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By (user no longer on site) OP   
24 weeks ago

Anyone exhausted from masking all the time

I’ve slowly begun to unmask in my new setting, but I’m still absolutely drained for 4 or so months of having to mask again. I feel awful! Blegh

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
24 weeks ago

North West

Yep. Mr KC finds it exhausting.

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By *he Flat CapsCouple
24 weeks ago

Pontypool

My elder is autistic and I have supported her through autistic burnout. Strip back the pressure. Focus on the essentials. Self care. Just be.

All the best, OP.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
24 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Yeah. I haven’t been diagnosed but a therapist once suggested I get assessed, and I’m realising more and more that I am probably AuADHD. I find people exhausting, and I’m constantly working to try and find out what their expectations of me are so that I can present that front

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By *he Flat CapsCouple
24 weeks ago

Pontypool


"Yeah. I haven’t been diagnosed but a therapist once suggested I get assessed, and I’m realising more and more that I am probably AuADHD. I find people exhausting, and I’m constantly working to try and find out what their expectations of me are so that I can present that front "

Very similar to my daughter, and a lot else besides, which I'm sure is the same for you.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
24 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Less so these days, but yes. Just remember to take enough time to decompress. It took me years to figure that out

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By *eroLondonMan
24 weeks ago

Covent Garden

This thread...is

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago


"Less so these days, but yes. Just remember to take enough time to decompress. It took me years to figure that out "

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
24 weeks ago

St Leonards

Also, Pride month is a month where your sexuality finds its home, but is it also a potential for over-stimulation and burn-out?

If so, a bit of juggling to find the best of both worlds moving forwards?

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By *eliWoman
24 weeks ago

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Not for some time now, I'm far better at being aware of my spoons and working out low energy days to recharge.

Mentally I prepare myself for more... mask needing days and give myself time to lean in to whatever my interest at the time is. I raccoon. Hard. With giant soft fluffy pillows and soft bedding and no big lights allowed. Unashamedly when I feel my spoons are a bit low. Get lots of sleep.

If masking is a bit much, say I'm at a social after a long week I go to the toilets or pop outside to stim for a little bit. Having that time out really helps, temporary unmasking gives me space to be.

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By *eliWoman
24 weeks ago

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Oh and because I waffled on... OP, I hope you find strategies to deal with it if that's what you want. x

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
24 weeks ago

somewhere


"Yeah. I haven’t been diagnosed but a therapist once suggested I get assessed, and I’m realising more and more that I am probably AuADHD. I find people exhausting, and I’m constantly working to try and find out what their expectations of me are so that I can present that front "

This is exactly the same as me, I went to see a councillor and was asked if I had ever been tested for autism, I had always suspected, my brother and sister (ten years older than me, brought up in a time you just got lumbered with "special needs" and shoved in specialist schools) I'm sure also are, so I started in that road, I also suspect ADHD too and since kinda embracing this new found thing in my life, everything seems to be making so much more sense in the world to me, instead of finding myself getting frustrated over too much over stimulation, I'm starting to identity why I am, which is helping my relationship no end.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Yes, we both mask constantly and it is fucking exhausting.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
24 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"Yeah. I haven’t been diagnosed but a therapist once suggested I get assessed, and I’m realising more and more that I am probably AuADHD. I find people exhausting, and I’m constantly working to try and find out what their expectations of me are so that I can present that front

This is exactly the same as me, I went to see a councillor and was asked if I had ever been tested for autism, I had always suspected, my brother and sister (ten years older than me, brought up in a time you just got lumbered with "special needs" and shoved in specialist schools) I'm sure also are, so I started in that road, I also suspect ADHD too and since kinda embracing this new found thing in my life, everything seems to be making so much more sense in the world to me, instead of finding myself getting frustrated over too much over stimulation, I'm starting to identity why I am, which is helping my relationship no end. "

Yes, when the therapist referred me for an NHS assessment I refused it (I know, I was an idiot, I’d leap at the chance now) but this winter, lying in bed, I thought “maybe I am autistic” and suddenly all these “autistic” moments from my life rushed before my eyes and everything fell into place. It was like being Bruce Willis at the end of 6th Sense!

