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Do guys still pinch bottoms in pubs if given a chance?

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By *lutsfun OP   Man
30 weeks ago

bedford

Am I alone in liking it when they do ?

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By *illy IdolMan
30 weeks ago

Midlands

Women are boring these days. Most don't seem to appreciate it anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

They fucking shouldn’t

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By *eliWoman
30 weeks ago

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"Women are boring these days. Most don't seem to appreciate it anymore "

Right? So uptight. Unnecessarily. Bring back the good old days when men would make it obvious they liked you.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Only if they are someone I am doing the sex thing with otherwise the man is likely to get a slap or knee in the nut sack.

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By *irthandgirthMan
30 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

No. No consent is given, so can be deemed as sexual harassment I'd they object. Which is highly likely.

Have you tried just talking to people you are interested in?

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By *r Tom FooleryMan
30 weeks ago

Coventry


"Women are boring these days. Most don't seem to appreciate it anymore "

You can pinch my bottom anytime

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By *illy IdolMan
30 weeks ago

Midlands


"Women are boring these days. Most don't seem to appreciate it anymore

You can pinch my bottom anytime "

Behave yourself

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By *illy IdolMan
30 weeks ago

Midlands


"Women are boring these days. Most don't seem to appreciate it anymore

Right? So uptight. Unnecessarily. Bring back the good old days when men would make it obvious they liked you. "

Absolutely Meli. I'd have pinched your bottom on a busy dancefloor

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By *lutsfun OP   Man
30 weeks ago

bedford

It recently happened to me and we then got chatting, he was a great guy, surely just comfortable with his masculinity, have we taken things too far ?

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By *lutsfun OP   Man
30 weeks ago

bedford

Are we saying men can’t be men anymore ?

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By *illy IdolMan
30 weeks ago

Midlands


"It recently happened to me and we then got chatting, he was a great guy, surely just comfortable with his masculinity, have we taken things too far ?

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It's a bit predatorial if I man is doing it to a woman.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
30 weeks ago

somewhere

I'll be honest and speaking as a woman here (and someone who isn't "seen" when I'm out), I'd love it if a man actually pinched my bum, it's just a pinch, not a grope at my boobs but then I know I'm in a small minority of women here and consent is everything but still, someone other than my husband would be nice!

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By *929Man
30 weeks ago

bedlington

God no i never would I still recall 20 odd years ago a lad in our group did it to a lass standing next to me and quickly turned away so it looked like me I never felt so much of a twat in mt life had to make him admit what he did and the urge to batter the living daylights out of him was so hard to not do still to this day I wish I had sometimes

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By *he love catsCouple
30 weeks ago

South Wales

No, it's something I would never do.

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By *illxxMan
30 weeks ago

motherwell

Would never try it now. The risk of being charged with sexual assault is greater now than ever before

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By *ot to giggleWoman
30 weeks ago

Coventry


"Are we saying men can’t be men anymore ?"

so pinching someone's arse makes you a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"Are we saying men can’t be men anymore ?"

That’s exactly what we’re saying. Men cannot be men. Correct! Correcto!

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By *ell GwynnWoman
30 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Are we saying men can’t be men anymore ?"

Christ alive. Since when was that a defining feature of masculinity?

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
30 weeks ago

St Leonards

What's a pub please?

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By *ackformore100Man
30 weeks ago

Tin town

I doubt it very much. All physical contact and suggestive behaviour is banned, caught on cctv and sent to him... Sorry they. Or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"What's a pub please?

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In London that’s what we call the sex clubs. Dunno about where you are though

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By *illy IdolMan
30 weeks ago

Midlands


"Are we saying men can’t be men anymore ?

Christ alive. Since when was that a defining feature of masculinity?"

90s

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
30 weeks ago

The Continental

Fuck sake

Have I woke up back in then 80’s

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
30 weeks ago

St Leonards


"What's a pub please?

In London that’s what we call the sex clubs. Dunno about where you are though"

And it's a legal requirement to pinch bottoms in them?

In

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"What's a pub please?

In London that’s what we call the sex clubs. Dunno about where you are though

And it's a legal requirement to pinch bottoms in them?

