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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it? Bonus points for no self deprecating because it's a tad early for that.

Are there any positions you're not so good at?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
35 weeks ago

Leeds

I find the pile driver position challenging

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By *uncpl187Couple
35 weeks ago

Ramsgate

I am the best lover in the world. I cum everytime lol

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By *hunky GentMan
35 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

One tries one's best.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

No self depreciating? Fine.

I'm pretty good, I tend to lose any self confidence issues and get completely lost in the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I’m not too shabby with the sex thing in general

I do struggle with missionary though as I’m very self aware of my sex face

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By *nozzMan
35 weeks ago

Paisley

Absolutely bloody useless , could definitely do with more help!!

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"No self depreciating? Fine.

I'm pretty good, I tend to lose any self confidence issues and get completely lost in the moment.

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Oh positions,I stay away from the acrobatic ones, it's sex not a work out.

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By *espacito56Man
35 weeks ago

Orkney

Need practice

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
35 weeks ago

St Leonards

Yeah. Pretty good.

I'm very cautious of "woman on top" positions - either bad balance or getting too carried away can result in the thing mostly evolved for receiving thrusting at muscle-breaking power on the thing mostly evolved for penetrating.

Subvert everything - please.

We need subversion.

But I'm not breaking my cock for it.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
35 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’m a bit self conscious if I’m on top & he’s laying down, I prefer him sitting up

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By *ornyfriendlygentlemanMan
35 weeks ago

Mid-Sussex


"Absolutely bloody useless , could definitely do with more help!!

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Is there anybody that gives lessons.

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By *ad NannaWoman
35 weeks ago

East London

Not as good as I used to be.

I'm physically much less capable now, but I still try and I'm still desirable to the people who matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I do alright

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By *ad NannaWoman
35 weeks ago

East London


"Yeah. Pretty good.

I'm very cautious of "woman on top" positions - either bad balance or getting too carried away can result in the thing mostly evolved for receiving thrusting at muscle-breaking power on the thing mostly evolved for penetrating.

Subvert everything - please.

We need subversion.

But I'm not breaking my cock for it."

There's no chance of me getting carried away on top any more.

My ability to ride fast has diminished to a slow trot.

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By *hilloutMan
35 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Yes. Very good

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By *enk15Man
35 weeks ago

Evesham

I am awesome

Although I am not very flexible, so struggle with some more advanced positions.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
35 weeks ago

Chester

I'm enthusiastic, does that count?

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
35 weeks ago

St Leonards


"Yeah. Pretty good.

I'm very cautious of "woman on top" positions - either bad balance or getting too carried away can result in the thing mostly evolved for receiving thrusting at muscle-breaking power on the thing mostly evolved for penetrating.

Subvert everything - please.

We need subversion.

But I'm not breaking my cock for it.

There's no chance of me getting carried away on top any more.

My ability to ride fast has diminished to a slow trot."

If you've got the trots Nanna, a further reason not to be on top I'd say xxx

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By *ad NannaWoman
35 weeks ago

East London


"Yeah. Pretty good.

I'm very cautious of "woman on top" positions - either bad balance or getting too carried away can result in the thing mostly evolved for receiving thrusting at muscle-breaking power on the thing mostly evolved for penetrating.

Subvert everything - please.

We need subversion.

But I'm not breaking my cock for it.

There's no chance of me getting carried away on top any more.

My ability to ride fast has diminished to a slow trot.

If you've got the trots Nanna, a further reason not to be on top I'd say xxx"

I eat sensibly when I know I'm having some seggsy time

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I think it’s about comparability. I believe I’m very good at oral and I’m usually an above average performer when it comes to penetration. But sometimes the connection isn’t there, the rhythm isn’t there, our bodies don’t connect well, it doesn’t feel great for me or something is just missing. With those people, and there only a few of those, I think I’m disappointed and they likely are too. I’m not going to pretend that every person I’ve had sex with we’ve had a great time. Some people I’ve had sex with many times we weren’t really a great fit but feelings init. That’s just life. Charge it to the game.

So to conclude/ TL;DR

Above average at oral. Above average at penetration. All the other shit I’m alright at.

10-15% of my sexual partners I’ve not connected well with and not had good sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"Not as good as I used to be.

I'm physically much less capable now, but I still try and I'm still desirable to the people who matter.

"

I think everyone in the forum knows but I’m tryna find out

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

A complete novice (No I’m not helping myself here am I)

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By *amie HantsWoman
35 weeks ago

Atlantis

I have good sex! It’s a hard one to say if I’m good in certain positions. I like a variety and I like different dynamics.

I find it easier to cum when on top but that’s with a lot of hip action and grinding. I’ve had feedback that up and down is a better feeling from some but others love watching me cum on top. I don’t mind more of an up down situation but grinding just hits all the spots

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By *ell GwynnWoman
35 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

How does one measure this?

I'm confident in bed, unself-conscious, happy to ask for what I like, keen to know what they like. An active yet responsive participant.

But...

Sometimes the necessary chemistry isn't quite right, as Pickle just said. Some people will not be into what I like and they might consider me a disappointing sex partner. Others might think I'm amazing. It's so subjective.

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By *uncpl187Couple
35 weeks ago

Ramsgate

In my opinion. Being good at sex comes from being good at understanding the person your having sex with.

Look into their eyes and try and notice what they react to doing different things.

And never be afraid to talk to each other.

Doing any of these things will improve most sex lives.

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By *aseylee324Couple
35 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows


"Not as good as I used to be.

I'm physically much less capable now, but I still try and I'm still desirable to the people who matter.

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Me too.

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By *illy IdolMan
35 weeks ago

Midlands

I'd say I'm not bad but when I watch some people and they look like they're wrestling a crocodile, chopping and changing every 5 seconds, I haven't got the energy for that.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
35 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"I'd say I'm not bad but when I watch some people and they look like they're wrestling a crocodile, chopping and changing every 5 seconds, I haven't got the energy for that."

Is that sort of sex fun though? I've never found it to be. Especially when something is really hitting the spot and they suddenly stop to try something else.

