FabSwingers.com forum: Hotlist and friends curation

By *ea monkey OP Man
26 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve just been having a look through these updates and lists, and I’ve realised that quite a few are inactive, don’t interact or have rejected me. In those terms these lists require a level of culling and curation that I haven’t undertaken in a while.

My question, dear fabbers, is how often do you check and curate your friends and hot lists?

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I went through my friends list recently and got rid of people that don’t talk to me. And then got rid of people whose updates annoy me from my hotlist.

I’d say once every 3/4 months. Which is longer than I’m usually on the site at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

Well hello

(I’m kidding. Be nice)

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

Well hello

(I’m kidding. Be nice)"

I'm only currently at 7 so I have available spaces.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

Well hello

(I’m kidding. Be nice)

I'm only currently at 7 so I have available spaces. "

Though all my friends have to agree to have sex with me at some point. It's in the small print.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

Well hello

(I’m kidding. Be nice)

I'm only currently at 7 so I have available spaces.

Though all my friends have to agree to have sex with me at some point. It's in the small print. "

Oh I hope you like short kings

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By *ucka39Man
26 weeks ago

Newcastle

I cull at times but also leave them be, as few have went AWOL which normal life has most likely taken an important role

Hot list I just leave them swimming around in the pond/pool

many have also went AWOL

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By *empted23Couple
26 weeks ago

countryside

Our friends list are mostly people we are actually friends with from our local organised social events

So less so with that

But hotlist atleast once a month gets a trim

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
26 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Hotlist is B's territory. Friends I check every so often but rarely remove someone. It's a mixture of friend-friends and sex-friends. I'm not great at messaging but I like seeing their photos and statuses come up.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
26 weeks ago

Southampton

"I’ve just been having a look through these updates and lists, and I’ve realised that quite a few are inactive, don’t interact or have rejected me. In those terms these lists require a level of culling and curation that I haven’t undertaken in a while.

My question, dear fabbers, is how often do you check and curate your friends and hot lists? "

I totally need to sort both lists out lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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26 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't look at them any more

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
26 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Arch, I rarely bother. Folk generally make it to friends list if we’ve actually met or if we’re friends, not just sexy friends. Hotlist is mostly for perving purposes

Mrs TMN x

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
26 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

We hardly ever remove from our friends list as usually these are people we have met

Coincidentally was thinking the other day that our hotlist needs trimming!

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By *eliWoman
26 weeks ago

Hotlist, rarely. Don't really use it.

Friends list... if I've not spoken to someone for a bit, if it feels lacklustre, weird or I'm at a point where I'd rather they didn't have access to my photos I remove them.

It really varies though. I can not talk to some people for months and think nothing of it. Other people; a few attempts at conversation and I'll remove them.

I don't have a big friends list - currently at 9 and I'm happy to stick with that. Rarely go above 15.

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By *ansoffateMan
26 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

It's not something I think about enough to consider it becoming a routine.

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By *rBobbMan
26 weeks ago

Birmingham

I don't have many on my friends list so it's easy to manage.

The ones on my hotlist are people that I am attracted to, so I probably don't update it as much as I should do.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
26 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Friends list is only for people I've actually met in real life so it's extremely small.

Hotlist isn't necessarily a list of people who I think are hot, some people are only on there because one wrong move & there's half a chance they might be relegated to the block list.

The block list I'll periodically remove inactive accounts to free up space. There's a lot of people in there who just set up an account for the weekend or something and then never logged in again, which shows I'm quite good at identifying waste profiles.

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By *ddkkk91Man
26 weeks ago

fife

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

Well hello

(I’m kidding. Be nice)

I'm only currently at 7 so I have available spaces. "

Welllll hello

haha

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
26 weeks ago

Wirral.

My friends list is never more than 20. And most of them I chat to on other platforms or see regularly.

I often remove newbies that I get chatting to and then it peters out for some reason. Just lashed 2, as we speak

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By *r SproutMan
26 weeks ago

the middle

I alternate between friends and hotlist monthly. This month was hotlist where I removed inactive people and ones I no longer want to see updates from.

At the end of next month I’ll do the same with friends.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
26 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

My question, dear fabbers, is how often do you check and curate your friends and hot lists? "

Once you’re on them you’re on them for me

I never look at them

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By *ea monkey OP Man
26 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

My question, dear fabbers, is how often do you check and curate your friends and hot lists?

