'm fine with that, stress relieved, everyone happy.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
35 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"Yeah, I did that once. It turned out as you'd expect

Awesome sex right!?!!"

Well, yes. Fucking astounding, actually. Plus months of despondency after that skin on skin induced oxytocin high strengthened those unrequited feelings.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
35 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

No, because I'd want it to happen because they were into me too. It just seems cold to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"That's a tricky one. Are you sure there are no feelings at their end? I'd be tempted and then probably kick myself forever whichever way I decided.

Fairly sure. There was once, I think. But not now.

Though, I'm not sure I'd even want them to be. Which adds to the complication.

I should just shut up and go get sex.

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By *onkeynutWoman
35 weeks ago

somewhere

Been there done that. Would never do it again.

Thought I could manage my feelings and it would be ok, I couldn’t and it wasn’t. It’s a head fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"What do you mean by feelings?

Not the "L" word, I don't think. But actually caring about them I guess. For them it's just the sex.

This isn't a first time thing, if that helps?

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By *orbidden eastMan
35 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

Short term it would be great fun. But long-term it is just not going to do you any good mentally

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
35 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Um.

Not sure actually.

If there was mutual sexual attraction still, probably.

I wouldn't fuck someone I didn't have feelings for if I knew they had feelings for me though. So I don't know if knowing that they would in the opposite circumstance would affect it in that moment.

Mutual sexual attraction...tick.

Yeah, he doesn't know. That's not good right? Eurgh, never mind."

Ah.

See I word vomit all the things. I like to make sure people know all the relevant information.

I mean, I fuck my best friend without it being a romantic kind of feeling on either side. I think I prefer things to be roughly equal, someone being more into me than I am them is just as uncomfortable as the other way around I think.

But good sex is good sex. So.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
35 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"Yeah, I did that once. It turned out as you'd expect

This is why you should stick to eating elevenses and farming. Maybe some partying."

After coiffuring my toe hair there really isn't enough time left in the day for farming, Meli.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
35 weeks ago

somewhere

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Been there, done that. Wouldn't recommend. Head fuck for sure

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By *edeWoman
35 weeks ago

the abyss

I have done in the past and will likely do again in the future. It's never a great idea but I'm a stupid twat that doesn't learn

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By *ripfillMan
35 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Awkward …. Feeling of nervous anxiety

V difficult one ….

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By *illy IdolMan
35 weeks ago

Midlands

"What do you mean by feelings?

Not the "L" word, I don't think. But actually caring about them I guess. For them it's just the sex.

This isn't a first time thing, if that helps?"

I was going to add, there's always feelings involved. It's never just sex, else we'd just go down the brothel. It's cheaper and a lot less hassle. Whether your level of feelings match is a different story.

If you're opening a can of worms, you have to ask yourself what's changed? If they're open about what they truly want and aren't breadcrumbing, are you happy with this situation this time around?

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
35 weeks ago

Essex

Hell yeah

Just suppress any emotions. Its character building.

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By *illan-KillashMan
35 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

I fell madly. Her, less so. I did it once. Never again, it's soul destroying.

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
35 weeks ago

St Neots

Regardless of feelings that might appear, just make sure you're not being exclusive to just him. Go have sex with other (hot) people, and you'll be fiiiine. You'll soon be treating it the same way he does with you... Just sex

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By *l TrenMan
35 weeks ago

The North

Yes. But then again I’m quite shallow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

Can I just clarify for any guy on here, it's not you. Don't panic!

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By *hatKlungeEnigmaMan
35 weeks ago

St Leonards

Yes.

Too many other enjoyable things in my world to dwell on one thing that gives a lesser emotional payback.

If the sex is good and they're "hot", that's enough.

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By *illy IdolMan
35 weeks ago

Midlands

"Can I just clarify for any guy on here, it's not you. Don't panic!

Fuck him off then and find someone else

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
35 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"Yeah, I did that once. It turned out as you'd expect

Awesome sex right!?!!

Well, yes. Fucking astounding, actually. Plus months of despondency after that skin on skin induced oxytocin high strengthened those unrequited feelings."

Ah Nell! So beautifully worded

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By *iss.BellaWoman
35 weeks ago

Wales

"Wait, I assume pretty penis.. and hot..

