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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it such a turn off? I see profiles with text speak and I instantly go off the person. It's often, on here, that a profile will have lots of spelling mistakes and I just want to sit there and correct it all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuk nose. Im fe same tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not Definatley

Can't not Carnt

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"I just want to sit there and correct it all!

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Knock yourself out! ... while your correcting the spelling mistakes and moaning about grammar they will be out having fun swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know, others can tolerate it, I can't.

I text using long hand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just want to sit there and correct it all!

Knock yourself out! ... while your correcting the spelling mistakes and moaning about grammar they will be out having fun swinging! "

Ha, a single male on this site can have a lot of time on his hands...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it such a turn off? I see profiles with text speak and I instantly go off the person. It's often, on here, that a profile will have lots of spelling mistakes and I just want to sit there and correct it all!

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We're with you on this subject. Why would you communicate with someone you've never met in a way that, in our opinion, portrays you as; sloppy, uncaring and rude. You wouldn't go on a date or interview and not make an effort surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, perhaps it is time to spend less time on FAB?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it such a turn off? I see profiles with text speak and I instantly go off the person. It's often, on here, that a profile will have lots of spelling mistakes and I just want to sit there and correct it all!

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Oh so agree it is just so JKP not my style x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, perhaps it is time to spend less time on FAB? "

In truth I'm not on here that much, I don't think anyway....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it such a turn off? I see profiles with text speak and I instantly go off the person. It's often, on here, that a profile will have lots of spelling mistakes and I just want to sit there and correct it all!

We're with you on this subject. Why would you communicate with someone you've never met in a way that, in our opinion, portrays you as; sloppy, uncaring and rude. You wouldn't go on a date or interview and not make an effort surely. "

It just makes me wonder what their conversation, attitude and voice would be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

secretariez use shorthand and doez it really really matter? no it dont az many ppl do have dyslexia etc many struggle to spell and swinging iz not abt spelling itz abt making friendz and having fun, i use text speech az my teen kid sayz i take so long to reply.....job interviewz are mainly verbal, so wherez the spelling needed in that?

enjoy sitting and disecting ppl'z profilez happy swinging xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me"

We all have personal preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I need help with a dissertation I would care....

Otherwise, by the time I'd finished 'king her brains out, she wouldn't be able to speak, let alone type....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, perhaps it is time to spend less time on FAB? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences "

Some people are allowed to have preferences and discuss them. Some aren't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences "

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Some people are allowed to have preferences and discuss them. Some aren't... "

It's because some horses are so high people can only shout down to people and can't hear the response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Some people are allowed to have preferences and discuss them. Some aren't...

It's because some horses are so high people can only shout down to people and can't hear the response "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they're having fun whilst updating profile?! Lol. OCD creeping in is it??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose."

It's a conversation, if you have taken offence to it, that's not my problem. This is going greatly off topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wiz bin on ere now a few dayz and bare peepz moanz bout r spelling i dnt no yz they biz lke diz nuttin rong wid ow we b spelling nuff lve xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow chill this is just taking it in directions!! Lol. Good topic though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

time to take head out arse i think lol....to my knowledge spelling aint needed in sex.....or am i wrong? xx

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow chill this is just taking it in directions!! Lol. Good topic though"

My thoughts exactly.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

pps i almostgave a shot (did i spell that correctly) ????

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"This is going greatly off topic. "

welcome to the internet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wiz bin on ere now a few dayz and bare peepz moanz bout r spelling i dnt no yz they biz lke diz nuttin rong wid ow we b spelling nuff lve xxx"

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose.

It's a conversation, if you have taken offence to it, that's not my problem. This is going greatly off topic. "

take head out arse a think iz needed x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is going greatly off topic.

welcome to the internet!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

diss biz sme gd shizzle manz lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose.

It's a conversation, if you have taken offence to it, that's not my problem. This is going greatly off topic.

take head out arse a think iz needed x"

Because the OP doesn't like sloppy spelling he has his head up his arse? Wow overstatement of the year maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose.

It's a conversation, if you have taken offence to it, that's not my problem. This is going greatly off topic.

take head out arse a think iz needed x

Because the OP doesn't like sloppy spelling he has his head up his arse? Wow overstatement of the year maybe? "

Agreed! Talk about below the belt!

I am with you on this OP I hate text talk, let alone waste my time trying to decipher it!

Some grammatical errors I can overlook but the one that grates me the most is "your" and "you're"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose.

It's a conversation, if you have taken offence to it, that's not my problem. This is going greatly off topic.

take head out arse a think iz needed x

Because the OP doesn't like sloppy spelling he has his head up his arse? Wow overstatement of the year maybe?

Agreed! Talk about below the belt!

I am with you on this OP I hate text talk, let alone waste my time trying to decipher it!

Some grammatical errors I can overlook but the one that grates me the most is "your" and "you're" "

Wow someone who has something to build on in the conversation

That one does get me too Julie. "There" and "their" is another...

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By *obnessMan
over a year ago

york

I will come in on the side of the op. I do have to admit though that accurate typing is harder on an iphone than on a keyboard. I do try though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose.

It's a conversation, if you have taken offence to it, that's not my problem. This is going greatly off topic.

take head out arse a think iz needed x

Because the OP doesn't like sloppy spelling he has his head up his arse? Wow overstatement of the year maybe?

Agreed! Talk about below the belt!

I am with you on this OP I hate text talk, let alone waste my time trying to decipher it!

