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By *rcticFoxxx OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Hereabouts

Preference or fetishising?

I had a conversation with a friend the other day about how a lot of people fetishise partners. My example being, it's very common for men to want a "BBW" in the bedroom, but less common for them to want to be seen in public together. Her example was "am I not fetishising my husband for his height? I only like tall men, so therefore I'm fetishising them, right?". But where is the line? Is she fetishising her husband when his height isn't the only thing she likes about him and they've been together for 15 years? Or is his height her preference but not the only thing that makes her attracted to him?

Anyway, the word fetishising is starting to look and sound weird to me now.

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By *r John WickMan
25 weeks ago

The Continental

Dunno about any of that, but how the bloody hell are ya? You’re is a name from the past I’ve not seen about for a while.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
25 weeks ago

manchester

Who cares, just enjoy what you enjoy. Labels restrict.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I think it’s more fetishising than preference when it’s obsessive or if it’s something that might involve objectifying a person for a characteristic.

I think preference suggests it’s something you prefer. Not something you obsessively crave or just weirdly overly fantasise about. I wonder also if preference mean that you prefer something meaning you like other things too.

Anyway I dunno if I’ve ever heard of someone fetishising height. But I agree people often do regarding weight

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By *emidemiWoman
25 weeks ago

basingstoke


"I think it’s more fetishising than preference when it’s obsessive or if it’s something that might involve objectifying a person for a characteristic.

I think preference suggests it’s something you prefer. Not something you obsessively crave or just weirdly overly fantasise about. I wonder also if preference mean that you prefer something meaning you like other things too.

Anyway I dunno if I’ve ever heard of someone fetishising height. But I agree people often do regarding weight"

You always know how to word what I’m thinking

I think another difference is that preferences, you’re still open to having a partner that might not fit into those preferences maybe?

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
25 weeks ago

Cheshire

Lots of women don't like small men , I don't like tall women it is what it is ....

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"I think it’s more fetishising than preference when it’s obsessive or if it’s something that might involve objectifying a person for a characteristic.

I think preference suggests it’s something you prefer. Not something you obsessively crave or just weirdly overly fantasise about. I wonder also if preference mean that you prefer something meaning you like other things too.

Anyway I dunno if I’ve ever heard of someone fetishising height. But I agree people often do regarding weight

You always know how to word what I’m thinking

I think another difference is that preferences, you’re still open to having a partner that might not fit into those preferences maybe?"

Yes for sure. It feels like an answer to the question ‘what do you prefer, X or Y?’

Doesn’t mean you don’t like the other, you just prefer one

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By *ittlebirdWoman
25 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

A fetish is more than a preference. It’s something you have to have to turn you on. So if you have a preference for something over another that’s not a fetish

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
25 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

What Bird said.

Having a preference isn't a fetish.

Enjoying a particular aspect of a particular person in a way it doesn't affect you with someone else, that's not a fetish either.

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By *ansoffateMan
25 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"A fetish is more than a preference. It’s something you have to have to turn you on. So if you have a preference for something over another that’s not a fetish "

I like that, very clear distinction.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
25 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"A fetish is more than a preference. It’s something you have to have to turn you on. So if you have a preference for something over another that’s not a fetish

I like that, very clear distinction."

Kink versus fetish innit

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By *rcticFoxxx OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Hereabouts


"Dunno about any of that, but how the bloody hell are ya? You’re is a name from the past I’ve not seen about for a while.

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If I didn't have a memory like I sieve I might be able to place you haha! But yeah I've not been here for years and just fancied popping in. I'll probably vanish again soon

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By *hoirCouple
25 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Preference or fetishising?

I had a conversation with a friend the other day about how a lot of people fetishise partners. My example being, it's very common for men to want a "BBW" in the bedroom, but less common for them to want to be seen in public together. Her example was "am I not fetishising my husband for his height? I only like tall men, so therefore I'm fetishising them, right?". But where is the line? Is she fetishising her husband when his height isn't the only thing she likes about him and they've been together for 15 years? Or is his height her preference but not the only thing that makes her attracted to him?

Anyway, the word fetishising is starting to look and sound weird to me now. "

It's an absurd fad this. Humanity survives by way of fetishisation.

C

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By *ensualMan
25 weeks ago

Sutton

It is fetish if you are not into an activity. It is a preference for the activities you are into.

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