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By (user no longer on site) OP   
25 weeks ago

No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

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By *ex LutherMan
25 weeks ago

Closer than you think


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

"

Always, I tend to always put myself down a notch or two

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I just assume I’m always, always reaching above my class. If I’m attracted to someone, it’s precisely because I think they’re amazing. That’s why I want you in the first place, y’know?

So … from my point of view, I’m *always* punching. But that won’t stop me grabbing the opportunity with both hands.

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By *ex LutherMan
25 weeks ago

Closer than you think

I would never cancel though.

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By *oewes69Man
25 weeks ago

wakefield

Always try to punch above for nothing. Im very much aware that this will never happen 9 out of 10 times. If the offer was their then yes i would be nervous.

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London

In the past I used to think I was seriously punching with some men.

I've since realised I do good sex and blow jobs, so my physical appearance isn't important to them.

We aren't going to be seen in public, so they don't care that I'm old, fat and scruffy.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

If I’m not punching I wouldn’t be persuing in the first place.

Aim high, if it happens it happens

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
25 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm always punching but I don't care they are either into me or not.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
25 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

About two years ago an absurdly beautiful man I'd thought was just being friendly for years openly said he was into me.

It took me a while to process. What on earth would that absolute adonis want with some weird chaos gremlin like me?

But it's not always about looks

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By *ot to giggleWoman
25 weeks ago

Coventry


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

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god yes or consider how on earth you got into that situation!!! but hey - as i was told - dont over think it !!!!

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
25 weeks ago

Leeds


"About two years ago an absurdly beautiful man I'd thought was just being friendly for years openly said he was into me.

It took me a while to process. What on earth would that absolute adonis want with some weird chaos gremlin like me?

But it's not always about looks "

Weird chaos gremlin is definitely not something I'd use to describe you.

And I'm not surprised at all he'd be into you.

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By *iberius61Man
25 weeks ago

Pontefract

In my youth yeah, as I got older I somehow stopped believing in the hotness score system. Just because I think they're a 10, someone else might not, the only real issue is when someone has convinced themselves they're a 10 and only want others who they think are a 10 also.

Also, I banged a supermodel type once, long legs, slim, blond hair, I mean honestly more of an 11 than a 10...most boring sex ever, she just laid there and took no real part. My enjoyment was to come from the fact that she had lowered herself to shag a 'less than 10'.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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25 weeks ago

East Sussex

I never feel I'm less than anyone else in anything but intelligence or should that be knowledge.

The reason I won't meet younger men though is because I feel they don't really know what a woman of my age actually looks like. Is that the same thing? I don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

No because I only meet those who are tens in my eyes.

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By *oo..Woman
25 weeks ago

Boo's World

No one is better than anyone else on here.

All the people that believe themselves to be a 10/10 really aren't, as everyone has faults even if they won't ever admit it to themselves.

If anyone makes someone else feel "not worthy" of meeting them or makes them doubt themselves in general I'd not bother meeting them as they will be worse and more obnoxious in person.

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London

I've met some men with what you might call banging bodies over the years.

I was just searching my emails for a pic and came across some I'd been sent.

I was a lot younger, slimmer and fitter back then, though.

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By *eliWoman
25 weeks ago

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I'm going to reply very honestly now. It's not so much about hotness for me as it is about the whole package. That rare personality that compliments and encourages mine. A person who can calm my mind (it's constantly on the go). Someone who excites me intellectually, there's that delightful mutual mental masturbation I adore. That scintillating easy conversation that has you wanting to learn them in more than a physical sense.

Anyway, it's happened a couple of times on here. Not for a good few years. And one time I sort of... fizzled the conversation because I was nervous and thought "how could someone like that like me?". In my mind I was very unattractive, really rather dull and not the sort of woman who could keep anyone's attention.

Got in my own head and regretted it.

Happy ending though. I'm not going to allow that to happen again. Sometimes I'll read a message and think "fuck they're truly something" but... I've found a lot of confidence, especially over the past few months. I've also got a fierce desire to live and try. Things might not work but at least I tried. There's fun in that.

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
25 weeks ago

Wirral

Yeah I fab some HOT guys pics but have no intention of meeting them. I feel like they would very disappointed once they actually met me

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By *illy IdolMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands


"No one is better than anyone else on here.

All the people that believe themselves to be a 10/10 really aren't, as everyone has faults even if they won't ever admit it to themselves.

If anyone makes someone else feel "not worthy" of meeting them or makes them doubt themselves in general I'd not bother meeting them as they will be worse and more obnoxious in person. "

What's the highest I can be then without being obnoxious?

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By *electableicecreamMan
25 weeks ago

The West

Yes. I spent a large part of my life feeling like that about most people I was attracted to. Then I got engaged to the most confident, smart, beautiful and outrageously sexy woman I had ever seen. It took me a while but it was through that relationship I began to process my impostor syndrome challenges and started to accept the value I had to others.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
25 weeks ago

Wales

I constantly feel like I'm punching on here. But it doesn't stop me, if you don't ask, you don't get, right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
25 weeks ago


"I just assume I’m always, always reaching above my class. If I’m attracted to someone, it’s precisely because I think they’re amazing. That’s why I want you in the first place, y’know?

So … from my point of view, I’m *always* punching. But that won’t stop me grabbing the opportunity with both hands."

Well yeah ,but you can be attracted to different people.

Then there's one that's just a little bit more....oh.

You know?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
25 weeks ago


"I would never cancel though."

I wouldn't cancel, I would just avoid making plans.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

East Sussex


"No one is better than anyone else on here.

All the people that believe themselves to be a 10/10 really aren't, as everyone has faults even if they won't ever admit it to themselves.

If anyone makes someone else feel "not worthy" of meeting them or makes them doubt themselves in general I'd not bother meeting them as they will be worse and more obnoxious in person. "

I think this is more about people not quite able to believe that someone they perceive to be really good looking finds them attractive

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By *ellhungvweMan
25 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I don’t get the whole punching/league thing -people are people and everyone is looking for something. I might be that something for one and the complete opposite for the other. I can live with that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
25 weeks ago


"In the past I used to think I was seriously punching with some men.

