FabSwingers.com forum: Graphic messages

By *ittle Miss Tinkerbell OP Woman
over a year ago

your head

Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I love graphics. Pixel årt of introductions.

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By *ittle Miss Tinkerbell OP Woman
over a year ago

your head

"I love graphics. Pixel årt of introductions."

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

There's some people with profiles and statuses asking people to send them smut and filth of the verbal variety.

Some people just get overexcited by the idea some people like that and just spaff it at any vaguely attractive inbox, even ones with warning signs for not wanting that shit

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

It’s when they’re thinking with their little head instead of their big one…

Tbh they just make me laugh. They have zero chance of doing said things to me

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Depends on how you define work. I often get more from the flow of conversation than the topic.

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By *ittle Miss Tinkerbell OP Woman
over a year ago

your head

"Depends on how you define work. I often get more from the flow of conversation than the topic."

Fair enough if they reply. I just block personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant see the point of sending messages like "i want to breed you now. Etc etc". Not very flatering is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn. Not only are they sending it without thinking or reading on profiles who want it or not. But they are taking time and effort (or at least I hope) to make the message devious. Only resulting in a laugh and delete

At least try and start a conversation before you send the fun stuff. At least that’s how I’ve been (not as graphic. More flirtatious banter but still check before hand)

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Some of the messages my fwb gets are disgusting, will never understand why some guys think it's ok to send what they do

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By *ittle Miss Tinkerbell OP Woman
over a year ago

your head

"Damn. Not only are they sending it without thinking or reading on profiles who want it or not. But they are taking time and effort (or at least I hope) to make the message devious. Only resulting in a laugh and delete

At least try and start a conversation before you send the fun stuff. At least that’s how I’ve been (not as graphic. More flirtatious banter but still check before hand) "

Oh I'm talking full on detail like you'd get in erotica although most of what I get is not the kind of the thing I'd read if I was looking for erotica. It's generally copy and paste as well.

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By *ittle Miss Tinkerbell OP Woman
over a year ago

your head

"Some of the messages my fwb gets are disgusting, will never understand why some guys think it's ok to send what they do

God knows! Think I'm just going to go back under my rock, it's safer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least try and start a conversation before you send the fun stuff. At least that’s how I’ve been (not as graphic. More flirtatious banter but still check before hand)

Oh I'm talking full on detail like you'd get in erotica although most of what I get is not the kind of the thing I'd read if I was looking for erotica. It's generally copy and paste as well. "

Oh dear that’s worse! Don’t get me wrong I’ve had a few conversations with men, women and the occasional couple. As I do enjoy messaging erotically and with a bit of thought but it’s an instant dead give away when someone is copy and pasting. For those who do it for that mutual enjoyment it’s the ones your talking about that ruin it for us

Like someone said above. Thinking with the little head rather than the big

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"Depends on how you define work. I often get more from the flow of conversation than the topic.

Fair enough if they reply. I just block personally. "

I didn't take your post in fully, even though THINK was capitalised. Dreadfully inattentive of me, my apolyologies.

If the tone of the message conveyed the presumption that what they desire is going to happen that would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We call them one handed messages as they seek to be writing them while jerking off.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"We call them one handed messages as they seek to be writing them while jerking off."

At least they can do two things at once.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

As a first message, huge red flag..

And a delete..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"Obviously I won't post anything word for word but I'm sure get the idea. What is the need to send a random stranger a graphic message of what you THINK you're going to do to them? Does that really ever work for people? Especially as a first message. "

Yes it does work for them depending on what they were hoping for.

Many assume that the messager actually wants to meet them.

In a lot of cases they simply want to say what they say for the thrill they get from it.

It's very much like the dirty phone calls of the old days.

They can get off on that

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By *ustoursecret1Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

I’d love to receive a message like that

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

"As a first message, huge red flag..

And a delete.."

And a block

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"I’d love to receive a message like that

From a predatory man ?

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Yes it does work for them depending on what they were hoping for.

