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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago

Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
31 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Lots of single men meet women and couples on here and at the socials amd events you can find on the forums

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By *ittlebirdWoman
31 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I’ve never seen a forum on porn sites OP. And people do actually meet here

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

No

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By *elloWoman
31 weeks ago

alpha centauri

Where are you getting that opinion from ?

I'm a single woman and I've met single men

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By *alandNitaCouple
31 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

It would be rubbish as a porn site, regardless of cost.

There are however plenty of single guys who CAN get meets, and we've met a few ourselves.

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By *ascaIMan
31 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

Cheap?! I’ve had to splash out to watch the videos on here.

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By *enk15Man
31 weeks ago

Evesham

This thread should help your pursuit of meeting couples and women

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By *iddle ManMan
31 weeks ago

Walsall


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

As opposed to all the free porn sites there are in the world.

You very little chance as a single guy on here relying on the usually messages, you either have to stand out lots, have great photos of your self on here, or be active with the community. Otherwise you are just a random sending mostly very direct messages.

I suggest getting out and meeting people at socials or clubs, it's the best way to meet like minded people.

Or you could use this as a very poor porn site.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
31 weeks ago

Coventry


"Cheap?! I’ve had to splash out to watch the videos on here. "

i met single guys!!

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

You're doing something wrong if you can't meet someone here.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
31 weeks ago

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Don't think that just because you aren't meeting that no one is op. I know a fair few single men who do very well on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Don't think that just because you aren't meeting that no one is op. I know a fair few single men who do very well on fab"

Not just the single ones

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
31 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Cheap ? It's a fiver ffs !

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
31 weeks ago

Central

People meet all the time. You have to own the goal and make it happen. Porn - no

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By *enSiskoMan
31 weeks ago

Cestus 3


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

Porn is free well it has not got a price these days.

I am single and read the reviews before I came to this site, FAB replies to those reviews, remind me of when single guys post threads like this one and the replies those posters receive, are highly negative and mocking, this told me to go into the real world I would be better off and I am.

So I just use the forums, from what I read that decision saved me a lot of wasted time.

I am off out now.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

OP what does amp amp amp mean?

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By *agatoXXXMan
31 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

It's not why I come here, in fact the "porn" action shots and explicit photos don't really interest me.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Is this site just a cheap porn site?

Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

Slightly confused by the connection between the title and the the sub text.

There are plenty of free porn sites, so Fab would not be a cheap one with its sign up rates.

Then, on porn sites, do you expect to meet the women? Surely you just visit them to get your rocks off?

Not sure that equating the two is going to help with your obtaining meets/ veris OP (but could be wrong, as there's nowt as queer as folk

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
31 weeks ago

Cumbria

We’ve met a few single guys, those who can’t get a meet need to stop hiding behind made up statistics and look at what it is about themselves that is stopping them getting meets, not blame everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

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By *oozleMan
31 weeks ago

high wycombe

Don’t think of it as a sex site, it’s more about making connections and having some fun!. Lots of good conversations can be had, they can also lead to lovely meets and good friends along the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

The forum is the last place you should be saying things like that. You make your own path on Fab. I know how much effort some men put into their messages and it for the most part it's a numbers game but essentially you have to be realistic. Get out to some clubs, create a circle of friendly people you are comfortable around. Have no expectations and go for the social aspect. The swinging comes along when everyone is good and ready on both sides. Messaging someone on Fab is like tapping someone on the shoulder in the street and asking to fuck. What you wouldn't do in real life don't do here. Women have to get through hundreds of messages all the same, just be as honest and genuine as possible and don't show your cock unless asked for.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
31 weeks ago

Herts


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

I rarely get to sleep with porn stars so I've done pretty well for a cheap porn site tbh

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By *ikesEmBigMan
31 weeks ago

Herts


"Cheap?! I’ve had to splash out to watch the videos on here. "

I get ya lol

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By *he love catsCouple
31 weeks ago

South Wales

There's much better places for free porn than this site.

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By *y AmoreMan
31 weeks ago

london


"Where are you getting that opinion from ?

I'm a single woman and I've met single men"

And although _ello built like a porn star she’s not one.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site. "

Damn, has there been misleading advertising? I will get straight on to the ASA.

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By *racknell_GuyMan
31 weeks ago

Bracknell


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

They do. But think of it like this.

This site is probably 80% + male dominated so you need to stand out and be in the top 10-20%.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
31 weeks ago

Essex

Porn is to watch. For nothing more than a wank.