Some grammatical errors I can overlook but the one that grates me the most is "your" and "you're"

Wow someone who has something to build on in the conversation

That one does get me too Julie. "There" and "their" is another... "

Spelling haz nothing to do with swinging many ppl struggle to spell I am not here to judge somebody over spelling so why should other'z? Take time to try and understand ppl for who they really are not by wordz but for who they are, quite simple really, it'z ppl that message and say hi there fancy a shag/fuck thqat get my goat not them that struggle with spelling sorry if it'z offending you happy easter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose.

It's a conversation, if you have taken offence to it, that's not my problem. This is going greatly off topic.

take head out arse a think iz needed x

Because the OP doesn't like sloppy spelling he has his head up his arse? Wow overstatement of the year maybe?

Agreed! Talk about below the belt!

I am with you on this OP I hate text talk, let alone waste my time trying to decipher it!

Some grammatical errors I can overlook but the one that grates me the most is "your" and "you're"

Wow someone who has something to build on in the conversation

That one does get me too Julie. "There" and "their" is another...

Spelling haz nothing to do with swinging many ppl struggle to spell I am not here to judge somebody over spelling so why should other'z? Take time to try and understand ppl for who they really are not by wordz but for who they are, quite simple really, it'z ppl that message and say hi there fancy a shag/fuck thqat get my goat not them that struggle with spelling sorry if it'z offending you happy easter "

I personally feel spelling/grammar is very much to do with swinging for me, I only want to meet like minded people. People that use text talk are not like minded, or people that I would have much in common with ,simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they're having fun whilst updating profile?! Lol. OCD creeping in is it?? "
lol maybe it is OCD.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The attraction isn't just about how they spell surely, would you not meet a Dyslexic or a really nice person who had a poor education

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By *obnessMan
over a year ago

york

Looks like I am going to get embroiled. I have two people on here that I message a lot. Both have problems with spelling. I know that and accept it. I think that what irritates me and possibly the op is people who just can't be bothered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The attraction isn't just about how they spell surely, would you not meet a Dyslexic or a really nice person who had a poor education"

I doubt very much that's what the OP meant, that it is the be all and end all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me"

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By *amieandjulieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Feel sorry for people who for whatever reason, can't read or write properly.

Sometimes it's lazy most of the time it's a problem they can't control.

Then they come on a swingers site for a shag and get blasted for their spelling.

What a lovely world we live in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks like I am going to get embroiled. I have two people on here that I message a lot. Both have problems with spelling. I know that and accept it. I think that what irritates me and possibly the op is people who just can't be bothered. "

Yes a big difference between a person who is dyslexic and someone who can't be bothered!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same when I see poor spelling and grammar..thing is when you think about more deeply it I wonder how much it should matter.I mean we have less and less time as life goes on and text speak abbreviation makes communicating faster..isn't that a sensible alternative?

The only reason for the written word is to communicate what we wish to say...so does it matter as long as it can be understood??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the same when I see poor spelling and grammar..thing is when you think about more deeply it I wonder how much it should matter.I mean we have less and less time as life goes on and text speak abbreviation makes communicating faster..isn't that a sensible alternative?

The only reason for the written word is to communicate what we wish to say...so does it matter as long as it can be understood??"

Yes it does to me, as I don't understand text talk nor do I want to or have the time to do so

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone who cannot string a few words together and have them spelt properly, and I don't care who give a toss about it.

My life, my ways, my preferences, end of!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet anyone who cannot string a few words together and have them spelt properly, and I don't care who give a toss about it.

My life, my ways, my preferences, end of!

"

Hear, hear or should that be here here

(P.S I know the correct one )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's because psychologically it makes you think the person who is text speaking/spelling badly lacks a certain amount of intelligence. If I see a profile with bad spelling and grammar I just move on. I think of the worst examples I see fairly regularly is using "of" instead of "have" - and "for sell" instead of "for sale" - not my cup of tea I'm afraid, what does it say about the rest of their life????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The attraction isn't just about how they spell surely, would you not meet a Dyslexic or a really nice person who had a poor education"

Dyslexia is nothing to do with intellect. I went to a school in a very poor area which had 23.5% 5A*-C in the year I left and was on the verge of special measures. I still got good GCSEs. A poor education has no bearings on someone's ability to use Standard English.

I can't stand text speak, it takes me longer to decipher than I wish to take.

In my opinion, choosing to use text speak is laziness, my mother uses it and I've told her the same thing. As for the comment about spelling on iPhones and Smart phones, they have spell check as a built in feature now. Writing how are you instead of how r u takes no difference in time!

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By *amieandjulieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I won't meet anyone who cannot string a few words together and have them spelt properly, and I don't care who give a toss about it.

My life, my ways, my preferences, end of!

"

Bloody hell you must be so perfect, well done you !!!!!

Oh Lord it's hard to be hummble .........

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I remember correctly the first message the OP sent me was full of spelling mistakes is this double standards lol "

That was just between me and you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feel sorry for people who for whatever reason, can't read or write properly.

Sometimes it's lazy most of the time it's a problem they can't control.

Then they come on a swingers site for a shag and get blasted for their spelling.

What a lovely world we live in. "
I maybe could run rings around a lot here in other things .. Just not in writing ,Has not stoped me doing nothing just found it hard writing letters filling in forms .. But could give most a run for there money ,In most things .. never think we are thick as we are not. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What I'm obviously getting at is the deconstruction of the written English language. As someone who has struggled with dyslexia I'm not saying that everyone who cannot read and write is a moron.

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By *amieandjulieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I think it's because psychologically it makes you think the person who is text speaking/spelling badly lacks a certain amount of intelligence. If I see a profile with bad spelling and grammar I just move on. I think of the worst examples I see fairly regularly is using "of" instead of "have" - and "for sell" instead of "for sale" - not my cup of tea I'm afraid, what does it

say about the rest of their life????

