FabSwingers.com forum: Question for the ladies

By *amhorniest OP Man
36 weeks ago

Surrey

Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
36 weeks ago

Southampton

Nope... nor would I.... can't be doing with the whole rejection thing lol

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Yup.

Sometimes it works out. Sometimes I get rejected.

It's rare I do see someone and reach out. But it does happen

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By *mmaleiaWoman
36 weeks ago

Trowbridge

"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

All.the.time

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By *ell GwynnWoman
36 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

That's how I prefer to do it. Filters up, send the messages, plenty of calamine lotion on hand for the sting of rejection.

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By *ustBoWoman
36 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I have.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
36 weeks ago

Reading

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Nope... nor would I.... can't be doing with the whole rejection thing lol"

Oh er, I was lucky then, cos I got a wink

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By *eliWoman
36 weeks ago

Yep. I don't approach it as anything but a "you seem cool, fancy chatting" message and I've not... not had a reply. Works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Why wouldn’t you message a guy on here first?

My hunch is that most women are bombed out by messages and can even login with out 69 messages jamming there inbox up.

Probably don’t even get time to search profiles and send the first message.

I stand to be corrected on this issue

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Why wouldn’t you message a guy on here first?

My hunch is that most women are bombed out by messages and can even login with out 69 messages jamming there inbox up.

Probably don’t even get time to search profiles and send the first message.

I stand to be corrected on this issue

Several just block single men from messaging to avoid that kind of burnout.

If they send someone a message, the site whitelists that person from the single male block.

It works for people

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Yes

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By *ell GwynnWoman
36 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"Why wouldn’t you message a guy on here first?

My hunch is that most women are bombed out by messages and can even login with out 69 messages jamming there inbox up.

Probably don’t even get time to search profiles and send the first message.

I stand to be corrected on this issue

Several just block single men from messaging to avoid that kind of burnout.

If they send someone a message, the site whitelists that person from the single male block.

It works for people

What Prey said.

The only downside to this approach is that you will never look cool on the "how many views..." threads.

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By *parkle1974Woman
36 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Why wouldn’t you message a guy on here first?

My hunch is that most women are bombed out by messages and can even login with out 69 messages jamming there inbox up.

Probably don’t even get time to search profiles and send the first message.

I stand to be corrected on this issue

Several just block single men from messaging to avoid that kind of burnout.

If they send someone a message, the site whitelists that person from the single male block.

It works for people

What Prey said.

The only downside to this approach is that you will never look cool on the "how many views..." threads."

Oh yes I get that the other downside is single guys can not wink or appear on who’s looked at you tab

Have i got that right?

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
36 weeks ago

somewhere

God no! Are you mad OP?!

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
36 weeks ago

Maidstone

Er yes. That way I don't need to whine and moan about the crap messages in my inbox as I can ignore them and concentrate on those I like. Works for me.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
36 weeks ago

Wherever

Yes, especially on the back of the forum games threads. Works for me.

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By *orphnStormMan
36 weeks ago

Pontypridd

Yes, quite a few times. If someone interests me, then why not.

I've also taken men out on a first date, and paid the bill.

Invited Storm to dinner a few weeks back actually at a very nice local Italian restaurant.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
36 weeks ago

cardiff

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

Yes

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By *EAT..85Woman
36 weeks ago

Nottingham

Yes, plenty of times. With mixed responses as I'm not everyone's cup of tea. This place would go a lot smoother if women grew a back bone and hunted for themselves rather than unhappily trolling through the dross that fills their inboxes.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Yes, plenty of times. With mixed responses as I'm not everyone's cup of tea. This place would go a lot smoother if women grew a back bone and hunted for themselves rather than unhappily trolling through the dross that fills their inboxes. "

100% agreed but why don’t they do that?

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By *exyScientistsCouple
36 weeks ago

Castlebar

Lots of times...wink, fab, message...

Even if it just leads to a quick flirt and a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Yes I have

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By *iss.BellaWoman
36 weeks ago

Chester

Yes it's easier that way

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By *abonTedCouple
36 weeks ago

Midlands & Cheltenham

I did a fair bit when I just had my single profile…but I mainly kept the filters closed so it was that or nothing

It’s a lot different/simpler on a couples profile, in terms of volume and approach.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
36 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't meet men but I would send a message to a woman if I was interested.

