FabSwingers.com forum: Good first message?

By (user no longer on site) OP
36 weeks ago

Seems like people expect a statement in first message I understand the generic hi how are you ain’t great. But was wondering what has worked well for others in first messages?

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By *ffervescentMan
36 weeks ago

winfrith

I send polite messages based on their profile ,which I've read and understood but I try and inject humour to.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Can I interest you in any sperm ice?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Just be yourself and message people the way you would anywhere else.

Saying that, if you approach people in the pub with your cock out I’d rethink your approach.

Good luck on your journey

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By *-MrGatsby-.Man
36 weeks ago

London and Sandy

It's not so much a statement. More that your message shows evidence that you've read their profile and you've provided reasons why you think you'd be a good match. Also showing you're not just sending a Cut & Paste job

Though! this is reliant on the other profile having information that will allow a personalised message.

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By *ou only live onceMan
36 weeks ago

London

Fancy meeting up for a Spunk & Bailey's?

Never fails!

But in all seriousness, as others have said, just be yourself. There's no magic formula.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"It's not so much a statement. More that your message shows evidence that you've read their profile and you've provided reasons why you think you'd be a good match. Also showing you're not just sending a Cut & Paste job

Though! this is reliant on the other profile having information that will allow a personalised message. "

Yeah those blank bio’s are hard to judge

I get it wrong majority of the time….but as stated….try and interject humour and try and stay away from the cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I dont expect guys to read my profile. Just be hot and funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"I dont expect guys to read my profile. Just be hot and funny."

Shit!!! I read the profile…because I’m not hot and funny

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By *allandathleticMan
36 weeks ago

Asgard

"I dont expect guys to read my profile. Just be hot and funny."

Its worth a pulitzer.

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By *ansoffateMan
36 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

It's a secret.

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By *allandathleticMan
36 weeks ago

Asgard

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
36 weeks ago

Leeds

A first message doesn't bother me as long as it's not faf or just Hi even worse unsolicited cock

, something I can reply to.

At the end of the day I look at the profile if I like it I'll reply and If I don't I won't, the message as such is irrelevant.

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By *allandathleticMan
36 weeks ago

Asgard

"A first message doesn't bother me as long as it's not faf or just Hi even worse unsolicited cock

, something I can reply to.

At the end of the day I look at the profile if I like it I'll reply and If I don't I won't, the message as such is irrelevant."

So,

Hi, faf?

Isn't out of the question?

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By *-MrGatsby-.Man
36 weeks ago

London and Sandy

"I dont expect guys to read my profile. Just be hot and funny."

What if we read, are (reasonably) hot and funny and point out any spelling/grammatical errors?

Does that warrant a reply or an immediate block for being a pedant?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"I dont expect guys to read my profile. Just be hot and funny.

What if we read, are (reasonably) hot and funny and point out any spelling/grammatical errors?

Does that warrant a reply or an immediate block for being a pedant? "

Errors? I'm looking for sex not a job.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
36 weeks ago

Leeds

"A first message doesn't bother me as long as it's not faf or just Hi even worse unsolicited cock

, something I can reply to.

At the end of the day I look at the profile if I like it I'll reply and If I don't I won't, the message as such is irrelevant.

So,

Hi, faf?

Isn't out of the question?

No, not out the question if you're fit with boobs!

Otherwise - no.

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By *allandathleticMan
36 weeks ago

Asgard

"A first message doesn't bother me as long as it's not faf or just Hi even worse unsolicited cock

, something I can reply to.

At the end of the day I look at the profile if I like it I'll reply and If I don't I won't, the message as such is irrelevant.

So,

Hi, faf?

Isn't out of the question?

No, not out the question if you're fit with boobs!

Otherwise - no."

Ah dammit, I'll take these tits elsewhere then.

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By *ife NinjaMan
36 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I expect the ladies to blow my penis like a flute

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Be as entitled as the most entitled Unicorn in the world!!

It works like a charm …. mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Rule 1, be attractive.

Rule 2, don't be unattractive.

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By *irthandgirthMan
36 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

From personal experience:

1. Wait until someone post a thread about food.

2. Post what I had for dinner.

3. Wait until a lady comments on my post.

4. Send lady pic of my dinner.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"From personal experience:

1. Wait until someone post a thread about food.

2. Post what I had for dinner.

3. Wait until a lady comments on my post.

4. Send lady pic of my dinner."

Meat and 2 veg?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Think it’s pretty hard for guys. If those filters are off chances are that profile have heard it all before.

It depends…Nuts sends basic intro messages usually. I will add a little bit of something personal from their profile and pics to start the convo. Also shows a bit of interest. But tbh we get the same amount of responses back so mneth. I’m just chatty so I find it hard to just say hey lol - Mrs

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By *ittlebirdWoman
36 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

See message.

Look at profile.

See if it’s of interest… ie looking for the same as me, not “fill in later”… they’re clear with their wants and what they have to offer…

Check out pics.

If I like pics… profile and message isn’t fuck now… how are you finding fab… Hi! Yada yada yada then possibly respond.

It’s as simple as that really OP.

The profile is the most important thing as is the ability to not send banal / rude / shit first messages.

Exactly the same as I would expect when I send a first message

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

What makes a good first message is showing that you have read and understood the person profile.

For example there is a word I don't like and I clearly says on my profile don't use it, it's amazing how many still use it.

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By *hunky GentMan
36 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I've just a very nice 1st message.

It almost made me blush, almost

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

That ‘first message’ bollocks

If they like you they like you

If they don’t then crack on

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By *igR93Man
36 weeks ago

Sarcasm City

Ask them what they think of Nigel Farage

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By *ornucopiaMan
36 weeks ago

Bexley

"What makes a good first message is showing that you have read and understood the person profile.

For example there is a word I don't like and I clearly says on my profile don't use it, it's amazing how many still use it. "

Even in relation to gardens?

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By *obilebottomMan
36 weeks ago

All over

Hola!

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"What makes a good first message is showing that you have read and understood the person profile.

For example there is a word I don't like and I clearly says on my profile don't use it, it's amazing how many still use it.

Even in relation to gardens?"

Most definitely then.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
36 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Proof that you've actually read my profile and a face pic.

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By *r Tom FooleryMan
36 weeks ago

Coventry

Maybe I'm shallow, but any first message from someone I'm attracted to is a good first message

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By *eroLondonMan
36 weeks ago

Mayfair

I love these threads because it allows me to reiterate my modus operandi: I don't give away my woo'ing secrets.

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