In "

Oh no! Not without consent! We’re not barbaric down here

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I think it’s important to respect people’s boundaries/not invade their personal space. Having said that the lack of viable avenues of interaction in a noisy nightclub probably has seen the decline of organic/natural approaches on a night out; the hand on the shoulder or a lean in to talk.

This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it means nights out are less predatory and don’t violate someone’s privacy/space but it does mean that connections are missed/ require more effort/ positive action and reinforcement from the other party.

E.g I’d never inflict my presence on a woman on a night out/ approach/touch her, a shared smile, eyes interlocking and a fleeting flirt is all it’ll ever be unless she approaches me/ takes action. Although maybe that’s me being timid/shy or realistic about the chances a lass would be interested in me…

Maybe that explains why I’m still single at 33

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By *obilebottomMan
30 weeks ago

All over

I had mine pinched once 2012, no idea who it was. Will definately not pinch anyone though

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By *ex HolesMan
30 weeks ago

Up North

Can’t beat a good slap of barmaids arse

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
30 weeks ago

Second star to the right…


"Women are boring these days. Most don't seem to appreciate it anymore

Right? So uptight. Unnecessarily. Bring back the good old days when men would make it obvious they liked you. "

I am guessing you were very receptive to those guys who used to grind against you on the dance floor.

It always worked out so well for them, guaranteed shag everytime

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
30 weeks ago

St Leonards


"What's a pub please?

In London that’s what we call the sex clubs. Dunno about where you are though

And it's a legal requirement to pinch bottoms in them?

In

Oh no! Not without consent! We’re not barbaric down here"

Ahhhhhh...Thank you Pickle. Got it. You go out to this "pub" thing. You don't pinch bums. Unless someone you've never met before comes up and declares, out of nowhere, "You have permission to pinch my bum!!! Would you like a peanut too?".

Is there somewhere for washing hands after? Some bums are a bit farty.

I like you humans - you're cute xxxx

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
30 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Absolutely, whenever I get the chance, trouble is I don’t have much time for the pub, in between court appearances

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Seems a bit ‘carry on’ these days

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By *nityCouple
30 weeks ago

stowmarket


"I think it’s important to respect people’s boundaries/not invade their personal space. Having said that the lack of viable avenues of interaction in a noisy nightclub probably has seen the decline of organic/natural approaches on a night out; the hand on the shoulder or a lean in to talk.

This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it means nights out are less predatory and don’t violate someone’s privacy/space but it does mean that connections are missed/ require more effort/ positive action and reinforcement from the other party.

E.g I’d never inflict my presence on a woman on a night out/ approach/touch her, a shared smile, eyes interlocking and a fleeting flirt is all it’ll ever be unless she approaches me/ takes action. Although maybe that’s me being timid/shy or realistic about the chances a lass would be interested in me…

Maybe that explains why I’m still single at 33 "

I’m still the quiet one in a social situation and I’m married, yes I’ve been lucky on the club scene in the past. I prefer now to chat with the wife and others to see where it leads…. Always happy to chat and help others out especially if they are just starting out and need a supporting couple….

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By *ansoffateMan
30 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Some have no sense of proportion.

I was a glass collector at the 'grab a granny' night in the early nineties. Getting groped whilst collecting glasses filled with cigarette butts was standard.

I'd say 4-5 gropes on average per circuit as it got to toward the end of the night. £2.50 an hour and a face full of lippy hey who can complain! They were 'just having a laugh' with me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Some have no sense of proportion.

I was a glass collector at the 'grab a granny' night in the early nineties. Getting groped whilst collecting glasses filled with cigarette butts was standard.

I'd say 4-5 gropes on average per circuit as it got to toward the end of the night. £2.50 an hour and a face full of lippy hey who can complain! They were 'just having a laugh' with me."

Yeah but that's ok because 'men like that sort of thing'.

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By *rauntonbananaMan
30 weeks ago

Braunton

Never did that myself as I think it a bit of a disrespectful thing to do, but often had my bum pinched by women in my clubbing days… made me feel so cheap ????