There are a lot of wankers here so I can perhaps see the correlation.

But I meet single men. Not the wankers.

I don’t think the site or the price is the issue…..

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
31 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Where are you getting that opinion from ?

I'm a single woman and I've met single men

And although _ello built like a porn star she’s not one.

"

Oof.

I didn't realise many porn sites catered to only one single body type

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By *ealitybitesMan
31 weeks ago

Belfast

This is my fourth profile in 8 years.

I've never had any issues meeting single women on any of those profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"This thread should help your pursuit of meeting couples and women "

Nothing to lose then have I.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

31 weeks ago

East Sussex

If that's what it is to you then, yes.

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By *ark n kimCouple
31 weeks ago

Durham

You get out of it what you put into it. Unfortunately a lot of people put very little effort into making themselves stand out.

Be it their profile or the messages they send.

Just because it's a sex site does not give people the right of passage to have sex with whoever they want.as some seem to think.

We have met some great single guys on here,but they have been articulate and intelligent.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Cheap?! I’ve had to splash out to watch the videos on here. "

LOL

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By *y AmoreMan
31 weeks ago

london


"Porn is to watch. For nothing more than a wank.

There are a lot of wankers here so I can perhaps see the correlation.

But I meet single men. Not the wankers.

I don’t think the site or the price is the issue….."

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
31 weeks ago

Kent

I meet single men. But not usually those with hidden profiles.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site. "

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

Sorry not sorry Op, but what absolute bollocks...

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"If that's what it is to you then, yes. "

It’s a bargain!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

Sorry not sorry Op, but what absolute bollocks...

Mr "

You would say that because you are in the position of accepting & rejecting.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr "

Going rate is an iced latte

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

Sorry not sorry Op, but what absolute bollocks...

Mr

You would say that because you are in the position of accepting & rejecting."

I say that based on once being a single man on fab for 7 years, that astonishingly actually met women through this site, God forbid. I met my partner through fab...

Mr

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr

Going rate is an iced latte"

Fuck Coyote you should at least throw in a hash brown as well

Mr

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By *ansoffateMan
31 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

There's no pop up adverts.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr

Going rate is an iced latte

Fuck Coyote you should at least throw in a hash brown as well

Mr "

I've been selling myself too cheap, fine I'll add a hash brown.

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By *ascaIMan
31 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester


"There's no pop up adverts."

I enjoy some pop ups though. Like seeing all the Russian women in my area that are apparently dying to have sex with me. Gives me a proper confidence boost.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr

Going rate is an iced latte

Fuck Coyote you should at least throw in a hash brown as well

Mr

I've been selling myself too cheap, fine I'll add a hash brown. "

Fuck it raise it to mega mcmuffin meal, your worth it...

Mr

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By *ustAnotherMan
31 weeks ago

wherever I may roam

Fishing thread

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr

Going rate is an iced latte

Fuck Coyote you should at least throw in a hash brown as well

Mr

I've been selling myself too cheap, fine I'll add a hash brown.

Fuck it raise it to mega mcmuffin meal, your worth it...

Mr "

Awwww I'd even do anal for that.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
31 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr

Going rate is an iced latte

Fuck Coyote you should at least throw in a hash brown as well

Mr

I've been selling myself too cheap, fine I'll add a hash brown.

Fuck it raise it to mega mcmuffin meal, your worth it...

Mr

Awwww I'd even do anal for that. "

The bloke better like being pegged then

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By *he love catsCouple
31 weeks ago

South Wales

Surely it's wall to wall with clunge in London.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr

Going rate is an iced latte

Fuck Coyote you should at least throw in a hash brown as well

Mr

I've been selling myself too cheap, fine I'll add a hash brown.

Fuck it raise it to mega mcmuffin meal, your worth it...

Mr

Awwww I'd even do anal for that. "

McDonald's Curry sauce as lube

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't "

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that."

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
31 weeks ago

Beverley

It's not as cheap as a good porn site, as those are free

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
31 weeks ago

wonderland.


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that."

Mr did very well as a single guy on here before we got together... in fact part of what I liked about Mr was his previous verifications x

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"The problem is guys think this is free sex site.

Wtf you saying it ain't

Mr

Going rate is an iced latte

Fuck Coyote you should at least throw in a hash brown as well

Mr

I've been selling myself too cheap, fine I'll add a hash brown.