I've since realised I do good sex and blow jobs, so my physical appearance isn't important to them.

We aren't going to be seen in public, so they don't care that I'm old, fat and scruffy."

Ah see, I don't do good sex or blow jobs.

I'm quite amusing after rum though, men like that right?

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By *dventuresofLandSCouple
25 weeks ago

Lincoln

I feel like that everyday when I wake up next to my beautiful wife.

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By *oo..Woman
25 weeks ago

Boo's World


"No one is better than anyone else on here.

All the people that believe themselves to be a 10/10 really aren't, as everyone has faults even if they won't ever admit it to themselves.

If anyone makes someone else feel "not worthy" of meeting them or makes them doubt themselves in general I'd not bother meeting them as they will be worse and more obnoxious in person.

I think this is more about people not quite able to believe that someone they perceive to be really good looking finds them attractive "

Comes from the same place though of them believing they've never been good enough looks wise or if someone has been a dick and told them that previously when it may well not be true.

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By *oo..Woman
25 weeks ago

Boo's World


"No one is better than anyone else on here.

All the people that believe themselves to be a 10/10 really aren't, as everyone has faults even if they won't ever admit it to themselves.

If anyone makes someone else feel "not worthy" of meeting them or makes them doubt themselves in general I'd not bother meeting them as they will be worse and more obnoxious in person.

What's the highest I can be then without being obnoxious?"

Maybe stay quiet?

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
25 weeks ago

St Neots

We've certainly been approached by people that I believe are much more attractive than us.

Do we believe what they say? Not usually.

Not saying this applies to you OP at all because.. Well you look stunning from I've seen. But there is alot of guys that will "scrape the barrel" kind of thing and it feels like they are probably only messaging us because they've failed with more attractive people.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
25 weeks ago

Leeds


"I feel like that everyday when I wake up next to my beautiful wife.

3 "

Arw!! That's cute! I'd feel the same next to your wife

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By *igronnie89Man
25 weeks ago

near you


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

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Dont consider myself a 1/10 let alone a 10/10, i dont like all this type stuff, looks are everything i believe personality is everything, if they make you laugh or smile

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By *mmaleiaWoman
25 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

It surprises me a lot, good looking guys on here don’t mind bigger girls

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
25 weeks ago

Wales


"I feel like that everyday when I wake up next to my beautiful wife.

3 "

That just made something happen in the space where my heart used to be

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
25 weeks ago

somewhere

I think most of the men I go for I'm punching and that does include my own husband!

I've met some (in my opinion) so hot men and I do wonder what they see in me but I guess the answer is: I'm agreeing to sex at the end of the day, would they want to be seen with me outside a bedroom situation? Highly doubtful.

I don't have huge self esteem for myself, I know it's a huge problem and I'm not looking for validation (or a random pm thank you), I have a husband who loves me and does like to be seen with me.

X

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London


"I'm going to reply very honestly now. It's not so much about hotness for me as it is about the whole package. That rare personality that compliments and encourages mine. A person who can calm my mind (it's constantly on the go). Someone who excites me intellectually, there's that delightful mutual mental masturbation I adore. That scintillating easy conversation that has you wanting to learn them in more than a physical sense.

Anyway, it's happened a couple of times on here. Not for a good few years. And one time I sort of... fizzled the conversation because I was nervous and thought "how could someone like that like me?". In my mind I was very unattractive, really rather dull and not the sort of woman who could keep anyone's attention.

Got in my own head and regretted it.

Happy ending though. I'm not going to allow that to happen again. Sometimes I'll read a message and think "fuck they're truly something" but... I've found a lot of confidence, especially over the past few months. I've also got a fierce desire to live and try. Things might not work but at least I tried. There's fun in that."

I had a really enjoyable conversation about a zombie apocalypse plan and the London sewage system, with a scientific doctor. The sex afterwards was oooh!!

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By *llie AssMan
25 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

When really fit people message me I'm always thrown into what is really quite a silly phase of self-deprecation, but I'm always worried that people will meet me and feel short changed

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
25 weeks ago

Where ever I lay my hat

I think it comes down to self confidence and mutual attraction.

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By *rBobbMan
25 weeks ago

Birmingham

I do feel like I'm punching at times. Especially when you connect with someone who is a lovely person and beautiful in every way.

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By *ildmanYorksMan
25 weeks ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

I don't punch. More like poking above my weight

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By *ansoffateMan
25 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

My anxiety ball is more that I worry they will find me hot and I'll need more time.

How will they take it? I've had a few negative reactions when I've rejected advances.

And then if I do experience an early attraction, it's so rare, I don't really know what to do with myself.

I have had a few experiences on here were I have felt a wow really you... me? . I don't think of myself as attractive. I don't feel negative towards myself, but yeah it's been a thing with a few people; they have pressed the issue. The best I can usually say is: I appreciate that you find me attractive, can we leave it there?

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By *illy IdolMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands

I think a lot of us think we're punching at times. We often see the good qualities in others and overlook our own good qualities

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By *wayfoxyCouple
25 weeks ago

Chester le street


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

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you are hot as hell though,the other person would be punching

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By *esthetic21Man
25 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

It wouldn't matter if they were decent human being

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By *eliWoman
25 weeks ago

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"Anyway, it's happened a couple of times on here. Not for a good few years, five plus. And one time I sort of... fizzled the conversation because I was nervous and thought "how could someone like that like me?". In my mind I was very unattractive, really rather dull and not the sort of woman who could keep anyone's attention.

Got in my own head and regretted it.

Happy ending though. I'm not going to allow that to happen again. Sometimes I'll read a message and think "fuck they're truly something" but... I've found a lot of confidence, especially over the past few months. I've also got a fierce desire to live and try. Things might not work but at least I tried. There's fun in that.

I had a really enjoyable conversation about a zombie apocalypse plan and the London sewage system, with a scientific doctor. The sex afterwards was oooh!!"

Oh the sexiness of the London sewage system - I can imagine you just about resisted the urge to put your hands on each other. :D

(No I'm teasing - that sort of engaging conversation is something I really enjoy)

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
25 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

I’ve never really gone for the ‘out of my league’ , ‘punching above my weight’ type of thing, I don’t consider myself a lesser being. Equally I don’t consider myself above others, well apart from the French, obviously, but other than that, not.