Once you’re on them you’re on them for me

I never look at them "

No retreat, no surrender

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By *ittlebirdWoman
26 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

My question, dear fabbers, is how often do you check and curate your friends and hot lists?

Once you’re on them you’re on them for me

I never look at them

No retreat, no surrender "

Absofuckinglutely

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By *bi HaiveMan
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26 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I don't have a huge friends list. Some people I've met aren't even on there.

Hotlist is generally for those that pique my interest for potential contact down the line, but as I rarely send messages these days some come and go on that.

I don't think I've deleted anyone off the friends list since last summer.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Probably friends list every few weeks. I only keep friends on my list with people I am actively speaking to regularly.

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By *eah BabyCouple
26 weeks ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Friends list is mainly people we have met so they will stay on friends, hotlist hasn’t changed in a long time as not deleted and not added anyone as currently being lazy fabsters lol

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By *eneralKenobiMan
26 weeks ago

North Angus

I’m not sure I’m online often enough now for this but I’ll have a look

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By *aizyWoman
26 weeks ago

west midlands

I do every now and again clear out my friends list, not very often tho I don't have that many on there and I don't bother looking at it, my hotlist I'm always adding to it!

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By *imply DeeWoman
26 weeks ago

Wherever

OP, something on here really upset me a couple of weeks ago and I wiped out the whole profile, friends, hotlist, messages, few pictures left.

Could have probably gone unlos instead but just couldn’t make it.

I’m not proud of my attitude but too late now. Just wanted to say sometimes things like that happen as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I currently have the largest friends list I’ve ever had with seven total people. For the first time ever I have two people I’ve never met before. Totally living wild these days!

I am a fussy lady and will delete people without warning when we’re not communicating, meeting or planning to meet anytime soon. I don’t see the reason to keep them as a friend with access to my top secret friends only gallery if we haven’t engaged in friendship in some way.

My hotlist, I rarely use it. I forget my rhyme or reason for adding people to it. I’ve gone back months later and asked myself why did I add this person?

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
26 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

You have friends???

Well that’s a newsflash worthy of knocking Trump off the headlines

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
26 weeks ago

Stockport

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

Well hello

(I’m kidding. Be nice)

I'm only currently at 7 so I have available spaces.

Though all my friends have to agree to have sex with me at some point. It's in the small print. "

I'm sure it says somewhere that it's all friends at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

You have friends???

Well that’s a newsflash worthy of knocking Trump off the headlines

Well, more hot acquaintances. Fab calls them friends.

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By *eroLondonMan
26 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I use my Høtlïst as a hierarchical system based on current friendships, intrigue and opportunities. It's a curated list representing those with whom I'm already acquainted and/or chatting. The list also represents those rare gems I would like to meet, irrespective of the outcome or intentions.

It also serves as useful filter for following the notable status updates of wit, humour and imagery.

After nearly four years on here I've accumulated about 9 friends in total and it rarely goes beyond double figures. I don't send friend requests. They're usually incoming and even then I am discerning with whom I connect it with.

Periodically I'll do a purge of my Friends List if there is any form of 'inactivity' in whatever shape or form.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
26 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

‘Friends’ are people I know in real life, or have done the deed with, or want to do the deed with. Hotlist is to perve

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By *nitterWoman
26 weeks ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

My friend list and hot list are the same and they total 3.

I like to keep things simple

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"I use my Høtlïst as a hierarchical system based on current friendships, intrigue and opportunities. It's a curated list representing those with whom I'm already acquainted and/or chatting. The list also represents those rare gems I would like to meet, irrespective of the outcome or intentions.

He means those with their tits out

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By *eroLondonMan
26 weeks ago

Covent Garden

He means those with their tits out"

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I'm still waiting for your FR, wench.

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By *illy IdolMan
26 weeks ago

Midlands

I don't have a hot list as I didn't see the point of it.

I have 7 people on my friends list and cull if I have no plans on meeting them one day

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I love seeing friends and hotlists updates... I do change my holist every now and then

I haven't removed any friends, even when we rarely speak, as it just seems rude

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
26 weeks ago

Reading

A couple of times a year?

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
26 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

"My friends list is always kept under 10, I'd only look at culling if a hot number 11 came along.

You have friends???

Well that’s a newsflash worthy of knocking Trump off the headlines

Well, more hot acquaintances. Fab calls them friends."

Ahh that makes more sense, I was beginning to lose faith in your abrasive nature

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