FabSwingers.com forum: What do you look for most looks or personality

By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

So come on then be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Looks typically is what is noticed first but to sustain an interest or intrigue, there has to be an interest in their personality too. Can’t have one without the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Got to be a physical attraction and also got to be fun, friendly, not into fake people at all and has got to be plenty lf laughter too.

Both are definitely important.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

"Looks typically is what is noticed first but to sustain an interest or intrigue, there has to be an interest in their personality too. Can’t have one without the other. "

Well at least your honest huni

Me personally I don’t really mine looks but I do look for beautiful eyes on a woman

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By *ags73Man
33 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Personality. If you can’t have a connection or laugh it can be shagging an ironing board.

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By *mf123Man
33 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I no longer look for anything but without a spark id close my eyes to anything

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By *eroLondonMan
33 weeks ago

Mayfair

The looks play a part but the interest in this will quickly wane if the woman isn't underpinned with an attractive and engaging personality.

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By *parkle1974Woman
33 weeks ago

Leeds

The look catches my attention....the personality keeps it x

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By *enhamhoopMan
32 weeks ago

Denham

Personality all day every day normally comes attached to a kinky mind

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Character. I like to engage with people. I find their personality attractive and take things from there - often that may just be frienship.

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By *ornycouplenorfolkCouple
32 weeks ago

Norwich

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"The look catches my attention....the personality keeps it x"

See its eyes like yours I go for I could look in them all the time will we fucked

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By *B69Woman
32 weeks ago

Wiltshire

I need to be attracted to that person first off, their personality will keep me interested

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By *ansoffateMan
32 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

It's easier to see looks than personality, but personality is more important to me.

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By *punk n gushCouple
32 weeks ago

deal

Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person "

lol I’m loving the user name

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By *ucka39Man
32 weeks ago

Newcastle

Bit of both needs to be an attraction to begin with and the personality will just shine through

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By *amieLDN22Man
32 weeks ago

London

For 99% of the people on fabs its totally looks. Lets be honest. Very superficial place.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
32 weeks ago

andover

With guys, more personality

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By *untogetherCouple
32 weeks ago

Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K.

Personality, but looks are somewhat important

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By *agatoXXXMan
32 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

A pulse.

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By *elshy44Man
32 weeks ago

rct

Looks are what first attracts someone to somebody, but personality is more important for me personally

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By *ags73Man
32 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"A pulse."

That bad?

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
32 weeks ago

London.

Personality , for me is what leads to the mental sparks...

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By *agatoXXXMan
32 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

"A pulse.

That bad?"

That bad.

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By *riel13Woman
32 weeks ago

Northampton

I don't like that, even though I am initially attracted to someones face... It's not necessarily down to "good looks" so, if you mean attraction... To answer your question... It is both with equal measure... One is no good without the other

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By *ags73Man
32 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"A pulse.

That bad?

That bad."

I’ve doubted them having a personality before, but..

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By *oubleswing2019Man
32 weeks ago

Colchester

I'm sapiosexual, so a person's intelligence floats my boat.

I'm ambivalent to looks / clothing / makeup in day to day life. I prefer "au natural".

In a "club" environment with patrons where there is a dress-code, or where I am asking a sub to wear something particular, that's different.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Well I’d fuck a stupid cunt over an ugly one

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Well I’d fuck a stupid cunt over an ugly one "

Apologises for the language

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By *ynamicnatureMan
32 weeks ago

Doncaster

"The look catches my attention....the personality keeps it x"

Hey sparkle, that is 100% true!

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By *aturefunswTV/TS
32 weeks ago

bristol

Def for me it’s whole package x I just like to connect on a physical level quickly and that’s first kiss or invite x then slow down the actual date to see if you connect on diff levels x

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Looks usually catch my eye first but need a winning.personally to keep my interest.

There are some with a winning personality and they get more attractive the more you get to know them.

It also works in reverse they could be a looker but if they have an ugly personality that attraction fades.