I just might forget the feelings bit and deal with that later for those two factors

Hot as hot can be. "

Do it and blame it on the alcohol later

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I have had sex with guys that have feelings for me but I they don't have feelings for them.

The sex was still hot and horny so no regrets. As all it's just sex

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By *illan-KillashMan
35 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Can I just clarify for any guy on here, it's not you. Don't panic!

I'm gutted to be honest. I'd got me hopes up......

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By *ookie46Woman
35 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

If there was mutual sexual attraction and take it for just that then possibly ….. just need to keep those feelings in check, self preservation and all that

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By *issBehavexxxWoman
35 weeks ago

essex

I was with a fwb for 16 months I had more feelings than him and while we were together it was fine but when it ended I was heartbroken, mind he did it all in an awful way rather than just be straight with me.

I’d still meet him again though but know it wouldn’t do me any good whatsoever lol

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Yes I think I would, if I was getting something out of it then that would be enough for me - can’t control the other person

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By *ittlebirdWoman
35 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Yep. Done it before. Pretty sure I would do it again. They’re just feelings. It’s never gonna go anywhere.

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By *ira2024Woman
35 weeks ago

Just have fun girl, live in today

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By *punk n gushCouple
35 weeks ago

Lyndhurst

I would as its sex

Not emotional but mechanical

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By *electableicecreamMan
35 weeks ago

The West

My brain says no right now. In the moment? Probably.

Better to have fucked and lost than never fuck at all.

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By *otmyrealname99Man
35 weeks ago

Manchester

Yes but then probably regret it

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By *arl17Man
35 weeks ago

Central Portugal

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Simple... It all depends on how you are feeling on the day... Everyone experiences highs and lows..

Be happy...

Problem is you may feel worse after if you don't choose wisely

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
35 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Nooooooo. Danger danger danger!!!!

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By *empest2KMan
35 weeks ago

Derby

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Younger me (Mr Conscience) would say ‘no’, but current me (Mr Regretting Past Choices) would say ‘yes’.

Either way, you're probably playing with fire when it comes to your emotions, but I've been with someone I thought was hot and the expectation didn't match the reality, unfortunately

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
35 weeks ago

Manchester

I would. I'd appreciate the honesty. I'd try even harder to be their best fuck and yeah, I'd also meet other people.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
35 weeks ago

Maidstone

Hell yeah. I'd do it. And then probably block them on everything.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
35 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I think it's one of those where you're going to have regrets either way.

So would you rather regret doing it, or not doing it?

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By *hunky GentMan
35 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Hell yeah. I'd do it. And then probably block them on everything.

Harsh, but funny

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By *esthetic21Man
35 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Have done and probably would again

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

No dont think it would be a good idea

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By *esthetic21Man
35 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

"I think it's one of those where you're going to have regrets either way.

So would you rather regret doing it, or not doing it?"
on your death bed you will mostly regret the things you didn't do

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Yes I would

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By *esthetic21Man
35 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

"I would. I'd appreciate the honesty. I'd try even harder to be their best fuck and yeah, I'd also meet other people. "
I like your style

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By *igR93Man
35 weeks ago

Sarcasm City

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

I think my morals wouldn’t allow me to despite how attractive I find them

If someone doesn’t find me attractive it’s their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"What do you mean by feelings?

Not the "L" word, I don't think. But actually caring about them I guess. For them it's just the sex. "

Well that puts a different spin on the conundrum.

If it was the L word then it’s a no as that level of feeling would e hard to walk away from but if it’s just caring well yes and I have done it.

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By *arl17Man
35 weeks ago

Central Portugal

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Simple... It all depends on how you are feeling on the day... Everyone experiences highs and lows..

Be happy...

Problem is you may feel worse after if you don't choose wisely

Like I say x

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
35 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Where would we be without unrequited feelings, eh? There’d be a lot less drama around, and the world would be a more boring place.

I think going into it eyes open - knowing they don’t feel much for you - is a very different thing from believing (or hoping) they love you back.

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By *arl17Man
35 weeks ago

Central Portugal

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

I think my morals wouldn’t allow me to despite how attractive I find them

If someone doesn’t find me attractive it’s their loss

Simples....

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By *cLovin2Man
35 weeks ago

Reading

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Life is short coyote, enjoy your lust filled adventures whilst you are still young and have the working parts. We humans have denied ourselves for far too long. In my youth, religion kept me away from women, even those that let me know that they were interested in me. I lost many experiences as a result, this is my only regret.

