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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
25 weeks ago

Leeds

If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested?

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By *ayPrimeMan
25 weeks ago

Leeds

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "

A bit presumptuous I think. A bit jarring too, they might be horny as a rutting rhino at their end but that doesn’t mean I am.

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By *LiamMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands

Unintrested

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By *hunky GentMan
25 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "

I don't know.

Send me a message and let's see what happens

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
25 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Instant block

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By *hoirCouple
25 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "

If involves a lot of money and my bank account, or a large case, then I am turned on and vair interested.

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By *oldAndBoundlessMan
25 weeks ago

Bradford

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "

You tell us

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Usually results in the message being deleted or a block if it's too graphic.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

It makes me feel that only a creep would send such messages. It’s an instant delete.

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By *lfa RomeoMan
25 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "

Send me a message sparkle and I'll let you know

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

The way our bio sort reads, in my head anyways, could be interpreted by some to describe to us their dirtiest thoughts that potentially involve either one, or both of us.

We don't mind anyone describe in detail about what they want to happen, it can show how they like to fuck and it's got to show more imagination that "hi, I would rag your misses" etc

Obviously this is isn't saying it's ok for anyone else, but it is for us, when done right

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By *ayPrimeMan
25 weeks ago

Leeds

Obviously this is isn't saying it's ok for anyone else, but it is for us, when done right

I was gonna mention this caveat before; there’s a fair few profiles that have said they enjoy that sort of first contact (I guess it’s a good sounding board when choosing who to reply to as well).

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "

Try me

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By *ris GrayMan
25 weeks ago

Dorchester

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "
I'd be impressed Sparkle how would you be?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I like to show a little effort, share a flattering thought or two. But I don’t think a long list of intentions is necessarily the snappiest intro. Folks are busy, after all. Am I wrong?

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By *imply DeeWoman
25 weeks ago

Wherever

Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.

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By *ustincider888Man
25 weeks ago

Preston Ish

People actually get messages like that?

Never sent nor received a first correspondence as such

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By *ris GrayMan
25 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. "
How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?

In some cases I’d imagine it’s not always paste

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By *oxy jWoman
25 weeks ago

somerset

instant block from me

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I’ll let you know if it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I’ll let you know if it happens

I always imagine these questions of first messages relate more to women.

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By *ris GrayMan
25 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?

In some cases I’d imagine it’s not always paste

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omg

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I’ll let you know if it happens

I always imagine these questions of first messages relate more to women. "

Hence the reason I cannot answer.

But if there was food involved…..

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
25 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

Not for me as a 1st message sorry xx

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By *it4uMan
25 weeks ago

Brighton / Eastbourne / SW France

I have never had a ‘1st message’ from a female let alone what she’d like to do to me.

I think I’d quite like it

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?

In some cases I’d imagine it’s not always paste

omg

*puke*

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By *ustBoWoman
25 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I delete them.

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By *ris GrayMan
25 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?

In some cases I’d imagine it’s not always paste

omg

*puke*"
lol

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By *ris GrayMan
25 weeks ago

Dorchester

I rarely send first messages woody

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
25 weeks ago

Usually turned off, and I make a mental note to avoid them in the future

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By *orphia2003Woman
25 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Probably a instant block. Maybe a response asking which part of 'only seeking women ' they were to ignorant to understand, before blocking them.

(The only time I've received this type of message is from men)

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By *imi_RougeWoman
25 weeks ago

Portsmouth

I usually feel a little bit sick... And they get blocked.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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25 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I'd suspect that 'she' has a penis.

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By *electableicecreamMan
25 weeks ago

The West

"The way our bio sort reads, in my head anyways, could be interpreted by some to describe to us their dirtiest thoughts that potentially involve either one, or both of us.

We don't mind anyone describe in detail about what they want to happen, it can show how they like to fuck and it's got to show more imagination that "hi, I would rag your misses" etc

Obviously this is isn't saying it's ok for anyone else, but it is for us, when done right

RIP your inbox

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By *ansoffateMan
25 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

If you are going to be presumptuous then you'd better get it very right.