"

Says they must be the scum of the earth and should have been put down at birth hey ?????

Wonder what you look like ? No pics, you must have a halo I guess though

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I can't spell very well and its not due to lack of education its down to the fact I just can't spell very well. Grammer yes it can be worked on but I got an A in English GCSE..I can't stand text speak its grates me however bad spelling I can put up with and some have to put up with mine...

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?"

Not quite...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's because psychologically it makes you think the person who is text speaking/spelling badly lacks a certain amount of intelligence. If I see a profile with bad spelling and grammar I just move on. I think of the worst examples I see fairly regularly is using "of" instead of "have" - and "for sell" instead of "for sale" - not my cup of tea I'm afraid, what does it

say about the rest of their life????

Says they must be the scum of the earth and should have been put down at birth hey ?????

Wonder what you look like ? No pics, you must have a halo I guess though "

Erm no not scum of the earth, just not very intelligent and suggesting putting down at birth says a lot about your intelligence too. Not having a pic on here has absolutely nothing to do with not being able to spell properly, you need to start another thread for that.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Been here before!

Apparently bad spelling and grammar can be excused as "evolving language" not laziness as I thought. Silly me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I'm obviously getting at is the deconstruction of the written English language. As someone who has struggled with dyslexia I'm not saying that everyone who cannot read and write is a moron.

"
well some will text chat if thay cant spell well too ... If you have struggled with this .... you of all people should know people will find there way and if text chat is that way for some who cant spell to well good for them . Only getting to know them you would find out ... Again it do not make them moron ...... and what a word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind the poor spelling but what gets me is the grammatical errors. There is nothing worse than being suffocated when reading a message due to no full stops or commas

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Been here before!

Apparently bad spelling and grammar can be excused as "evolving language" not laziness as I thought. Silly me. "

I also put it down to spell check....

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Being called a moron is a bit harsh!

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I think there is a reliance on spell check to remember for us...

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By *amieandjulieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Being called a moron is a bit harsh! "

Harsh ??? You got off lightly by whoever called you that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I'm obviously getting at is the deconstruction of the written English language. As someone who has struggled with dyslexia I'm not saying that everyone who cannot read and write is a moron.

well some will text chat if thay cant spell well too ... If you have struggled with this .... you of all people should know people will find there way and if text chat is that way for some who cant spell to well good for them . Only getting to know them you would find out ... Again it do not make them moron ...... and what a word. "

I didn't call anyone a moron? I was merely commenting on the laziness of deconstruction of the English language. I have tried and continue to try hard to get my spelling and grammar correct. When I see it all broken down it just bugs me a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?"
lol I have it and my 4 kids .. who are very smart and done so well at a young age .. own homes cars and good life's , and always texing and on the net .

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I think there is a reliance on spell check to remember for us..."

I use it everyday at work. My grammer has got a lot better as I write on average 6 letters a day and they are a legal document so tend to make sure to cross thw T's and dot the I's...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being called a moron is a bit harsh! "

I didn't call anyone a moron. I was saying quite the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of excuses for poor spelling in this thread.

It is one thing having the odd spelling mistake, that is human error and perfectly ok.

On the other hand I have had messages that the enigma machine would have trouble breaking. Some have lead to great misunderstanding.

Does anyone else hesitate at messaging back and asking what they mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of excuses for poor spelling in this thread.

It is one thing having the odd spelling mistake, that is human error and perfectly ok.

On the other hand I have had messages that the enigma machine would have trouble breaking. Some have lead to great misunderstanding.

Does anyone else hesitate at messaging back and asking what they mean? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I'm obviously getting at is the deconstruction of the written English language. As someone who has struggled with dyslexia I'm not saying that everyone who cannot read and write is a moron.

well some will text chat if thay cant spell well too ... If you have struggled with this .... you of all people should know people will find there way and if text chat is that way for some who cant spell to well good for them . Only getting to know them you would find out ... Again it do not make them moron ...... and what a word.

I didn't call anyone a moron? I was merely commenting on the laziness of deconstruction of the English language. I have tried and continue to try hard to get my spelling and grammar correct. When I see it all broken down it just bugs me a little. "
If in life that's the only thing that bugs you .. Your lucky maybe. As I see some of the sad things going on in the world people have no control over now that's what bugs me and I feel like screaming about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?"

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Being called a moron is a bit harsh!

Harsh ??? You got off lightly by whoever called you that.

"
thats cowardly, I'm sorry you can't be more civil.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I'm obviously getting at is the deconstruction of the written English language. As someone who has struggled with dyslexia I'm not saying that everyone who cannot read and write is a moron.

well some will text chat if thay cant spell well too ... If you have struggled with this .... you of all people should know people will find there way and if text chat is that way for some who cant spell to well good for them . Only getting to know them you would find out ... Again it do not make them moron ...... and what a word.

I didn't call anyone a moron? I was merely commenting on the laziness of deconstruction of the English language. I have tried and continue to try hard to get my spelling and grammar correct. When I see it all broken down it just bugs me a little. If in life that's the only thing that bugs you .. Your lucky maybe. As I see some of the sad things going on in the world people have no control over now that's what bugs me and I feel like screaming about. "

There is always refreshing perspective.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Being called a moron is a bit harsh!

Harsh ??? You got off lightly by whoever called you that.

thats cowardly, I'm sorry you can't be more civil. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess this sums up grammar for me;

Helping your uncle jack off a horse

Or

Helping your uncle, Jack, off a horse.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia. "

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many.

