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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals...

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

not at all....I've got some cracking mates on here who don't actively play anymore, but who like the forums and chat rooms. There's plenty of room for everyone as long as folks are honest on their profiles about why they are here

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"not at all....I've got some cracking mates on here who don't actively play anymore, but who like the forums and chat rooms. There's plenty of room for everyone as long as folks are honest on their profiles about why they are here

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What Chezza said ^^^^^

The site doesn't need assurances from you when you join that you are going to meet people every week, every month or ever....it is up to you what you do in your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals..."

Personally i think the majority of them are males with couples profiles and/or timeswasters not wanting to swing but collecting friends so they can look at pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why are there so often posts on hear looking for ways to ban or remove people bassed on some seemingley sensiable reason

is the strength of the site not the volume and overall quality of the members

i know everyone is allowed there opinion but this one dose seem to come up over and over

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals..."

This kind of thread usually causes a lot of heated debate and has been done many times before.

Will answer your question with a few questions back -

Why does there need to be a time limit on when people first meet and put up a verification?

Maybe they have met others and just dont want to do verifications, its always their choice, is it not? I for one dont verify every meet because the meets are between me and the people I am meeting!

How long were you thinking it should be between the 'regular intervals'? Your last feedback was over a month ago and it says 'by phone' although it reads like it was an 'in person' meet. Should Admin therefore just delete your profile because you are over the 5 weeks between verifications (not that there is a rule)? Of course not, you will say it's because you have too been busy with other things to meet just now?

One person's timewaster is another person's change of mind, family stuff getting in the way, sitter problems, etc, etc! You get so called timewasters in vanilla life as well as on here and everywhere else really, just move on from them if thats how you feel.

Just my tuppence worth into a debate that will go on for ever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why are there so often posts on hear looking for ways to ban or remove people bassed on some seemingley sensiable reason

is the strength of the site not the volume and overall quality of the members

i know everyone is allowed there opinion but this one dose seem to come up over and over"
Nicely put! If you're old enough to swing you're old enough to decide to contact/accept contact from people with 'suspect' profiles. It becomes obvious who is a time waster after exchanging messages. I've met people with verifications and full profiles that I hope never to see again! I met my current long term play mate with a blank profile but is opening message was just right for me. 16 months later we speak every day, are very good friends and he still floats my boat, so you can never tell. Allow people to play how they see fit and not dictate how they do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals...

This kind of thread usually causes a lot of heated debate and has been done many times before.

Will answer your question with a few questions back -

Why does there need to be a time limit on when people first meet and put up a verification?

Maybe they have met others and just dont want to do verifications, its always their choice, is it not? I for one dont verify every meet because the meets are between me and the people I am meeting!

How long were you thinking it should be between the 'regular intervals'? Your last feedback was over a month ago and it says 'by phone' although it reads like it was an 'in person' meet. Should Admin therefore just delete your profile because you are over the 5 weeks between verifications (not that there is a rule)? Of course not, you will say it's because you have too been busy with other things to meet just now?

One person's timewaster is another person's change of mind, family stuff getting in the way, sitter problems, etc, etc! You get so called timewasters in vanilla life as well as on here and everywhere else really, just move on from them if thats how you feel.

Just my tuppence worth into a debate that will go on for ever! "

well said that man! we totally agree with your statement!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals..."

Who I fuck and when I fuck them is no ones business but mine and the people I am fucking!

I don't feel the need to prove anything to anyone and certainly don't need my ego boosting by posting a diary of meet verifications... which imho means feck all.

If you don't wish to meet people unless they have a new "wow what can I say they are great at x,y and z" then I suggest you only contact people who feel the need to prove something with their verification list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree totally! i hide my verifications all 4 of them lol!! and me and my most regular play pal havent verified each other same with another few for no other reason than its no ones business!! u soon start to realise the time wasters and pic hunters xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals..."

People meet as and when they feel like it, not when someone says they should.

Some don't want to show verifications on their profile so who should dictate what anyone does or how they do it?

And if someone accepts a friends invite then that's their business, no one elses. Personally I'm very careful who I accept as a friend and never accept someone I haven't chatted to, even then I delete 'friends' with whom communication isn't regular anyway.

So can I suggest that you don't be so quick to judge others and brand them as time wasters or pic collectors, what concern is it of anyones what someone does on the site? We are all adults after all!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ban everyone who doesn't shag everyday.... 24/7, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year.......

part time swingers do my tits in....

if you prioritise your family, work, other interests above SWINGING.. you should hang your head in shame....

grrrrrr

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Seriously… I am struggling to think of ever reading a more stupid suggestion as the one the OP makes.

