FabSwingers.com forum: What is the point of winks

By *ake1989 OP Man
35 weeks ago

Leeds

What is the point of winks? Fab should just get rid of them. It's basically saying, I like your profile but I'm too lady to write to you.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
35 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I endorse this thread.

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By *abonTedCouple
35 weeks ago

Midlands & Cheltenham

Do you mean lazy?

So few people use them it’s sometimes a more guaranteed way to get noticed. Obviously if the receiver looks at their winks of course! Which we do…and often respond to.

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By *ou only live onceMan
35 weeks ago

London

Oh, I disagree. I like a wink. I don't think they're lazy - I see them as a "I checked you out because I think you're hot" intro, but no pressure.

Gives them a chance to wink back, or not. But horses for courses.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I have never seen the point of winks, it just a lazy way to communicate. X

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By *JcuriousCouple
35 weeks ago

Derby

I don't see it as lazy, I see it as they are putting the feelers out there that they like us and we can have a nosey at their profile and if we do, we can spark a conversation up.

Miss S x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
35 weeks ago

Reading

I think they do have some value. They are link smiling at someone in a pub. If the smile is returned then an introduction can be made. The issue is a lot of people ignore them so you don't know if your wink has been noticed and intentionally ignored or just ignored as a rule.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
35 weeks ago

somewhere

I use the wink function sometimes as a no thank you, if they have just winked then I may message but if I get winkers bingo (wink, friend request and a message) I won't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

We quite like them. It's no more lazy than a no-reply to a message. You can check each other out and move on from there.

Also, I can't help but think it could be an easy way to cut down unwanted messages, if you couldn't message a profile if they hadn't winked back at you.

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By *tan1964TV/TS
35 weeks ago

brentwood

If someone winks at me I always send a message to say thanks. Sometimes it starts a conversation and we can go from there

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By *ansoffateMan
35 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I like eye-contact flirting, I see it as a virtual version of that.

I don't see why it's problematic. It's not uncommon for me to receive a wink, which to me is just an indication of interest or intrigue, perhaps an invitation to engage.

Could they just send a message, yes but does it matter, if the engagement becomes a positive one?

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I see them as a not so pushy way of saying _ello & upto them if they wink back or send a message

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By *oozleMan
35 weeks ago

high wycombe

An informal way to gauge interest?, most guys know that women get multiple messages every day, so replying to all of them could be tedious and might be like a day job in some cases.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I’m attending my first club on Friday off the back of a wink so for me they’ve been useful

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
35 weeks ago

Southampton

I love a good wink

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By *eroLondonMan
35 weeks ago

Mayfair

A wink always works for me. Some of my p+sitive experiences have been on the back of women winking me.

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By *elloWoman
35 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I have messaged a few guys in the past off the back of them winking me. I don't think it's lazy, it's a other way to get their profile seen without having to rely on a message. I don't always look at my winks, but I'd I do and I see a profile photo that is appealing I'll then take a peek at their profile , if it really good then I'll message.

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By *y AmoreMan
35 weeks ago

london

"I have messaged a few guys in the past off the back of them winking me. I don't think it's lazy, it's an other way to get their profile seen without having to rely on a message. I don't always look at my winks, but I'd I do and I see a profile photo that is appealing I'll then take a peek at their profile , if it really good then I'll message."

And it’s always nice receiving a wink

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By *ewcomers2021Couple
35 weeks ago

Leeds

I like a wink and don’t think it’s lazy, it’s a nice way to say _ello you look interesting fancy a chat.

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By *ellhungvweMan
35 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Oh, I disagree. I like a wink. I don't think they're lazy - I see them as a "I checked you out because I think you're hot" intro, but no pressure.

Gives them a chance to wink back, or not. But horses for courses."

This

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By *bonybucksMan
35 weeks ago

High Wycombe

I think they are nice for shy people

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By *1876Man
35 weeks ago

Dudley

"Oh, I disagree. I like a wink. I don't think they're lazy - I see them as a "I checked you out because I think you're hot" intro, but no pressure.

Gives them a chance to wink back, or not. But horses for courses."

Totally agree with this

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By *TG3Man
35 weeks ago

Dorchester

"What is the point of winks? Fab should just get rid of them. It's basically saying, I like your profile but I'm too lady to write to you."
most Ladys are Ladys

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By *hrek101Man
35 weeks ago

Herts

I like them..it means I like you so if you wink me back I will message you.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
35 weeks ago

The Continental

Just because you don’t like it, is no reason to get rid of it.