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By *axwellTattMan
over a year ago

knutsford


"Why is it such a turn off? I see profiles with text speak and I instantly go off the person. It's often, on here, that a profile will have lots of spelling mistakes and I just want to sit there and correct it all!

"

Spelling and grammar are one thing spare a thought for us dyslexics amongst you though, there’s only so much the spell checker can do on here on the other hand text talk, well if you cant understand it what chance do we have?

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many. "

Is it used as an excuse, do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of excuses for poor spelling in this thread.

It is one thing having the odd spelling mistake, that is human error and perfectly ok.

On the other hand I have had messages that the enigma machine would have trouble breaking. Some have lead to great misunderstanding.

Does anyone else hesitate at messaging back and asking what they mean? "

I've been tempted to ask for a translation into Standard English!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones that interest me the least are those written in 'chav speak', but at least it helps with filtering people out.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many.

Is it used as an excuse, do you mean? "

Yes - based on what I have read on here over a period of time, I would say that 50% of the population must be dyslexic. Many consider that poor writing skills are dyslexia which rather insults people who are genuinely dyslexic.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many.

Is it used as an excuse, do you mean?

Yes - based on what I have read on here over a period of time, I would say that 50% of the population must be dyslexic. Many consider that poor writing skills are dyslexia which rather insults people who are genuinely dyslexic.

"

I agree totally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing I love is when you get some who think there spelling is really good and there grammar.... I run it on my spell cheek and come up with bad spelling. Maybe I should mail say look there's a word out of place .... would that be nit picking ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing I love is when you get some who think there spelling is really good and there grammar.... I run it on my spell cheek and come up with bad spelling. Maybe I should mail say look there's a word out of place .... would that be nit picking ? "

Were the spelling mistakes ironic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing I love is when you get some who think there spelling is really good and there grammar.... I run it on my spell cheek and come up with bad spelling. Maybe I should mail say look there's a word out of place .... would that be nit picking ?

Were the spelling mistakes ironic? "

haha, he's now frantically trying to suss which ones were the spelling mistakes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many.

Is it used as an excuse, do you mean?

Yes - based on what I have read on here over a period of time, I would say that 50% of the population must be dyslexic. Many consider that poor writing skills are dyslexia which rather insults people who are genuinely dyslexic.

I agree totally.

"
I have lived with it all my life ... and had all the tests and things on offer had 121 help and still only thing that come close to help me is my lap-top. I can now wright a letter and still with word checking can pick wrong one . So this is very close to my heart and having 4 with it too . You lean to cope and some will text chat as make life better for them. Most like me lived in fair of reading and writing until now .. Things are helping us more on the market.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Thing I love is when you get some who think there spelling is really good and there grammar.... I run it on my spell cheek and come up with bad spelling. Maybe I should mail say look there's a word out of place .... would that be nit picking ? "

There will always be different standards of everything, including grammar. I just happen to come from a background where it was taught more diligently.

On a practical point. It's important for legal and medical purposes that there is no chance of a misunderstanding due to bad grammar or spelling I believe.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many.

Is it used as an excuse, do you mean?

Yes - based on what I have read on here over a period of time, I would say that 50% of the population must be dyslexic. Many consider that poor writing skills are dyslexia which rather insults people who are genuinely dyslexic.

I agree totally.

I have lived with it all my life ... and had all the tests and things on offer had 121 help and still only thing that come close to help me is my lap-top. I can now wright a letter and still with word checking can pick wrong one . So this is very close to my heart and having 4 with it too . You lean to cope and some will text chat as make life better for them. Most like me lived in fair of reading and writing until now .. Things are helping us more on the market."

Dyslexia is a real problem and I admire your way of coping.

My worry is that others think its the only reason for poor spelling and grammar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it such a turn off? I see profiles with text speak and I instantly go off the person. It's often, on here, that a profile will have lots of spelling mistakes and I just want to sit there and correct it all!

"

Same here it's a right turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many.

Is it used as an excuse, do you mean?

Yes - based on what I have read on here over a period of time, I would say that 50% of the population must be dyslexic. Many consider that poor writing skills are dyslexia which rather insults people who are genuinely dyslexic.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me I find it offensive as much as much as people not liking mixed race .. Its like your singled out and I have been over the years because of this and at school bullied made fun off .I think maybe its made me who I am today as I new I had to do well .

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By *o1mrtlcMan
over a year ago

cannock


"To me I find it offensive as much as much as people not liking mixed race .. Its like your singled out and I have been over the years because of this and at school bullied made fun off .I think maybe its made me who I am today as I new I had to do well ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's all down to preference but think of it another way:

Would you go for a boring profile spelt perfectly and correct in every way or a interesting profile spelt in text speak with varied errors?

You can understand both and saying neither is a cheap cop out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's all down to preference but think of it another way:

Would you go for a boring profile spelt perfectly and correct in every way or a interesting profile spelt in text speak with varied errors?

You can understand both and saying neither is a cheap cop out!

"

Neither - I'd prefer a well written interesting profile/message.

I think it's usually possible to distinguish between dyslexics and typos from laziness and stupidity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"secretariez use shorthand and doez it really really matter? no it dont az many ppl do have dyslexia etc many struggle to spell and swinging iz not abt spelling itz abt making friendz and having fun, i use text speech az my teen kid sayz i take so long to reply.....job interviewz are mainly verbal, so wherez the spelling needed in that?

enjoy sitting and disecting ppl'z profilez happy swinging xx"

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"secretariez use shorthand and doez it really really matter? no it dont az many ppl do have dyslexia etc many struggle to spell and swinging iz not abt spelling itz abt making friendz and having fun, i use text speech az my teen kid sayz i take so long to reply.....job interviewz are mainly verbal, so wherez the spelling needed in that?

enjoy sitting and disecting ppl'z profilez happy swinging xx "

Secretaries use shorthand as you say - but that is not lazy English. It is something of a code which makes writing quicker as it has simple strokes of the pen for consonant sounds, vowels, diphthongs and triphones. However, a secretary does need to have a very good grasp of grammar and spelling in order to transcribe it.

