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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recently got talking to a couple on here but now have been called a time waster. The reason both times they had a baby sitter I wasn't free.

When we first got chatting I explained I have a job with shifts. So 2 nights a week I work. Also 2 nights a week I have my kids stay at mine, so I'm pretty limited to when I can play.

Just got me thinking because you see so many threads about time wasters on here.

Are some people too quick to say someone's a time waster. I certainly am not a time waster and consider myself a very genuine and upfront person. I wouldn't arrange a meet if I knew I couldn't make it.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I guess some people are very quick to brand others as time wasters.

I'm always upfront that I have very limited time to play - being a single mum, and having a real life as well as this one, if people don't like it - tough - its their loss.

To me a time waster is someone who arranges meets and calls off at last minute, or doesn't show... or like I've had a few times now, endless ping pong mails until you actually come to hammer down a time to meet...

So its not just you, block, delete and move on - its their loss, and you'll find someone worth your playtime!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You are not a timewaster. I wouldn't place too much credence of the thoughts of people who call you one for working and looking after kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been called timewasters many a time as we have a young child and S works shifts so it can be very tricky to meet, just think yourself lucky you didn't waste any more time on them

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My meet time is very limited and my spare time is valuable. I appreciate people have lives away from fab and this can impact on meeting time. Saying that, if I were let down when a firm meet had been arranged without a good reason, I would not be impressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been called one because i would not drop my kids and go meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeh I would totally understand if a meet was arranged, baby sitter sorted specifically etc but hey ho, life goes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who arranges to meet and doesn't turn up without giving a reason is in my eyes a time-waster.

Everyone else is just someone living their real life, swinging is like a hobby to me it's not all my life.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Someone who arranges to meet and doesn't turn up without giving a reason is in my eyes a time-waster.

Everyone else is just someone living their real life, swinging is like a hobby to me it's not all my life. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a single guy mate & expected to be available at the drop of a hat as only couples & women have busy lifes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have only managed to have one meet - but we say very early on that we cant meet often and the friends we chat to accept this and some are in a similar situation themselves - an unfriended couple actually have on their profile something along the lines of why does it to take up to 2 weeks for a couple to arrange sitters etc and whats all that about - makes me smile as can take us longer than that and kids at uni and we both have lives outside that come first - dont get me wrong we would love to meet at the drop of a hat and is probably how most of ours will happen - just not very often - were happy though and to us thats all that matters

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By *harliesteveCouple
over a year ago

selly oak

Ur not alone, these things take planning and people have to accept this, if they don't accept it then are they people u want to know?

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Ur not alone, these things take planning and people have to accept this, if they don't accept it then are they people u want to know? "

Our playtime is lmtd due to work and fam.commitments and we enjoy partys,Clubs and BDSM events.Therefor private meets are planned well in advanced.fabsters who push for a 'meet very soon' have no luck with us as we booked up in advance

OP:you haven't let them down therefor you are not a timewaster.Few have all the time in the world to play anytime they like

(susie)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had guys whinge cos we chat that means i have to make time for them and forget my life!

i tell them from the start my life is busy and arranging a meet is hard as i find something comes up alot if i prebook.. so most o fmy meets are spontanious as i suddenly find i have some time, then go looking to see who is online and available.. but unfortunatly that means some guys just never seem to be around when i am..

have had some guys tell me if i was genuine and really interested i would make time fo rthem.. as if i would put a meet before work and family/friends pffft

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

There is a profile on here that has had " rugby does mfm are big fat timewasters " ( or words to that effect )on their profile for about three months.

We are not, so it doesn't bother us seeing someone say we are.

Ignore the person...it isn't the end of the world to be called something you are not.

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter

lot of entitled assholes on here who think getting a meet is like ordering a pizza...

1/ I am a single man, which means I also have to do my own shopping / laundry / chores etc, all of which takes time.

2/ I am a single man, but not a test tube clone hermit, so I have family and friends and I like to see them.

3/ I am a single man, who runs his own business and who also works a job that means short notice call outs to anything up to 3 hours drive away.

4/ I am single man, so I like to enjoy some of the benefits of being single, which means sometimes just sitting on my sofa chilling to some tunes or whatever

5/ I am a single man, but always have one or two "friends" at large, so I'm not exactly starved for sex.