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By *illy IdolMan
35 weeks ago

Midlands


"I'd say I'm not bad but when I watch some people and they look like they're wrestling a crocodile, chopping and changing every 5 seconds, I haven't got the energy for that.

Is that sort of sex fun though? I've never found it to be. Especially when something is really hitting the spot and they suddenly stop to try something else."

I'm not sure to be honest. We can give it a go and see what you prefer

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
35 weeks ago

somewhere

On the back of pickles thread the other day, I cum hard on top but cowgirl is just something I struggle with but just call be Bear Grylls, I adapt and over come (sometimes literally).

I mean, no one has ever said I'm shit at sex so I presume I'm good at it? I've had a few repeated meets so judging by that I say I fair ok....or they really can't find anyone else

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By *ell GwynnWoman
35 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"I'd say I'm not bad but when I watch some people and they look like they're wrestling a crocodile, chopping and changing every 5 seconds, I haven't got the energy for that.

Is that sort of sex fun though? I've never found it to be. Especially when something is really hitting the spot and they suddenly stop to try something else.

I'm not sure to be honest. We can give it a go and see what you prefer "

OK. You bring the van and I'll bring the post-coital questionnaire.

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By *illy IdolMan
35 weeks ago

Midlands


"I'd say I'm not bad but when I watch some people and they look like they're wrestling a crocodile, chopping and changing every 5 seconds, I haven't got the energy for that.

Is that sort of sex fun though? I've never found it to be. Especially when something is really hitting the spot and they suddenly stop to try something else.

I'm not sure to be honest. We can give it a go and see what you prefer

OK. You bring the van and I'll bring the post-coital questionnaire."

Deal!

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By *ea monkeyMan
35 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

No self deprecation? Ffs!

My feedback is that I’m a very good lover, I read my partners well and love to give pleasure. I’m an excellent kisser and have good endurance.

The negatives are that I’m an average size, so some positions aren’t great. If they want size then I will disappoint. My meds mean that often I struggle to orgasm which some people take negatively

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
35 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Y’know what? I think I used to try too hard. I’m more relaxed now I’m older and (arguably) wiser. Do what you enjoy. Don’t do what you don’t. Good sex is about being in the same moment and mindset together, not about positions and stamina and all that nonsense. Those are the how, not the why. And the why is more important.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
35 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"Y’know what? I think I used to try too hard. I’m more relaxed now I’m older and (arguably) wiser. Do what you enjoy. Don’t do what you don’t. Good sex is about being in the same moment and mindset together, not about positions and stamina and all that nonsense. Those are the how, not the why. And the why is more important."

Tl;dr - Relax and enjoy it. Get lost in the moment. I do, and I love every second.

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By *ranimallxl5Man
35 weeks ago

Winchester

Depends on who I'm with

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By *elboy1978Man
35 weeks ago

Jarrow

I cum every time need more practice as I have not had many partners

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By *eepBlueSeaMan
35 weeks ago

sandy place

Think I'm ok in general. But I'm very good with my tongue and mouth and when Im in the mood, there is nothing i wont lick lol

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By *partharmonyCouple
35 weeks ago

Ruislip

Hannah's tells me I'm good at it. The lady we had a threesome with a few weeks ago had at least four orgasms. The feedback that I get is positive but I'm open to improving.

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By *TG3Man
35 weeks ago

Dorchester

I'm very good at sex

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By *ea monkeyMan
35 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that a lot of good sex is down to intuition, being in the moment and reading your partner. Not being afraid to try things and finding out what they like.

If you’re both present and have a good connection then you can both express and explore the other’s pleasure, what’s working or isn’t. I’ve found that it can get difficult if you don’t feel like you can share a moment of ‘that’s not working for me’

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I find the pile driver position challenging"

Ohhh. Yeah, I don't think I'll be doing that one any time soon.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
35 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Reckon I'm level 3 - Intermediate/Advanced

However I go back to 'early learner' with small athletic pale skinned red heads. Not sure what goes on there to be honest. Been with 2 long ago in the past and it was over before it had begun.

I may need to exorcise that ghost.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
35 weeks ago

Reading

Rubbish on top

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By *allySlinkyWoman
35 weeks ago

Leeds


"Rubbish on top"

A slag heap ?

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By *odgerMooreMan
35 weeks ago

Nowhere

I made a woman faint… not on purpose she just did… she was very complimentary so im guessing it was pleasant- taking the compliment!!

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"No self depreciating? Fine.

I'm pretty good, I tend to lose any self confidence issues and get completely lost in the moment.

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Getting lost in the moment is good isn't it? It's like a certain mindfulness, helps shed inhibitions and doubts.

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By *odgerMooreMan
35 weeks ago

Nowhere

Also learned that self deprecating has nothing to do with shitting yourself… another day in life school!!

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By * and R cple4Couple
35 weeks ago

swansea

Well they say practice makes perfect and I've had plenty of practice so I guess I'm perfect .

I don't think it's a case of being good at it or not I think it's more about a connection you have with people.

Sometimes first times can be a little awkward finding out what turns the other people on likes and dislikes. Sometimes you just might not be sexually compatible.

If you ask my husband he would say I was amazing and I think he's amazing but that's because after over 30 years of being together we know exactly what the other one wants without asking.

That's why we mostly like to build up a friendship connection with couples we meet we just find it makes it a far better experience when we get to know couples.

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By *exbecs24Woman
35 weeks ago

Folkstone

What is sex op.

Dry ver mouth every day month year

Love my do it yourself wank.

Keeps me going

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By *nnCeeWoman
35 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

Apparently I'm good at the oral.

I've had much feedback from different men regarding such.

But as others have said, what's good for one may not be good for another.

The other stuff? No-one has ever complained to my face. And they often come back for more, so... shrug

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By *B69Woman
35 weeks ago

Wiltshire

I believe I am, sadly not an energetic as I once was and the old thighs arnt as strong but it dosnt stop me trying, never been a fan of face sitting though just feels awkward.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I’m not too shabby with the sex thing in general

I do struggle with missionary though as I’m very self aware of my sex face "

Have you watched yourself back and seen some gargoyle-esque face? Don't worry, sometimes my eyes roll back and I look possessed. Sex faces are part of the fun of sex. :D

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"Yeah. Pretty good.