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
24 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"Yeah. I haven’t been diagnosed but a therapist once suggested I get assessed, and I’m realising more and more that I am probably AuADHD. I find people exhausting, and I’m constantly working to try and find out what their expectations of me are so that I can present that front

This is exactly the same as me, I went to see a councillor and was asked if I had ever been tested for autism, I had always suspected, my brother and sister (ten years older than me, brought up in a time you just got lumbered with "special needs" and shoved in specialist schools) I'm sure also are, so I started in that road, I also suspect ADHD too and since kinda embracing this new found thing in my life, everything seems to be making so much more sense in the world to me, instead of finding myself getting frustrated over too much over stimulation, I'm starting to identity why I am, which is helping my relationship no end.

Yes, when the therapist referred me for an NHS assessment I refused it (I know, I was an idiot, I’d leap at the chance now) but this winter, lying in bed, I thought “maybe I am autistic” and suddenly all these “autistic” moments from my life rushed before my eyes and everything fell into place. It was like being Bruce Willis at the end of 6th Sense! "

Sorry, I pressed send too soon.

I’m really glad to hear your self understanding is having a positive impact, both for you and those around you. Good luck with your journey of self discovery

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
24 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"Yeah. I haven’t been diagnosed but a therapist once suggested I get assessed, and I’m realising more and more that I am probably AuADHD. I find people exhausting, and I’m constantly working to try and find out what their expectations of me are so that I can present that front

Very similar to my daughter, and a lot else besides, which I'm sure is the same for you. "

You daughter is really fortunate to have such engaged, supportive family. It can’t be easy, but I’m sure having you on her side makes a huge and positive impact. Good on you!

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By *ornucopiaMan
24 weeks ago

Bexley

Been looking for signs of asparagus recently.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
24 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"Been looking for signs of asparagus recently."

Those suffering from asparagus tend to show signs of slydexia

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
24 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

and their urine smells.......so there is two for you

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By *illy IdolMan
24 weeks ago

Midlands


"and their urine smells.......so there is two for you "

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By *hrimper36Couple
24 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Hi op can’t say I was ever worn out by hiding my Autism but I did hide it for 58 years and now I’m honest and open about it I feel personally so much better than I did in the past and it gives me the super power to help others which I do daily.

You are you.

You are Autistic.

Be happy being you and those that don’t like you can fuck right off.

Live your best life and enjoy life.

Always here if you need to vent in a non sexual way.

Sharing is caring.

T

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By *ikeys1963Man
24 weeks ago

Camberley

Strong Female Character, by Fern Brady is an excellent insight into the female autistic experience. I guess it won't be news to anyone who is autistic, but it is worth a read/listen to the audiobook

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By *mmaAndDavidHornyFuckersCouple
24 weeks ago

Birmingham

It's insanely tiring

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By *assy69Man
24 weeks ago

West Sussex and Wales

Yes, found in both an invaluable way in which to deal with the world around my and totally exhausting….. i have, in recent times begin to unmask and just try to be me but, bizarrely, have been finding that even more exhausting as now I replay every interaction through my head at night and struggle to keep my brain hushed, something id managed to master, well, for much of the time

That’s such a ramble but hope it makes some sort of sense to someone

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By *erfHerder74Man
24 weeks ago

Greenock

Being recently told (5 years ago) I’m autistic, life can be draining every day.

You have to listen to negative things people say about others that’s nothing to do with them.

I’m learning to phase out and walk away, or I’ll ask questions to get them worked up.

Also on fab, both this and guys, men who ask for an instant shag isn’t or acceptable. I need communication over a time period, this is difficult for normal people to understand.

Do others on the spectrum feel like this?

Do you get attached to those who show interest in you and would like at least a new friend after sex?

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By *ansoffateMan
24 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Peopling drains me something chronic.

It's annoying because I really like people too, but there's just so many of them everywhere.

I feel like we are biologically meant to wander the woods and maybe come across people, or bears, once in a while. Maybe eat mushrooms and build mud huts.

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