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"If I see a nice profile and picture, then yes I'll send a complement, why not! Why do some people have to think it's cringe? Be nice and complement someone, not only makes their day but yours too if you get one back. It's a shame we are becoming a society that is suspicious when someone says something nice to someone, I was brought up to be nice . And was told , if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all!" Totally agree  | |||
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"If she finds you attractive, appropriate. If not, you're just annoying and a dick. " I agree to that statement, if that person continues to give you compliments, and you haven't replied/acknowledged the first one. But if it's a first introduction message, then why is that person a dick? Just because you may not find that person attractive,why are they a dick? | |||
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"If folk think a compliment in first message is way into anyone's knickers or boxers or commando..think again." Excellent, we'll take that as a yes then  | |||
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"Depends in the compliment "Nice tits" is cringe" Ah, but context is everything, if we say "Nice tits, FAF", we are in, right?  | |||
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"If I see a nice profile and picture, then yes I'll send a complement, why not! Why do some people have to think it's cringe? Be nice and complement someone, not only makes their day but yours too if you get one back. It's a shame we are becoming a society that is suspicious when someone says something nice to someone, I was brought up to be nice . And was told , if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all!" Why do you think a compliment from a man makes a woman's day? | |||
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"Especially if a lady looks fetching & attractive?Or is it making a nuisance of one’s self?" The question is complex as is the answer. Context and relationships are paramount e.g. Your mum buys a dress - be complimentary. A long term friend has her hair done - be complimentary. Approaching a stranger - it's never appropriate. Your use of language ( and I know it's a limited clue ) suggests to me that you view women as something decorative for your delight rather than people. | |||
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"Depends in the compliment "Nice tits" is cringe" Especially if your an overweight guy  | |||
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"Depends in the compliment "Nice tits" is cringe Especially if your an overweight guy " | |||
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"Depends in the compliment "Nice tits" is cringe Ah, but context is everything, if we say "Nice tits, FAF", we are in, right? "Yes totally ... immediately | |||
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"Especially if a lady looks fetching & attractive?Or is it making a nuisance of one’s self? The question is complex as is the answer. Context and relationships are paramount e.g. Your mum buys a dress - be complimentary. A long term friend has her hair done - be complimentary. Approaching a stranger - it's never appropriate. Your use of language ( and I know it's a limited clue ) suggests to me that you view women as something decorative for your delight rather than people."
The dress and the hairdo are good examples you can compliment what someone has done without focusing on what they are.
Generally with children, and same applies to a lot of the people on here too , it’s always best to give compliments about their actions and decisions rather than their physical appearance, unless you want to grow them into insecure adults.
But I disagree it’s always inappropriate to compliment a stranger I reserve the right to flirt with a stranger and if see someone ,if I get a nice smile in the elevator, I’ll sometimes use a compliment as a way in to conversation, like if she has done something very creative with her nails, I’ll say I really like it. | |||
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"Stop trying to make fetch happen!" So you admit your pretty? | |||
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"If I see a nice profile and picture, then yes I'll send a complement, why not! Why do some people have to think it's cringe? Be nice and complement someone, not only makes their day but yours too if you get one back. It's a shame we are becoming a society that is suspicious when someone says something nice to someone, I was brought up to be nice . And was told , if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all! Why do you think a compliment from a man makes a woman's day?" I never said it makes a woman's day. I was talking in general. It's nicer to receive a compliment then not! | |||
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"Especially if a lady looks fetching & attractive?Or is it making a nuisance of one’s self? The question is complex as is the answer. Context and relationships are paramount e.g. Your mum buys a dress - be complimentary. A long term friend has her hair done - be complimentary. Approaching a stranger - it's never appropriate. Your use of language ( and I know it's a limited clue ) suggests to me that you view women as something decorative for your delight rather than people." I have strangers stop me all the time to say they love my hair and I take it as a compliment. Evie | |||
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"If I see a nice profile and picture, then yes I'll send a complement, why not! Why do some people have to think it's cringe? Be nice and complement someone, not only makes their day but yours too if you get one back. It's a shame we are becoming a society that is suspicious when someone says something nice to someone, I was brought up to be nice . And was told , if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all!" On here, men give compliments as a "way in". They don't mean anything. And I'd rather people just said nothing at all in public. | |||
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"Especially if a lady looks fetching & attractive?Or is it making a nuisance of one’s self?" If you mean it genuinely then yes it’s appropriate. If it’s as a mean to get your dick wet then it’s not appropriate. It’s generally easy to spot both types | |||
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"Lol well this has given me a bitter perspective on the whole thing, I thought that a genuine compliment would go down well but I guess not..." See my comment above ^^ | |||
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"It’s sad that they’re met with such cynicism now, but I guess that’s the way of the modern world. I’ll still continue to give compliments. Not as an ‘in’ or a ‘trying to get my dick wet’, I don’t need an in. I pass them because I mean it with all sincerity. " I think your rainbow cock is glorious John and I most certainly don't want to get anything wet around it. Yet it remains truly magnificent. I think it's down to creepiness isn't it? Men still abuse women (or trans, gay)...and a smaller amount of men are abused too (by anyone)...so I think "creep antennae" are in play. | |||
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"Lol well this has given me a bitter perspective on the whole thing, I thought that a genuine compliment would go down well but I guess not..." • There are always well-intentioned compliments and then there is faux flattery. The delineation between the two is often opaque on Fab. A young lady shared her photograph with me the other day. She was a divinity, resplendent and I would marry her tomorrow. I told her she looked above average with a flaw or two. We're still talking (for now) but I think the outcome would have been different if I had showered her with plaudits. | |||
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"Just be genuine. Don't be a creep or get all aggy if you tell a woman she has a great arse in Tesco's and she does show gratitude. " And don’t tell her she still looks good for her age. Ouch. I felt that punch in the throat for days | |||
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"Lol well this has given me a bitter perspective on the whole thing, I thought that a genuine compliment would go down well but I guess not..." You can only control the intention behind your actions not the way they're received. If you feel bitter because you expect that women should react differently to you being nice to them you might need to adjust your expectations. How do men react when you compliment them? | |||
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"Just be genuine. Don't be a creep or get all aggy if you tell a woman she has a great arse in Tesco's and she does show gratitude. And don’t tell her she still looks good for her age. Ouch. I felt that punch in the throat for days"  .
