FabSwingers.com forum: Small talk who sees it as an ick

By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

Who rather straight talk rather than beating around the bush no pun intended

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I can’t do small talk.

I often say, I can’t beat around a bush as I’d need to grow one before I can start beating.

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

"I can’t do small talk.

I often say, I can’t beat around a bush as I’d need to grow one before I can start beating.

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yes I'm with you, not about pen pals is it x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex

Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I natter.

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

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yes have to break the ice iget that but, say it as it is life is to short to chat about the weather x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex

I really prefer a few 'how are yous?' and 'terrible weathers ' before we get down to the north gritty

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

Guess it depends on what you mean by small talk?

I like to chat to people and don't really go straight into the sex chat if that's what you mean, so I think I disagree! It's not an ick for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

yes have to break the ice iget that but, say it as it is life is to short to chat about the weather x"

But we're British, we always chat about the weather (and we queue)

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By *uctifanoWoman
30 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

This… and good communication leads to many things

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

yes have to break the ice iget that but, say it as it is life is to short to chat about the weather x"

Can you give me examples of saying it as it is?

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By *lasgowgent35Man
30 weeks ago

Glasgow

"I really prefer a few 'how are yous?' and 'terrible weathers ' before we get down to the north gritty"

Girl let me feel the raindrops falling down all over my love

I want it soakin' wet all over the bed I want the rain to come

Let me feel the raindrops falling down all over my love

I want it soakin' wet all over the bed I want the rain to come

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

yes have to break the ice iget that but, say it as it is life is to short to chat about the weather x

But we're British, we always chat about the weather (and we queue)"

Can you kill two birds with one stone? Queue, but also use the opportunity to line up a shag with the person in front? "Nice arse" usually does it, right?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

This… and good communication leads to many things

I think you need to build up, it's establishing trust a bit like an animal circling it's prey

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Guess it depends on what you mean by small talk?

I like to chat to people and don't really go straight into the sex chat if that's what you mean, so I think I disagree! It's not an ick for me."

By small talk I merely meant the small talk akin to that forced on you say when you’re at the hairdressers or the nail salon. That’s the shit I can’t do.

Small talk in here is not the same.

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

"I really prefer a few 'how are yous?' and 'terrible weathers ' before we get down to the north gritty"
I get you, I guess if the small talk has a bit of banter and a bit conversation it makes the difference x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I really prefer a few 'how are yous?' and 'terrible weathers ' before we get down to the north gritty

Girl let me feel the raindrops falling down all over my love

I want it soakin' wet all over the bed I want the rain to come

Let me feel the raindrops falling down all over my love

I want it soakin' wet all over the bed I want the rain to come

well that would certainly get a weather conversation going

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

"Guess it depends on what you mean by small talk?

I like to chat to people and don't really go straight into the sex chat if that's what you mean, so I think I disagree! It's not an ick for me.

By small talk I merely meant the small talk akin to that forced on you say when you’re at the hairdressers or the nail salon. That’s the shit I can’t do.

Small talk in here is not the same."

Oh yep, I don't chat to my hairdresser! I assumed the OP meant here...

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Guess it depends on what you mean by small talk?

I like to chat to people and don't really go straight into the sex chat if that's what you mean, so I think I disagree! It's not an ick for me.

By small talk I merely meant the small talk akin to that forced on you say when you’re at the hairdressers or the nail salon. That’s the shit I can’t do.

Small talk in here is not the same.

Oh yep, I don't chat to my hairdresser! I assumed the OP meant here...

I’m assuming he meant here too! I’m just saying the differences in small talk types.

Don’t think OP wants to stick his dick in his hairdresser.

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

"Guess it depends on what you mean by small talk?

I like to chat to people and don't really go straight into the sex chat if that's what you mean, so I think I disagree! It's not an ick for me.

By small talk I merely meant the small talk akin to that forced on you say when you’re at the hairdressers or the nail salon. That’s the shit I can’t do.

Small talk in here is not the same.

Oh yep, I don't chat to my hairdresser! I assumed the OP meant here...

I’m assuming he meant here too! I’m just saying the differences in small talk types.

Don’t think OP wants to stick his dick in his hairdresser.

Hey, let's not pre-judge...