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By *eroLondonMan
25 weeks ago

Covent Garden

There is an extant conversation with a young lady that I'm engaged in on here, "here" being Fab in general and not the forå.

I'm waaay out of her league and punching well and truly above my weight. She's erudite, polished, a professional (yes, that term again!), has a flair in using six words when only two will suffice, replies with missives and narratives to keep me on my toes, contrasts her slim frame against the backdrop of my average bod' and her countenance bears all the hallmarks of an artist's muse.

I know I'm living in a fools paradise and my downfall will be spectacular when she finally comes to her senses.

Oh, and she's proper fuckin' fit.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
25 weeks ago

Castlebar


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

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Yes and sometimes probably wouldn't meet because we/I would feel that they couldn't be genuinely interested in either of us.

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By *r John WickMan
25 weeks ago

The Continental

I’ll initially have that moment of “why me?”. But it rarely lasts more than a few fleeting moments before I’m thinking “oh yeah, because I’m not a bad bit of crumpet”

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By *eyond PurityCouple
25 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

The fact people think they are punching means they don’t think of themselves as Worldies.

Whilst I don’t agree with leagues and people being above people, etc, there are some people we’ve messaged and got positives responses that I’ve thought ‘get in, I wasn’t expecting that’.

But I also believe in the power of positively and getting what you hope for.

I was certainly doing that when I reached out to C when we were singles on here

K

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By *ustaboutSaneMan
25 weeks ago

My World

We rarely see ourselves as others do and for many it's not the looks that take precedence but a mental connection, humour or simply being heard.

Punch above your weight and if you do really good sex you'll hold someone and then you'll question again why do they keep returning until you realise you're giving them a package they're after, not just an item from the package.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
25 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Sort of, but not in the way I think you mean, Coyote.

I don't question the physical attraction. People like all kinds of bodies, after all.

I like my personality, but I don't expect other people to. My very occasional tiny worry is that once they get to know me a bit they'll find me slightly too weird to be attractive and lose interest. However, it's not a big enough anxiety to stop me from doing anything I want to do.

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By *illy IdolMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands


"There is an extant conversation with a young lady that I'm engaged in on here, "here" being Fab in general and not the forå.

I'm waaay out of her league and punching well and truly above my weight. She's erudite, polished, a professional (yes, that term again!), has a flair in using six words when only two will suffice, replies with missives and narratives to keep me on my toes, contrasts her slim frame against the backdrop of my average bod' and her countenance bears all the hallmarks of an artist's muse.

I know I'm living in a fools paradise and my downfall will be spectacular when she finally comes to her senses.

Oh, and she's proper fuckin' fit."

just enjoy it

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London

I'm never someone's "get in" moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
25 weeks ago


"No one is better than anyone else on here.

All the people that believe themselves to be a 10/10 really aren't, as everyone has faults even if they won't ever admit it to themselves.

If anyone makes someone else feel "not worthy" of meeting them or makes them doubt themselves in general I'd not bother meeting them as they will be worse and more obnoxious in person.

I think this is more about people not quite able to believe that someone they perceive to be really good looking finds them attractive

Comes from the same place though of them believing they've never been good enough looks wise or if someone has been a dick and told them that previously when it may well not be true. "

Yeah it's not about the other person thinking they are better.

More that you don't think you're good enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? …….

Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

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Often, when I’m talking to them or they agree to meeting up, I’m often shocked, because I do think a lot of women are easily out of my league.

Cancel??? Never, why would I? I think they are amazing and to miss a chance to share a great time with them would make me a fool. Happy times are rare, even rarer if it’s with someone I think is wonderfull.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
25 weeks ago


"It wouldn't matter if they were decent human being"

The other person is not the problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
25 weeks ago


"I’ve never really gone for the ‘out of my league’ , ‘punching above my weight’ type of thing, I don’t consider myself a lesser being. Equally I don’t consider myself above others, well apart from the French, obviously, but other than that, not. "

That's not what I mean though.

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By *osey WalesMan
25 weeks ago

Surrey

Some of the ladies i have had the pleasure of meeting, many would say i was punching.

But thats other peoples opinions. Yes i found them extremely hot but the ladies i met found something in me to make them want to meet me too. And more so if we met repeatedly.

Was i nervous meeting them initially.

Hell yes !

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By *erryGoldMan
25 weeks ago

Redditch

I'm always punching above my wieght lol

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By *ellinever70Woman
25 weeks ago

Ayrshire

No

I've a healthy self esteem and don't get caught up in self doubt

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By *ommy trucker1Man
25 weeks ago

south wales

I do look at pics vids and veris on thire profile and think I got no chance ? Buy thats not a confidence issue it's just knowing and understanding what they can have as oppose to what I want ?. Saying that a friendly confident message won't harm

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
25 weeks ago

St Neots

I think whoever this potential person is had seen this.. Would simply tell you to "stop being a silly twat and you have nothing to worry about"

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By *rHotNottsMan
25 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yeah sometimes because people are idolised, I wonder why they want to meet me and I literally asked someone once if it’s a forum dare

Just chill, no one is better than anyone else on here

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"Yeah it's not about the other person thinking they are better. More that you don't think you're good enough."

I think you’ve nailed it there. We all have those doubts about ourselves. I think the thing I realised eventually is that it’s mutual. Or at least, in pairings that work well it is. If I put you on a pedestal and you put me on one, we end up the same height and we can bang away together happily.

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By *oxy jWoman
25 weeks ago

somerset

no one should feel this way its swinging as long as the sexual attraction is there both ways then why think negative just grab it enjoy it

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By *ea monkeyMan
25 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

No. Everyone is attracted to people for different reasons and different things. I don’t think in terms of leagues, it’s just about attraction and desire. If the desire is there, then I go with that.

One of my partners has the adage; follow the attraction. I think it’s a very good principle

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Stockport

I kind of know that I must have got something to offer, but experience tells me that I'm walking a dificult road and my chances are slim. The vast majority of people that I'm attracted to feel way out of my league of experience, and I either never try to contact them or only do it at stupid o'clock in the morning so that I can excuse myself when they don't respond. There are rare occasions when someone will contact me spontaneously, maybe on the back of some comment I've made in the forums, and though I'm surprised and pleased I often feel like some kind of fraud.