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By *corpioboyMan
32 weeks ago

Glasgow

Looks play a small part but for me personality wins every time

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By *ifestyle1Man
32 weeks ago

me171

"Looks typically is what is noticed first but to sustain an interest or intrigue, there has to be an interest in their personality too. Can’t have one without the other. "

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By *ifestyle1Man
32 weeks ago

me171

I'm personally looking

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By *ifestyle1Man
32 weeks ago

me171

"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person "

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By *ifestyle1Man
32 weeks ago

me171

Connection and personality is the key

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By *lirty and dirty99Man
32 weeks ago

swansea

Connection and personality for me if I can find someone I get on with anything else is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.

And that’s how it’s always worked

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Manners go a longer way than a hard bod and "personality".

I like men who hold open doors for me, dress up for supper and are intelligent.

They're worth an entire platoon of horny 30-somethings still living with Mammy.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
32 weeks ago

Trowbridge

"The look catches my attention....the personality keeps it x"

^this

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By *parkle1974Woman
32 weeks ago

Leeds

"The look catches my attention....the personality keeps it x

Hey sparkle, that is 100% true!"

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By *erryGoldMan
32 weeks ago

Redditch

Personality, nothings more of a turn off than someone I cant have a laugh with.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
32 weeks ago

Leeds

Someone who’s not a dickhead, with their head stuck up their own arse.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"The look catches my attention....the personality keeps it x

^this"

Also… their personality can catch my attention and they soon become absolutely perfect in every way.

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By *it4uMan
32 weeks ago

Brighton / Eastbourne / SW France

I’d say it’s 50/50 split. There needs to be attraction but also a brain/personality for the sexual lust to mix.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Personality.

Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.

How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense?

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By *lack beauty 35Woman
32 weeks ago

West midlands

"Personality.

Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.

How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? "
or the ones that just put hi

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

First it’s looks (mainly a short beard) but personality is then big for me…if we don’t click and have a giggle I’m instantly not interested even if I’m attracted - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Personality.

Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.

How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? or the ones that just put hi

Lol! This!!!! Although…I do give it a couple messages (or I would of never met my Mr in the first place) as it gives me maybe 3 to start a good conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Personality.

Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.

How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? or the ones that just put hi

Lol! This!!!! Although…I do give it a couple messages (or I would of never met my Mr in the first place) as it gives me maybe 3 to start a good conversation "

lol

I get it but there’s not a lot one can do with “hi”!

For me it shows lack of imagination, stupidity or they can’t be arsed, so why bother as I think I’ll be bored.

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By *tleystagMan
32 weeks ago

ilkley

"I'm sapiosexual, so a person's intelligence floats my boat.

I'm ambivalent to looks / clothing / makeup in day to day life. I prefer "au natural".

In a "club" environment with patrons where there is a dress-code, or where I am asking a sub to wear something particular, that's different."

Interesting. I wonder if this is similar to power. I find nearly all female bosses at my work attractive. This could be intelligence or power or both. Looks dint seem to come into it (although, as I'm not blind, they help)

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
32 weeks ago

Leeds

I need a physical attraction but that alone won't make me want something the personality has to be attractive to me too, I need both.

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By *aTina HeadTurnerWoman
32 weeks ago

Travelling

If I don’t like the looks, I’m not going any further. If it makes me shallow so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Personality.

Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.

How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? or the ones that just put hi

Lol! This!!!! Although…I do give it a couple messages (or I would of never met my Mr in the first place) as it gives me maybe 3 to start a good conversation

lol

I get it but there’s not a lot one can do with “hi”!

For me it shows lack of imagination, stupidity or they can’t be arsed, so why bother as I think I’ll be bored. "

Oh totally! If it’s simply “hi” then I probably wouldn’t bother either. But if they add just a few more words I will attempt to start up a proper conversation - Mrs

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
32 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Instantaneously, looks and then personality.