I'm very cautious of "woman on top" positions - either bad balance or getting too carried away can result in the thing mostly evolved for receiving thrusting at muscle-breaking power on the thing mostly evolved for penetrating.

Subvert everything - please.

We need subversion.

But I'm not breaking my cock for it."

That's more than fair. Subversion is wonderful but horror stories surrounding it means fucking with caution is a good idea.

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By *ornycougaWoman
35 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I'm a giver and based on the proportion of guys who want a go on me on a repeat basis I must be doing something right.

Position - ummm maybe reverse cowgirl. I am self conscious about my scrawny butt so that is a position I rarely get into and am therefore less adept at

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
35 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"I believe I am, sadly not an energetic as I once was and the old thighs arnt as strong but it dosnt stop me trying, never been a fan of face sitting though just feels awkward."

There ain't nothing wrong with those thighs. They might have taken a little impact from the fabs I blasted at them!

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By *amantha_NiteTV/TS
35 weeks ago

The Lake District


"When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it?"

Nah,dont get enough practise in

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"Not as good as I used to be.

I'm physically much less capable now, but I still try and I'm still desirable to the people who matter.

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Are your lovers generally quite understanding and adapt?

You're hot Nanna, I've met you now and can say that with confidence.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I'm enthusiastic, does that count? "

Yes! I think so. Like if you think about really great sex you've had, the other person has probably been really in to it. In to you. That enthusiasm is really sexy and helps with the good old desire feedback loop.

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By *reative-mindMan
35 weeks ago

Exeter

As long as the person I'm with has had a good time and got what they want from our time together that's fine by me.

I can't do doggy any more, I've no idea why but it feels far to good so to speak haha.

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By *y AmoreMan
35 weeks ago

london

I enjoy others enjoyment do I think I’m ok to good

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
35 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"How does one measure this?

I'm confident in bed, unself-conscious, happy to ask for what I like, keen to know what they like. An active yet responsive participant.

But...

Sometimes the necessary chemistry isn't quite right, as Pickle just said. Some people will not be into what I like and they might consider me a disappointing sex partner. Others might think I'm amazing. It's so subjective."

I’m stealing this. Cos I’m lazy. Thanks, Nell

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

If there’s one thing I’ve overly confident at sexually it’s oral. I’d rate myself well above average there.

I feel confident, and not self conscious naked or in any position. I do pull some faces I’ve been told and that’s what I’m self conscious about during sex. I do have a strong dislike for doggy style but it’s not from a physical inability to perform the position.

I am not at all into quickies and have endurance for marathon sex. For some this may sound horrendous, but I’ve luckily not found those I’ve had sex with dislike this. I’m an energetic sex participant. I am communicative. I am not solely focused on my own pleasure. I’ve been complimented a few times on my ability to ride from the bottom. Perhaps that’s unique, maybe not. Overall, I’m okay I reckon. I silently high-five myself post sex at times. Joking but I’ve thought of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
35 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Y’know what? I think I used to try too hard. I’m more relaxed now I’m older and (arguably) wiser. Do what you enjoy. Don’t do what you don’t. Good sex is about being in the same moment and mindset together, not about positions and stamina and all that nonsense. Those are the how, not the why. And the why is more important."

Oh no, I’m stealing this! Thanks, RTG

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
35 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I think that a lot of good sex is down to intuition, being in the moment and reading your partner. Not being afraid to try things and finding out what they like.

If you’re both present and have a good connection then you can both express and explore the other’s pleasure, what’s working or isn’t. I’ve found that it can get difficult if you don’t feel like you can share a moment of ‘that’s not working for me’ "

Oh FFS, can everyone stop giving such good answers that I need to steal? Thanks

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I like to think I'm pretty good at it. One things I've got better at is reading signs of when she's particularly enjoying something and to keep doing that. I guess I wish I was better at having that more primal side of me that women may want as opposed to always being "too nice" so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

The one positions I am not so good at is 69.

Face sitting and BJ separately please.

As for if I am any good I can't answer that, guess the fact that I am still meeting guys that I met over 10 years ago in some cases 14 years ago might say something.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
35 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I think I’m actually decent at it. I’ve been with my wife long enough to know what she likes and how she likes it. I don’t know and hopefully will never need to know if that translates into being good with other women.

I’m not a fan of reverse cowgirl. It bends my knob.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I think it’s about comparability. I believe I’m very good at oral and I’m usually an above average performer when it comes to penetration. But sometimes the connection isn’t there, the rhythm isn’t there, our bodies don’t connect well, it doesn’t feel great for me or something is just missing. With those people, and there only a few of those, I think I’m disappointed and they likely are too. I’m not going to pretend that every person I’ve had sex with we’ve had a great time. Some people I’ve had sex with many times we weren’t really a great fit but feelings init. That’s just life. Charge it to the game."

Ah... well this is part of why I asked the questions. I posted yesterday about not being very good at cowgirl because I know I'm not. I was wondering... what do I think I'm good at? What do others think they are?

I think it's about compatibility, posted about that many times before.

I also think that you can be better/crap at some things. Like if you've got a really strong gag reflex, even with all the enthusiasm of the world, unless they're in to Roman showers you're not going to be too great at deep throating.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

As you asked so nicely I will refrain from my usual self deprecating banter.

Yeah I am pretty good at it and unless you’re going for Karma Sutra type positions all the usual positions are good with me.

Deep stick is a favourite especially when I grab their hands and can pull and push at the same time.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I have good sex! It’s a hard one to say if I’m good in certain positions. I like a variety and I like different dynamics.

I find it easier to cum when on top but that’s with a lot of hip action and grinding. I’ve had feedback that up and down is a better feeling from some but others love watching me cum on top. I don’t mind more of an up down situation but grinding just hits all the spots "

Love the confidence! 100% believe you do.

Are you quite flexible?

Grinding is such a good sensation, have you seen those toys you can get that are sort of a mount? I'm not describing them very well.

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By *ilnotbite13Man
35 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

Had lots of omg wow. But never any complaints

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
35 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

I think so. Still not actually been that many people in the grand scheme of things so it's hard to know. This is not self-deprecation, just honesty.