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You put all that together, and I can arrange something if it suits me with anything from two to seven days notice, but the emphasis is on if it suits me, and for the majority on here who think ordering pizza is the way to go it doesn't suit me....

*IF* I arrange a meet it is set in stone with me, so despite the fact that some might assume that single guys/gals are free at the drop of a hat, the reality is more than somewhat different.

*MY* free time is more scarce than the quantity of available cunt, and is therefore the more valuable commodity to *ME*

To others who are only interested in my cock, on their schedule, this is an obvious point of contention.

"Timewaster"... no such thing exists, if someone wastes my time then it was my fault for wasting that time on them.

People flake, it's human nature, people lie, it's human nature, people who are genuine have unexpected problems, it's human nature.

This is FAB, not Dominos, if you want sex with the convenience of pizza them treat it as a commodity you purchase, and buy it from a whore.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"There is a profile on here that has had " rugby does mfm are big fat timewasters ""

So you are admitting to being big & fat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single lass and just because i live alone and can accommodate (if i choose too) i've been called a cock tease, time waster, fridgid, all because i wouldn't meet on the spot and on there say so...

I joined this site for my pleasure and that's mostly my main aim. I'm not here to be some assholes cumdump or to be used like an ATM!!

If guys can't be arsed to get to know me a little, then i can't be arsed for them to waste my time!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"There is a profile on here that has had " rugby does mfm are big fat timewasters "

So you are admitting to being big & fat "

yes lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"There is a profile on here that has had " rugby does mfm are big fat timewasters " ( or words to that effect )on their profile for about three months.

We are not, so it doesn't bother us seeing someone say we are.

Ignore the person...it isn't the end of the world to be called something you are not."

I disagree Rugby.

It's not the end of the world but it is malicious and against site rules.

Your actions say you are not petty enough or fragile enough to let it consume your every fibre but the cold hard fact IS, the longer it was up for , the more people read it, the more the ignorant had the seeds of doubt sewn about you.

It doesn't do much good for someone's 'status' on here. ( 'status' has wiggly fingers round it as a billion other words could have been used )

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"There is a profile on here that has had " rugby does mfm are big fat timewasters " ( or words to that effect )on their profile for about three months.

We are not, so it doesn't bother us seeing someone say we are.

Ignore the person...it isn't the end of the world to be called something you are not.

I disagree Rugby.

It's not the end of the world but it is malicious and against site rules.

Your actions say you are not petty enough or fragile enough to let it consume your every fibre but the cold hard fact IS, the longer it was up for , the more people read it, the more the ignorant had the seeds of doubt sewn about you.

It doesn't do much good for someone's 'status' on here. ( 'status' has wiggly fingers round it as a billion other words could have been used ) "

Of course if people see any public slagging off then report it, as Admin do take it off as you quite rightly say it is against rules.

To be honest though I was just using that as an example of why someone accusing us of being timewasters wouldn't bother us at all....especially in private mail where only us would see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single lass and just because i live alone and can accommodate (if i choose too) i've been called a cock tease, time waster, fridgid, all because i wouldn't meet on the spot and on there say so...

I joined this site for my pleasure and that's mostly my main aim. I'm not here to be some assholes cumdump or to be used like an ATM!!

If guys can't be arsed to get to know me a little, then i can't be arsed for them to waste my time!! "

Total respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone who arranges to meet and doesn't turn up without giving a reason is in my eyes a time-waster.

Everyone else is just someone living their real life, swinging is like a hobby to me it's not all my life.

This "

Totally agree. Even with a firm meet fixed things can still go wrong, illness, babysitter lets you down, or in a couple you & OH have a row lol!! At the end of the day we all have lives, kids, work etc as long as you explain and don't just not turn up what's the issue? This is about having fun and if people don't like being let down, go to clubs then you can meet people and chat first, then when you agree a private meet there is less chance of disappointment and if the worst happens at least you know it was a genuine issue why they couldn't meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single lass and just because i live alone and can accommodate (if i choose too) i've been called a cock tease, time waster, fridgid, all because i wouldn't meet on the spot and on there say so...

I joined this site for my pleasure and that's mostly my main aim. I'm not here to be some assholes cumdump or to be used like an ATM!!

If guys can't be arsed to get to know me a little, then i can't be arsed for them to waste my time!!

Total respect "

Good for you we're swingers not hookers!!!

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