Furthermore, interviews may well be verbal, but application letters are not. And interviewees will not impress many if they use poor English even in spoken terms.

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By *axwellTattMan
over a year ago

knutsford


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many.

Is it used as an excuse, do you mean? "

No I don’t mean that at all, I meant that people to be honest as a rule no matter what chat room your in any where on the net and us the British as the most anal race of people for saying it, we are so critical of others what ever their difference are to the norm we seem to single people out.

I have found this over the years its it’s a physical disabilities that people can see we stop and stare at others that are different, but what do we do when its disabilities you can’t see?

I will give you an example of this years ago when the MEN area opening in Manchester I went for a job there and got it, and the guy that was giving the talk from the company that were doing the stewards jobs said well if you have someone that has dyslexia and there’s a fire they could not read the signs, so I asked the question what makes you say that?

He said well they can’t read their thick, so I said what makes you say that? He said well they can’t read or write, I said do you know that for a fact then? He said well its common knowledge; I said well what would you say about me then? He said well you’re an educated guy, been to collage and university you can read and write and your point is, I said my point is I have moderate dyslexic but you would never have guessed I had not told you would you? It’s not like a wear a sign round my neck or anything is it?

But that’s the prefect example of the way things are, in companies to this day there’s managers that have no clue not because their not thick there just undedicated in it, I don’t think in this country we learn by our mistakes we just repeat them over and over again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cuz ur a grammar geek

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Has anyone mentioned dyslexia yet?

Very, very different to poor spelling/grammar and generally you can tell when someone has dyslexia.

Yes, I know I have been working with dyslexics for most of my career. But someone usually mentions it on one of these threads. It's the 'go-to' answer for many.

Is it used as an excuse, do you mean?

No I don’t mean that at all, I meant that people to be honest as a rule no matter what chat room your in any where on the net and us the British as the most anal race of people for saying it, we are so critical of others what ever their difference are to the norm we seem to single people out.

I have found this over the years its it’s a physical disabilities that people can see we stop and stare at others that are different, but what do we do when its disabilities you can’t see?

I will give you an example of this years ago when the MEN area opening in Manchester I went for a job there and got it, and the guy that was giving the talk from the company that were doing the stewards jobs said well if you have someone that has dyslexia and there’s a fire they could not read the signs, so I asked the question what makes you say that?

He said well they can’t read their thick, so I said what makes you say that? He said well they can’t read or write, I said do you know that for a fact then? He said well its common knowledge; I said well what would you say about me then? He said well you’re an educated guy, been to collage and university you can read and write and your point is, I said my point is I have moderate dyslexic but you would never have guessed I had not told you would you? It’s not like a wear a sign round my neck or anything is it?

But that’s the prefect example of the way things are, in companies to this day there’s managers that have no clue not because their not thick there just undedicated in it, I don’t think in this country we learn by our mistakes we just repeat them over and over again.

"

Precisely - dyslexia is not about being 'thick' (a term which is so sweeping and often erroneous). It is simply a reading disorder. Plenty of dyslexics are perfectly articulate, capable of gaining a very good education. They have barriers which they have to work very hard to overcome.

That is not the same as someone who simply cannot spell, cannot 'be bothered' reading, and use English as if it is an option to be able to be understood. Yet, try to point out that and instantly some will claim to be dyslexic when they are not and become very defensive - almost aggressively so. I find that offensive to people who genuinely are dyslexic.

Ignorance of what dyslexia is is very common. Bad spelling and grammar does NOT equal dyslexia and it irritates me hugely when people try to claim that it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's all down to preference but think of it another way:

Would you go for a boring profile spelt perfectly and correct in every way or a interesting profile spelt in text speak with varied errors?

You can understand both and saying neither is a cheap cop out!

Neither - I'd prefer a well written interesting profile/message.

I think it's usually possible to distinguish between dyslexics and typos from laziness and stupidity."

What in the same way it is possible to distinguish between people who have read a question properly and those who have not ?

I would take the 2nd option, ( unless the pics in the first were yummy of course, then who reads a profile )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's all down to preference but think of it another way:

Would you go for a boring profile spelt perfectly and correct in every way or a interesting profile spelt in text speak with varied errors?

You can understand both and saying neither is a cheap cop out!

Neither - I'd prefer a well written interesting profile/message.

I think it's usually possible to distinguish between dyslexics and typos from laziness and stupidity.

What in the same way it is possible to distinguish between people who have read a question properly and those who have not ?

I would take the 2nd option, ( unless the pics in the first were yummy of course, then who reads a profile )"

I can also distinguish those too stupid to tread their own path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just want to sit there and correct it all!

Knock yourself out! ... while your correcting the spelling mistakes and moaning about grammar they will be out having fun swinging! "

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By *ea and SugarCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Couldn't care less. If a profile's not to your liking it's quite easy to move on to the next one.

I have more of a problem with people who are sneering or overly anal about other folks profiles.

But maybe that's just me

We all have personal preferences

Cool. I guess your selection process is working for you then. So this was just a 'I'm better than you' thread? It doesn't seem to serve any other purpose.

It's a conversation, if you have taken offence to it, that's not my problem. This is going greatly off topic.

take head out arse a think iz needed x

Because the OP doesn't like sloppy spelling he has his head up his arse? Wow overstatement of the year maybe?