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By *ildwife38ddCouple
30 weeks ago

donegal

I love it when a guy pinches or feels my ass in the pub usually turns into more like a good fingering etc

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

No! Because I’m not a fucking creep.

The mr

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
30 weeks ago

Manchester

Nah. That’s some weird behaviour.

People did that?

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By *allandathleticMan
30 weeks ago

Asgard

I've never ever done it. Creepy.

I have however had countless women feel me up at bars.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

30 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Nah. That’s some weird behaviour.

People did that?"

You'd be amazed at what people did.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
30 weeks ago

Leeds

I hope not, surely most on here are aware of consent & just not being a creep!

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
30 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Not pinched a bum since the 90s. Had my bum pinched a few times fairly recently. Actually flattered but understand it's acceptable for men to feel this and not reversed. Double standards I guess but like I said I wouldn't pinch.

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By *r Tom FooleryMan
30 weeks ago

Coventry


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed. "

It may have been just to stop himself from bumping into you and was just concerned about his daughter

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By *he love catsCouple
30 weeks ago

South Wales


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed. "

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
30 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Only if I can boot them in the balls in return. Keep your hands to yourself.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
30 weeks ago

North West

No-one pinches my bum anymore. Access issues.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
30 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Are we saying men can’t be men anymore ?"

I'll be honest, I don't think anyone is stopping men being men anymore, if pinching a strangers bum is the route to a man feeling like a man, I think that man needs to seek some professional help

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

If you want to End up on a sex offenders register then it’s a great idea

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Is it even a thing over 19 ?

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
30 weeks ago

Manchester


"Nah. That’s some weird behaviour.

People did that?

You'd be amazed at what people did. "

Sounds a dodgy world to be a woman.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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30 weeks ago

East Sussex


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

It may have been just to stop himself from bumping into you and was just concerned about his daughter"

That's when a person says "excuse me"

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid."

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated.

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
30 weeks ago

Manchester


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated. "

Yea. That sounds super icky. I guess these people learn this behaviour in their personal lives and just think it’s ok to lay their hands on anyone like that..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

30 weeks ago

East Sussex


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated. "

I wonder if he would have done it to a man.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

30 weeks ago

East Sussex


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated.

Yea. That sounds super icky. I guess these people learn this behaviour in their personal lives and just think it’s ok to lay their hands on anyone like that.. "

*Some* men think it's acceptable to physically move women out if their way.

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By *he love catsCouple
30 weeks ago

South Wales


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated. "

It was, like nicecouple said excuse me would have been the thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated.

It was, like nicecouple said excuse me would have been the thing to say."

He was kind enough to say, sorry just helping my daughter off the climbing frame. The thing was I was meters away from the climbing frame and in no way in his way.

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By *allandathleticMan
30 weeks ago

Asgard


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated.

It was, like nicecouple said excuse me would have been the thing to say.

He was kind enough to say, sorry just helping my daughter off the climbing frame. The thing was I was meters away from the climbing frame and in no way in his way. "

Just an excuse for his predatory behaviour.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

30 weeks ago

East Sussex


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated.

It was, like nicecouple said excuse me would have been the thing to say.

He was kind enough to say, sorry just helping my daughter off the climbing frame. The thing was I was meters away from the climbing frame and in no way in his way. "

He wasn't being kind. He was employing the age old strategy of doing something wrong them putting you in the position of having to accept his bad behaviour because he apologised.

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By *ou only live onceMan
30 weeks ago

London


"Are we saying men can’t be men anymore ?"

Yes, that's exactly what we're saying.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
30 weeks ago

North West

To add to Bella's experience, I find men are particularly prone to thinking they can move my wheelchair and touch it without asking. It happens far more often with men than women. When you shout and tell them to stop/get off, you're treated like you're making a fuss over nothing.

The wheelchair is my legs. Touch my legs and you get my wrath.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated.

It was, like nicecouple said excuse me would have been the thing to say.

He was kind enough to say, sorry just helping my daughter off the climbing frame. The thing was I was meters away from the climbing frame and in no way in his way.

He wasn't being kind. He was employing the age old strategy of doing something wrong them putting you in the position of having to accept his bad behaviour because he apologised.