Fuck it raise it to mega mcmuffin meal, your worth it...

Mr

Awwww I'd even do anal for that.

McDonald's Curry sauce as lube

Mr "

Spicy

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By *iscean_dreamMan
31 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that."

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that."

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times. "

Good for you!

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
31 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm only here to watch videos of guys wanking so yeah. It is for me

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I will say OP, it's far easier as a female.

I imagine if women outnumbered men there would be lots of these threads made by women. Maybe. Or we'd just browse Pinterest instead.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb"

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )"

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

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By *ortyairCouple
31 weeks ago

Wallasey

Don't do parties but maybe a pity party is the way forward for us. Is it BYOB or do you supply drinks and nibbles?

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"I'm only here to watch videos of guys wanking so yeah. It is for me"

At LAST!Honesty!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
31 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

"

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months "

Socialise?

Fuck that, life of a nun here I come.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
31 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

Socialise?

Fuck that, life of a nun here I come. "

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months "

Totally mate, even when I didn't do socials etc, I still got meets.

There is so much more to fab than fab itself..

My second meet was a MF couple, my first meet recommended me to them

Mr

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

Socialise?

Fuck that, life of a nun here I come. "

Maccies drive through it is then

Mr

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By *iscean_dreamMan
31 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

Totally mate, even when I didn't do socials etc, I still got meets.

There is so much more to fab than fab itself..

My second meet was a MF couple, my first meet recommended me to them

Mr "

Took me a couple of years to take the plunge and go to socials and now I'm regularly at them and fab parties

That's a good fab friend

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

Socialise?

Fuck that, life of a nun here I come.

Maccies drive through it is then

Mr "

You'd leave me waiting in bay number 2 for my chilli chicken wrap.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire."

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

Totally mate, even when I didn't do socials etc, I still got meets.

There is so much more to fab than fab itself..

My second meet was a MF couple, my first meet recommended me to them

Mr

Took me a couple of years to take the plunge and go to socials and now I'm regularly at them and fab parties

That's a good fab friend "

It was many years ago now,

Also took me years to get to socials, we do love a social, unfortunately cuz of work can't get to as many as we'd like, may catch you at a Welsh one at some point...

Mr

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

Socialise?

Fuck that, life of a nun here I come.

Maccies drive through it is then

Mr

You'd leave me waiting in bay number 2 for my chilli chicken wrap. "

And there would no chicken in it, amd it would cesar dressing

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By *iscean_dreamMan
31 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

Totally mate, even when I didn't do socials etc, I still got meets.

There is so much more to fab than fab itself..

My second meet was a MF couple, my first meet recommended me to them

Mr

Took me a couple of years to take the plunge and go to socials and now I'm regularly at them and fab parties

That's a good fab friend

It was many years ago now,

Also took me years to get to socials, we do love a social, unfortunately cuz of work can't get to as many as we'd like, may catch you at a Welsh one at some point...

Mr "

Hopefully you get to one soon and I'm easy to spot

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By *aitonelMan
31 weeks ago

Travelling

Just had a wank. Can confirm it is cheap porn.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I was meeting as a single long before having my fwb

Same here P.D, with a well verified single males profile...them met my partner.

True believer in people need to look at themselves if they get no meets......there the only one present in all there encounters

Mr

Exactly, if you socialise and make the effort then you can have a lovely time through fab.

My first meet was with a MF couple after a few months

Totally mate, even when I didn't do socials etc, I still got meets.

There is so much more to fab than fab itself..

My second meet was a MF couple, my first meet recommended me to them

Mr

Took me a couple of years to take the plunge and go to socials and now I'm regularly at them and fab parties

That's a good fab friend

It was many years ago now,

Also took me years to get to socials, we do love a social, unfortunately cuz of work can't get to as many as we'd like, may catch you at a Welsh one at some point...

Mr

Hopefully you get to one soon and I'm easy to spot "

Fingers crossed mate.....

Mr

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
31 weeks ago

Maidstone


"Just had a wank. Can confirm it is cheap porn. "

Did you video it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets."

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!

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By *ortyairCouple
31 weeks ago

Wallasey


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!"

When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x"

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
31 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?"

Why is the perception that the only way to initiate contact is with tedious small talk or uninvited smut come from?