I've never regretted any of the ladies I've actually been with.

So to answer your question, he'll yes, I'd hump the hell out of her, assuming of course that I fancy her.

Tell that gremlin in your head to go do one.

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By *cLovin2Man
35 weeks ago

Reading

"Can I just clarify for any guy on here, it's not you. Don't panic!

I'm so disappointed, don't mind me, I'm just gonna jump off a bridge

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By *eading beddingMan
35 weeks ago

Berks

Easier to say no in theory than in actuality I imagine!

Just proceed with caution with your eyes wide open

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By *0denniiMan
35 weeks ago

essex

Depends on how it’s gonna affect you afterwards

It could make you feel worse But if you have complete control of your emotions, then yeah, why not? X

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
35 weeks ago

Hereabouts

Yeah cos I'm an idiot

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By *pinningfasterWoman
35 weeks ago

Birmingham

I'm doing this now cos I'm an idiot hahaha

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By *r Looking 69Man
35 weeks ago

north

Yeah. I would . I have in the past I'm old and wise enough to separate the feelings from fun and enjoy myself when the chance arises .definitely wasn't always mature enough to do so . But at 41 I'm start8ng to grow up haha

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By *irtyKittenCouple
35 weeks ago

Southampton

Depends if you are having sex with them hoping that they will eventually fall for you or just to get it out of your system.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
35 weeks ago

manchester

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

It’s a sure fire way to give yourself an acute episode of mental illness.

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By *ansoffateMan
35 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Interesting question

I'm not sure that's ever been put to the test for me.

Possibly, it would depend on her approach.

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By *igboro01Man
35 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

Yes!! Regret is horrible. Go and fuck them then at least come tell us xx

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By *ibimaaWoman
35 weeks ago

Leicester

I have unfortunately, many times.

But this person has now cut me off,coz he knows how I feel for him.

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
35 weeks ago

Perpignan and cap

Yes, I would. I've learnt to detract from sex and love unless she explicitly says that she has feelings for me, I believe that she's using me too, which I'm ok with.

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By *lfa RomeoMan
35 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Yes I probably would. Unfortunately for most of us the heart rules our head. X

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

No. Simply no.

And we’re talking about loving feelings here just to be clear aren’t we? Because I have feelings for people, of course I do, and that’s why I would and want to do something with them.

Love makes things complicated if it’s only one way.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
35 weeks ago

Leeds

No just setting yourself up for misery.

To them it’s just a fuck to you it’s more, it’s never going to end well, well for the one with the feeling anyway.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Hell yeah

Just suppress any emotions. Its character building."

Character building!

Do I need to be more of a man hating bitch?

Possibly....

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

No I wouldn't because I've done it before and it's soul destroying.

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By *alandNitaCouple
35 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Of course I would, but I wouldn't have sex with someone who had un-recipricated feelings for me, that wouldn't be fair

Cal

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By *hrek101Man
35 weeks ago

Herts

This pretty much happened to me recently...long story but I didn't. I made the right decision.

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By *heelerMan
35 weeks ago

Northants

Yes of course

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By *rHotNottsMan
35 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’d find it very difficult to keep having feelings for someone that didn’t have them back.

I think it would be a no from me because they would be in that urgh category, no matter how how hot, I think I’d dislike them

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"That’s a tough one probably not as it would be an emotional headfuck"

^ this

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By *irthandgirthMan
35 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Too much of a headfuck for me.

As a rule I don't put my penis in someone I don't like. If they don't like me then that connection is obviously not there.

Club play is the only exception, if it is just in the moment.

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By *allandathleticMan
35 weeks ago

Asgard

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

No. Fuck that.

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By *WB85Man
35 weeks ago

Staffordshire

No, probably not.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
35 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I’d find it very difficult to keep having feelings for someone that didn’t have them back. I think it would be a no from me because they would be in that urgh category, no matter how how hot, I think I’d dislike them "

Without wanting to get too deep into things*, this whole conversation reminds me of my first marriage. And once that lack of feelings from her side of it became clear … especially that we’d gone so many years without her feeling it … it killed my desire stone dead. The ‘urgh’ category kicked right in. Straight away. It was like flicking a switch. The moment I understood - really understood - her lack of feelings, mine for her disappeared. The desire was gone, just like that.