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By *egDaySkipperMan
25 weeks ago

Liverpool

Fuck no, they get the privilege of my awesome personality, that's more than enough to make up any type of theoretical hotness level

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
25 weeks ago

Southampton

I get ideas above my station... need a reality check lol

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
25 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

It's weird the difference a couple of years makes. Not that long ago, when we first joined, I would've said yes.

I would still overthink things because me. But I'd probably go for it thanks to a combination of increased confidence and discovering that some people I think are ridiculously hot think the same about me.

J

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By *ittlebirdWoman
25 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I don’t see it as punching. There’s no leagues. There’s either mutual attraction or there isn’t. And the worst that can happen is they say no thanks.

I can live with that

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By *hrek101Man
25 weeks ago

Herts

On Fab always

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By *cLovin2Man
25 weeks ago

Reading


"In the past I used to think I was seriously punching with some men.

I've since realised I do good sex and blow jobs, so my physical appearance isn't important to them.

We aren't going to be seen in public, so they don't care that I'm old, fat and scruffy.

Ah see, I don't do good sex or blow jobs.

I'm quite amusing after rum though, men like that right?"

Yeah they might buy you a drink, have a laugh, then go bang the hot girl at the bar

You need to believe in yourself girl. The most successful people aren't the most educated or the most handsome/pretty. It's the ones who are most confident and believe in themselves. This is a skill we can all learn, me included.

Although I'm pretty confident now, I wasn't earlier in life. It's something I learned along the way.

I should start charging for my lessons to build self confidence

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By *cLovin2Man
25 weeks ago

Reading


"I feel like that everyday when I wake up next to my beautiful wife.

3 "

With tits like hers, I don't blame you

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By *d4fun73Man
25 weeks ago

Shipley

How do you define hotness though!

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By *d4fun73Man
25 weeks ago

Shipley


"I get ideas above my station... need a reality check lol"

No you need to come up north lol

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
25 weeks ago

Southampton


"How do you define hotness though!"

Not me

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By *lthomasMan
25 weeks ago

cardiff

100% punching in my vanilla life

Personality does count but looks & figure also play a part.

Feel I do OK on here

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By *ascaIMan
25 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

All the time. There’s people I wouldn’t even entertain messaging as I know (or think) it’d be a straight rejection. And in terms of people that have messaged me and ended up meeting I have worried I wouldn’t meet their expectations but they’ve so far always been enjoyable and I’ve realised I’ve stressed over nothing. I’m just a natural worrier. It’s a mindset I’m sure I’ll get over eventually.

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By *ust another WonkoMan
25 weeks ago

here and there

Everyone is above me here.

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By *andy CanesWoman
25 weeks ago

south


"Everyone is above me here.

"
you have better banter than some on here wonko so not everyone is above you

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I think some have high standards

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By *erryGoldMan
25 weeks ago

Redditch


"Everyone is above me here.

you have better banter than some on here wonko so not everyone is above you "

I'm not above anyone but dear God I'd love to be behind you pmsl

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
25 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

The Missus is always punching me if that counts

On a serious note, a 10 wouldn't even do her justice, she puts up with me, allows me to be myself, and accepts me flaws n all, even though I'm only a 9.5 that makes her priceless and irreplaceable....

Mr

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
25 weeks ago

your head

I used to buy into the whole "leagues" thing, then I woke up and realised I wasn't worthless when it came to people being attracted to me or finding me sexy. I don't have a big ego and I don't think everyone should find me attractive. I'm fully aware I'm a pain in the arse and an acquired taste but that doesn't make me less than anyone else or unworthy of someone's love and desire.

If I like someone, I tell them. I don't think they are out of my league regardless of how hot that are, that doesn't mean we will be compatible though.

I think that makes sense

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By *uctifanoWoman
25 weeks ago

Glasgow


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

"

I’ve been here a few years mostly I’d say no but there was one occasion I walked into the bar of the hotel my gentleman was staying in (he was from London) and I thought ohhhhh no way is this going further than a nice social drink. It was the beginning of a long friendship. He taught me a lot

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By *orthern BeardMan
25 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

"

I just always give 110%. I want someone to remember meeting me in years to come. I can only say I’ve been intimidated by women once or twice but I’ve just done bits to fill the gap

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By *laytime_13Woman
25 weeks ago

Lincs

That’s weird, I was thinking about this very same thing earlier.

I came to the conclusion it’s double standards I set myself - because if someone said they thought they were punching with me, I’d laugh and tell them not to be daft.

But if I allow my brain to run amok I could absolutely say that about myself in respect to some I chat to/have met.

But do you know what, that’s not an attractive quality and overthinking tends not to lead to pretty outcomes so I go with, it’s their decision and if they seem happy to chat or more, why not revel in it and enjoy it

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By *hunky GentMan
25 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Punching above my weight????

At 21 stone, I'm not such that's possible.

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By *andy CanesWoman
25 weeks ago

south


"Everyone is above me here.

you have better banter than some on here wonko so not everyone is above you

I'm not above anyone but dear God I'd love to be behind you pmsl "

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"Punching above my weight???? At 21 stone, I'm not such that's possible. "

I genuinely laugh-snorted at this. I think you win best answer, Chunky.

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
25 weeks ago

Wirral

This is really interesting this thread. Might start changing the way I think about things

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
25 weeks ago

Essex

I have once been on a social and thought “Dear god this man is stunning. What on earth…”

He asked for a meet at a later date.

I’ve never questioned it since.

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By *hunky GentMan
25 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Punching above my weight???? At 21 stone, I'm not such that's possible.

I genuinely laugh-snorted at this. I think you win best answer, Chunky."

Ooooo. What's my prize?

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By *hunky GentMan
25 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I have once been on a social and thought “Dear god this man is stunning. What on earth…”

He asked for a meet at a later date.