Let's just say the exception proves the rule.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
25 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

The profile says "I have no interest in your self indulgent wank fodder stories being vomited into my inbox."

So anyone who opens with that to me is a straight no, block, or delete depending on what they're actually saying and my mood at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

When I had in my bio my likes and dislikes, they were VERY clear that I was dominant and not submissive, so when I had guys in my DMs telling me they were going to dom me and make me their sub, they got an instant block; because if you can’t read a bio for 20 seconds, I doubt you’re going to listen to me irl

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable."

Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????

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By *ark n kimCouple
25 weeks ago

Durham

"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.

Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????

Moaning because they don't understand why they can't get a meet.

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By *inkycoupleofscotsCouple
25 weeks ago

Stirling-ish

it's a no from us.

a polite conversation opener and getting to know each other a bit is more our flow.

interesting to read other's opinions though as it's usually a quandary as to what to put

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By *ris GrayMan
25 weeks ago

Dorchester

"it's a no from us.

a polite conversation opener and getting to know each other a bit is more our flow.

interesting to read other's opinions though as it's usually a quandary as to what to put"
read the profile go from their

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By *he Silver FuxMan
25 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

“Love it, is that a threat or a promise?”

“Okay, you have my interest but I think we can do better…”

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By *punk n gushCouple
25 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

Usually if we get messages like that it's normally a block as 9 times out of 10 they want to di something that is a no no abd proves they havread our profile

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

Instablock. They are just having a wank. All power to you but doesn't mean I want to hear about it. Get to know me first.

But no doubt some love it so as usual it's know your audience!

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By *he Silver FuxMan
25 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

“I’d like to tongue punch your fart box”

Classic opener

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By *inkycoupleofscotsCouple
25 weeks ago

Stirling-ish

unfortunately some profiles don't really give much away.

and what they do doesn't lend it's self to a good opener......unless you're diving in with the "we wanna do this, that and the next thing" type messages

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By *illie fitMan
25 weeks ago

Bournemouth

This is a very good point, I think it works for some people and doesn’t for others

I tried funny opening messages I’ve tried straight to the point and I’ve tried polite messages, I’ve tried ever combination of all of them nothing works

I think it’s a combination of great opening message tailor made for them/her and also your photos

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By *ris GrayMan
25 weeks ago

Dorchester

"unfortunately some profiles don't really give much away.

and what they do doesn't lend it's self to a good opener......unless you're diving in with the "we wanna do this, that and the next thing" type messages"
Well if theirs not much to go on and you're still interested with nothing much to go on just ask what they are into or strike up a conversation about where they live the weather anything to try and find out whether you would get on, agreed some guys just don't lend themselves to this site, they see it as a sex site with like thinking people but its not, we all require different things from it.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
25 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.

Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????

Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message

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By *r John WickMan
25 weeks ago

The Continental

I’d be amazed to get one of those messages.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
25 weeks ago

Leeds

Dislike, total turn off.

Some randomer that hasn't even seen my face that knows nothing about me describing what he'd like to do to me just shouts desperation & any holes a goal.

(And yes He because I've never had a woman do it!)

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.

Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????

Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message

That’s partly the point-how else do you approach virtual strangers WITHOUT some kind of basic pleasantry-and how can somebody say something individual IF YOU DON’T KNOW THEM.

I’m not surprised men get short shrift when they respond to a profile with photos-legs akimbo,details of a woman’s genitalia that belong in a medical text-indicating casual ‘it could be you’ uncomplicated sex -and the moment the guy bites the bullet & ratchets up his language & approach to the visual images he’s seeing HE GETS BLOCKED.

Men may get blocked because of boring messages but women show an equal lack of imagination by show ALL their glory and complain when they get the messages & the approaches they do!

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By *herry delightWoman
25 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Being that this is a swinging site I expect that it's part of it. Especially if they have read my profile

I do think most of the time they have put very little effort into it, so it's far too polite that it's boring.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
25 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

It’ll feel like it’s a copy and paste message and they were wanking as they sent it…

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
25 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.

Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????

Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message

That’s partly the point-how else do you approach virtual strangers WITHOUT some kind of basic pleasantry-and how can somebody say something individual IF YOU DON’T KNOW THEM.