Many assume that the messager actually wants to meet them.

In a lot of cases they simply want to say what they say for the thrill they get from it.

It's very much like the dirty phone calls of the old days.

They can get off on that"

This is how I think of them, just couldn't think of a way to put as well as you did Granny!

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By *s2pervsCouple
over a year ago

Truro

The pre-internet "heavy breather call" but on social media...laugh and hang up.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

That's one of the reasons I run thing's now, she's not interested in the type of people who message like that, there's a time and a place for everything. It's ok to have a laugh on the forums but private messages are more personal.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry

It's a type n wank scenario

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks..

Might as well get deleted in style as take the time and effort of reading a profile and responding accordingly, and still get deleted!

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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago

Manchester City Centre

I think stuff like that is super cringe… unless you know each other really well - definitely not for a 1st message. Some people like it… but I’d rather do my talking face to face… I think i just prefer to chat less online in general

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By *ustoursecret1Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

"I’d love to receive a message like that

From a predatory man ?"

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Might as well get deleted in style as take the time and effort of reading a profile and responding accordingly, and still get deleted!

Style?

There's little stylish about how and what some think it's acceptable to send just to toss off to..

Every message that you've sent, well written is deleted without reply?

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

I had 3 this morning one after another from the same person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like keyboard warriors emboldened by the anonymity of the internets. Now we all lose not being able to see your profile pic close up

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By *reggSausageMan
over a year ago

derby

They should go Mills and Boon style and ‘quaff the lady clam’ insert adjective to describe genitalia peppered with Shakespeare, if there’s none of that then it’s a fail

PS I’ve stole ‘quaff the lady clam from a post on here years ago’ spat my tea out when I first read it

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By *exyScientistsCouple
over a year ago

Castlebar

Not for me it doesn't

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Rummage Under Jumper

I want run my hands up inside your cardigan and duffel coat and give you a good rummaging young lady… I should definitely be in bridgerton!!!

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks..

"Might as well get deleted in style as take the time and effort of reading a profile and responding accordingly, and still get deleted!

Style?

There's little stylish about how and what some think it's acceptable to send just to toss off to..

Every message that you've sent, well written is deleted without reply?

It was said in jess really.

I've never sent an unacceptable message.

There is no point in making crude crass messages. It just get a delete and block.

The point i was making is that you can be sensible, responsive to a profiles wishes and thoughtful and still get an instant delete.

A respectful not our type or no this time to a well worded thought out message goes a long way.

Yes i get the abundance of messages some get, just a nice reply to a nice message is always well received. Whereas the straight delete is what the inappropiate deserves.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Might as well get deleted in style as take the time and effort of reading a profile and responding accordingly, and still get deleted!

Style?

There's little stylish about how and what some think it's acceptable to send just to toss off to..

Every message that you've sent, well written is deleted without reply?

It was said in jess really.

I've never sent an unacceptable message.

There is no point in making crude crass messages. It just get a delete and block.

The point i was making is that you can be sensible, responsive to a profiles wishes and thoughtful and still get an instant delete.

A respectful not our type or no this time to a well worded thought out message goes a long way.

Yes i get the abundance of messages some get, just a nice reply to a nice message is always well received. Whereas the straight delete is what the inappropiate deserves."

I didn't think you had done

We always respond accordingly but yes some will just block and delete regardless..

Hey ho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much the same as the messages women receive offering them '10 inches of throbbing cock waiting for you'. Even glossing over the self-objectification of it, statistically there will be some woman out there at some point looking for that. It doesn't seem like a high-probability strategy though.

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By *ffervescentMan
over a year ago

winfrith

I would never send a graphic message to a complete stranger and I guess the only reason a guy might do this is if he never expects to get a reply so maybe it's his only turn on on this site .

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By *oleene HoneybeeWoman
over a year ago

on the naughty side of the street

I sometimes ask in my profile update for people's filthiest fantasy. Which is fun and OK.