Agreed! Talk about below the belt!

I am with you on this OP I hate text talk, let alone waste my time trying to decipher it!

Some grammatical errors I can overlook but the one that grates me the most is "your" and "you're"

Wow someone who has something to build on in the conversation

That one does get me too Julie. "There" and "their" is another...

Spelling haz nothing to do with swinging many ppl struggle to spell I am not here to judge somebody over spelling so why should other'z? Take time to try and understand ppl for who they really are not by wordz but for who they are, quite simple really, it'z ppl that message and say hi there fancy a shag/fuck thqat get my goat not them that struggle with spelling sorry if it'z offending you happy easter

I personally feel spelling/grammar is very much to do with swinging for me, I only want to meet like minded people. People that use text talk are not like minded, or people that I would have much in common with ,simple as that."

I (Tea) was spelling champ and times table champ numerous times at Primary School (many years back), when can we meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just want to sit there and correct it all!

Knock yourself out! ... while your correcting the spelling mistakes and moaning about grammar they will be out having fun swinging!

"

More likely they're driving around in circles unable to decipher the travel instructions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have the expertese to recognise dyslexia nor do i have the mastery of spelling to crytique others spelling.

Grammar ? If whats written just leaves me confused it tends to cause me to click off from it certainly.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I dont have the expertese to recognise dyslexia nor do i have the mastery of spelling to crytique others spelling.

Grammar ? If whats written just leaves me confused it tends to cause me to click off from it certainly."

Exactly - I don't expect every single message I get to be perfectly spelled, punctuated and framed grammatically. But I do expect to be able to understand it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grumpy says frequently that it is perfectly acceptable for people to choose to misspell however they wish, it's fine to watch X-Factor, fine to use the word "Geez", fine to change the "s" on the end of words to a "z"!

Freedom of choice is the name of the game and if you choose to come across as an illiterate, knuckle dragging chav that again is entirely your choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grumpy says frequently that it is perfectly acceptable for people to choose to misspell however they wish, it's fine to watch X-Factor, fine to use the word "Geez", fine to change the "s" on the end of words to a "z"!

Freedom of choice is the name of the game and if you choose to come across as an illiterate, knuckle dragging chav that again is entirely your choice "

iz rite

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"If I remember correctly the first message the OP sent me was full of spelling mistakes is this double standards lol "
I thought that as well lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feel sorry for people who for whatever reason, can't read or write properly.

Sometimes it's lazy most of the time it's a problem they can't control.

Then they come on a swingers site for a shag and get blasted for their spelling.

What a lovely world we live in. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the same when I see poor spelling and grammar..thing is when you think about more deeply it I wonder how much it should matter.I mean we have less and less time as life goes on and text speak abbreviation makes communicating faster..isn't that a sensible alternative?

The only reason for the written word is to communicate what we wish to say...so does it matter as long as it can be understood??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the same when I see poor spelling and grammar..thing is when you think about more deeply it I wonder how much it should matter.I mean we have less and less time as life goes on and text speak abbreviation makes communicating faster..isn't that a sensible alternative?

The only reason for the written word is to communicate what we wish to say...so does it matter as long as it can be understood??

"

I tend to agree in that I'm mostly more interested in what's being said than necessarily how it's said - but.. there are often reasons for why people communicate in a certain way and sometimes that is to appeal to or put off certain people. I don't see that as an issue - it's no different from certain photos etc.

The irony of the abbreviated writings is that whenever I do them they generally seem more effort than writing properly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's all down to preference but think of it another way:

Would you go for a boring profile spelt perfectly and correct in every way or a interesting profile spelt in text speak with varied errors?

You can understand both and saying neither is a cheap cop out!

Neither - I'd prefer a well written interesting profile/message.

I think it's usually possible to distinguish between dyslexics and typos from laziness and stupidity."

Cop-out! Lol

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the OP, I have a personal preference for good spelling and grammar, and I abhor text-speak. Surely, one of the main principles of communication is that one hopes to be UNDERSTOOD? I am certainly not interested in meeting anyone who doesn't care whether I understand him or not!

I hope I can recognise the difference between laziness and dyslexia (and indeed, with "English as a foreign language"). The DESIRE to communicate effectively is what is important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it such a turn off? I see profiles with text speak and I instantly go off the person. It's often, on here, that a profile will have lots of spelling mistakes and I just want to sit there and correct it all!

"

100% agree its the same with usser names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's all down to preference but think of it another way:

Would you go for a boring profile spelt perfectly and correct in every way or a interesting profile spelt in text speak with varied errors?

You can understand both and saying neither is a cheap cop out!

"

I pick- 'Interesting profile spelt in text speak with varied errors.'

For me it's all about the attitude. Certain people seem to think they have to defend their right to every little thing- turn off for me.

Genuinely nice people- thumbs up.

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By *axwellTattMan
over a year ago

knutsford


"cuz ur a grammar geek "

no because i use Microsoft word and to be honest with you I think someone at the Microsoft company has one of the most brilliant ideas the thing about word is its like a child it learns very fast about the way you write and if your typing it automaticity guesses what the word is, I have found the office pro 2003 &2007 the biggest help of any software I have ever used.

I must admit I can’t say that of the later versions to be honest they put all the buttons in the wrong places, not very ergomic, and the spell checker cant pick that word up lol there’s me praising it and it cant find a word lol,

The other odd thing is and I have never been able to fathom this one out at all, I started on PC with the one finger and them 2 now I can use both hands when I type + I don’t have to look where the keys are any more I just know where they are, I guess it’s a rhymed, from leaning myself I can now build them understand when something goes wrong and fix them, and no one showed me how to do it I just knew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to discriminate on the basis of poor spelling/grammar but then I realised that I'm far from perfect myself and that I was looking down on those who may not be able to help it - learning disabled, those who don't speak English as a first language etc. I had a word with myself and now try not to disregard people due to poor spelling or grammar.