Tit wanks have always been and forever will be shit.

J

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By *ensuallover1000Man
35 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’m truly magnificent at the sex stuff; a virginal whispering virtuoso in fact.

Indeed, proud songs shall be sung of my sexual prowess in years to come.

I’m modest about it to….

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"How does one measure this?"
However you want, I left it vague so people could answer in a way that suits them.


"I'm confident in bed, unself-conscious, happy to ask for what I like, keen to know what they like. An active yet responsive participant."
Well... if you see those things as being some of the factors that add up to good sex than you're doing well. :D


"But...

Sometimes the necessary chemistry isn't quite right, as Pickle just said. Some people will not be into what I like and they might consider me a disappointing sex partner. Others might think I'm amazing. It's so subjective."
Yeah, I know it's subjective - I'm really enjoying the myriad of viewpoints on it.

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By *mf123Man
35 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I was once but those days of being the greatest fuck in the universe are behind me i retired as champion they were some wonderful days but i no longer allow my sex drive ego or need to compete to control me and im happy with that

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By *4bimMan
35 weeks ago

Farnborough Hampshire

im ok till the clothes coming off part.

then everyone seems to be pointing at each other and laughing.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
35 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We don’t have rules, we play with a lot of openness - we’ve found that feeling free and not filling heads with stipulations brings out the best in people.

We create top shelf memories a lot of the time, so yeah, we are good at sex

Finding someone completely compatible helps for couples too.

K

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By *ikesEmBigMan
35 weeks ago

Herts


"When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it? Bonus points for no self deprecating because it's a tad early for that.

Are there any positions you're not so good at?"

69 is a bit intense

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Most men are crap at it to be fair, hence why only a few get all the girls and the rest just pay subs for nothing.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
35 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.


"When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it? Bonus points for no self deprecating because it's a tad early for that.

Are there any positions you're not so good at?"

I've had plenty of practice so I guess I'm okay but you'll have to ask Mrs.

Position wise.

Although I really enjoy doing it doggy style I can't go too fast or hard I have really sensitive balls and it hurts when they slap into their body.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I'm a giver and based on the proportion of guys who want a go on me on a repeat basis I must be doing something right.

Position - ummm maybe reverse cowgirl. I am self conscious about my scrawny butt so that is a position I rarely get into and am therefore less adept at"

"Want a go on you." Love your turn of phrase HC. I'm borrowing that.

I think if you're self conscious about something you're too in your own head to really enjoy what's going on. To be *good* at it.

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By *eroLondonMan
35 weeks ago

Mayfair

I'm going to dispense with writing a missive here because if we're both glowing days after our entwinement then I know that I was a tad good at the 'sex' (and she was too). For me post-coital •glowing• is the benchmark for good sex. And I hate benchmarks.

Positions that I'm not good at: doggy, because I'm 'average in size' and it becomes laboriously awkward. Or perhaps I'm just doing it all wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Whatever anyone says here is only our own perception.

But I’m awesome.

Joking aside Meli, I think I’m average at best, great at some stuff and could be better at others.

I like foreplay, a lot. I like the touching and using my fingers to hold and tease a woman.

There’s an almost addictive lust to be knuckles deep between a woman legs and watching her eyes glaze over with her orgasm as you fuck her g-spot telling her how hard your going to fuck her when she’s wet enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I'm not the worst you've never had.

No idea if that makes any sense to anyone else but me

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By *punk n gushCouple
35 weeks ago

deal

Definitely not as good as we used be but not had any complaints yet they seen to come back alk the time so guess must be doing somthing right

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By *luefishMan
35 weeks ago

downham market

I believe it depends on the partner. Sometimes I'm amazing and other times I'm shite.

It's impossible to be perfect every time

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I was once but those days of being the greatest fuck in the universe are behind me i retired as champion they were some wonderful days but i no longer allow my sex drive ego or need to compete to control me and im happy with that"

Ah gutted to read this, always wanted to experience the greatest fuck in the universe. Oh well.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I think that a lot of good sex is down to intuition, being in the moment and reading your partner. Not being afraid to try things and finding out what they like.

If you’re both present and have a good connection then you can both express and explore the other’s pleasure, what’s working or isn’t. I’ve found that it can get difficult if you don’t feel like you can share a moment of ‘that’s not working for me’ "

Are you good at those things?

Yes I'd agree with that, feeling relaxed enough to be open with what and doesn't work for you (however that looks) is brilliant. The more relaxed and in to the moment someone is, the more enjoyable sex is.

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By *ortyairCouple
35 weeks ago

Wallasey

Don't know about being good at srx but I like to try and make sure we have a good time.

I like to relax and connect with any partners. I also like to smile, have fun and let the other person know what I like and love it when they let me know.

I'm don't have a problem with giggling too, not at someone but it shows I'm having fun. If it's not fun why bother, that's what I think.

Just enjoy the moment, life's to short to worry about bad nookie,

Mrs x

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By *rispyDuckMan
35 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

If carlsberg help ‘sex performer of the year awards’ I would have won them all haha

If you think I’m lying come find out for yourself

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By *ea monkeyMan
35 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I think that a lot of good sex is down to intuition, being in the moment and reading your partner. Not being afraid to try things and finding out what they like.

If you’re both present and have a good connection then you can both express and explore the other’s pleasure, what’s working or isn’t. I’ve found that it can get difficult if you don’t feel like you can share a moment of ‘that’s not working for me’

Are you good at those things?

Yes I'd agree with that, feeling relaxed enough to be open with what and doesn't work for you (however that looks) is brilliant. The more relaxed and in to the moment someone is, the more enjoyable sex is. "

I think that I am and my partners have told me so

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By *illan-KillashMan
35 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it? Bonus points for no self deprecating because it's a tad early for that.

Are there any positions you're not so good at?"

Not one person suggested you bang them and find out.

How dissapointing.

I'm an underpromise and over deliver kinda guy.

As you'll find out when we bang!!!!!!!

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
35 weeks ago

Stockport

I try hard to please my partners and I think that I have the potential to be at least reasonably good at sex. My performance does suffer from having only limited practice recently, and insufficient experience in some areas.