"

I’m aware. My tone was sarcastic in calling him

kind. x

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By *osey WalesMan
30 weeks ago

Surrey

So,pinching bums randomly is no longer allowed but wolf whistling a random piece of totty you see in the streets is still fine, yeah ?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
30 weeks ago

walsall


"I think it’s important to respect people’s boundaries/not invade their personal space. Having said that the lack of viable avenues of interaction in a noisy nightclub probably has seen the decline of organic/natural approaches on a night out; the hand on the shoulder or a lean in to talk.

This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it means nights out are less predatory and don’t violate someone’s privacy/space but it does mean that connections are missed/ require more effort/ positive action and reinforcement from the other party.

E.g I’d never inflict my presence on a woman on a night out/ approach/touch her, a shared smile, eyes interlocking and a fleeting flirt is all it’ll ever be unless she approaches me/ takes action. Although maybe that’s me being timid/shy or realistic about the chances a lass would be interested in me…

Maybe that explains why I’m still single at 33 "

A faint heart never shagged a fair maiden…..

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
30 weeks ago

Manchester


"To add to Bella's experience, I find men are particularly prone to thinking they can move my wheelchair and touch it without asking. It happens far more often with men than women. When you shout and tell them to stop/get off, you're treated like you're making a fuss over nothing.

The wheelchair is my legs. Touch my legs and you get my wrath. "

How the fuck do they think that’s ok?

I’d definitely find that really demeaning.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
30 weeks ago

London


"No-one pinches my bum anymore. Access issues. "

They should also keep their hands off of your handles.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

30 weeks ago

East Sussex


"A few months back, at a museum, a random man out his hands around my waist as he walked around me to grab his daughter off a climbing frame. I was really perplexed.

Innocent as it may sound I still find this creepy I'm afraid.

It was extremely creepy. I was just shocked and horrified he out his hands on my waist as if we were very well acquainted. I felt my personal space was violated.

It was, like nicecouple said excuse me would have been the thing to say.

He was kind enough to say, sorry just helping my daughter off the climbing frame. The thing was I was meters away from the climbing frame and in no way in his way.

He wasn't being kind. He was employing the age old strategy of doing something wrong them putting you in the position of having to accept his bad behaviour because he apologised.

I’m aware. My tone was sarcastic in calling him

kind. x"

Oh, sorry.

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By *ealitybitesMan
30 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never done it and can only ever remember one of my friends doing it but it was someone he knew who did it to him on a regular basis.

I've had women do it to me though when I've been going about my job in hotels, clubs and pubs and some were cheered on by their friends.

In one pub the landlord asked them how they would feel if the roles were reversed and told them to stop doing it.

They took the hump and left saying it was a shit pub anyway.

I've been grabbed and groped by a large group of women on a stag outing once again while I was only in the premises doing my job.

Their excuse was that they thought I was the stripper but the landlady had to wade into the middle of them shouting loudly to back the fuck off.

I had told them to back off but they thought it was a great big joke.

Like a lot of behavioural issues whether in pubs or not, it's not restricted to men.

My daughters have all worked in hospitality and never had an issue with customers but one hotel they worked in lost 3 male staff due to constant harassment by female guests.

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By *apperleymanMan
30 weeks ago

Nottingham

Mmm no because that is sexual assault.

Not really that hard to understand is it?

This also applies to swinging clubs too (as some folk seem to think it’s ok in a club as everyone is there for the same thing, right?)

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By *tleystagMan
30 weeks ago

ilkley

It's simple.

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"Mmm no because that is sexual assault.

Not really that hard to understand is it?

This also applies to swinging clubs too (as some folk seem to think it’s ok in a club as everyone is there for the same thing, right?)

"

In clubs, I find it is the women more than men that randomly go around grabbing people. Or at least me. The number of times women randomly have grabbed a tit or my bum walking up or down stairs in clubs…

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
30 weeks ago

North West


"To add to Bella's experience, I find men are particularly prone to thinking they can move my wheelchair and touch it without asking. It happens far more often with men than women. When you shout and tell them to stop/get off, you're treated like you're making a fuss over nothing.

The wheelchair is my legs. Touch my legs and you get my wrath.