"Short back and sides, please, and a quick bunk-up for a tip..."

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

It's obviously nice to be nice and definitely not about going straight into the naughty stuff but definitely not about 20 messages with the hey/hi ect ect aa can go on for week's, it's good to know if have the same intentions from early on as time is valuable so getting to the point is best for both partys early on I say x

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By *ddie1966Man
30 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Talking for the sake of talking, when actions speak louder than words.

It's nice to learn at least a little about each other, but as the lady said, thats what oils the wheels.

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

yes have to break the ice iget that but, say it as it is life is to short to chat about the weather x

Can you give me examples of saying it as it is? "
so reading someone's profile, looking at there pictures and saying hey hope your good I've read profile and your pictures are great, how are you finding it on here and what you looking for on here x

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not a fan of small talk, I'd rather talk about things sincerely.

But that doesn't mean I'm going to jump straight into sex - I just don't like formulaic platitudes

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
30 weeks ago

The Continental

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

yes have to break the ice iget that but, say it as it is life is to short to chat about the weather x

Can you give me examples of saying it as it is? so reading someone's profile, looking at there pictures and saying hey hope your good I've read profile and your pictures are great, how are you finding it on here and what you looking for on here x"

That’s the very small talk that you claim you don't want to get involved with though.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Hey, let's not pre-judge...

"Short back and sides, please, and a quick bunk-up for a tip...""

I can’t win with you.

If he wants quickie with his hairdresser I hope he gets it and it’s good. I only meant I wasn’t assuming he was on about his hairdresser and sex in his OP. x

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

"I'm not a fan of small talk, I'd rather talk about things sincerely.

But that doesn't mean I'm going to jump straight into sex - I just don't like formulaic platitudes "
that's my perception too x

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

Hey, let's not pre-judge...

"Short back and sides, please, and a quick bunk-up for a tip..."

I can’t win with you.

If he wants quickie with his hairdresser I hope he gets it and it’s good. I only meant I wasn’t assuming he was on about his hairdresser and sex in his OP. x "

Haha, I know. I was only joking! I needed a bigger smiley emoji or something!

I wonder if this exchange counts as small talk...

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By *arl17Man
30 weeks ago

Central Portugal

"Small talk oils the wheels of communication I think.

yes have to break the ice iget that but, say it as it is life is to short to chat about the weather x

Can you give me examples of saying it as it is? "

No example... Just wondering where the bush is?

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Hey, let's not pre-judge...

"Short back and sides, please, and a quick bunk-up for a tip..."

I can’t win with you.

If he wants quickie with his hairdresser I hope he gets it and it’s good. I only meant I wasn’t assuming he was on about his hairdresser and sex in his OP. x

Haha, I know. I was only joking! I needed a bigger smiley emoji or something!

I wonder if this exchange counts as small talk...

No, it would be small talk if I asked you where you’ve recently found the most scrumptious almon croissants.

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

Hey, let's not pre-judge...

"Short back and sides, please, and a quick bunk-up for a tip..."

I can’t win with you.

If he wants quickie with his hairdresser I hope he gets it and it’s good. I only meant I wasn’t assuming he was on about his hairdresser and sex in his OP. x

Haha, I know. I was only joking! I needed a bigger smiley emoji or something!

I wonder if this exchange counts as small talk...

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lol

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London

Hey, let's not pre-judge...

"Short back and sides, please, and a quick bunk-up for a tip..."

I can’t win with you.

If he wants quickie with his hairdresser I hope he gets it and it’s good. I only meant I wasn’t assuming he was on about his hairdresser and sex in his OP. x

Haha, I know. I was only joking! I needed a bigger smiley emoji or something!

I wonder if this exchange counts as small talk...

No, it would be small talk if I asked you where you’ve recently found the most scrumptious almon croissants.

Now we're talking...! How could chat about croissants give anyone the ick?!?!

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

Hey, let's not pre-judge...

"Short back and sides, please, and a quick bunk-up for a tip..."

I can’t win with you.

If he wants quickie with his hairdresser I hope he gets it and it’s good. I only meant I wasn’t assuming he was on about his hairdresser and sex in his OP. x

Haha, I know. I was only joking! I needed a bigger smiley emoji or something!

