FabSwingers.com forum: Single men

By *bt96 OP Man
23 weeks ago

GAINSBOROUGH

Do any single men actually meet anyone on here? Everyone refuses to even reply unless your verified but how am I supposed to get that verification if I can't even get a conversation. Its catch 22

Maybe I just don't know how to make use of the site fully but it seems abit crazy to me I've trued coming back and forth from the site for years now but never any luck. I do always send face pic with message aswell

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By *parkle1974Woman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

Maybe look at "your shop window"

Can't give advice as you've not asked for it

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By *bt96 OP Man
23 weeks ago

GAINSBOROUGH

Sorry I don't understand "your shop window" I would just like to know what people's first steps would be on joining this site as a new member

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Wow you look amazing

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Yup.

Checking through my verifications I see 5 single male accounts I've slept with as a direct result of here. One of those was actually part of a couple at the time, but there's also at least one other that was a single male but has since left the site so it's vanished. I'm not counting any social only or group meets in the count.

So, yes. At least 5 single men have actually had meets since I made this profile.

My previous one was a lot more active

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By *parkle1974Woman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

"Sorry I don't understand "your shop window" I would just like to know what people's first steps would be on joining this site as a new member "

Shop window....as in profile.

For me personally I wouldn't respond to a message from you as there is zero on your profile...nothing on it says to me "oh I want to find out more"

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
23 weeks ago

North West

I meet lots of single men, and all my male friends meet successfully on here

Do your profile and make an effort and stop moaning lol x

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By *bt96 OP Man
23 weeks ago

GAINSBOROUGH

"Yup.

So, yes. At least 5 single men have actually had meets since I made this profile.

My previous one was a lot more active

So is there any advice you could give me of what I may be doing wrong ?

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By *ou only live onceMan
23 weeks ago

London

Yes, I think loads do.

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By *bt96 OP Man
23 weeks ago

GAINSBOROUGH

"I meet lots of single men, and all my male friends meet successfully on here

Do your profile and make an effort and stop moaning lol x"

I'm not moaning and this the only response I ever get of people. I genuinely am trying to join the community but finding it hard to get my foot in the door as such

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Yup.

So, yes. At least 5 single men have actually had meets since I made this profile.

My previous one was a lot more active

So is there any advice you could give me of what I may be doing wrong ?"

If I get a message from a blank profile it goes straight in the bin.

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By *zeroMan
23 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Yup.

So, yes. At least 5 single men have actually had meets since I made this profile.

My previous one was a lot more active

So is there any advice you could give me of what I may be doing wrong ?"

You have no profile pic available to see and zero information on your profile. A little bit about yourself or what your interested in to get your personality across would help.

Also a lot of people tend to use this to keep in regular contact with people. Most of my meets have come from either meeting at people from socials or clubs face to face first rather than sending a message.

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By *bt96 OP Man
23 weeks ago

GAINSBOROUGH

"Yup.

So, yes. At least 5 single men have actually had meets since I made this profile.

My previous one was a lot more active

So is there any advice you could give me of what I may be doing wrong ?

If I get a message from a blank profile it goes straight in the bin."

Suppose it's just hard finding the confidence to get my profile set up how I would like it

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By *issmorganWoman
23 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yes, my partner met me here 8.5 years ago when he was a single male.

He made an effort with his profile and attended sociaks/clubs too.

Most won't reply to a blank profile o0, I'd have no idea what you're into and offer or what your body type is etc.

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By *oxy jWoman
23 weeks ago

somerset

op in general no men do not do ok and theres a very simple reason for that and its the sheer number of men looking for fun with the in compatison very few couples and women .... then add in its not a free for all sex site its swinging and based on attraction and compatibility that alone makes it hard for men ....100 to 1 or maybe alot more depending where you live

add in to that mix not everyone on here plays makes the pool even smaller

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By *hunky GentMan
23 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I've met quite a few people, mainly socials.

A few for more

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By *enis ColadaMan
23 weeks ago

Totnes

Fella put a few public photos up.(doesn't have to be cock pics)get yourself to some swinger clubs,a lot of single men come on here thinking they'll get a 'shag'instantly,it doesn't work like that,also I see your looking for female couples,good luck with that.hope this helps

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By *arialoueWoman
23 weeks ago

bradford

I just wanna say being verified on here means nothing coziness been let down by verified ppl aswell,

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By *imply DeeWoman
23 weeks ago

Wherever

"Yup.

So, yes. At least 5 single men have actually had meets since I made this profile.

My previous one was a lot more active

So is there any advice you could give me of what I may be doing wrong ?

If I get a message from a blank profile it goes straight in the bin.

Suppose it's just hard finding the confidence to get my profile set up how I would like it "

How do you find confidence to meet someone then if you can’t set up your profile. Sounds like an excuse and blaming others for not responding to your blank profile.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
23 weeks ago

South West London

Having no profile picture doesn't help so might want to look into that but getting a meet is hard

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By *adyhudCouple
23 weeks ago

Barnsley

Hey

I've had a quick look at your profile and if you messaged, I would just delete.