But If they send me something graphic out of nowhere doesn't matter if 1st msg or 38th msg.

It gives me the ick & I delete it

Most of time I wish I hadn't read it just deleted straight away.

I find it's best to ask yourself.

would you come upto someone at the bar and say that face to face.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I just received a message from a guy, worded in such a way that he was clearly aware of what my profile says, and had deliberately chosen to ignore the fact that I don't seek men, I don't play online or video-chat, I have no interest in cams and that I don't want to receive cock shots.

How he expected any other response than me calling him out on his behaviour, then blocking him, I cannot fathom.

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By *ffervescentMan
over a year ago

winfrith

"I sometimes ask in my profile update for people's filthiest fantasy. Which is fun and OK.

But If they send me something graphic out of nowhere doesn't matter if 1st msg or 38th msg.

It gives me the ick & I delete it

Most of time I wish I hadn't read it just deleted straight away.

I find it's best to ask yourself.

would you come upto someone at the bar and say that face to face.

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Exactly I think you have to mirror life when you message here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just gross, there's nothing worse than someone who hasn't even seen your face describing what he wants to do to you...

And it's always what "he wants"

And it's always a he!

Any holes a goal though right

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By *oleene HoneybeeWoman
over a year ago

on the naughty side of the street

"It's just gross, there's nothing worse than someone who hasn't even seen your face describing what he wants to do to you...

And it's always what "he wants"

And it's always a he!

Any holes a goal though right

Exactly... Or a fake couple profile

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks..

"It's just gross, there's nothing worse than someone who hasn't even seen your face describing what he wants to do to you...

And it's always what "he wants"

And it's always a he!

Any holes a goal though right

If a profile appeals, and has no photos my message comes with the caveat, after exchanging photos.

Some may go on the fact every holes a goal.

But a single guy turn down a woman at a club or party, now thats lighting the blue touch paper! Take cover!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think messages like these, the aim is to invoke the feeling you get when you read well written erotica.

The problem they face is, the words "well written" are important here.

As someone who's dabbled in erotica, their attempts make me as wet as the Sahara desert.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I just received a message from a guy, worded in such a way that he was clearly aware of what my profile says, and had deliberately chosen to ignore the fact that I don't seek men, I don't play online or video-chat, I have no interest in cams and that I don't want to receive cock shots.

How he expected any other response than me calling him out on his behaviour, then blocking him, I cannot fathom."

The two standard responses I see to this sort of thing are "if you don't ask you don't get" and "awww, but its a sex site innit (sic)"

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By *allandathleticMan
over a year ago

Asgard

Whatever happened to class and decorum.

I wouldn't walk up to a woman in the street and say

"I'm going to....."

So I certainly won't here, UNLESS, there is a reciprocated conversation that leads that way. But it takes a while.

Certainly NEVER as an opening message.

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks..

"I think messages like these, the aim is to invoke the feeling you get when you read well written erotica.

The problem they face is, the words "well written" are important here.

As someone who's dabbled in erotica, their attempts make me as wet as the Sahara desert."

I have no issue with conforming to the well written part,as long as it is respected and not just well deleted.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Yes it does work for them depending on what they were hoping for.

Many assume that the messager actually wants to meet them.

In a lot of cases they simply want to say what they say for the thrill they get from it.

It's very much like the dirty phone calls of the old days.

They can get off on that

This is how I think of them, just couldn't think of a way to put as well as you did Granny!"

Reminds me of something a friend, who was a sex worker, used to say.

If they're getting off on it I just tell them they have to pay or I'm hanging up.

I guess some people are just tight-fisted, you'd think it would only take them a few minutes with such a grip.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry

How he expected any other response than me calling him out on his behaviour, then blocking him, I cannot fathom.

The two standard responses I see to this sort of thing are "if you don't ask you don't get" and "awww, but its a sex site innit (sic)""

Innit a sex site tho Swing, God lives a tryer....