(*Not a euphemism, for once.)

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By *allandathleticMan
35 weeks ago

Asgard

(*Not a euphemism, for once.)"

Get this 100%

You know when your wanted.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
35 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Yeah. I remember her trying to fuck me after that moment and actually pushing her off and walking away. I couldn’t do it.

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By *neakypeaky30Man
35 weeks ago

Midlands

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Been there and done that......100% would not recommend. Takes a long time to recover from

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By *allandathleticMan
35 weeks ago

Asgard

"Yeah. I remember her trying to fuck me after that moment and actually pushing her off and walking away. I couldn’t do it."

100% one of the worst feelings in the world. I later found out she'd been cheating on me for 3 years.

Never trusted the same again and probably explains why I am this way now.

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By *irthandgirthMan
35 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

(*Not a euphemism, for once.)"

Been there. But getting to that point is emotionally shattering. Always wondering if it is me not doing enough, not trying hard enough, doing something wrong.. when the reality is she had switched off. Nothing I could do would ever be good enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

It's not really happened to me but I can see how the scenario plays out. I have sex with them, think the time I spend with them could probably change their mind about maybe wanting more, realising that won't be the case, beat myself up over it, eventually get over it.

Ultimately, I need to feel as desired the same way I desire someone else so it doesn't feel like I'm bordering on desperation wanting to be kept around.

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By *till gameMan
35 weeks ago

Oldham

If I knew the fancied me but no feelings, then yes

But if I knew they didn’t fancy me and no feelings then no

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By *azzler2Man
35 weeks ago

halifax

Yes I would

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By *tsJustKateWoman
35 weeks ago

London

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Yes!

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
35 weeks ago

Birmingham

Yes! I would win them over with my sexual skills. I'm really good at being on top for 10 seconds.

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By *ommy2125Man
35 weeks ago

newport

Never again, took all the kings horses and men and a whole heap of things to get humpty right

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By *2000ManMan
35 weeks ago

Worthing

How would you know they don't have feelings for you? You mean someone you have just met and no feelings have been put out in the open yet? Probably not. I'd like to know they were at least "into me" first. The sex tends to be better.

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By *laytime_13Woman
35 weeks ago

Lincs

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By *eroLondonMan
35 weeks ago

Mayfair

No. I'm not into charitable fucks.

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By *laytime_13Woman
35 weeks ago

Lincs

Keep going back and forwards on this.

I compartmentalise pretty well.

I gotta like someone to get down and dirty but I probably don’t want to fancy them and be all loved up over them if I’m only fucking them, if I’m hoping they might catch feelings too.

That way misery lies.

Been there, done that. Won’t do it again. Although as others have said, the moment it was completely clear it was one sided and I was no longer being strung along on maybes, it was amazing how quickly those feelings went away

If I’m just making the most of an opportunity for an amazing one off and to get it out of my system however…

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

In theory, probably but only the once.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
35 weeks ago

Reading

No, if someone didn't return my feelings, I back straight off. Luckily, it has only happened one.

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By *luebell888Woman
35 weeks ago

Lanzarote

Yes I would. Fantastic sex may change his mind about me.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
35 weeks ago

Wirral

I'm assuming they like me, but not as much as I like them.

That being the case then yes. I'm OK at keeping my feelings to myself.

If they genuinely don't give a rat's ass for me then no - there needs to be some level of amity there.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
35 weeks ago

Wherever

Reading all the comments from the perspective of someone who isn’t capable of developing any feelings has been an eye opener.

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
35 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
35 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"It's not really happened to me but I can see how the scenario plays out. I have sex with them, think the time I spend with them could probably change their mind about maybe wanting more, realising that won't be the case, beat myself up over it, eventually get over it.

Ultimately, I need to feel as desired the same way I desire someone else so it doesn't feel like I'm bordering on desperation wanting to be kept around."

Yep, this.

I've learnt it the hard way over the years.

No amount of hoping or wishing, or good sex, can make a person feel the same as you do. If they don't want you, they don't want you.

To quote Bonnie.."I can't make you love me...".

And it's sh1t, but sh1t happens.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
35 weeks ago

Reading

Probably. I like some good emotional torture.

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By *hiversMan
35 weeks ago

Dinas Powys

My head says no, at it would just get messy... but my heart (and other body parts) would probably convince me to just go for it

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By *andynecklaceWoman
35 weeks ago

Someplace

Yeah, I think I would

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By *ruceyyMan
35 weeks ago

London

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

God damn you are looking good!