I’ve never questioned it since. "

I didn't know we'd met.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
25 weeks ago

Dartford

Personality counts for a lot in this lifestyle,.......i mean it must do as we've been very lucky on quite a few occasions lol. Seriously though, one person 10/10 could be another person's 2/10. We all have our preferences. We just try to be as genuine as we can and hate people who are up there own arse, that seems to serve us quite well.

But seriously, any unicorns about?

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By *nnCeeWoman
25 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell


"Punching above my weight????

At 21 stone, I'm not such that's possible. "

Had we still been in Jan 2023, I would have been heavier than you!

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By *ou only live onceMan
25 weeks ago

London

Punching? I'm not sure I'd phrase it like that.

Without sounding arrogant (ok, while sounding massively arrogant!), I'm confident I didn't hit every branch of the ugly tree on the way down. So, while I have loads of hang ups, I take people at their word when they say they find me attractive, as I assume they have already spotted I am short and brown by that point.

BUT, AND IT'S A BIG BUT...

I worry hugely about not living up to expectations in all kinds of ways so the point above about avoiding making plans because people will feel "short changed" really resonates with me!

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By *hunky GentMan
25 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Punching above my weight????

At 21 stone, I'm not such that's possible.

Had we still been in Jan 2023, I would have been heavier than you! "

Well. Congratulations.

They say sex is one of the best ways to exercise.

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By *ostAirmenMan
25 weeks ago

crewe

IMO a lot of people are punching on here.

The ratio of men to women is very much in the favour of women . Why would a person go for an ugly person when they could go for a beautiful person .

Also men generally again IMO are not that picky and most of the time would fuck anything .

I’m not a good looking person and in the past I have slept with some people that I am mortified about but the sex was good and fun .

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I try not to over think it. But I am an over thinker. So I do occasionally get in my own head and think why would they be interested. I don't meet when I feel this way.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Punching? No.

I may have a decade or more ago when I was a forum whore and was constantly surprised by some of the attention I got on Fab.

These days I so rarely make any proactive contact that the question doesn't enter my head. I sometimes wonder why some folk decide to get in touch with me, but we all have our reasons for choosing who floats our boat and who we find interesting and attracted to. I don't try and second guess others these days, nor do I try and work out my own choices. I can't put a finger on why someone will spark my interest that often. It just happens.

And if that interest isn't requited then that's all fine. I don't consider any form of rejection to be based on some weird 'league table'.

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By *exySiren01Woman
25 weeks ago

RCT

I always tend to check and triple check that they do realise and don't have an issue with me being a bigger girl before I agree to meet the ones I think I'm punching with lol

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By *tylebender03Man
25 weeks ago

Manchester

I’m like Manny Pacquio moving up and down the weight categories

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Nah just feel like I've been punched in the gut to be honest

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By *orace99Man
25 weeks ago

York

Always think I am punching..... One day I will get out of this paper bag

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By *urry BlokeMan
25 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I never feel like I'm punching because I have decent self worth and understand that we all have different tastes

I have been surprised at times by folk finding me attractive but I can roll with that as opposed to pushing them away

An ex of mine was stunning looking, like people gawping in the street kind of stunning

That all started because a guy who'd had to much to drink was mithering me in a pub

I started a conversation with my ex purely as an escape

It wasn't a come on, it was just a natural 'can I talk to you for a while, cos he's doing my head in' sort of intro

There was no intent and, I think for that reason alone, conversation flowed naturally and easily and we ended up together for 7 years out of that

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
25 weeks ago

Wirral.

All the blooming time!

I'm short, fat and old and I go for slightly younger, gym fit,beautiful men.

But once they realise I'm fat, and they still want to meet, I'm fine with it.

Turns out I'm pretty, good at sex & a joy to be around.

Now if I can just tell myself that when I look in the mirror

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By *ularliWoman
25 weeks ago

Worcester


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

"

Yes. I feel like that all the time and I have also not met someone because of that same reason.

I will ask that they’ve checked my photos, my size etc and ask if they are sure.

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By *orace99Man
25 weeks ago

York


"All the blooming time!

I'm short, fat and old and I go for slightly younger, gym fit,beautiful men.

But once they realise I'm fat, and they still want to meet, I'm fine with it.

Turns out I'm pretty, good at sex & a joy to be around.

Now if I can just tell myself that when I look in the mirror

"

You have a great looking body

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By *irkby coupleCouple
25 weeks ago

Kirkby

I hate that saying, Mrs always says it, I just assume she fancies who ever she is talking about.

Not all men like hot dog lips, fakes boobs and a face full of make up just like not all women like gym fit guys who spend most of their time stood in front of a mirror taking pics.

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London


"I never feel like I'm punching because I have decent self worth and understand that we all have different tastes

I have been surprised at times by folk finding me attractive but I can roll with that as opposed to pushing them away

An ex of mine was stunning looking, like people gawping in the street kind of stunning

That all started because a guy who'd had to much to drink was mithering me in a pub

I started a conversation with my ex purely as an escape

It wasn't a come on, it was just a natural 'can I talk to you for a while, cos he's doing my head in' sort of intro

There was no intent and, I think for that reason alone, conversation flowed naturally and easily and we ended up together for 7 years out of that "

I have self worth, but I still know my long term partner is much, much more attractive and desirable than me. I'm only useful for the sex stuff

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London


"I hate that saying, Mrs always says it, I just assume she fancies who ever she is talking about.

Not all men like hot dog lips, fakes boobs and a face full of make up just like not all women like gym fit guys who spend most of their time stood in front of a mirror taking pics.

"

Not all hot women have enhancements or lots of make up and not all hot men lift weights and are vain.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Not met anyone yet but definitely feel I'm punching just by being on here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
25 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I've never looked at it as punching. I always met guys where there was mutual attraction. Couldn't care if someone else thought they where a 10 or a 1 I was what I liked

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By *mf123Man
25 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

No im the peak of inhumanity

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By *hunky GentMan
25 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Form an orderly queue ladies - CG is taking names.

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
25 weeks ago

St Neots


"Not met anyone yet but definitely feel I'm punching just by being on here. "

There will always be someone for you... Unfortunately it mostly depends how far you're willing to let your standards drop

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By *viatrixWoman
25 weeks ago

Redhill

Always aim same level at the very least- and higher, much higher. Go for the f*cking stars.