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Graphical messages are just an instant block.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I've received all sorts of graphic messages including those assuming I'm a Domme with detailed BDSM themes.

Thet usually get a sarcastic response and a block.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They leave me absolutely cold, I had one from a bloke in my area for the eve. A graphic speil about how he'd start with a massage and then full detail how it would go after.

I find it annoying they presume if enjoy it and with a random man I've never seen or spoken to.

It's an instant delete and block from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women always moaning ??????

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Women always moaning ??????"

No, men not reading profiles and thinking with their cock...

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By *inkycumsluttWoman
over a year ago

St Neots

They're the ones thinking with the head between their legs and not the one attached to their neck.

They do make me laugh though, let em crack on just for the entertainment alone

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

You can't beat a filthy message filled with helvetica and futura bold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like naughty conversations with someone I know/am vibing with, though when a person sends it to a stranger without invitation, it's for self gratification & not to entice the receiver, since they don't know if the receiver would welcome it or find it offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same goes for dick pics... If there's no context/ invitation, is it any different to a random flasher in the park?!

Where as, between 2 people with consensual context, it can be super fun.

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By *urry BlokeMan
over a year ago

My usual first response is 'oh, bore off'

My second is the block button

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Women always moaning ??????

No, men not reading profiles and thinking with their cock..."

Some men not thinking at all..

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By *rBobbMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

In all honesty. I have never sent one or received one. I can't say I want to either.

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By *WB85Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

My partner gets them a lot.

They don't get a reply.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

Instant block from me!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Only if they are done in the same style as 300

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Only if they are done in the same style as 300"

This. Is. SQUIRTING!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think messages like these, the aim is to invoke the feeling you get when you read well written erotica.

The problem they face is, the words "well written" are important here.

As someone who's dabbled in erotica, their attempts make me as wet as the Sahara desert.

I have no issue with conforming to the well written part,as long as it is respected and not just well deleted."

You'll find that the norms of the site care not whether you are concerned about deletion.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

How he expected any other response than me calling him out on his behaviour, then blocking him, I cannot fathom.

The two standard responses I see to this sort of thing are "if you don't ask you don't get" and "awww, but its a sex site innit (sic)"

Innit a sex site tho Swing, God lives a tryer....

Mr "

I'm reminded of a shirt that was sold a lot when I was at university. "Jesus loves you, everyone else thinks you're an arsehole"

God may indeed love a trier...

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By *ittle Miss Tinkerbell OP Woman
over a year ago

your head

"Women always moaning ??????"

Yes, I was having a moan, it's allowed. Also doesn't make the content of these messages okay. As someone said further up, you wouldn't just walk up to someone face to face and say it so why is it okay on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did for me. The mother in law loved it!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

east of Stamford

The most graphic I get is 'can I suck your cock?'

That's not going to win any awards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most graphic I get is 'can I suck your cock?'

That's not going to win any awards.

What? You mean your cock?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

east of Stamford

"The most graphic I get is 'can I suck your cock?'

That's not going to win any awards.

What? You mean your cock?"

Yes, that what I wrote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most graphic I get is 'can I suck your cock?'

That's not going to win any awards.

What? You mean your cock?

Yes, that what I wrote. "

Your cocks not going to win any awards?

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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago

South Newton

Nope, I need something more than ******

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I need something more than ******"

I know what you like your messages to be about cream teas and blue ice cream.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

east of Stamford

"The most graphic I get is 'can I suck your cock?'

That's not going to win any awards.

What? You mean your cock?

Yes, that what I wrote.

Your cocks not going to win any awards?"

That's not what I said.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

My usual response is "tldr"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's not even a long message if what they'd do to me. "I would rim you" seems to do the trick

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My usual response is "tldr" "

I'm often tempted to copy paste it into word and mark it up, like I'm at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had one of these in ages, I miss them.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I haven't had one of these in ages, I miss them. "

I'll forward any I get onto you.

Loving the red btw!

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