What happens if you don’t fancy anyone who contacts you for a while or they all turn out to be muppets or you meet for a drink and don’t hit it off… do you just fuck a munter anyway because the time limit is coming up?

What about new to the scene couples who want to take their time and be sure before jumping in… whoops times up you failed to fuck!

Are people not allowed to be members and just enjoy the chatrooms?

What about the voyeuristic who just like being watched or just watching others on cam from time to time? Do they keep their membership because they went on cam and yet a couple may lose their membership because they are fussy about who they choose to share their sex life with?

Does anyone have the right to dictate how you live your life and how often you have to fuck someone new?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a government plot to tax you..... tax per shag with discount for over say 53 a yr....lol oh and a flat rate u need to pay whether u shag or not lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We havent put up any new verifications for a while cos real life is getting in the way

We have young kids and dont meet when they are off school since my sitter also has kids and she cant always watch mine, I also have a medical condition which stops me playing at times.

Last year I was that bad I didnt even log in here for months at a time cos there was no point for me to do so, I couldnt play and I even thought about deleting the profile, I wasnt posting on the forums or chatting in the chatroom.

By your rules I would have felt better and logged in to discover my profile had been deleted without my knowledge or consent!!!

I personally see no reason to play if I dont want to and I would NEVER agree to play unless I wanted to and never just to prove I am real swinger.

Shona

x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not feel the need to display my verifications or show my friends list, as I have nothing to prove, and what I do is nobody's business except mine!

Agree with Polo that it is another one of those threads that says "this is how swinging should be - my way!".

Sorry, I don't buy that, each to their own I'd say. One person's medicine is another person's poison!

Chill, and peace to all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who I fuck and when I fuck them is no ones business but mine and the people I am fucking!

I don't feel the need to prove anything to anyone and certainly don't need my ego boosting by posting a diary of meet verifications... which imho means feck all.

If you don't wish to meet people unless they have a new "wow what can I say they are great at x,y and z" then I suggest you only contact people who feel the need to prove something with their verification list. "

I couldn't have put it better, well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ditto to all the answers above except the OP

Jed (60+ verifications and is happy to meet people who don't have any)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other hand perhaps we should analyse (note it's word that contains the secondary word anal) every profile and kick anyone we think isn't 1005 perfect and conformist from the site.

Oh the OP has had a load of verifications but not one of those they have met are on thier friends list.

This must be because people they have sex with don't feel afterwards they would like to be friends with them, kick them off the site, obvious trouble makers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah get the placard wavers and the burning torches..... to be honest im past what other people think as long as im happy and the people i DO decide to meet are happy then i really dont give a shit what couple a, single b etc does it their business not mine!!! peace and goodwill to everyone xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeah get the placard wavers and the burning torches..... to be honest im past what other people think as long as im happy and the people i DO decide to meet are happy then i really dont give a shit what couple a, single b etc does it their business not mine!!! peace and goodwill to everyone xxx "

Succinctly put!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why thank you lol xxx

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By *artin216Man
over a year ago

Spilsby

Do i have to shag people i dont fancy, just to keep my verifications up to date?....i suppose its gives all the fuglies a crack of the whip...lol...its a swingers site after all...swingers would shag anything.....

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I first joined an adult.swinging site last Nov, and was very new and nervous about meeting starngers fir the first time, then I had an accident and serious back injury, so I couldn't meet anyone for over 3 months, eventually I did meet a couple of people but did not go on to play for various reasons, then joined fabs in May and due to timewasters was actualy put off from meeting for another few months. Eventually I did meet and after meeting my now regular and only playmate haven't bothered with recent varifications as we have some up already. So should I be asked to leave becuase of that? Daft post if you ask me.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals..."
i dont wish to display mine all of the time, on my couples profile we choose not to show our verifications....as for not meeting regularly.......if someone doesnt meet for a period of time that the OP thinks of as regularly we should be thrown off fab??? REALLY?????

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals..."

What a load of cobblers - get a grip! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh come on everyone, surely unless you have full face and body pics for everyone to see, then have at least three verified meets a week, every week, then you can't be genuine and deserve to be thrown off fab and branded a timewaster and non genuine swinger.

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Obviously the above is total rubbish as was the original suggestion .... live and let live like is it? (the welsh in me coming out there lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals..."

Define regular?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals...