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By *y AmoreMan
35 weeks ago

london

Chemistry is so important

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By *heelerMan
35 weeks ago

Northants

I can't recall. RS

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By *amie HantsWoman
35 weeks ago

Atlantis


"I have good sex! It’s a hard one to say if I’m good in certain positions. I like a variety and I like different dynamics.

I find it easier to cum when on top but that’s with a lot of hip action and grinding. I’ve had feedback that up and down is a better feeling from some but others love watching me cum on top. I don’t mind more of an up down situation but grinding just hits all the spots

Love the confidence! 100% believe you do.

Are you quite flexible?

Grinding is such a good sensation, have you seen those toys you can get that are sort of a mount? I'm not describing them very well.

"

I know the ones you mean! I don’t. I have a very small toy collection of a bullet and a buttplug!

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By *olkiMan
35 weeks ago

somewhere

It all really depends on who your partner is

If there's a good connection I can go all night

And then sometimes if the connection isn't there it can ruin it and be less impressive

I think anyway

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By *ags73Man
35 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Takes two to have a tumble and I guess with some woman I think wow, this is good and I know what I’m doing. When it’s not like that and nerves kick in, maybe not so much.

I do think it’s for others to say if I’m any use though, that’s just how my mind works

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By *ggdrasil66Man
35 weeks ago

Saltdean

I do alright with what I’ve got!

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"Hannah's tells me I'm good at it. The lady we had a threesome with a few weeks ago had at least four orgasms. The feedback that I get is positive but I'm open to improving. "

Do you think orgasms mean you're good? The number of them indicative of your sexual skills?

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By *y AmoreMan
35 weeks ago

london

Anyone what to practice?

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By *nnCeeWoman
35 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell


"There’s an almost addictive lust to be knuckles deep between a woman legs and watching her eyes glaze over with her orgasm as you fuck her g-spot telling her how hard your going to fuck her when she’s wet enough. "

Oh!! Please may I experience this?! It sounds amazing!!!

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I like to think I'm pretty good at it. One things I've got better at is reading signs of when she's particularly enjoying something and to keep doing that. I guess I wish I was better at having that more primal side of me that women may want as opposed to always being "too nice" so to speak."

Why though? Do you think the primal side of things is something that's missing from your sex life or is it because you worry lots of women want that and you don't offer it?

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"I like to think I'm pretty good at it. One things I've got better at is reading signs of when she's particularly enjoying something and to keep doing that. I guess I wish I was better at having that more primal side of me that women may want as opposed to always being "too nice" so to speak.

Why though? Do you think the primal side of things is something that's missing from your sex life or is it because you worry lots of women want that and you don't offer it?"

I think it's just nice to be versatile in that way to switch it up and keep things interesting. I do worry a bit about not being exciting enough for certain women but it just makes me appreciate those I have chemistry with a lot more

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Im pretty good at it.

Inventive and still capable of getting in exciting,and sometimes silly positions - fun n giggles guaranteed

Not being selfish or arrogant seems to help a lot as well

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By *eally_RosieWoman
35 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I’m good at it. I have a certificate and everything

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By *hunky GentMan
35 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I do have a black belt in it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
35 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Not sure what is classed as average. I got by and feedback has been good, all but two meets on here have ended up being repeats. Hopefully I've not been someone's worst shag

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"If there’s one thing I’ve overly confident at sexually it’s oral. I’d rate myself well above average there.

I feel confident, and not self conscious naked or in any position. I do pull some faces I’ve been told and that’s what I’m self conscious about during sex. I do have a strong dislike for doggy style but it’s not from a physical inability to perform the position.

I am not at all into quickies and have endurance for marathon sex. For some this may sound horrendous, but I’ve luckily not found those I’ve had sex with dislike this. I’m an energetic sex participant. I am communicative. I am not solely focused on my own pleasure. I’ve been complimented a few times on my ability to ride from the bottom. Perhaps that’s unique, maybe not. Overall, I’m okay I reckon. I silently high-five myself post sex at times. Joking but I’ve thought of it. "

Do you know something I admire about you, Bella? Your confidence. No, it's more... how comfortable you are with yourself and enjoy embracing things wholeheartedly.

You should start silently high five-ing yourself! Don't just think about it. I'm going to. Might sit there grinning like a loon as I do but by then it's fine, they've already fucked me.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
35 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Swinging from the light fitting and making Tarzan calls is probably my worst, other than that I am pretty average

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By *9 Love-To-TryCouple
35 weeks ago

East Anglia

I immerse myself in the moment and ensure that every time I have sex/play sessions/scene I enjoy it like it’s my last

I will try anything once and have learnt I will go back to many things I never dreamed I would enjoy

Apparently my eyes are my give away when I am going to have a very deep intense orgasm, I have been known to nearly pass out with the intensity

So yes I am good I think and ensure max enjoyment for all involved xc

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


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Do you know something I admire about you, Bella? Your confidence. No, it's more... how comfortable you are with yourself and enjoy embracing things wholeheartedly.

You should start silently high five-ing yourself! Don't just think about it. I'm going to. Might sit there grinning like a loon as I do but by then it's fine, they've already fucked me."

Oh, thanks Meli. That’s a lovely compliment.

As one my best friend says, “Bella you don’t half-ass anything. You whole ass everything and with that big arse of yours that’s wholeheartedly whole-assing!”.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Only ever had one complaint so I guess I'm genuinely ok at it

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Elite, apparently.

It's common that women thank me afterwards. I had an fwb who used to call me the sex Dr.

A girl lost her virginity to me (a long time ago) and when I met her years later she said it was a terrible mistake because nothing has lived up to it since.

So yeah, I can only go on what I'm told and the feedback has been outstanding.

Now, that all sounds really fucking arrogant, but the secret for me was mostly humility. In order to get good at something, you must first accept that you know nothing.

I think you'll have more growth by orders of magnitude if you have regular things rather than one-offs.

Most importantly; all women are different. Listen and learn. I've had girls that want their clit sucked so hard you feel like you're gonna remove a layer of skin and then others who are so sensitive they want you to dance around it.