How the fuck do they think that’s ok?

I’d definitely find that really demeaning.

"

I really don't know. It's very annoying.

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By *apperleymanMan
30 weeks ago

Nottingham


"Mmm no because that is sexual assault.

Not really that hard to understand is it?

This also applies to swinging clubs too (as some folk seem to think it’s ok in a club as everyone is there for the same thing, right?)

In clubs, I find it is the women more than men that randomly go around grabbing people. Or at least me. The number of times women randomly have grabbed a tit or my bum walking up or down stairs in clubs…"

Same rules apply, I’d suggest you report it to staff next time it happens.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
30 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"So,pinching bums randomly is no longer allowed but wolf whistling a random piece of totty you see in the streets is still fine, yeah ?

"

No

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By *ansoffateMan
30 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"Some have no sense of proportion.

I was a glass collector at the 'grab a granny' night in the early nineties. Getting groped whilst collecting glasses filled with cigarette butts was standard.

I'd say 4-5 gropes on average per circuit as it got to toward the end of the night. £2.50 an hour and a face full of lippy hey who can complain! They were 'just having a laugh' with me.

Yeah but that's ok because 'men like that sort of thing'. "

Or even 15 year old boys. Dancing queen still gives me the shivers.

Yeah I don't need convincing that it's inappropriate.

Some changes are for the better.

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By *ilnotbite13Man
30 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

It’s creepy have some bloody respect for the ladies. There not pieces of meat.

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By *oastal1968Man
30 weeks ago

London


"It’s creepy have some bloody respect for the ladies. There not pieces of meat. "

*They're

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
30 weeks ago

your head

I hope not, non consensual touching is horrible.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
30 weeks ago

your head


"Mmm no because that is sexual assault.

Not really that hard to understand is it?

This also applies to swinging clubs too (as some folk seem to think it’s ok in a club as everyone is there for the same thing, right?)

"

It should apply in clubs but I've definitely had guys think it doesn't. A hand on my leg, on my back, a foot against my leg in the hot tub, trying to touch my hand,touching my hair. They were all men, I've never actually had a woman in a club touch me without consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"Mmm no because that is sexual assault.

Not really that hard to understand is it?

This also applies to swinging clubs too (as some folk seem to think it’s ok in a club as everyone is there for the same thing, right?)

It should apply in clubs but I've definitely had guys think it doesn't. A hand on my leg, on my back, a foot against my leg in the hot tub, trying to touch my hand,touching my hair. They were all men, I've never actually had a woman in a club touch me without consent. "

Most of my encounters of people touching me inappropriately without consent are with men too.

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By *obilebottomMan
30 weeks ago

All over

Obviously not appropriate. I use anti vandal paint for prevention

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
30 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

There are times when a good old-fashioned goose is okay. (I didn’t realise until recently that not everybody calls bum-pinching ‘goosing’. Maybe I’m old-fashioned, or maybe it was a Yorkshire thing?)

It’s okay when you’re good friends. Or when consent is otherwise implied.

I’ll always remember being goosed on the way up some stairs in a nightclub and turning round to see a girl I *really* fancied grinning and giggling at me. We snogged at the top of those stairs and it was a delight.

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By *erfHerder74Man
30 weeks ago

Inverclyde

They shouldn’t really but had a few men brush past me from behind felt their hand touch gently

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By *ansoffateMan
30 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"There are times when a good old-fashioned goose is okay. (I didn’t realise until recently that not everybody calls bum-pinching ‘goosing’. Maybe I’m old-fashioned, or maybe it was a Yorkshire thing?)

It’s okay when you’re good friends. Or when consent is otherwise implied.

I’ll always remember being goosed on the way up some stairs in a nightclub and turning round to see a girl I *really* fancied grinning and giggling at me. We snogged at the top of those stairs and it was a delight."

Did you goose her means something a tad different 'round are way'.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
30 weeks ago

BRIDPORT


"There are times when a good old-fashioned goose is okay. (I didn’t realise until recently that not everybody calls bum-pinching ‘goosing’. Maybe I’m old-fashioned, or maybe it was a Yorkshire thing?)

