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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago

As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks

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By *naswingdressWoman
38 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

1. Many people will look at your profile before responding to a message. Is it selling you as best as you can?

2. Consider the content of your messages

3. Clubs and socials - as long as you behave like a decent human being and ask for one, guaranteed verification. (Which isn't the be all and end all, but it's a start)

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

My advise would be to Visit a club and chat to people it’s the best place to get to know them and things just end up happening when you least expect it

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By *rill PhilMan
38 weeks ago

Crediton


"As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks"

This site isn't easy for us men. (Its not easy for women but, in almost entirely the opposite way!)

I'd say, seek advice on your profile and get involved in the forums, just like you're doing.

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By *ullyMan
38 weeks ago

Near Clacton

You just have to be patient and persistent. The fact is there are hundreds and hundreds of guys looking for fun friendship intimacy etc!

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By *offiaCoolWoman
38 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

As you are now aware, there are a lot of single men on here. Look at your own two sentence profile bio. Do you feel it reflects you and what you offer and seek ? If you were a single woman browsing, would you choose you ?

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By *rMonkeyMan
38 weeks ago

Somewhere

Don't get hung up on the size of your sausage, in reality it makes little difference on here other than with a small minority.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
38 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks"

Your profile is your shop window OP.

Ask yourself. If you were a woman would you reply to your profile. If the answer is no then change it accordingly. Loads of threads on advice as to what kind of things to put.

That being said, be you, be honest always and enjoy yourself. Loads of socials available and the forum is a great place to chat

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By *offiaCoolWoman
38 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

And interact with the thread you started

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By *uenevereWoman
38 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks"

The size of your penis and muscles, is much less important than your personality to most ladies.

Most women will look at profiles before responding to messages. Think of it as your shop window.

As it stands there's very little text to entice potential meets to "come inside" and get to know you.

A variety of photos, most not showing your cock is also a good idea.

If you like the social side of things, get to socials and clubs too, don't just rely on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago

Up to now , thanks for all the replies , help and advice . It has certainly given me things to think about , especially the quality of my profile . I’m just going to have to get past my writers block and use my imagination a bit more . Again thanks xx

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By *iscean_dreamMan
38 weeks ago

Llanelli

Profile needs a lot of work, you got to stand out here and dick pics will put most off and lack of bio

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By *eally_RosieWoman
38 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Size of your penis is probably the last thing I consider. I don’t even look at pictures either until I’ve looked at…

1. Quality of the intro message

2. How much effort is in your profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago

Yes , again I admit to my bio being poor . I am only just realising I am a person worth meeting after many setbacks in my life . So putting ‘ me ‘ into words is still a little difficult.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
38 weeks ago

Kidsgrove


"Yes , again I admit to my bio being poor . I am only just realising I am a person worth meeting after many setbacks in my life . So putting ‘ me ‘ into words is still a little difficult. "

The bit that says looking to find what I have missed out on, makes it all about you and your needs being satisfied.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
38 weeks ago

Reading

For me a cock in every photo would be an instant no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Some really helpful advice here.

Bio needs some work, and some “normal” pictures are a good start.

Before messaging someone, read their profile. They will have put effort into it, so reciprocate by writing a decent message that reflects what they are looking for.

It will take a lot of messages to make a break through and find someone you enjoy chatting with. Then a meet may occur.

Women have the yellow wall of unread messages in their inbox, men have the same in the sent… patience pays off.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Chichester


"As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks"

get yourself at some of the social meets in areas of choice .. often its easier to ease in that way with a few social meets, get some chats/veris and confidence

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Many women don't care about your size op, some will and they won't be for you.

Most do look for a well written profile that gives them some info about what you're into and offering.

So maybe make sure your profile is the best it can be.

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By *TG3Man
38 weeks ago

Dorchester

Your profile is your advert here and you have 8 out of 9 pics featuring your penis, i think you may struggle you're treating the site like its a sex site, i don't know how you message but the problem here is as in life you have to treat women with respect become friends then you get a meet. Who knows what you'll do with the info gleaned from here but you'll get some great tips, use it and maybe you'll have luck.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
38 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Yes , again I admit to my bio being poor . I am only just realising I am a person worth meeting after many setbacks in my life . So putting ‘ me ‘ into words is still a little difficult. "

No need for a life story... Just a little bit about you, what you're looking for and what you have to offer.

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By *illy IdolMan
38 weeks ago

Midlands

If you think your cock isn't your best feature, maybe don't show it off in every pic. One or two should more than suffice if you feel you need to show it off.

Some good advice above, all the best OP

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By *tylebender03Man
38 weeks ago

Manchester

SINGLE MEN ARE THE REAL PRIZE

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By *ACOLCouple
38 weeks ago

limerick

Perhaps a revamp of your profile?

Inwould keep public pics PGish with a hint of teasing and maybe keepnthe more spicy or nude in your Friends only section.

Maybe share pics of what you like doing...as a single you are swimming in a big single pond, so you will need to stand out by maybe showing your interest.

Also your bio - newly single, might not be stable and might want to fuck everything under the sun, which brings drama. So yeah maybe re think the bio.

Socials will get you more meets than even here!

Good luck OP.

Lina.

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