Hell yes.

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By *ex HolesMan
25 weeks ago

Up North

I’m quite the catch so you better be good in return

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
25 weeks ago

Wirral.


"I’m quite the catch so you better be good in return "

Eff off Rex! You're just a fanny tease with a beautiful penis

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
25 weeks ago

St Neots


"I’m quite the catch so you better be good in return

Eff off Rex! You're just a fanny tease with a beautiful penis "

Hate when people say this because I automatically have to go look at their penis haha

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By *inUpProWoman
25 weeks ago

Liverpool

I definitely punch above my weight on here. It can be nerve wracking at times though

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By *onkeynutWoman
25 weeks ago

somewhere

On here? Yes absolutely.

I have refused to meet in the past solely because I find their good looks too…intimidating (not sure that’s the word I’m looking for but I’ll go with it)

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By *hunky GentMan
25 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"On here? Yes absolutely.

I have refused to meet in the past solely because I find their good looks too…intimidating (not sure that’s the word I’m looking for but I’ll go with it) "

Behave. You're an extremely attractive lady.

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By *ex HolesMan
25 weeks ago

Up North


"I’m quite the catch so you better be good in return

Eff off Rex! You're just a fanny tease with a beautiful penis

Hate when people say this because I automatically have to go look at their penis haha "

You look with your mouth and not your eyes

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By *reggSausageMan
25 weeks ago

derby

I’m not even a 5 so all you ten ladies …… at least most of you are polite and message me back

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By *urry BlokeMan
25 weeks ago

Stalybridge


"I never feel like I'm punching because I have decent self worth and understand that we all have different tastes

I have been surprised at times by folk finding me attractive but I can roll with that as opposed to pushing them away

An ex of mine was stunning looking, like people gawping in the street kind of stunning

That all started because a guy who'd had to much to drink was mithering me in a pub

I started a conversation with my ex purely as an escape

It wasn't a come on, it was just a natural 'can I talk to you for a while, cos he's doing my head in' sort of intro

There was no intent and, I think for that reason alone, conversation flowed naturally and easily and we ended up together for 7 years out of that

I have self worth, but I still know my long term partner is much, much more attractive and desirable than me. I'm only useful for the sex stuff "

See that used to peeve me a little

People telling me I was 'lucky' or telling me I was punching

Even had one guy come over and say 'what are you doing with him?'

There's so much more to a relationship than surface looks

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London


"I never feel like I'm punching because I have decent self worth and understand that we all have different tastes

I have been surprised at times by folk finding me attractive but I can roll with that as opposed to pushing them away

An ex of mine was stunning looking, like people gawping in the street kind of stunning

That all started because a guy who'd had to much to drink was mithering me in a pub

I started a conversation with my ex purely as an escape

It wasn't a come on, it was just a natural 'can I talk to you for a while, cos he's doing my head in' sort of intro

There was no intent and, I think for that reason alone, conversation flowed naturally and easily and we ended up together for 7 years out of that

I have self worth, but I still know my long term partner is much, much more attractive and desirable than me. I'm only useful for the sex stuff

See that used to peeve me a little

People telling me I was 'lucky' or telling me I was punching

Even had one guy come over and say 'what are you doing with him?'

There's so much more to a relationship than surface looks"

Of course there is, but I'm fully aware my sexual partners, barring one, wouldn't want anything more than sex with me, because of my age and weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"On here? Yes absolutely.

I have refused to meet in the past solely because I find their good looks too…intimidating (not sure that’s the word I’m looking for but I’ll go with it) "

Your absolutely gorgeous, any man hitting on you is punching above himself.

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By *orbidden eastMan
25 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

Sometimes, but I think if you don’t try, you won’t know.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Central

People like who they like and I don't fancy who my matches like, so I leave it for them to decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?"

I don't think many people know whose type they are.

It's always a nice surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Okay, on a serious note…

I feel confident in not punching above my weight or meeting others who are punching above theirs in meeting me.

Why such confidence? I am a slow burner type. I’m confident in what I bring to the table, and when I decide to meet someone I have always felt they matched my attributes, character, and more equally. If I felt they didn’t, I wouldn’t plan a meet up.

Attraction is far more than physical aesthetic. The way one carries themselves and the confidence they exude goes a long way for me in feeling we are equals rather than on different “standings”. I’d be put off by someone who lacked confidence in what they brought to the table and would not be keen to spend any time with them.

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By *eliWoman
25 weeks ago

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"I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?"

Cougar type. Those who like younger athletic kind of dorky men. There. Easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?

I don't think many people know whose type they are.

It's always a nice surprise "

Do you think? It's something that's caused a bit of insecurity in me when approaching people because there's that niggling thought of "what if I'm not their type?" always going round my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?

Cougar type. Those who like younger athletic kind of dorky men. There. Easy."

Excuse me, dorky?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?

I don't think many people know whose type they are.

It's always a nice surprise

Do you think? It's something that's caused a bit of insecurity in me when approaching people because there's that niggling thought of "what if I'm not their type?" always going round my head."

That's a risk you take I guess. I think it's only human to feel that insecurity when you're approaching someone. It is a nice surprise when you are their type though.

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By *ddie1966Man
25 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

My parents always told me to just be myself. There's someone out there for everyone. You just have to find them. You won't find them if you're too self conscious and think they're too good for you. Relax and go and meet people.

Sure, my confidence took a dent or two, but most people I've met or meet are just happy that I'm normal with no airs or pretenses and happy they met me and occasionally we simply click.

My advice has, and will always be, just go for it. You've nothing to lose but everything to gain, even if it's only another friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?

I don't think many people know whose type they are.

It's always a nice surprise

Do you think? It's something that's caused a bit of insecurity in me when approaching people because there's that niggling thought of "what if I'm not their type?" always going round my head.

That's a risk you take I guess. I think it's only human to feel that insecurity when you're approaching someone. It is a nice surprise when you are their type though. "

You see, I know it's nice surprise as I've experienced that in the past. But it's like, approach them? And potentially be rejected?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

The way I see it is, we are one with the universe so I believe there's no reason to feel anybody is out of anyone's league. Also, why would anybody want to meet someone they're not attracted to? If the chemistry feels right then it's all good, if not we simply move on. Nervous no, excited yes, in that I could be meeting someone very special.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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25 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?