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By *ornycougaWoman
36 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

It's rare. But yes I have on a number of occasions

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By *uxombabe78Woman
36 weeks ago

Wandsworth

Yes and it was worth it

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By *luebell888Woman
36 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

Of course I have. Life's too short to sit on the fence.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Yes, those I’ve messaged first haven’t led to disappointment so far.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
36 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

For sure.

Mrs TMN x

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By *iss DevilWoman
36 weeks ago

Bedford

Yes, ended up in an open relationship with them, 5.5 years now and counting

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By *aizyWoman
36 weeks ago

west midlands

Yep

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By *mf123Man
36 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

These birds get a lot of questions its far better to be the answer

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Central

A lot

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
36 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Yes, reasonably often.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
36 weeks ago

Southampton

"Nope... nor would I.... can't be doing with the whole rejection thing lol

Oh er, I was lucky then, cos I got a wink

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By *y AmoreMan
36 weeks ago

london

All these yes’ one day I hope to get one

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By *nytime2023Couple
36 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

When we are seeking single guys, I will often send messages first. Sometimes I get responses and sometimes I don’t. K xx

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
36 weeks ago

your head

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Yes, I went for it and kissed him after a group social night out. Fully expected him to run away, but he didn't and still doesn't to this day!

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
36 weeks ago

St Neots

Not yet...being a newbie the inbox is pretty full so don't need to. But I would

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes. Some of my best and most disastrous meets have been a result of me messaging first.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Yes. Some of my best and most disastrous meets have been a result of me messaging first."

Imagining best and most disastrous being in the same meet - so for example, an amazing romp but broke the bed in the process

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By *naswingdressWoman
36 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yes. Some of my best and most disastrous meets have been a result of me messaging first.

Imagining best and most disastrous being in the same meet - so for example, an amazing romp but broke the bed in the process

lol. I'm thinking of multiple people

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By *ansoffateMan
36 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Oh they like to think they made the first move, but it's all in the

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By *9 Love-To-TryCouple
36 weeks ago

East Anglia

I asked my boss to take me to bed

Does that count

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By *hloe577Woman
36 weeks ago

fort william

I do occasionally, but yes generally the ladies are bombarded with messages so usually easier just to filter those and find fun, my location is the biggest annoyance when looking for hotties

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By *inger_SnapWoman
36 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Very occasionally... Usually in response to a status, but usually only if they've got a fave pic up.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"I do occasionally, but yes generally the ladies are bombarded with messages so usually easier just to filter those and find fun, my location is the biggest annoyance when looking for hotties"

Oh my goodness that is a tough place to find yourself a 3sum

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I have although i get nervous x

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By *amhorniest OP Man
36 weeks ago

Surrey

"God no! Are you mad OP?!"

Maybe lol

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Certainly did, 4 years later and I still get the butterflies

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By *uri00620Woman
36 weeks ago

Croydon

With a couple's profile i sent messages to single women moreso. I have sent to men before, infrequently though.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
36 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

Yep

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By *uenevereWoman
36 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Not on Fab, as I'm not looking to meet single guys.

If I was I would and in real life I've made the first move.

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By *elightfulDuo01Couple
36 weeks ago

Bristol

Yes, and have had some amazing meets with them

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By *inxy777Woman
36 weeks ago

essex

Nope never!! I know I’d be ignored! X

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By *riel13Woman
36 weeks ago

Northampton

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Ladies feel free to approach me lol

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
36 weeks ago

Merseyside

Yes I have a few times to those who have caught my eye

been lucky enough to receive replies from one or two legends

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
36 weeks ago

Wirral.

Very very rarely, with 50% success rate.

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By *4seven69Couple
36 weeks ago

Near Mansfield

I have messaged first a few times but usually send a wink tbh

Prinny x

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By *ealitybitesMan
36 weeks ago

Belfast

The last time I sent a first contact message was in January 2020.

Every conversation I've had in the last 4½ years has been started by women making the first move and contacting me.

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By *cLovin2Man
36 weeks ago

Reading

"Yes"

I'm kinda shocked that you managed that.

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By *1newfunWoman
36 weeks ago

Eastleigh

I haven’t yet. I had to ask husband where the message instigation button was, for future reference!

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By *exySiren01Woman
36 weeks ago

RCT

Yes all the time I don't hesitate if someone catches my eye

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By *hoirCouple
36 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Not once, not looking for single guys though. If we were looking I can think of a couple of forumites I'd happily invite

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By *iss_LayedWoman
36 weeks ago

nearby

"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

Often and regularly x

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