FabSwingers.com forum: Would you…

By *adyBugs OP Woman
23 weeks ago

cognito

Rather have the message deleted unread or read and unanswered if you’d sent someone a message and they weren’t interested in you for whatever reasons?

Or maybe even block you?

Ta muchly!

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
23 weeks ago

belfast

Read and deleted. Block if they want.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
23 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I never uses to check

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By *alandNitaCouple
23 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Rather have the message deleted unread or read and unanswered if you’d sent someone a message and they weren’t interested in you for whatever reasons?

Or maybe even block you?

Ta muchly! "

To be honest, it doesn't matter either way. Either is "not interested".

Cal

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
23 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Either way, it is out of my control what the recipient does with a message sent by me......once it lands in their inbox its theirs to do what they will with it

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By *adyBugs OP Woman
23 weeks ago

cognito

"Rather have the message deleted unread or read and unanswered if you’d sent someone a message and they weren’t interested in you for whatever reasons?

Or maybe even block you?

Ta muchly!

To be honest, it doesn't matter either way. Either is "not interested".

Cal"

You’d think right? Yet some guys keep messaging either way… I don’t understand it.

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By *adyBugs OP Woman
23 weeks ago

cognito

"Either way, it is out of my control what the recipient does with a message sent by me......once it lands in their inbox its theirs to do what they will with it

This is too sensible an answer.

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By *adyBugs OP Woman
23 weeks ago

cognito

"Read and deleted. Block if they want. "

What if they read but don’t delete? Or block?

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Rather stay on unread

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
23 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Yeah, I don’t tend to worry about this sort of thing. But I guess I’m mostly chatting with people I know will reply.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
23 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Either way, it is out of my control what the recipient does with a message sent by me......once it lands in their inbox its theirs to do what they will with it

This is too sensible an answer.

It's fucking true, I guess it all comes down to expectations carried and acting out on those when they are not met....

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By *adyBugs OP Woman
23 weeks ago

cognito

"I never uses to check"

I don’t really check either but I just experienced this with someone and I don’t understand what they think they’ll achieve from it.

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By *a LunaWoman
23 weeks ago

South Wales

If someone doesn’t want to let me into their heart or their inbox well………it is what it is.

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By *ustAnotherMan
23 weeks ago

wherever I may roam

If I'm interested enough to message someone I always send and delete from my outbox. They'll still get it and can respond if they like, in the meantime I'm not reading anything into whether it's read, deleted, not opened, whatever.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
23 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I have no preference either way. Once I’ve sent it I’ve sent it

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By *r SpiegalMan
23 weeks ago

gateshead

Read and delete for me as you know where you stand

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By *orthern BeardMan
23 weeks ago

Lancashire

Read and either unanswered or deleted. Least that way you know where you stand

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By *adyBugs OP Woman
23 weeks ago

cognito

"Read and either unanswered or deleted. Least that way you know where you stand "

Clearly some people don’t and felt the need to message again after I deleted it unread.

People are weird eh!

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By *inosaur PantsMan
23 weeks ago

Stourbridge

I'm fine with either and/or a block

Unread with no delete I'd also tale as a 'No thanks' too tbh

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By *orthern BeardMan
23 weeks ago

Lancashire

"Read and either unanswered or deleted. Least that way you know where you stand

Clearly some people don’t and felt the need to message again after I deleted it unread.

People are weird eh!"

I think some people just can’t handle rejection. Or can’t quite believe that a woman doesn’t get the vibe from them.

In the end it’s a buyers market. I’ve been fairly successful here as my veris will account for, however I probably get a reply to 1 in 50 messages.

Just have to remember that variety is the spice of life and you’re not for everyone

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By *eading beddingMan
23 weeks ago

Berks

"Rather have the message deleted unread or read and unanswered if you’d sent someone a message and they weren’t interested in you for whatever reasons?

Or maybe even block you?

Ta muchly! "

Tend not to send many, having learnt that as a male, however well crafted, will most likely be unanswered.

To answer your question I guess unread (deleted or not) is less of a rejection, than read and unanswered. Might be just lost in the deluge of copy & paste spam messages that I hear you ladies are subjected to.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
23 weeks ago

Hereabouts

I don't check what people do with my messages. I just don't care. I do unread and delete though.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

People don't reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"Rather have the message deleted unread or read and unanswered if you’d sent someone a message and they weren’t interested in you for whatever reasons?

Or maybe even block you?

Ta muchly!

To be honest, it doesn't matter either way. Either is "not interested".

Cal"

This

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Herts

Read an unanswered because from that I deduce one of the following

They have a reading age of 6 an I used a long word. We could be here a while

They read it and have started a cult based on me, now the faithful are waiting on further messages

I’ve slightly ungayed them enough that they no longer want to talk

They read it out loud and now Siri and Alexa keep suggesting drag race and McDonald’s.

Maybe. I’ve been know to be ‘wrong’

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By *eliWoman
23 weeks ago

I wouldn't give it any thought.

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By *adyBugs OP Woman
23 weeks ago

cognito

"Read an unanswered because from that I deduce one of the following

They have a reading age of 6 an I used a long word. We could be here a while

They read it and have started a cult based on me, now the faithful are waiting on further messages

I’ve slightly ungayed them enough that they no longer want to talk

They read it out loud and now Siri and Alexa keep suggesting drag race and McDonald’s.

Maybe. I’ve been know to be ‘wrong’ "

I have heard rumours of a cult…

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By *ansoffateMan
23 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I'm having a slight flashback to women being angry with me on here; assuming I wasn't interested.

I don't know the answer to this one OP it seems whenever I try to adopt some kind of systematic approach to messaging, it pisses someone off, so I just do what comes naturally to me now.

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By *illy IdolMan
23 weeks ago

Midlands

Always read and deleted. If you're going to the hassle of having a look at their profile, just open the message at the very least. Everyone knows where they stand then and we can just forward the message on to the next one

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By *ack and jill 76Couple
23 weeks ago

Neath

Unread I'd the worst any of the others is fine

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Herts

"Read an unanswered because from that I deduce one of the following

They have a reading age of 6 an I used a long word. We could be here a while

They read it and have started a cult based on me, now the faithful are waiting on further messages

I’ve slightly ungayed them enough that they no longer want to talk

They read it out loud and now Siri and Alexa keep suggesting drag race and McDonald’s.

Maybe. I’ve been know to be ‘wrong’

I have heard rumours of a cult…

God I hope they don’t want a holy book. I could maybe manage a holy flyer, maybe a pamphlet at a push..

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

I don't mind either way as it signifies they are not interested.

With this approach, maybe I am in the minority on here, but I would never send a second message to anyone unless I get a reply to my first message.

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By *B69Woman
23 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Makes no difference I never check anyway

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