Over time personality and then looks take second place.

Would I be attracted to a fantastic personality with average looks .... YES

Would I be attracted to a fantastic looker with a shit personality...... NO

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By *carlettsWoman
32 weeks ago

Harpenden

Attraction first, but then definately personality as they could be super hot but dull as dish water met a few of those along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.

And that’s how it’s always worked "

A guy that can be honest!!

Personality is important, but unless I find them physically attractive, it ain't happening.

Both. I need both equally.

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By *eliWoman
32 weeks ago

I don't look.

Attraction works a bit differently for me than for most and I'm cool with that.

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By *avexxMan
32 weeks ago

cheshire

ive had dates with a few stunners in my time and it didnt last very long for sure they were dull as dish water,, so defo personality comes into it

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
32 weeks ago

Southampton

"Well I’d fuck a stupid cunt over an ugly one "

blunt. ...

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By *eviant-Kinky-CoupleCouple
32 weeks ago

town

There's got to be an attraction otherwise we don't have that draw to them.

Personality plays a huge part also, being attractive but entitled, rude, selfish etc just wouldn't be a good connection

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By *viatrixWoman
32 weeks ago

Redhill

Both. Can’t compromise on either.

When I have, I’ve regretted it terribly.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.

And that’s how it’s always worked

A guy that can be honest!!

Personality is important, but unless I find them physically attractive, it ain't happening.

Both. I need both equally. "

attraction is complicated, but as always the questions in here are very basic leaving answers shallow.

I have to think she’s pretty, people begin to look very ugly when you see they’re not so good looking when they’re personality or attitude stinks.

If she’s already okay, she becomes the most desirable object of sexual beauty when she makes me laugh engages me and starts to give me something I didn’t think I needed.

It’s that type of thing.

And then there’s more, but that’s it, I’m a nutshell.

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By *artfordBlokeMan
32 weeks ago

Dartford

Mostly personality, physical attraction is obviously the starting point, as that's all you have to start with, but an interesting mind is way more attractive to me, personally. Great conversation and things in common are way more important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"So come on then be honest "

Personality for me. Looks help and they DO matter but personality is definitely the number 1

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By *a LunaWoman
32 weeks ago

South Wales

Personality. I won’t say looks don’t play a part because they do, but personality makes up for a lot.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
32 weeks ago

somewhere

I am going to sound shallow here, I go for looks first, I have to be physically attracted to a person to want to have the sex with them, if they happen to be funny, witty etc that just a bonus and probably the reason why I have shagged my fairshare of knobheads over the years lol.

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By *obandruthCouple
32 weeks ago

wolverhampton

Both.

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By *allandathleticMan
32 weeks ago

Asgard

I've said it a thousand times on these threads.

You can be the best looking person in a room. If your an arsehole. Your an arsehole.

Looks garner attention. Personality, keeps it.

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
32 weeks ago

St Neots

Looks. But mostly because if they are tooooo good looking, I'll avoid

who enjoys rejection?

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Personality.

Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.

How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? or the ones that just put hi

Lol! This!!!! Although…I do give it a couple messages (or I would of never met my Mr in the first place) as it gives me maybe 3 to start a good conversation

lol

I get it but there’s not a lot one can do with “hi”!

For me it shows lack of imagination, stupidity or they can’t be arsed, so why bother as I think I’ll be bored.

Oh totally! If it’s simply “hi” then I probably wouldn’t bother either. But if they add just a few more words I will attempt to start up a proper conversation - Mrs"

Absolutely. Couldn’t agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.

And that’s how it’s always worked

A guy that can be honest!!

Personality is important, but unless I find them physically attractive, it ain't happening.

Both. I need both equally.

attraction is complicated, but as always the questions in here are very basic leaving answers shallow.

I have to think she’s pretty, people begin to look very ugly when you see they’re not so good looking when they’re personality or attitude stinks.