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By *imisugarWoman
35 weeks ago

Rugby

I don't mind a wink and will retune them if something grabbed my attention.

I don't see the point of them from a silhouette profile with zero public pictures. Little to no bio information.

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By * and R cple4Couple
35 weeks ago

swansea

I am guilty of forgetting about the winks,but they are a good way to let people know you are interested in their profile.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
35 weeks ago

Leeds

We've had some good meets that started with a wink so I don't mind them.

Mrs

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By *TG3Man
35 weeks ago

Dorchester

I dont mind a wink either, they may be lazy and change the focus but they are showing interest

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By *aveonMan
35 weeks ago

Dartford

I like a wink - way of saying _ello and I like what I see, then if you get a wink back or return one it’s the start of a discussion

Quick easy and to the point ?

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"Oh, I disagree. I like a wink. I don't think they're lazy - I see them as a "I checked you out because I think you're hot" intro, but no pressure.

Gives them a chance to wink back, or not. But horses for courses."

This was my thinking behind them too but now I'm thinking I should just be brave and send more messages

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
35 weeks ago

Gloucester

We use them to show interest. If we get one back we send a message. If not we move on.

I think they are a great way of just saying “hi we like your profile, if you like ours wink back and we can see where it goes”

Kink (Mrs)

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By *iscean_dreamMan
35 weeks ago

Llanelli

They're a good way of showing interest without sending a message, gives them a option of looking and deciding if would like to talk or not.

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By *eah BabyCouple
35 weeks ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

I (AJ) don’t look at them and think Will only does occasionally so I’d say better to send a message. What happens if you wink and they wink back? Does anyone send a message or just keep winking

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"I (AJ) don’t look at them and think Will only does occasionally so I’d say better to send a message. What happens if you wink and they wink back? Does anyone send a message or just keep winking

If the person winked me back i'd usually take my chance & send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

If I remember to look at winks, and I like there profile back I usually wink back. Sometimes I forget all about winks though.

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
35 weeks ago

Ayrshire

You can't beat a good hard wink, even better with lube!

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By *1876Man
35 weeks ago

Dudley

"You can't beat a good hard wink, even better with lube! "

And a lovely lady to help with the winking

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By *ake1989 OP Man
35 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes, I meant lazy. please excuse my dyslexia

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

They’re there to get threads like this going

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By *stoppMan
35 weeks ago

Durham

Many a time I’ve received a wink, I replied via a message saying thank you for the wink are you interested in talking or a meet, but sadly no reply. So yeah what’s the point of them.

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By *ake1989 OP Man
35 weeks ago

Leeds

It looks like I'm wrong. More people seem to like them than don't

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
35 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

They also unlock mail filters so if, for example, you have blocked female couples from messaging, sending a wink to a specific FF profile will allow them to message you.

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By *rill PhilMan
35 weeks ago

Crediton

I use winks almost like a bookmark if I'm intending on contacting someone but, for whatever reason need some time.

I'm no good at remembering usernames so, having something I can quickly refer to is really helpful.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
35 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

They save sending copy n pasted messages 1000 times, to every profile in a 100 mile radius

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"They save sending copy n pasted messages 1000 times, to every profile in a 100 mile radius

Mr "

It gives us men a small glimmer of hope that a lady will wink back & say _ello

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
35 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm far too lady

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
35 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"They save sending copy n pasted messages 1000 times, to every profile in a 100 mile radius

It gives us men a small glimmer of hope that a lady will wink back & say _ello "

Keep the faith brother, eternal optimism is the key to success on fab...or have a vagina

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By *ealitybitesMan
35 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't use them.

If someone sends me one or could be weeks or months before I see it and even if I see it straight away and respond that's as fast as it ever goes because they don't follow the wink etiquette.

The person sending the original wink is responsible for sending a follow up message if that wink is responded to.

Otherwise the whole thing falls on its arse.

I have all email notifications turned off but every now and again I get an email to say I've received a wink but when I go to look there is nothing there and if I look at the profile named in the email there is nothing to say that they winked me.

I'm assuming that's either a glitch or they have removed it as soon as they sent it.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
35 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’ll always return a wink if I like the guy

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
35 weeks ago

Bristol.

The point is lots of us find it very useful..

Wink wink

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