I don't think many people know whose type they are.

It's always a nice surprise

Do you think? It's something that's caused a bit of insecurity in me when approaching people because there's that niggling thought of "what if I'm not their type?" always going round my head.

That's a risk you take I guess. I think it's only human to feel that insecurity when you're approaching someone. It is a nice surprise when you are their type though.

You see, I know it's nice surprise as I've experienced that in the past. But it's like, approach them? And potentially be rejected? "

I get it Joe Beans I really do. It gives me 'the fear'

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By *ngel-ishWoman
25 weeks ago

Colchester

I have spent months waiting for the inevitable, someone better will come along. Complete opposite has happened . We are all amazing and we must remember that x

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"I have spent months waiting for the inevitable, someone better will come along. Complete opposite has happened . We are all amazing and we must remember that x"

Someone worse came along?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Nobody wants me on here, so it's with regret that I don't feel that way at all. *Whimper*

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"I don't think many people know whose type they are. It's always a nice surprise "

^ If there’s one thing I’ve learned about attraction, it’s this. Never second-guess who will or won’t fancy you. Always be delighted when someone does.

Mrs NiceCouple is wise.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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25 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I don't think many people know whose type they are. It's always a nice surprise

^ If there’s one thing I’ve learned about attraction, it’s this. Never second-guess who will or won’t fancy you. Always be delighted when someone does.

Mrs NiceCouple is wise."

If only that were true

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By *evonFbsCouple
25 weeks ago

SIDMOUTH

I feel i am punching anyway with my play partner watching her grow into herself so she now happily strolls around the club in her lingerie has been a glorious thing

But at the weekend on our second ever club visit she suddenly had a gorgeous lady draped over her in the cuddle chair giving her kisses probably top 3 of hottest ladys in the busy club !! She/ we were so shocked that she completely missed all the pointers that the lady would have liked to play until long after the moment had passed

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By *arl17Man
25 weeks ago

Central Portugal


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

"

Each to their own...

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By *arl17Man
25 weeks ago

Central Portugal


"I feel i am punching anyway with my play partner watching her grow into herself so she now happily strolls around the club in her lingerie has been a glorious thing

But at the weekend on our second ever club visit she suddenly had a gorgeous lady draped over her in the cuddle chair giving her kisses probably top 3 of hottest ladys in the busy club !! She/ we were so shocked that she completely missed all the pointers that the lady would have liked to play until long after the moment had passed "

Think she likes you

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By *ngel-ishWoman
25 weeks ago

Colchester


"I have spent months waiting for the inevitable, someone better will come along. Complete opposite has happened . We are all amazing and we must remember that x

Someone worse came along? "

It did for a minute, then it got told to do one!

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By *oney HoneyWoman
25 weeks ago

York

As a woman on fab I think it is fairly easy for us to punch well above our weight. There is such an imbalance in the male/ female ratio that us women can choose who we want for sex.

I have had meets with men that I consider to be “way out of my league” in the looks department!! And they have been very enjoyable! But I get where you are coming from that playing with “hotter” people can make you feel insecure.

Generally I tend to choose men my own age and who i consider to be sexy, but I try to avoid those perfect bodies as I like men to worship me rather than themselves!!

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By *londebiguyMan
25 weeks ago

Southport


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

"

Mo , not really.

Though plenty of people try to make you feel that way.

There are some either very highly inflated opinions of themselves and their attractiveness.

It's quite odd.

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By *evonFbsCouple
25 weeks ago

SIDMOUTH


"I feel i am punching anyway with my play partner watching her grow into herself so she now happily strolls around the club in her lingerie has been a glorious thing

But at the weekend on our second ever club visit she suddenly had a gorgeous lady draped over her in the cuddle chair giving her kisses probably top 3 of hottest ladys in the busy club !! She/ we were so shocked that she completely missed all the pointers that the lady would have liked to play until long after the moment had passed

Think she likes you "

The lady was lying in the cuddle chair with J both wearing just lingerie with her thigh over J's legs rubbing her tits on J's arm and explaining how sex with a gay girl was better than sex with a Bi girl. Before having a little snog. I couldnt hear the conversation but when she told me later i said maybe she should have suggested they go for a play as i read the signals as if she was intereested J was totaly shocked someone that "hot" would be interested and missed the cues....

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By *imply DeeWoman
25 weeks ago

Wherever

For me it’s a little bit different. It’s not about the men I’m meeting or I’m about to meet but I will look closely at their verifications and sometimes even forum interactions. If I see they have glowing veris from women I consider better looking/more interesting/available, I would question my own attractiveness and personality and honestly, that’s where I see it as “punching”. I won’t be trying to meet them or continue meeting them, if that makes sense. It’s nothing to do with other people but with my self confidence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
25 weeks ago


"For me it’s a little bit different. It’s not about the men I’m meeting or I’m about to meet but I will look closely at their verifications and sometimes even forum interactions. If I see they have glowing veris from women I consider better looking/more interesting/available, I would question my own attractiveness and personality and honestly, that’s where I see it as “punching”. I won’t be trying to meet them or continue meeting them, if that makes sense. It’s nothing to do with other people but with my self confidence. "

I do this.

That's what I meant, it's not the other person making you feel inferior or them thinking they are better.

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By *cLovin2Man
25 weeks ago

Reading


"Okay, on a serious note…

I feel confident in not punching above my weight or meeting others who are punching above theirs in meeting me.

Why such confidence? I am a slow burner type. I’m confident in what I bring to the table, and when I decide to meet someone I have always felt they matched my attributes, character, and more equally. If I felt they didn’t, I wouldn’t plan a meet up.

Attraction is far more than physical aesthetic. The way one carries themselves and the confidence they exude goes a long way for me in feeling we are equals rather than on different “standings”. I’d be put off by someone who lacked confidence in what they brought to the table and would not be keen to spend any time with them. "

You just put in one, women like confidence. Not arrogance, it's a fine line. Am I right ladies?