I wonder if this exchange counts as small talk...

No, it would be small talk if I asked you where you’ve recently found the most scrumptious almon croissants.

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Just out of curiosity where are the croissants lol x

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
30 weeks ago

The Continental

Enough small talk already!

FAF

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By *arl17Man
30 weeks ago

Central Portugal

Waste of time..

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Hey, let's not pre-judge...

"Short back and sides, please, and a quick bunk-up for a tip..."

I can’t win with you.

If he wants quickie with his hairdresser I hope he gets it and it’s good. I only meant I wasn’t assuming he was on about his hairdresser and sex in his OP. x

Haha, I know. I was only joking! I needed a bigger smiley emoji or something!

I wonder if this exchange counts as small talk...

No, it would be small talk if I asked you where you’ve recently found the most scrumptious almon croissants.

Just out of curiosity where are the croissants lol x"

Ask YOLO, I reckon he keeps a list.

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By *jj2012 OP Man
30 weeks ago

Barry

"Enough small talk already!

FAF

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VCfjl facts lol

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Mayfair

From small talk grows the beanstalk of great expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"From small talk grows the beanstalk of great expectations. "

Ask no questions and you’ll be told no lies.

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By *oney HoneyWoman
30 weeks ago

York

I will chat to people about anything and everything!! Yes we are all on fab because we like sex, but for me it’s not ALL about sex!! It’s making new naughty friends, and I am unlikely to want to get kinky with someone who I can’t chat to!

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Mayfair

"From small talk grows the beanstalk of great expectations.

Ask no questions and you’ll be told no lies. "

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I look forward to our tea-stained tête-à-tête.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Who rather straight talk rather than beating around the bush no pun intended

I’ll talk to anyone. Straight talk or small talk.

Im getting used to simple talk though thanks to social media (with basic simple dry replies) so that help.

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By *ealitybitesMan
30 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't talk about sex with anyone I'm not already having sex with so if they aren't capable of having a conversation that doesn't involve sex we won't be compatible end of.

Small talk is a great filter.

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By *eliWoman
30 weeks ago

Yeah... I don't want just sex talk because I'm not here for just sex.

Equally I don't want months of "Hey, how are you? Good thanks, how are you?". I want something that I can sink my teeth in to, that makes me want to reply, find out more about you. Not constantly exchanging the briefest, most tedious of polite sentences.

There's got to be a happy medium. Well, I know there is one.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

Doesn’t bother me, I understand it’s part of the whole “ getting to know you “ process, the mrs on the other hand hates it.

The mr

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By *ustBoWoman
30 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I like someone who can hold a conversation with me on here. Call that small talk or whatever you like.

Those who want sex talk all the time bore the crap out of me and are usually the ones who are just looking wank material and are also the ones who are more likely not to show up for a meet.

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By *orksRockerMan
30 weeks ago

Bradford

Sounds like some people don't like to participate in the art of conversation, which I think is essential before I decide I want to meet someone... There has to be chemistry and you know when you know.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
30 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I’m not here to talk about the weather. I’m also not here to say I’ll instantly meet you to fuck.

It’s about having a conversation… A two way one… for me.

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By *alandNitaCouple
30 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Who rather straight talk rather than beating around the bush no pun intended

Surely small talk is just about finding something bigger to talk about?

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
30 weeks ago

Leeds

Too much small talk irritates me, I know a little needs to be done.

By straight talk if you are meaning sexual talk immediately then no that's an even bigger turn off, nothing worse than some bloke that hasn't even seen my face describing what he wants to do to me

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By *rHotNottsMan
30 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I can do it in a large event so as not to appear unsociable ,but If I have the energy I prefer a proper conversation

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By *ellinever70Woman
30 weeks ago

Ayrshire

It's a bit unimaginative to think that small talk has to revolve around just the weather

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30 weeks ago

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
30 weeks ago

somewhere

It gives me a huge "ick" when you are chatting to someone and all they talk about is what they wanna do to you, everything that comes out their mouth is something sex related.

Or am I getting the impression this is what you want op?:

Hi, wanna bang?

Yes

Meet me here

You meet less than 2 hours later, you bang and then you are on your way?

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