Men may get blocked because of boring messages but women show an equal lack of imagination by show ALL their glory and complain when they get the messages & the approaches they do!"

That's what profiles are for. To give you something to actually connect over.

If legs akimbo and no textual content is enough to get you going, then if you fit their preferences shoot your shot the way that makes sense to you in the context.

If someone tells you how they do or don't want to he approached and you decide to ignore that, then it's no surprise there's not a positive response.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
25 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Normally an instant delete. After I’ve read it and laughed at it of course

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By *mf123Man
25 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I like ut when she wants me to put my pecker in her furr burger

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "

Wouldn't be interested.

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
25 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

I only get those kind of messages from guys so it’s not interested for me.

From what I have read on here and been told, it’s a #blocked from women and couples too

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"The way our bio sort reads, in my head anyways, could be interpreted by some to describe to us their dirtiest thoughts that potentially involve either one, or both of us.

We don't mind anyone describe in detail about what they want to happen, it can show how they like to fuck and it's got to show more imagination that "hi, I would rag your misses" etc

Obviously this is isn't saying it's ok for anyone else, but it is for us, when done right

RIP your inbox "

Actually since we've rewrote our bio to what it is now, you probably would not be surprised if has not changed how people try to message the same one liners along with the unwanted friends request.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
25 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

As a single male on here, and being the age I am, I never get them.

Come to think of it, in all the years I have been on here, which is a lot, I have never had one

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
25 weeks ago

St Neots

Never turned on by them, rarely impressed by them, and more than likely not interested

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By *a LunaWoman
25 weeks ago

South Wales

Bored usually.

I like my sex to be spontaneous and exciting. Not pre planned and shrouded in fantasy.

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By *partharmonyCouple
25 weeks ago

Ruislip

"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...

Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "

Almost always completely uninterested, and the sender shou6be able to work that out from our profile.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
25 weeks ago

Essex

"Dislike, total turn off.

Some randomer that hasn't even seen my face that knows nothing about me describing what he'd like to do to me just shouts desperation & any holes a goal.

(And yes He because I've never had a woman do it!)"

Exactly this.

It’s all very one sided

“This is what **I** want. You are just a blow up doll in my fantasy”

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
25 weeks ago

Essex

"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.

Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????

Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message

That’s partly the point-how else do you approach virtual strangers WITHOUT some kind of basic pleasantry-and how can somebody say something individual IF YOU DON’T KNOW THEM.

Men may get blocked because of boring messages but women show an equal lack of imagination by show ALL their glory and complain when they get the messages & the approaches they do!"

If you genuinely cannot find a middle ground between boring, lack of effort “hi” and filth.

If you absolutely seriously think that what you just said was in any way ok..

Let me do you a favour. Find the delete profile button and use it.

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By *issmorganWoman
25 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Turned off and I delete it.

They don't know me and what I like etc, annoys me when they think they'll give me the best time ever etc.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
25 weeks ago

Kendal

It all depends.

Aimless chit chat "how are you, what you been up to" is all well and good but most of the tone sparkles into absolutely nothing. At least if someone is upfront, or at least makes it quite clear they want to meet in the first message, it doesn't sometimes feel quite as much as a waste of time going through pleasantries to find out there's no interest or compatibility.

As the Mrs of the profile I get quite a lot of these messages aimed at me - whilst he's fine with it, it also shows who actually bothers to read our profile and find out what we're looking for and who just hopes I'll find their message such a turn on I'll be round theirs dropping my knickers asap.

C xoxo

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By *ot to giggleWoman
25 weeks ago

Coventry

well when it comes with the obligatory cock pic and request for my face pic (unless they have seen me in chat) - then i read, laugh and reply that the cock sending it is far bigger and im not impressed - ill ignore them then

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.

Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????

Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message

How could I be specific if I don’t know them?If a woman’s profile contains nude & explicit photographs of themselves they can’t want anybody approaching them to know anything about them and if you DO pay compliments about her & what you find attractive about her appearance then that doesn’t necessarily lead anywhere either.

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