That's not to say I'm impressed by 'hey hows u' messages, but that's a lack of imagination issue rather than anything else.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

i prfer a massage 2b reedabl, but hay we aint all perfikt r wee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i prfer a massage 2b reedabl, but hay we aint all perfikt r wee "

no, but some of us are damn close

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I used to discriminate on the basis of poor spelling/grammar but then I realised that I'm far from perfect myself and that I was looking down on those who may not be able to help it - learning disabled, those who don't speak English as a first language etc. I had a word with myself and now try not to disregard people due to poor spelling or grammar.

That's not to say I'm impressed by 'hey hows u' messages, but that's a lack of imagination issue rather than anything else. "

I don't look down on anyone. No one is perfect at all. But I really am put off by texting unless someone is actually texting me on their phone. That, in my opinion such as it is, is the only time it is relevant. And to receive 'text' messages from people who are 40 is very off-putting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to discriminate on the basis of poor spelling/grammar but then I realised that I'm far from perfect myself and that I was looking down on those who may not be able to help it - learning disabled, those who don't speak English as a first language etc. I had a word with myself and now try not to disregard people due to poor spelling or grammar.

That's not to say I'm impressed by 'hey hows u' messages, but that's a lack of imagination issue rather than anything else.

I don't look down on anyone. No one is perfect at all. But I really am put off by texting unless someone is actually texting me on their phone. That, in my opinion such as it is, is the only time it is relevant. And to receive 'text' messages from people who are 40 is very off-putting!"

There's a definite distinction between poor spelling/grammar and text speak. I'm thinking more of those who do make an effort to send well thought out and structured messages but may struggle with it!

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Agree with OP.

There may be reasons and extenuating circumstances, but if the reader is left confused then it's a failure to communicate - I make more than a few mistakes, thank god for the spool chocker, but just 'cos it recognises a word does not mean it's the correct word.

If this makes me a grumpy old git so be it.

Partly an age thing, those of us who were told it was important, and who worked hard on our writing skills can be excused for believing it is still important.

Communication is what it's all about.

Hate text speak and will not use it even on the phone - will correctly type short messages or actually use the phone to speak in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree with OP.

There may be reasons and extenuating circumstances, but if the reader is left confused then it's a failure to communicate - I make more than a few mistakes, thank god for the spool chocker, but just 'cos it recognises a word does not mean it's the correct word.

If this makes me a grumpy old git so be it.

Partly an age thing, those of us who were told it was important, and who worked hard on our writing skills can be excused for believing it is still important.

Communication is what it's all about.

Hate text speak and will not use it even on the phone - will correctly type short messages or actually use the phone to speak in person."
Is that a new name for spell check ... or just a very bad joke. Do you know at times I cant tell ..

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Bad joke.

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By *ilverMedalWinnerMan
over a year ago

North Lakes


"Why is it such a turn off? I see profiles with text speak and I instantly go off the person. It's often, on here, that a profile will have lots of spelling mistakes and I just want to sit there and correct it all!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Resurrected thread?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Resurrected thread?"

Eggs actly wot i wos ing

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By *axwellTattMan
over a year ago

knutsford


"I used to discriminate on the basis of poor spelling/grammar but then I realised that I'm far from perfect myself and that I was looking down on those who may not be able to help it - learning disabled, those who don't speak English as a first language etc. I had a word with myself and now try not to disregard people due to poor spelling or grammar.

That's not to say I'm impressed by 'hey hows u' messages, but that's a lack of imagination issue rather than anything else. "

I will give you an example of text talking, can you imagine this;

I used to have this girl working for us and she did text talking all the time on her internal emails I used to have to tell her about it all the time till one day I had a call from one of our office is Spain and they said can you help us with this fax? I said why what’s wrong with it? They said we cannot understand it, I said sent it back I will have a look and it came back, the fax was asking the hotel reservations office over there for a extra room for a customer and I have never in my life seen anything like it.

I waited till she came in and said come here I want a word with you, she said yeh! I said have you send this to the office n Spain she looked at it and said Yeh! I said yes what?

She said yeh I sent it so what, I said well I will tell you so what.

It was bad enough for them not to understand it but it took me about an hour to understand it myself, how do you think it makes us look as a business and you send that, her answer was totally unbelievable went I asked her to given me the reason

She said well don’t they text talk over there?? I said yes they may well do so what’s the problem, I said the problem is they problem do it in Spanish not English, she said well that’s their fault? I said pardon, what do you mean its their fault well for being lazy and not understand our text, I said well talking about last go back to your desk and I don’t care how long it takes you type it out in English you know the one they taut you in school and resend it, now I have dyslexia she had to bring it back to me 7 times before we could send it, because she had been using the text talk for that long she had forgot her English, I must admit its hard for anyone that is OK but it takes me all my time to understand it

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By *ss2011Man
over a year ago

Leeds/Bradford

Yeah, stupid people are a big turn off. It is like trying to find a needle in a haystack when looking for the people that aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, stupid people are a big turn off. It is like trying to find a needle in a haystack when looking for the people that aren't."

Not if you're clever..

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By *ss2011Man
over a year ago

Leeds/Bradford


"Yeah, stupid people are a big turn off. It is like trying to find a needle in a haystack when looking for the people that aren't.

Not if you're clever.."