Also, a basic understanding of anatomy and geometry goes a long, long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

More tea vicar?

I'm too sigma to tell you all that I'm clearly Outstanding.

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
35 weeks ago

Perpignan and cap

Yes, I'm a thorough and considerate lover. I'm always listening to feedback, offering suggestions and not scared of anything in the bedroom. Although no-one has tied me up yet and whipped me... Plenty of time for that in the future. I've got qualifications in the science of orgasm's and I'm an ex olympic muff diving champion.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
35 weeks ago

Coventry

Chemistry is important! Ummm after a long period of abstinence i feel ive a lot of catching up. No complaints! Need more practice, and so hate leading!!

I do like being on top, that feeling of controlling what i want!!

Other than that .. pretty average although, yep have to say, have been know to giggle!

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By *partan69Man
35 weeks ago

hyde

I reckon I am pretty good , although I do like a woman on top, but I have better control when I'm on top, and I have a decent imagination to keep things interesting

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By *ularliWoman
35 weeks ago

Worcester

I’m not as good as I used to be. I take long breaks from it which also means I then lose my self confidence so it takes awhile to get back into the swing of it.

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By *osey WalesMan
35 weeks ago

.

I am completely rubbish at the sex.

My partners insist on me doing it over and over again

I hope one day i shall get it right

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it? Bonus points for no self deprecating because it's a tad early for that.

Are there any positions you're not so good at?

Not one person suggested you bang them and find out.

How dissapointing.

I'm an underpromise and over deliver kinda guy.

As you'll find out when we bang!!!!!!!

"

Oh Killain, I can always count on you.

No, I was quite enjoying that no one had. It was peaceful; sitting here reading people talk about sex. And now you've disturbed my peace. *le sigh*

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Ah "le sigh" is so sexy.

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By *ellinever70Woman
35 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I refuse to think about sex in terms of rating my performance

I prefer to focus on whether the experience was good

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By *ustincider888Man
35 weeks ago

Preston Ish

Nowhere near as good as used to think I was but I think that's down to a relationship that was sexless for over 10 years

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I think so. Still not actually been that many people in the grand scheme of things so it's hard to know. This is not self-deprecation, just honesty.

Tit wanks have always been and forever will be shit.

J"

What makes sex in your mind good?

And why the hate against tit wanks Julie? I'm trying to remember if you have enough cleavage for them... sure you do.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
35 weeks ago

Southampton

I'm definitely not designed for a 69

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By *ellhungvweMan
35 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I enjoy it and my partners seem to enjoy the orgasms so I will take that as a yes.

I don’t really like doggy as I am tall and it doesn’t really work properly unless she is high up and level with me. If she is high up then it is great!

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By *irthandgirthMan
35 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I fuck as well as I cook.

I would say doggy is my least favourite. But I'm a sucker for eye contact

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Definitely good at full body massage. Might treat myself to a naughty dip when massaging the shoulders. Coconut oil, candles and Portishead on the stereo.

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By *ucka39Man
35 weeks ago

Newcastle

We both end up getting wet sometimes soaking and breathless which I also get from training

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By *edeWoman
35 weeks ago

the abyss

My pillow princess skills are beyond measure

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By *ig busty boobs300Couple
35 weeks ago

Stratford upon avon

My eating pussy skills is good can't do doggy cum to quick.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"Whatever anyone says here is only our own perception.

But I’m awesome.

Joking aside Meli, I think I’m average at best, great at some stuff and could be better at others.

I like foreplay, a lot. I like the touching and using my fingers to hold and tease a woman.

There’s an almost addictive lust to be knuckles deep between a woman legs and watching her eyes glaze over with her orgasm as you fuck her g-spot telling her how hard your going to fuck her when she’s wet enough. "

It's down to our perception and those we have sex with I think. Like we might think we're excellent at something but with one person it might not do anything, another it night have them clenching the bedsheets, back arching sort of thing.

I think if you're really enjoying something, the responses your actions elicit from another... well in my mind you're on your way to being good because enthusiasm and listening/understanding another's body are important components.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"I'm definitely not designed for a 69 "

Au contraire

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I now want some 69

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By *illan-KillashMan
35 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it? Bonus points for no self deprecating because it's a tad early for that.

Are there any positions you're not so good at?

Not one person suggested you bang them and find out.

How dissapointing.

I'm an underpromise and over deliver kinda guy.

As you'll find out when we bang!!!!!!!

Oh Killain, I can always count on you.

No, I was quite enjoying that no one had. It was peaceful; sitting here reading people talk about sex. And now you've disturbed my peace. *le sigh*"

My apologies for disturbing your Wa.

My bad.

*passes Meli eye bleach.......

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I now want some 69"

Marketing man's dream.

Do you not think that sometimes a woman can be too big for 69ing? My thighs are... chunky.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it? Bonus points for no self deprecating because it's a tad early for that.

Are there any positions you're not so good at?

Not one person suggested you bang them and find out.

How dissapointing.

I'm an underpromise and over deliver kinda guy.

As you'll find out when we bang!!!!!!!

Oh Killain, I can always count on you.

No, I was quite enjoying that no one had. It was peaceful; sitting here reading people talk about sex. And now you've disturbed my peace. *le sigh*

My apologies for disturbing your Wa.

My bad.

*passes Meli eye bleach......."

Aww I was firmly teasing you and now I feel bad! Apologies.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I enjoy it and my partners seem to enjoy the orgasms so I will take that as a yes.

I don’t really like doggy as I am tall and it doesn’t really work properly unless she is high up and level with me. If she is high up then it is great!"

That's a solid sign it is a yes if you're both enjoying it! Orgasms... kind of are a sign, to a certain extent. It's quite easy for me to come but there are levels of orgasms.

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By *illan-KillashMan
35 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"When it comes to sex; do you think you're any good at it? Bonus points for no self deprecating because it's a tad early for that.

Are there any positions you're not so good at?

Not one person suggested you bang them and find out.

How dissapointing.

I'm an underpromise and over deliver kinda guy.

As you'll find out when we bang!!!!!!!

Oh Killain, I can always count on you.