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
25 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm always punching and I don't care. I love it. Makes me smile.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
25 weeks ago

Manchester

Not really on here as I seldom meet via Fab but in real life I have down the years punched massively above my weight, and have missed the opportunity to do so a couple of times because I didn't have the confidence to go for it and the opportunity passed. I have no idea why these ladies have decided to date/sleep with me nor does it make a difference to me when I meet another beautiful woman - I still assume she won't be interested in me. It's also balanced by the fact that I have gone for long periods in which I didn't meet anyone who was interested in me, so there's no real balance in my sex life.

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By *viatrixWoman
25 weeks ago

Redhill


"I find it really hard to judge whether I'm "punching" or not to be honest and I think that's because I'm not sure what my type is. Like, you look at some couples and you think "ahhh yeah, I see why they're together", and I don't know whose type I am to know exactly who would find me attractive or not if that makes sense?

Cougar type. Those who like younger athletic kind of dorky men. There. Easy.

Excuse me, dorky? "

Dorky men are the best

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By *ondonMagicCouple
25 weeks ago

Durham

100% punching above my weight with London…im the biggest dork on the planet and it shows lol

Magic x

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"For me it’s a little bit different. It’s not about the men I’m meeting or I’m about to meet but I will look closely at their verifications and sometimes even forum interactions. If I see they have glowing veris from women I consider better looking/more interesting/available, I would question my own attractiveness and personality and honestly, that’s where I see it as “punching”. I won’t be trying to meet them or continue meeting them, if that makes sense. It’s nothing to do with other people but with my self confidence.

I do this.

That's what I meant, it's not the other person making you feel inferior or them thinking they are better.

"

Ah, Self confidence is a complicated thing for me. I have confidence but can lose it very quickly. The way someone can make me feel confident in myself helps me want to speak to them, then admit that I fancy my chances, and sometimes they’ve made me feel I can take on the world.

I know who they’ve slept with had relationships with and probably seeing, and I do think they’re probably more of a typical attractive gym fit guy. But I’d she is giving signs that she’s into me, just imagine how I feel.?

Does that make sense?

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By *allandathleticMan
25 weeks ago

Asgard


"No not that kind, I'm quite calm today.

Do you ever feel like you're punching above your weight on here? Do you ever wonder why they want you? Or do you just take their word and go for it?

If you have plans to meet someone you consider hotter, and yeah yeah you don't meet anyone you don't consider hot. But I mean there's people you consider hot and then there's your ideal 10/10 type. Does meeting the later make you more nervous? Would you consider cancelling as you feel their expectations may be too high?

"

I have all sorts of issues with the term "punching"

I don't consider myself better than anyone, and anyone who considers themselves better than me, isn't for me.

I'd hope they'd want to meet me because of who I am more importantly over what I am.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
25 weeks ago

Wales


"For me it’s a little bit different. It’s not about the men I’m meeting or I’m about to meet but I will look closely at their verifications"

I do this too, but I'm trying to stop. Verifications can be very intimidating for those that feel self conscious in the first place.

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By *odgerMooreMan
25 weeks ago

Fulwood

We all bring different things to the table - some very attractive people are also crushingly dull and self obsessed. Some people who might be not traditionally ‘beautiful’ ( if there is such a thing) might bring a sparkling personality, interesting conversation, amazing sex, I bring myself… all i have - if whoever I meet likes that then great if not.. thats cool just move on but the concept of being out of someone’s league or them being out of mine.. its not a thing for me x

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I usually worry that I'm going to be a disappointment to anyone I meet. I have a massive built-in feeling that no-one could possibly find me attractive as a man or a woman. I only got together with my wife because she saw something in me, and simply wouldn't go away until she had me (not in that way, but eventually, in that way too, lol).

Funny thing - I recently was looking at some old pics of myself in my student heyday, all wild long hair, moustache, long coat and boots, and I thought, "shit, you weren't bad looking!". Bit late to realise it now!

And of course, I still have the same problem with the current version of me. This is one (but only one) reason why I don't go out dressed.

God I'm a bundle of insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"some very attractive people are also crushingly dull and self obsessed. "

Oh, you’ve spent time chatting with me it seems. I am self absorbed. Just love myself wholeheartedly. Apologies. x

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
25 weeks ago

London

I can handle excessively attractive men. Gym, young, perfect tattoo, biceps, triceps, perfect smiles guys. I feel I'm going to fail

Dadbod make me feel confident and warm and brings out the best in me.

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By *odgerMooreMan
25 weeks ago

Fulwood


"some very attractive people are also crushingly dull and self obsessed.

Oh, you’ve spent time chatting with me it seems. I am self absorbed. Just love myself wholeheartedly. Apologies. x "

You fall into the incredibly attractive and also insanely interesting.. well read, intelligent category. Definitely not self obsessed… and also new found Peter Gabriel fan xx

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"some very attractive people are also crushingly dull and self obsessed.

Oh, you’ve spent time chatting with me it seems. I am self absorbed. Just love myself wholeheartedly. Apologies. x

You fall into the incredibly attractive and also insanely interesting.. well read, intelligent category. Definitely not self obsessed… and also new found Peter Gabriel fan xx"

Peter who? Sounds weird.

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By *odgerMooreMan
25 weeks ago

Fulwood


"some very attractive people are also crushingly dull and self obsessed.

Oh, you’ve spent time chatting with me it seems. I am self absorbed. Just love myself wholeheartedly. Apologies. x

You fall into the incredibly attractive and also insanely interesting.. well read, intelligent category. Definitely not self obsessed… and also new found Peter Gabriel fan xx

Peter who? Sounds weird. "

Sooooooo blocked!!! xx

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By *heGentleman2024Man
25 weeks ago

North West

I remember posting something similar a few years back. Punching Or feel out of your league.. If your attracted to someone no matter how hot they are or you feel they are out of your league, you’re attracted. They might be shy or think you are out of their league. Just be you is all i can say.

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By *hunky GentMan
25 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Can you stop punching.

I bruise easily.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
25 weeks ago

Southampton


"I remember posting something similar a few years back. Punching Or feel out of your league.. If your attracted to someone no matter how hot they are or you feel they are out of your league, you’re attracted. They might be shy or think you are out of their league. Just be you is all i can say. "

Tried that, got blocked

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