That's my brief revival folks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Keep going back and forwards on this.

I compartmentalise pretty well.

I gotta like someone to get down and dirty but I probably don’t want to fancy them and be all loved up over them if I’m only fucking them, if I’m hoping they might catch feelings too.

That way misery lies.

If I’m just making the most of an opportunity for an amazing one off and to get it out of my system however… "

I'm leaning to the last one.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
35 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Easy one for me, no.

I would actually fell like I had just been used to scratch an itch

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By *aitonelMan
35 weeks ago

Liverpool

Pass

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Yep. I’ll get over it.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
35 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If I was single, yes. Sex can just be sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"Pass"

Is that like pleading the fifth amendment (“I refuse to answer on the grounds that I may incriminate myself”)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Pass"

Go?

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
35 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Pass

Go?"

But don't collect any cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Pass

Go?

But don't collect any cock

Mr "

Hate this game

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By *aitonelMan
35 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Pass

Go?

But don't collect any cock

Hate this game"

No cock for you!

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By *allandathleticMan
35 weeks ago

Asgard

"Pass

Go?

But don't collect any cock

Hate this game

No cock for you! "

No cock prison?

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By *ruceyyMan
35 weeks ago

London

If you're gonna get hurt don't have sex.

That's right new and improved Brucey is saying don't have sex people. Sinners!

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By *scaMan
35 weeks ago

St Albans

Of course. Life is short and feelings change and evolve. Who’s to say both parties may feel differently in a few hours.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
35 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Hate this game"

Hang on, I’m seeing another million-pound idea.

Fab Monopoly.

‘Go directly to greedy girls night, do not pass Go, do collect 200 dicks.’

The PR campaign for launching the game practically writes itself. Fab Monopoly socials up and down the UK.

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By *allandathleticMan
35 weeks ago

Asgard

"Hate this game

Hang on, I’m seeing another million-pound idea.

Fab Monopoly.

‘Go directly to greedy girls night, do not pass Go, do collect 200 dicks.’

The PR campaign for launching the game practically writes itself. Fab Monopoly socials up and down the UK. "

Your on a business plan roll today RTG.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
35 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Your on a business plan roll today RTG."

Sadly I can’t follow through without investors.

Anyone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Hate this game

Hang on, I’m seeing another million-pound idea.

Fab Monopoly.

‘Go directly to greedy girls night, do not pass Go, do collect 200 dicks.’

The PR campaign for launching the game practically writes itself. Fab Monopoly socials up and down the UK. "

Knowing my luck I'd getting stuck on old Kent road.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
35 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Pass

Go?

But don't collect any cock

Hate this game"

Hey your thread your game

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
35 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Knowing my luck I'd getting stuck on old Kent road. "

Not boned at Marylebone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Pass

Go?

But don't collect any cock

Hate this game

Hey your thread your game

Mr"

In that case I get the penis.

Thanks!

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By *cLovin2Man
35 weeks ago

Reading

"Pass

Go?

But don't collect any cock

Hate this game

No cock for you!

No cock prison?"

That's called marriage

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By *agatoXXXMan
35 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

"Have sex with someone you have feelings for but you know they don't have feelings for you?

For arguments sake let's say this person is hot as fuck aswell.

Sounds like large chunks of my 1st marriage.

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By *cLovin2Man
35 weeks ago

Reading

"Yes! I would win them over with my sexual skills. I'm really good at being on top for 10 seconds."

It takes 20 seconds for a fat guy to find his penis, don't ask me why I know that

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By *rHotNottsMan
35 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

(*Not a euphemism, for once.)"

Yes there is nothing more unsexy than somebody that doesn’t care about you.

I think I might have pined for someone once briefly (in 53 years), who didn’t really want me, Then immediately felt like a pathetic little labradoor puppy & got over her quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Yes. I’d put sand in the Vaseline for good measure

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By *ad NannaWoman
35 weeks ago

East London

Obviously.

They're hot as fuck and I'm getting my endorphin rush

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By *illy IdolMan
35 weeks ago

Midlands

What have you decided, Coyote?

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

My head would be asking, why am I doing this, whilst I was conker deep. My dick would be saying, we'll deal with the fallout later.

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