There's nothing there.

Need some images, a little bio of some kind.

I've also found clubs are a great way to meet some people and get some verifications which go a long way. Xx

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"So is there any advice you could give me of what I may be doing wrong ?

If I get a message from a blank profile it goes straight in the bin.

Suppose it's just hard finding the confidence to get my profile set up how I would like it "

Lack of confidence is rarely a good selling point

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By *allandathleticMan
23 weeks ago

Asgard

For the millionth time....

You reap what you sow.

You get out what you put in.

*I'm going to copy this for future threads. It just isn't worth the arthritis in my thumbs.

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By *ellhungvweMan
23 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I got my first meets by having a profile that people seemto feel was decently written and had some pictures up.

#justAThought

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Small question OP.

How do you know when you want to meet someone?

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By *hunky GentMan
23 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Small question OP.

How do you know when you want to meet someone?"

I normally wait until she/they mention it.

I'm shy and don't like to be pushy.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Small question OP.

How do you know when you want to meet someone?

I normally wait until she/they mention it.

I'm shy and don't like to be pushy.

That's about saying, not knowing, no?

I suppose I more mean, what makes him want to meet someone in the first place.

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By *hunky GentMan
23 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Small question OP.

How do you know when you want to meet someone?

I normally wait until she/they mention it.

I'm shy and don't like to be pushy.

That's about saying, not knowing, no?

I suppose I more mean, what makes him want to meet someone in the first place."

For me - when the conversation is getting well and I feel we'd both be comfortable in each other's company.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Small question OP.

How do you know when you want to meet someone?

I normally wait until she/they mention it.

I'm shy and don't like to be pushy.

That's about saying, not knowing, no?

I suppose I more mean, what makes him want to meet someone in the first place.

For me - when the conversation is getting well and I feel we'd both be comfortable in each other's company."

The question is more meant for the OP.

As in, would he see an absolute blank profile and prioritise trying to fuck whoever is behind one of the hundreds of those over the people who show you what they look like and what they like/offer.

Even the women who are only here for convenient penis on a one off basis still usually want to be at least aware of how attractive the penis wielder is to them physically. And if not then it's a matter of timing as there's so many faceless profileless messages coming in constantly that he'd need to be very lucky to hit at exactly the right moment to be at the top when the horn takes them.

The point being that unless his opening messages are a lot more stellar than his profile and post indicate they're likely to be, there's no reason someone would be particularly reactive.

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By *hunky GentMan
23 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Fair enough.

I'll get me coat

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By *ansoffateMan
23 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Yes I do, not frequently these days if I am honest.

I wouldn't put much time into a bare, unverified profile unless we'd engaged in conversation and it had moved onto telegram or whatever.

I think you are making a rod for your own back with that one. If you are unverified then maybe raise the bar a little.

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By *hil most chillMan
23 weeks ago

South East & Europe

Yes we definitely do meet women here. Why do you ask?

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By *rHotNottsMan
23 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Dear snt96

Your name sounds mysterious and hot. Your photographs look like a Greek god and your profile text it’s just up there with the best, I’m literally man-snailing looking at your profile.

I have no idea why are you are having no luck maybe the site is broken?

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple
23 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

Hi OP

You need:

- a really good profile

- really good pictures (plenty)

- to read other people’s profile thoroughly

- to go to socials and clubs lots and lots of times

- to be active in the forum

- to update your status each day

- to get veried (cam veried in the chat room will do as a start)

There is a huge amount of advice on the forum. Read it and act on it.

Lots of single men say it’s only possible to be successful if you’re tall, hot and hug but that’s bullshit. I’ve fucked a huge number of single men from Fab and so have my swinging friends. Get a good profile, be nice and chatty and safe and easy and fun and you might do well.

Dee

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By *ascaIMan
23 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

You have a profile with no profile.

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By *uenevereWoman
23 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Do any single men actually meet anyone on here? Everyone refuses to even reply unless your verified but how am I supposed to get that verification if I can't even get a conversation. Its catch 22"

You need to provide ladies with a reason to reply.

Most will look at a profile before deciding whether to respond.

You have a completely blank profile. Ladies on here tend not to be into blind meets.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
23 weeks ago

North West

"I meet lots of single men, and all my male friends meet successfully on here

Do your profile and make an effort and stop moaning lol x

I'm not moaning and this the only response I ever get of people. I genuinely am trying to join the community but finding it hard to get my foot in the door as such "

It doesn’t look like you’re genuinely trying.

You’ve put no effort into your profile at all and wrote a forum thread moaning.

Why would anyone give you the time of day with that profile?

Most women have the same standards in the real world.

You would not expect the women in your life to spend time talking to blank Facebook profiles. So why would we do it on here?

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By *onkeynutWoman
23 weeks ago

somewhere

There are so many more men on here than women.

