FabSwingers.com forum: Tempo

By *EAT..85 OP Woman
25 weeks ago

Nottingham

Have you ever thought about who controls the tempo and mood of your fuckery?

I'd kinda assumed it was mainly him, but when he unquestionably took the control recently I realised that generally he dances to MY tune and MY needs. That was a slight revelation.

I think it definitely varies depending on who I am with as well though.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

This is one of the most fun parts of sex with different people. The dance one does to sort out who is leading vs. following, and the inevitable switching of who leads and follows throughout.

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
25 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

Usually me but I read the signs when to up the tempo but with a certain kind of woman I let them take the reins

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

We both do

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"The dance one does to sort out who is leading vs. following, and the inevitable switching of who leads and follows throughout. "

The switching is so much fun. And then there are those rare moments where it’s perfectly equal and you kind of lose yourselves in each other. Like being completely lost in music on a dancefloor, you stop thinking and just get into that flow state …

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By *edstockings2Couple
25 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Female here

I want the male to control the tempo and mood. Most men don't which I find a disappointment.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

And then there are those rare moments where it’s perfectly equal and you kind of lose yourselves in each other. Like being completely lost in music on a dancefloor, you stop thinking and just get into that flow state …"

Oh yes, getting lost in each other…

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

If anybody says they do it to the beat of the music....

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

But quick and fast. Then leave.

Don't even try that romantic go slow shit with me.

Thank you.

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By *ris GrayMan
25 weeks ago

Dorchester

I tend to lead but i don't have any designs on leading

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By *ensuallover1000Man
25 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

When atop of me, I love the fact that the lady has full control of the tempo in addition to the depth and angle of penetration in accordance with whatever gives her the most pleasurable sensation/s.

On top I generally control these things although I do absolutely love it when she grabs my arse and pulls me into her in such a way as to let me know exactly how she wants it.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"If anybody says they do it to the beat of the music....

Yes the tears of rage and the tears of anger flowed to the river bank

And at the local disco dancehall they were cranking up the skank

And the pulse of the noise went through the night into the washed-up back of my feet

And I smelled the fear and I tasted blood and the soundtrack was the Beat

As we moved in the Beat

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By *illy IdolMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands

It usually depends what play list I have on at the time. Sometimes I can get so lost in the moment that the music controls the tempo.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
25 weeks ago

Essex

Hmmmmm.

I’ll have to ponder that one. . .

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"It usually depends what play list I have on at the time. Sometimes I can get so lost in the moment that the music controls the tempo."

Ah the Old Leonard Cohen ballads...

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By *illy IdolMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands

"It usually depends what play list I have on at the time. Sometimes I can get so lost in the moment that the music controls the tempo.

Ah the Old Leonard Cohen ballads..."

Who's Leonard Cohen?

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By *ex HolesMan
25 weeks ago

Up North

Sorry but I dictate the tempo and it will be hard and fast

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Sorry but I dictate the tempo and it will be hard and fast

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By *ex HolesMan
25 weeks ago

Up North

"Sorry but I dictate the tempo and it will be hard and fast

In"

IKEA meatballs for afters?

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By *ansoffateMan
25 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

The beautiful synchronised, sensual ebb and flow of two bodies unified in passion.

Before one is pinned down and lustfully ravaged.

It can go either way as long as I am left elated with shuddering aftershocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Sorry but I dictate the tempo and it will be hard and fast

IKEA meatballs for afters? "

I think I'm a little bit in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"If anybody says they do it to the beat of the music....

Well

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By *ellhungvweMan
25 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I think it is both isn’t it? I would probably control it slightly more than she would but it is generally give and take.

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By *ripfillMan
25 weeks ago

havant

To find tempo ?

do you first have to define the mood by creating the right atmosphere

“Slow slow quick quick. slow ?

( By the way that’s not morse code )

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By *ex HolesMan
25 weeks ago

Up North

"Sorry but I dictate the tempo and it will be hard and fast

IKEA meatballs for afters?

I think I'm a little bit in love."

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
25 weeks ago

Nottingham

"Sorry but I dictate the tempo and it will be hard and fast

IKEA meatballs for afters? "

Can I have JUST the meatballs part?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
25 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Um, it's a pretty mutual thing. I think?

My hips and legs tend to get overexcited and do their own thing anyway.

I think if they're wanting slow and sensual then my body decides that that is not the tempo.

But I'm pretty sure the intensity is generally shared. Usually

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By *ot to giggleWoman
25 weeks ago

Coventry

oooh i so dont want to lead, then i do!! and then i just want it to be how it is and switch -

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

I would say I tend to be the more passive one.

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By *tylebender03Man
25 weeks ago

Manchester

Like Pac said How do you want it?

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By *igronnie89Man
25 weeks ago

near you

"But quick and fast. Then leave.

Don't even try that romantic go slow shit with me.

Thank you.

Quick and fast yeah, spunds good, naughty aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Chemistry is in charge.

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By *irthandgirthMan
25 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

They joy is in finding each others tempo.. and then play around. Then finding it again at the right moments.

Chatting with female friends, I am given to understand that one of the worst kind of male lovers is the metronome.. one pace, regardless of partner.

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