Define regular? "

But just because people haven't got feedback it doesn't mean they don't meet - we meet people not off this site too so they can't verify us here! The OP was totally pointless Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to meet as often as possible but as we do have a family at home and we both work its very hard for us to arrange meets , its surprising the amount of folks on here that cant do a Sat night, also not everyone wants to leave feedback after a meet hence we have very sporadic feedback. This year has been one of the busiest as far as swinging goes but to look at our feedback you wouldn't be able to tell

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Another load of bollock i see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals...

Define regular?

But just because people haven't got feedback it doesn't mean they don't meet - we meet people not off this site too so they can't verify us here! The OP was totally pointless Z"

that was what we were getting at its not something that can be defined so is pointless, was agreeing with all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My suggestion on this is-----------------

File away the OP's opening thread in the "FFS another attention seeking look at me thread" file.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how the OP has not added another comment in the past 5 hours.

Can that be construed as not regular??????

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

people are here totally for their own agenda

which may be very different to yours

its life

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

only been on a few months and I am sick of the so called name of time wasters! everyone has difrent theories on what entails of a time waster.

I say all profiles that haven't been used in a month or two should go (((by that I mean not logged on in that time))) only to keep the site cleaner so you know who is active.

but it is up to individuals who use this site to say what they will and will not do. how dare people feel they have a say on who may/or may not be actively shagging someone..

It is none of anyone else's business what others do or don't.

I actually love the idea people are Friends on hear because the other side of it feels a bit like a cattle market.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

say all profiles that haven't been used in a month or two should go (((by that I mean not logged on in that time))) only to keep the site cleaner so you know who is active.

Why? Some people may go away for extended periods of time either holiday or to work, someone may be ill but still want to return to their original profile on the site, the way to see if people are 'active' is to message them perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

You would have to be doing some serious amount of browsing and looking to come across loads of accounts that have been inactive for a couple of months,they're always at the bottom of the list

I get fed up perving long before I get to that stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having way too much fun in real life to have time to get excited about feckin triv like this

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

I haven't seen any. I don't browse hubby dose now and then but never Sean any unused ones. I was saying in general a lot (of these so called time wasters) make multiple profiles in various names. if the site themselves after a few month deleted the profiles. although I bet they like thinking there is so many site uses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need to browse, peeps come to me intead!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

So no-one admits to having a perve everynow and then

I don't mind admitting to it

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"So no-one admits to having a perve everynow and then

I don't mind admitting to it "

bloody hell, i#m always at it! Z

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

well I don't I am more botherd about meeting people and chatting beleve it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"So no-one admits to having a perve everynow and then

I don't mind admitting to it

bloody hell, i#m always at it! Z"

.........I enjoy a bit of window shopping

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

now were sitesupportes it puts new uploaded pics up and we have looked atthem. we have mesg peoplefrom brouzing and from seeing them on the forums. but tbh we havent because we feel were pissing people off. we have said hi to a few people who have been intrested in meeting but when we say ohwell would have to sort babysitters ir couldnt be this week for x reson but next week or something.#

they think were time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So no-one admits to having a perve everynow and then

I don't mind admitting to it "

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No, not really!

Perfer to oogle at hot studs in porn intead!

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By *wabbitMan
over a year ago

grimsby


"are there lots of people on this site,lots have been members for a long time,but have no feedback,,why is this,are they just time waster or pic collectors...i suggest to the powers that be ,that accounts should be deleted if no feedback recieved on a regular intervals..."

The down side to this is like in my position Ive been having fun with a couple of playm8s over the past year.So they have left me feedback when we first playedand none since.So if what you suggest is put in to practice they would have to leave feedback every time we fucked and there would be a lot of reading to do so you could get to the bottom of the page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

raises a hand to being a 'professional' perv lol! go on rip me a new one now for saying the P word hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a good job that laine!!! lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"raises a hand to being a 'professional' perv lol! go on rip me a new one now for saying the P word hahahaha "

Its ok Laine I started it and im still in 1 piece,perving and munching a bag of revels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ooohh revels!!! yum!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"ooohh revels!!! yum!! xx"

Ooops I just ate the last one

otherwise we could have shared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its ok... found a box of thorntons special toffee and moments that were spare he he xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have thorntons mini caramel slices....

they fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know as were 2 packs for 2 quid in asda a few wks ago..... i did buy in case of visitors...but they got the custard creams lol!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i know as were 2 packs for 2 quid in asda a few wks ago..... i did buy in case of visitors...but they got the custard creams lol!! xx "

good move .......

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