Women also get dozens and dozens of messages per day.

When I’m looking at my inbox to decide which messages to even open, those with no profile pictures are the first to be deleted.

You can’t just create a profile with no picture and no text and expect to get laid…unless you’re a woman that is.

Put some effort into your profile and messages and then maybe you will get a reply.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
23 weeks ago

Coventry

yep meet single guys but need information about who they are. Verifications dont mean they are going to meet. think the rest has been said

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By *unchalMan
23 weeks ago

Dartford

"Do any single men actually meet anyone on here? Everyone refuses to even reply unless your verified but how am I supposed to get that verification if I can't even get a conversation. Its catch 22

Are you talking about straight men meeting women? I meet men on here relatively easily apart from all the usual proviso of course.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Herts

It’s ironic that so much effort has been put in to give advice to someone who had made literally none themselves.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
23 weeks ago

Sheffield

Maybe look as to why people aren’t replying to you. Your profile says a lot about you…or not.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
23 weeks ago

Sheffield

I answer to your question…yes they do. Lots of men meet on here and in clubs. It takes effort though. Fabs just a tool

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

Loads of men meet.

The 1st thing I do when I get a message is check out the profile, yours is empty so no I wouldn't reply.

Effort in = effort out, if you CBA to have a decent profile I assume you CBA in the bedroom either.

Your profile is your shop window & at the moment it's a boarded up shop window.

The whole verification thing is a load of crap, it's easy to get verified go to a local social, a local club or jump on cam and ask someone, again it takes some effort.

Most of the guys moaning on the forums have the same issue in that they haven't made any attempt at all to improve their profile or get verified they expect it magically done for them.

You are a penis in a sea of 10000 penis and you have to stand out.

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By *estman for the jobMan
23 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Blankish profile no pics who's going to be turned on by that op,if u want casual sex go find a pro

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

I mean I’m not saying I’m hot as I’m not, I don’t even have a huge cock but I know I have a great personality and when I get talking to woman and couples I seem to be ok, ok not going to lie I’ve had more fails then I’d like but that’s life and I’m not sure what my profile says about me but when it comes down to it, you get what you give if that makes sense

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By *aTina HeadTurnerWoman
23 weeks ago

Travelling

More effort was put into this post than in your profile.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
23 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Do any single men actually meet anyone on here? Everyone refuses to even reply unless your verified but how am I supposed to get that verification if I can't even get a conversation. Its catch 22

Nope never met on my single males account, never ever ever....

Maybe look at how your approaching people, I've personally never had a problem with meeting people feom fab.....so yeah single males do get to meet....

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By *ros40Man
23 weeks ago

Bedford

Don't forget real life

Fab is fun, but if not willing to put the effort in and be patient you will struggle

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By *ittlebirdWoman
23 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

No OP. Never met a single man from Fab… ever

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By *electableicecreamMan
23 weeks ago

The West

Success on fab as a single guy is equal in proportion to your level of understanding of how things work and how much effort you put in with that information.

Do your research and your due diligence.

Who do you want to meet and how do you plan to attract them?

There's thousands of threads full of advice if you use the search function.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
23 weeks ago

Llanelli

"Do any single men actually meet anyone on here? Everyone refuses to even reply unless your verified but how am I supposed to get that verification if I can't even get a conversation. Its catch 22

I meet people regularly, saying that people can see exactly who they're talking to and I have a bio.

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By *adyBugsWoman
23 weeks ago

cognito

I’ve met a few single guys on here, some unverified.

Why did I meet them?

Because their profile showed them as a decent human being who didn’t just consider me as a receptacle to fuck, and they probably had a good sense of humour and made me laugh, and maybe they were patient and understood that sometimes things are worth putting some effort into and being patient, or maybe they just had a nice looking cock and a smashing personality that I just wanted to be in the same room as right then.

But that’s just my story, someone else will want something different.

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By *orthern BeardMan
23 weeks ago

Lancashire

I’ve had plenty of success. Just takes patience.

Took me a while and it ebbs and flows such is life. I’ve found being more active and not having the expectation of meeting everyone who messages you. Probably met 1/50 people I’ve spoken to here.

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By *hocolate37Man
23 weeks ago

Heathrow

OP, based on your profile, would you meet you?

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By *arla SwingerWoman
23 weeks ago

Somewhere

I bang all the no pic, no bio profiles within a 1,000 mile radius to me... Hit me up

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By *orthern BeardMan
23 weeks ago

Lancashire

No bio, no viewable photos. What is this blind date?

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
23 weeks ago

Hell

I only ever meet single men

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By *hrek101Man
23 weeks ago

Herts

Of they do it's just takes them a bit longer unless your a member of the Elite Shaggers club

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By *r SpiegalMan
23 weeks ago

gateshead

It is a lottery to get a meet on here as this is my 2nd time back.

First time was great about 10 years ago but to many men now so the woman get 100’s of messages a day.

Just stick in.

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