No, I was quite enjoying that no one had. It was peaceful; sitting here reading people talk about sex. And now you've disturbed my peace. *le sigh*

My apologies for disturbing your Wa.

My bad.

*passes Meli eye bleach.......

Aww I was firmly teasing you and now I feel bad! Apologies."

Let's apologise to each other more..............."intimately"

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"Whatever anyone says here is only our own perception.

But I’m awesome.

Joking aside Meli, I think I’m average at best, great at some stuff and could be better at others.

I like foreplay, a lot. I like the touching and using my fingers to hold and tease a woman.

There’s an almost addictive lust to be knuckles deep between a woman legs and watching her eyes glaze over with her orgasm as you fuck her g-spot telling her how hard your going to fuck her when she’s wet enough.

It's down to our perception and those we have sex with I think. Like we might think we're excellent at something but with one person it might not do anything, another it night have them clenching the bedsheets, back arching sort of thing.

I think if you're really enjoying something, the responses your actions elicit from another... well in my mind you're on your way to being good because enthusiasm and listening/understanding another's body are important components. "

Exactly. I enjoy oral, and I think I’m pretty attentive, but when she tell me she doesn’t like it, how am I supposed to play my winning hand? That might be my best moves!

So I understand when you and others say - it depends who you are with.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Depends who I'm doing sex at and what they enjoy

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I fuck as well as I cook."
You do seem to rate your cooking quite highly so yay to that confidence in other areas of your life.


"I would say doggy is my least favourite. But I'm a sucker for eye contact "

Eye contact is incredibly hot isn't it? When it's not there and if you really enjoy it it can make it a bit less... pleasurable. I get that.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
35 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"I think so. Still not actually been that many people in the grand scheme of things so it's hard to know. This is not self-deprecation, just honesty.

Tit wanks have always been and forever will be shit.

J

What makes sex in your mind good?

And why the hate against tit wanks Julie? I'm trying to remember if you have enough cleavage for them... sure you do. "

I feel like the other people are good at sex because I end up curled up, giggling and shaking (it's a thing I do). I don't think I'm as good as them but I am enthusiastic and try to respond to their cues.

I have plenty of cleavage for a titwank but it's just so meh. Actually I lie. There was one time I was restrained and blindfolded. I could feel B doing it. That was really hot.

J

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
35 weeks ago

St Leonards


"I think so. Still not actually been that many people in the grand scheme of things so it's hard to know. This is not self-deprecation, just honesty.

Tit wanks have always been and forever will be shit.

J

What makes sex in your mind good?

And why the hate against tit wanks Julie? I'm trying to remember if you have enough cleavage for them... sure you do.

I feel like the other people are good at sex because I end up curled up, giggling and shaking (it's a thing I do). I don't think I'm as good as them but I am enthusiastic and try to respond to their cues.

I have plenty of cleavage for a titwank but it's just so meh. Actually I lie. There was one time I was restrained and blindfolded. I could feel B doing it. That was really hot.

J"

Maybe you process too much information visually, and that "dulls" the event.

Blindfolds and restraints add a different focus, and no visual stimuli to distract, so you can go with the other sensations more xxx

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By *curiousguyMan
35 weeks ago

Southend

I feel like the chemistry changes on the person. People also have different expectations or experiences. There’s been times I’ve thought I could have done better and I’ve been told it was great. There’s been times the sex has ended and I’m thinking I’d enter the Sex olympics and the partner has not verbally expressed the same ambitions for me.

I generally get a little gasp out of someone when they ‘see me’ for the first time. If I get that then I know I’ll be all right. If I don’t get that then I assume I’ve got a much more experienced challenge infront of me.

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By *ornucopiaMan
35 weeks ago

Bexley


"I fuck as well as I cook.

I would say doggy is my least favourite. But I'm a sucker for eye contact "

Doggy not my style either. My thighs are too long for the women whose dimensions prefer. Would be ok if they wore a strap-on receptacle on their back.

Doggy also appears to be all about 'Bang,bang,bang'. There must be easier ways to have a wank!

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By *ornucopiaMan
35 weeks ago

Bexley


"Definitely good at full body massage. Might treat myself to a naughty dip when massaging the shoulders. Coconut oil, candles and Portishead on the stereo."

Portishead closed down years ago. It's all Inmarsat nowadays.

I never thought about piping it through the stereo but guess it would have been a good way to deter overstayers or those with ideas of getting married.

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By *RuffRogueMan
35 weeks ago

London

Ok but perform much better when seeing the other person enjoying it more and play off that

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By *ansoffateMan
35 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

There's some great responses on here

I can be but it's when I'm not thinking that I am at my best. Attunement is what makes it work for me. Then sex becomes a sensation a bit like riding a wave, it's all about being in the moment. Then apart from my knees not being what they once were (soft crappy mattresses are a killer) I'm in my element.

I need the right partner it's that simple really. There are a handful of exceptions in my life where I could say it was predominantly lust with someone I barely know, but they have been quite exceptional in their approach and able to induce a sensation of being preyed upon. It very much feels like being under their spell. I'm getting better at embracing that aspect of my sexuality.

Without those kinds of elements present the motivation isn't really there, I'm quite sure that would be reflected in any performance metrics.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
35 weeks ago

Wirral

I don't know if I'm any good or not. Depends what you enjoy and class as good sex I guess.

I am extremely responsive and my orgasms are fairly intense so if you like a partner who shows her enjoyment then I'll be the best you've ever had.

If you're looking for someone to work their way through every position in the kama sutra before turning you over and pegging you then I'll be a crap lay.

If you're looking for role play or someone who can convincingly talk dirty without laughing then forget it, you'd be better off having a wank.

If you're looking for a proper laugh and someone who will burst into giggles when things get intense then I'd be top of your shagadvisor ratings.

Either way I have my fun, and that's what matters most to me

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By *ularliWoman
35 weeks ago

Worcester


"I'm definitely not designed for a 69 "

Me either

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By *hunky GentMan
35 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I'm definitely not designed for a 69

Me either "

How about a 68 then?

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By *essTTWoman
35 weeks ago

Birmingham

I'm OK I guess, although, I'm awful on top

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By *ad NannaWoman
35 weeks ago

East London


"Not as good as I used to be.