I feel I ought to be 'nice' to the men who tell me that. Sorry about the bruises.  | |||
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"Just be genuine. Don't be a creep or get all aggy if you tell a woman she has a great arse in Tesco's and she does show gratitude. And don’t tell her she still looks good for her age. Ouch. I felt that punch in the throat for days .
I feel I ought to be 'nice' to the men who tell me that. Sorry about the bruises. "
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"Just be genuine. Don't be a creep or get all aggy if you tell a woman she has a great arse in Tesco's and she does show gratitude. And don’t tell her she still looks good for her age. Ouch. I felt that punch in the throat for days .
I feel I ought to be 'nice' to the men who tell me that. Sorry about the bruises.
Maybe not nice. But nicer "What's the going rate nowadays? A blowjob for a 'for your age' and full sex with a 'still' thrown in? | |||
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"Depends in the compliment "Nice tits" is cringe Ah, but context is everything, if we say "Nice tits, FAF", we are in, right?
Yes totally ... immediately "Marvellous! I shall add that to my repetoir | |||
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"Just be genuine. Don't be a creep or get all aggy if you tell a woman she has a great arse in Tesco's and she does show gratitude. And don’t tell her she still looks good for her age. Ouch. I felt that punch in the throat for days .
I feel I ought to be 'nice' to the men who tell me that. Sorry about the bruises.
Maybe not nice. But nicer
What's the going rate nowadays? A blowjob for a 'for your age' and full sex with a 'still' thrown in? "
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"Also just because *you're* not like that doesn't make us any less wary" This!!!! | |||
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"Lol well this has given me a bitter perspective on the whole thing, I thought that a genuine compliment would go down well but I guess not... • There are always well-intentioned compliments and then there is faux flattery. The delineation between the two is often opaque on Fab. A young lady shared her photograph with me the other day. She was a divinity, resplendent and I would marry her tomorrow. I told her she looked above average with a flaw or two. We're still talking (for now) but I think the outcome would have been different if I had showered her with plaudits. " Sassy AF | |||
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"Stop trying to make fetch happen!" It's not going to happen! | |||
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That's more my kind of compliment, or a heartfelt appreciation. I'm a bit of a softy. | |||
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"Stop trying to make fetch happen! It's not going to happen!" My guy!! | |||
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"I will always pay a compliment when I truly believe that I, hand on heart appreciate either someone's physical appearance, something they have done or something they have said. It's how I was raised and in my eyes my father was a great man." Can you see how, on places such as this, when you compliment a woman's physical appearance, it could be construed as being more about what you hope to gain from it? | |||
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"I will always pay a compliment when I truly believe that I, hand on heart appreciate either someone's physical appearance, something they have done or something they have said. It's how I was raised and in my eyes my father was a great man. Can you see how, on places such as this, when you compliment a woman's physical appearance, it could be construed as being more about what you hope to gain from it?" I can yes and I totally understand that. I will however compliment people I know and people who I talk to for the reasons stated previously. I'm old and wise enough to know throwing compliments to anyone in the hope of attention would be futile and it would also go against everything I believe in. Unfortunately I can't change how it would be seen We are all different here as we are in real life. Sometimes a compliment is just that and nothing more. | |||
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"It's really very sad when you cannot give someone a compliment. I apparently offended done one in the supermarket the other day by referring to her as a lady. I was being polite could have been very rude and just pushed in front of her rather than suggest she went first at the deli." I won't go in front of anyone who says ladies first ... It's not the word. It's the ideology behind it. | |||
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" I won't go in front of anyone who says ladies first ... It's not the word. It's the ideology behind it." You know its only cos we want to oggle your bottom, and possibly get a cheeky squeeze in as you pass by. It's all in the best possible taste  | |||
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" I won't go in front of anyone who says ladies first ... It's not the word. It's the ideology behind it. You know its only cos we want to oggle your bottom, and possibly get a cheeky squeeze in as you pass by. It's all in the best possible taste "Why would you risk the loss of an arm ? | |||
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"The littlest compliment can change that person’s entire day/week or month…costs nothing to be kind.." Love ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? | |||
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"I had a man message me a while back saying I had a nice cock...I know its a compliment ...Im straight and found it cringey" Just take the compliment and stop overthinking it. It's not going to turn you gay against your will. | |||
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"The littlest compliment can change that person’s entire day/week or month…costs nothing to be kind.." This is how I see it too. I'm happy to receive or give a compliment. Nothing more expected. | |||
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"From people I know...yes From some random who throws out the line "oh you're beautiful etc etc" when they can't see your face it's not very appropriate x" Nice tits | |||
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"It's really very sad when you cannot give someone a compliment. I apparently offended done one in the supermarket the other day by referring to her as a lady. I was being polite could have been very rude and just pushed in front of her rather than suggest she went first at the deli. I won't go in front of anyone who says ladies first ... It's not the word. It's the ideology behind it." She was waiting before me at the deli counter. Server did not seem to notice her and went to serve me. I said, 'thus lady was before me' Lady took offence at tgat. It will not stop me. Even ladies first is how I was brought up. It's polite and gentlemanly. It's showing some respect I think. | |||
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