It’s okay when you’re good friends. Or when consent is otherwise implied.

I’ll always remember being goosed on the way up some stairs in a nightclub and turning round to see a girl I *really* fancied grinning and giggling at me. We snogged at the top of those stairs and it was a delight."

‘Goosing’ down here, was more an approach from behind and putting hands either side of waist and giving a little squeeze. I imagine the terms fall in use has corresponded with the decline in the practice.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
30 weeks ago

Beverley

Given a chance? WTF does that mean?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
30 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too. "

'tit elbow' dates back to the 80s.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
30 weeks ago

BRIDPORT


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too.

'tit elbow' dates back to the 80s."

Oh yes definitely, back in the 80’s I remember the elbow/ nipple interface in the crowded pub.

When I say remember, obviously I mean remember being told about such things, I would never have done that, ya know, just for clarity, like.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
30 weeks ago

North West


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too.

'tit elbow' dates back to the 80s."

Yes, I experienced it in nightclubs when I was able bodied. You'd give a good elbow jab back for good measure

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By *ackformore100Man
30 weeks ago

Tin town


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too. "

You need VAR to determine if it was elbow to tit or tit to elbow though. Not all venues have VAR installed.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
30 weeks ago

North West


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too.

You need VAR to determine if it was elbow to tit or tit to elbow though. Not all venues have VAR installed. "

Sans VAR, you must rely on the decision of the assistant referee/linesperson.

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By *ex HolesMan
30 weeks ago

Up North


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too.

You need VAR to determine if it was elbow to tit or tit to elbow though. Not all venues have VAR installed.

Sans VAR, you must rely on the decision of the assistant referee/linesperson. "

Correction. Grabbing arses is a man’s sport so therefore it’s LINESMAN

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By *electableicecreamMan
30 weeks ago

The West

Women put their hands in my hair ALL the time when I'm out in the pub. Some ask, most don't.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
30 weeks ago

North West


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too.

You need VAR to determine if it was elbow to tit or tit to elbow though. Not all venues have VAR installed.

Sans VAR, you must rely on the decision of the assistant referee/linesperson.

Correction. Grabbing arses is a man’s sport so therefore it’s LINESMAN "

Negative, captain. Assistant refs can be any gender in the 21st century

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
30 weeks ago

Leeds


"Are we saying men can’t be men anymore ?"

This is what you class as being a man assaulting women? a lesson in consent is maybe required.

No fucking wonder this sites turned me vagiterian

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By *ex HolesMan
30 weeks ago

Up North


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too.

You need VAR to determine if it was elbow to tit or tit to elbow though. Not all venues have VAR installed.

Sans VAR, you must rely on the decision of the assistant referee/linesperson.

Correction. Grabbing arses is a man’s sport so therefore it’s LINESMAN

Negative, captain. Assistant refs can be any gender in the 21st century "

Not in this pub

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
30 weeks ago

North West


"Pinch is rare. Grabbing a handful as you walk past in a busy bar happens all the time. Rubbing elbows against tits seems a weird new thing too.

You need VAR to determine if it was elbow to tit or tit to elbow though. Not all venues have VAR installed.

Sans VAR, you must rely on the decision of the assistant referee/linesperson.

Correction. Grabbing arses is a man’s sport so therefore it’s LINESMAN

Negative, captain. Assistant refs can be any gender in the 21st century

Not in this pub "

*Can you see yourself running this pub? Call Wetherspoons on [redacted] to find out more*

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By *lder budweiserMan
30 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

Seriously?

A slap to the jaw and/or drink in the face and my name on a sex offenders register? I'll pass thanks

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By *avexxMan
30 weeks ago

cheshire

nope i wouldnt dream of it

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I once had a guy in a hotel bar come up and grab by bikini top string and pull it up saying Christ that’s doing some lifting. The barman threw him out lol

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By *irthandgirthMan
30 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Only if I can boot them in the balls in return. Keep your hands to yourself."

An unwanted physical contact being returned to owner.

A classic example of a behaviour illiciting an elevated reaction.

Same as if I walked up to a guy in a pub and spat in his pint.. I can expect a negative reaction.

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