FabSwingers.com forum: Tips & pointers

By *enegadeM OP Man
25 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

Afternoon all you glorious fabsters

So I know that the ‘help me’ & ‘why can’t I get a meet’ threads happen all the time … but I just want to know what I’m doing wrong haha I don’t think my photos are that bad… and my bio gives a little bit about me….. so is it just my messages that are failing me ? I try to make a link to things in their bio to chat about ….

What do you think folks?

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By *parkle1974Woman
25 weeks ago

Leeds

Never had a message from you so can't answer that but if it's your bog standard "how are you" type thing then it's not going to grab anyone's attention.

Patience is the key OP, but being here before, you should know that.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
25 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Are you looking for profile advice OP as you need to do that openly here for us to be able to answer.

If it’s general advice you will have read it all before on these threads. Make friends. Join in on the forum. Go to organised socials and more than anything just have fun

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By *ansoffateMan
25 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I'm not sure. I find it very hard to stop at just a tip. Is that welcome?

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By *ornycougaWoman
25 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

Deleting a profile and returning doesn't help imho - irrespective of how good your profile is, and how engaging your messages might be - you are still starting as the lowest of the low on here (a new unverified single guy) I'm afraid

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By *eroLondonMan
25 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Well, you're Caucasian and so that works in your favour. You're six foot tall and so that works in your favour. Your phallus has no malice and so that will work in your favour. You are domiciled in Oxford (ok ya) and therefore this should work in your favour. You have an admirable torso (and moreso) and I suspect this will work in your favour.

I have none of the aforementioned and yet things still work in my favour.

Give it time and you'll be fine.

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By *issmorganWoman
25 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Good pics op, but your bio doesn't really give me any sense of what you're into and what you'd offer a meet.

If you can maybe expand on it and put a bit of your personality into it.

For me if I find a profile bland, unless the message is amazing, I tend to not take it any further.

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By *mf123Man
25 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Helmet

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
25 weeks ago

Basingstoke

You appear to have been verified though, so something must have worked for you. Can you revisit the build up to receiving that verification and try similar 'tactics'?

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By *enegadeM OP Man
25 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Never had a message from you so can't answer that but if it's your bog standard "how are you" type thing then it's not going to grab anyone's attention.

Patience is the key OP, but being here before, you should know that."

More patience needed then

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By *enegadeM OP Man
25 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I'm not sure. I find it very hard to stop at just a tip. Is that welcome?"

I can never get past the tip until it’s too late

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By *enegadeM OP Man
25 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Deleting a profile and returning doesn't help imho - irrespective of how good your profile is, and how engaging your messages might be - you are still starting as the lowest of the low on here (a new unverified single guy) I'm afraid"

That’s true… I should have just hidden the profile and come back to it…. But we go again

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By *enegadeM OP Man
25 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Well, you're Caucasian and so that works in your favour. You're six foot tall and so that works in your favour. Your phallus has no malice and so that will work in your favour. You are domiciled in Oxford (ok ya) and therefore this should work in your favour. You have an admirable torso (and moreso) and I suspect this will work in your favour.

I have none of the aforementioned and yet things still work in my favour.

Give it time and you'll be fine."

Now that’s a very clever response … see that’s the wordsmanship I need

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By *enegadeM OP Man
25 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Good pics op, but your bio doesn't really give me any sense of what you're into and what you'd offer a meet.

If you can maybe expand on it and put a bit of your personality into it.

For me if I find a profile bland, unless the message is amazing, I tend to not take it any further. "

Bio needs more… got it

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