If she’s already okay, she becomes the most desirable object of sexual beauty when she makes me laugh engages me and starts to give me something I didn’t think I needed.

It’s that type of thing.

And then there’s more, but that’s it, I’m a nutshell. "

It isn't shallow to want sex with someone you find attractive.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
32 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Looks,I couldn't shag a nice uggo

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
32 weeks ago

Sherwood Forest

Looks first... there has to be a physical attraction but there still has to be a mental attraction too if we are looking for a play mate

That being said if we are being honest we have had one or two one night stands that was just for pure fucking so that was just all about physical attraction

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By *icecouple561Couple
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32 weeks ago

East Sussex

Looks

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By *ou only live onceMan
32 weeks ago

London

"Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.

And that’s how it’s always worked "

Yep. I might grow to like your personality over time, but that's unlikely to be the case for physical appearance.

I'm trying to think of someone whose personality grew on me so much that I began to fancy them despite not finding them physically attractive and I can't think of anyone. For me that's the difference between a friend and more...

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By *obajxMan
32 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Looks typically is what is noticed first but to sustain an interest or intrigue, there has to be an interest in their personality too. Can’t have one without the other. "

Absolutely this

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Looks. If I’m not physically attracted to you it’s unlikely to change, a personality that I don’t get on with though will very quickly turn me off.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
32 weeks ago

St Leonards

For a "one night, thanks and never see you again but wasn't it amazing?", 75% looks, 25% their vibe.

For anything with a view to seeing them again, they have to be highly attractive to me physically and charismatically.

Why give your best time to someone unsatisfying? You don't get that time back.

High charisma and low looks = friendzone. High looks and low charisma = thanks and wish you well zone.

They have to be pretty high on both for me to invest time in them.

I hope they'd apply the same to me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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32 weeks ago

East Sussex

Nobody can maintain a long term relationship on looks alone. There needs to be a meeting of the minds and personal attraction. Besides looks change and the person whose physical beauty dazzled you thirty years ago is going to be beautiful on a different way today. That's when the physical and personality become inseparable

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
32 weeks ago

chichester

looks if its just a fuck

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By *punk n gushCouple
32 weeks ago

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By *punk n gushCouple
32 weeks ago

deal

"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person "

As my wife says

Also needs to be straight playing

Eyes/eye contact

Not a lier as so many can't be. Honest so makes it hard to become true friends the right play mates

Also not narrow minded as in looks 2 many concentrate on a man's body and parts there's more to a man than just his junk look beyond a 6 pack and body type as my wife has amazing eyes and truly sexy being a bbw she's very aware of her size and it puts her of what people think angsieties play a large part for many

Male

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
32 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It goes, height, face, hair, body, personality and then drinking.

If any one of the factors don’t work then we’re not interested.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Central

Looks are essential but I'd not meet anyone with the wrong personality

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By *punk n gushCouple
32 weeks ago

deal

"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person

As my wife says

Also needs to be straight playing

Eyes/eye contact

Not a lier as so many can't be. Honest so makes it hard to become true friends the right play mates

Male

Sorry op think I killed the thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person

As my wife says

Also needs to be straight playing

Eyes/eye contact

Not a lier as so many can't be. Honest so makes it hard to become true friends the right play mates

Male

Sorry op think I killed the thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
32 weeks ago

"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person

As my wife says

Also needs to be straight playing

Eyes/eye contact

Not a lier as so many can't be. Honest so makes it hard to become true friends the right play mates

Male

Sorry op think I killed the thread

lol it’s cool

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By *hunky GentMan
32 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

When you're as good looking as me with a body of a god it doesn't matter.

Ok, I'm kidding - I go for personality first.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I'm not looking but when I was, the ability to seduce my mind, won over looks.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
32 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

Always looks first

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By *ee69Man
32 weeks ago

glasgow

Looks , personality is a bonus but all do anyone once lol

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
32 weeks ago

Reading

Personality it can make someone sexy.

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