Not true but a good one :p

Although we all have different ideals on what stupid is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have dyslexia but try my best to spell right,i hate text speak ,cant under stand it ,thing make people look lazy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, stupid people are a big turn off. It is like trying to find a needle in a haystack when looking for the people that aren't.

Not if you're clever..

Not true but a good one :p

Although we all have different ideals on what stupid is..."

You'll have to explain... oh doh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A big turn off for me. Any guy who sends a message using text speak or poor spelling is instantly deleted. Perhaps for some it doesn't matter, but for me it does.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Couldn't give a shiny shite if they can spell, if they're nice to their mothers, if they have a PHd in sexual positions.....I want to fuck them, not marry them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If folk are too bothered by bad spelling and grammar so much get a life.

Lot worse things to get stressed about. I like to think i am a very good speller and my grammar is ok as i saw her earlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't give a shiny shite if they can spell, if they're nice to their mothers, if they have a PHd in sexual positions.....I want to fuck them, not marry them."

If someone feels they have to pull us up on spelling, grammar or punctuation then they become another addition to our block list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes me laugh when I see the spelling/grammar police on alert and ready to pounce! FFS, get a life..

Not everyone has had the best education or the opportunites some have. At least most try and it doesnt matter if a word isn't spelt right as long as the fist and last letters are in the right placemost people are able to read it!

Emxlape : Ralely not as hrad to udenrsantd as you wuold tnihk !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to discriminate on the basis of poor spelling/grammar but then I realised that I'm far from perfect myself and that I was looking down on those who may not be able to help it - learning disabled, those who don't speak English as a first language etc. I had a word with myself and now try not to disregard people due to poor spelling or grammar.

That's not to say I'm impressed by 'hey hows u' messages, but that's a lack of imagination issue rather than anything else.

I will give you an example of text talking, can you imagine this;

I used to have this girl working for us and she did text talking all the time on her internal emails I used to have to tell her about it all the time till one day I had a call from one of our office is Spain and they said can you help us with this fax? I said why what’s wrong with it? They said we cannot understand it, I said sent it back I will have a look and it came back, the fax was asking the hotel reservations office over there for a extra room for a customer and I have never in my life seen anything like it.

I waited till she came in and said come here I want a word with you, she said yeh! I said have you send this to the office n Spain she looked at it and said Yeh! I said yes what?

She said yeh I sent it so what, I said well I will tell you so what.

It was bad enough for them not to understand it but it took me about an hour to understand it myself, how do you think it makes us look as a business and you send that, her answer was totally unbelievable went I asked her to given me the reason

She said well don’t they text talk over there?? I said yes they may well do so what’s the problem, I said the problem is they problem do it in Spanish not English, she said well that’s their fault? I said pardon, what do you mean its their fault well for being lazy and not understand our text, I said well talking about last go back to your desk and I don’t care how long it takes you type it out in English you know the one they taut you in school and resend it, now I have dyslexia she had to bring it back to me 7 times before we could send it, because she had been using the text talk for that long she had forgot her English, I must admit its hard for anyone that is OK but it takes me all my time to understand it

"

I find it even harder to understand why she is using text speak at work, whether its internal or not, she should use long hand, its a representation of the business and doesn't bode well at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me laugh when I see the spelling/grammar police on alert and ready to pounce! FFS, get a life..

Not everyone has had the best education or the opportunites some have. At least most try and it doesnt matter if a word isn't spelt right as long as the fist and last letters are in the right placemost people are able to read it!

Emxlape : Ralely not as hrad to udenrsantd as you wuold tnihk !! "

I agree, I don't like it however the human brain has a way of persisting to read words correctly even when misspelt.

Besides I don't think, given the subect of this site, that spelling or grammar is really of concern.

Suppose your playing with someone who moans, oh fuck yes!. Do you immediatley ask.'how are you spelling that' surely you got the message.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me laugh when I see the spelling/grammar police on alert and ready to pounce! FFS, get a life..

Not everyone has had the best education or the opportunites some have. At least most try and it doesnt matter if a word isn't spelt right as long as the fist and last letters are in the right placemost people are able to read it!

Emxlape : Ralely not as hrad to udenrsantd as you wuold tnihk !!

I agree, I don't like it however the human brain has a way of persisting to read words correctly even when misspelt.

Besides I don't think, given the subect of this site, that spelling or grammar is really of concern.

Suppose your playing with someone who moans, oh fuck yes!. Do you immediatley ask.'how are you spelling that' surely you got the message.?

"

Think the point is more whether you get to play in the first place

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Couldn't give a shiny shite if they can spell, if they're nice to their mothers, if they have a PHd in sexual positions.....I want to fuck them, not marry them.

If someone feels they have to pull us up on spelling, grammar or punctuation then they become another addition to our block list "
I wouldn't block just on the back of that, but it would tell me more about the person concerned.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Makes me laugh when I see the spelling/grammar police on alert and ready to pounce! FFS, get a life..

Not everyone has had the best education or the opportunites some have. At least most try and it doesnt matter if a word isn't spelt right as long as the fist and last letters are in the right placemost people are able to read it!

Emxlape : Ralely not as hrad to udenrsantd as you wuold tnihk !! "

I agree with you in the context of the site - and we all have choices. I might decide that somebody's lack of spelling ability is a turn off, then again I might decide their online personality is! Equally, I might not even notice some things other people would pick up on.

In the world of work it is completely different and I think especially in industry bad use of language in every sense off the word still reflects badly on the company so more attention to detail is needed. That said spell chaecks eradicate most common problems of syntax as well as spelling so the problem is not as prevalent as it used to be.

Bottom line - horses for.... and each to their own in terms of what turns them on or off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shudnt tha be think so cougar man?

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