I'm physically much less capable now, but I still try and I'm still desirable to the people who matter.

I think everyone in the forum knows but I’m tryna find out "

My hips don't lie, Pickle-I can't ride for shit

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By *oxesMan
35 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

The only peeps who can argue this is the prettier we have slept with.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
35 weeks ago

Down the back of the sofa.

I’m apparently good at oral, and people tend to like my cock. So that’s fortunate

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By *irthandgirthMan
35 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"I fuck as well as I cook.

I would say doggy is my least favourite. But I'm a sucker for eye contact

Doggy not my style either. My thighs are too long for the women whose dimensions prefer. Would be ok if they wore a strap-on receptacle on their back.

Doggy also appears to be all about 'Bang,bang,bang'. There must be easier ways to have a wank!"

My first statement is more about subjectivity. You cannot be objectively good at fucking the same as you cannot serve an objectively good plate of food as everyone has different tastes.

I'm glad to say I have had numerous people in my life who have decided to return to my dining table or my bedroom. Some have liked me enough to grace both

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"There's some great responses on here "
There really has been. I like seeing how another's mind works, reading about the things they value in sex and if they think they possess those qualities. When people answer a question in an unique way, a thoughtful one - really had some good replies.


"I can be but it's when I'm not thinking that I am at my best. Attunement is what makes it work for me. Then sex becomes a sensation a bit like riding a wave, it's all about being in the moment. Then apart from my knees not being what they once were (soft crappy mattresses are a killer) I'm in my element.

I need the right partner it's that simple really."

And that makes a lot of sense. I think when a person has the ability to have you in that moment and keep you there, you're able to give yourself fully to it... immerse than that lends itself well to better sex.

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By *erfectlychaoticWoman
35 weeks ago

Aldershot

I've not received any complaints so either that means I satisfied their particular needs or they're just too polite to tell me otherwise.

I like to be on top cowgirl unfortunately my joints don't so usually turns into a game of how long before my hips lock up.

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By *eli OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

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"I’m apparently good at oral, and people tend to like my cock. So that’s fortunate "

Ah yes! I remember someone praising it. Repeatedly. In a very endearing way. It's rather fortunate they do like it I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Tbh...it's about the person I'm with ...that feedback loop and being together in the moment and all that thing...

But yeah, when it's in that moment...yeah I think I'm pretty good

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By *illan-KillashMan
35 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

I remember John Wayne's answer to the "what makes a woman good in bed" question - Being there.

Real intimacy, real connection, those moments of shared bliss only happen when like minds align.

If we're in bed, we have that connection. If we have that connection, it's going to be amazing. For both of us.

There doesn't have to be penetration, orgasms or an exchange of bodily fluids for it to be a great experience.

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By *cLovin2Man
35 weeks ago

Reading


"No self depreciating? Fine.

I'm pretty good, I tend to lose any self confidence issues and get completely lost in the moment.

Oh positions,I stay away from the acrobatic ones, it's sex not a work out. "

Why do I get the feeling that you're a missionary position only type of girl?

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By *cLovin2Man
35 weeks ago

Reading


"If there’s one thing I’ve overly confident at sexually it’s oral. I’d rate myself well above average there.

I feel confident, and not self conscious naked or in any position. I do pull some faces I’ve been told and that’s what I’m self conscious about during sex. I do have a strong dislike for doggy style but it’s not from a physical inability to perform the position.

I am not at all into quickies and have endurance for marathon sex. For some this may sound horrendous, but I’ve luckily not found those I’ve had sex with dislike this. I’m an energetic sex participant. I am communicative. I am not solely focused on my own pleasure. I’ve been complimented a few times on my ability to ride from the bottom. Perhaps that’s unique, maybe not. Overall, I’m okay I reckon. I silently high-five myself post sex at times. Joking but I’ve thought of it. "

When I read this, I raised my right eyebrow at the word oral

Deffo need a raised eyebrow emoji

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

There’s a few positions that are my absolute kryptonite where I can quite easily be a 1 pump chump but other than that I have good endurance.

I’d also say that communication with your partner will make you good in bed. See what they like.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Practice makes perfect

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By *cLovin2Man
35 weeks ago

Reading


"I now want some 69

Marketing man's dream.

Do you not think that sometimes a woman can be too big for 69ing? My thighs are... chunky. "

Reminds me of a story I heard from an ex colleague, who a bit d*unk had sex with a large lady. She was on top with huge breasts having a merry old time, the guy was underneath deluged by layers of fat thinking he's about to suffocate

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"There’s a few positions that are my absolute kryptonite where I can quite easily be a 1 pump chump but other than that I have good endurance.

I’d also say that communication with your partner will make you good in bed. See what they like."

The mind is boggling as to what the positions might be that produce a 'one pump chump'

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
35 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

Would never say I was brilliant I give good oil handjob and blowjobs . Love reverse cowgirl as hubby makes me cum over and over in this position. We probably look better at it then we are to be honest xx

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"There’s a few positions that are my absolute kryptonite where I can quite easily be a 1 pump chump but other than that I have good endurance.

I’d also say that communication with your partner will make you good in bed. See what they like.

The mind is boggling as to what the positions might be that produce a 'one pump chump' "

BTW I never know if this is meant to be a light bulb moment of quizzical (given it hs a question mark in it)

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"There’s a few positions that are my absolute kryptonite where I can quite easily be a 1 pump chump but other than that I have good endurance.

I’d also say that communication with your partner will make you good in bed. See what they like.

The mind is boggling as to what the positions might be that produce a 'one pump chump' "

Her on her back with legs over my shoulders. Nothing acrobatic, but I do have to think about my tax returns if we plan on being there for a bit.

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By *cLovin2Man
35 weeks ago

Reading

I'd say that I'm a pretty good lover, the key being aware of what your lover wants, it takes time and practice to figure this out. I've never had a one night stand, read another way the ladies always come back for more. It helps to have good tools, ex partners have told me that I'm very girthy, with at least 3 ladies who told me about being genuinely scared when I whipped it out. The proof of the pudding is in the eating I guess.

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