If someone genuinely interests you then there's something about them that you want to know more about. If there's nothing there for you to actually initiate an engaging conversation with, you're probably not actually interested enough for it to be worthwhile bothering at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x"

I mean no disrespect but this is from your profile:

“ Looking for younger, gym fit, guys with really big cocks to show her a good time.Particularly likes exceptionally hung black guys.”

I don’t fit those requirements so I wouldn’t approach you anyway but I I WAS young,black,hung & was crude & uncouth that would be ok????

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

I mean no disrespect but this is from your profile:

“ Looking for younger, gym fit, guys with really big cocks to show her a good time.Particularly likes exceptionally hung black guys.”

I don’t fit those requirements so I wouldn’t approach you anyway but I I WAS young,black,hung & was crude & uncouth that would be ok???? "

Mate, I'm on the spectrum too. I don't think being on the spectrum results in this sort of thinking, I wouldn't use it as a crutch.

Why does anyone think being rude gets them anywhere? When did that become an excuse? "I bored them senseless and/ or am not what they're looking for. I know, I'll be rude!" like, wtf? why are people like this.

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By *ortyairCouple
31 weeks ago

Wallasey


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?"

You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Nice gets you blocked"

What are you doing that constitutes nice? There are lots of different forms of "nice". Many of them are boring. Even if they're not boring, you just might not be a match.

Being rude is going to be the wrong answer 99.9% of the time.

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By *ortyairCouple
31 weeks ago

Wallasey


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

I mean no disrespect but this is from your profile:

“ Looking for younger, gym fit, guys with really big cocks to show her a good time.Particularly likes exceptionally hung black guys.”

I don’t fit those requirements so I wouldn’t approach you anyway but I I WAS young,black,hung & was crude & uncouth that would be ok???? "

That's my preference, so yeah you have more chance if you match what I'm looking for.

It's no good crying about what you aren't, use what you have.

Mrs x

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By *y AmoreMan
31 weeks ago

london


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

I mean no disrespect but this is from your profile:

“ Looking for younger, gym fit, guys with really big cocks to show her a good time.Particularly likes exceptionally hung black guys.”

I don’t fit those requirements so I wouldn’t approach you anyway but I I WAS young,black,hung & was crude & uncouth that would be ok???? That's my preference, so yeah you have more chance if you match what I'm looking for.

It's no good crying about what you aren't, use what you have.

Mrs x"

Use what you have. Perfect quote

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Lots of single men meet women and couples on here and at the socials amd events you can find on the forums "

Yes.

You need to go to events and build contacts. Mainly.

As a single guy, view this website part as a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire."

Your trying all the time to make a good impression all the time? I doubt it as more effort would be on your profile. It doesn't matter if you read profiles, that is irrelevant to what's being said.

And you still haven't answered what your header means?

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
31 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Hey OP

We've met some wonderful single guys, and know plenty of other couples and singles who are having lots of fun and meets due to being on fab.

So no I don't think this sites just a porn site and no I don't think single males have next to know chance on meeting couples and singles.

Try social events, network and attend club nights. Don't just rely on fab - put in the effort to meet people in the lifestyle and you never know where it may lead

S x

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By *oxy jWoman
31 weeks ago

taunton somerset

if all the couples and single women met a guy on the same day there would still be 95% to 99% of guys missing out

so its ok for us women to say we are meeting guys but when your a guy and you do the maths 99% realize they've almost zero chance specially when there are so many fake women and couples too swinging is not easy for single guys never has been never will be even back 30 tears ago with nowhere as near as many guys on the scene it was hard and i personally dont think there are as many couples or women now either...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

I mean no disrespect but this is from your profile:

“ Looking for younger, gym fit, guys with really big cocks to show her a good time.Particularly likes exceptionally hung black guys.”

I don’t fit those requirements so I wouldn’t approach you anyway but I I WAS young,black,hung & was crude & uncouth that would be ok???? That's my preference, so yeah you have more chance if you match what I'm looking for.

It's no good crying about what you aren't, use what you have.

Mrs x"

I also meant that regardless of your criteria I don’t expect for a minute you meet ALL of the men who do contact you?

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

I mean no disrespect but this is from your profile:

“ Looking for younger, gym fit, guys with really big cocks to show her a good time.Particularly likes exceptionally hung black guys.”

I don’t fit those requirements so I wouldn’t approach you anyway but I I WAS young,black,hung & was crude & uncouth that would be ok???? That's my preference, so yeah you have more chance if you match what I'm looking for.

It's no good crying about what you aren't, use what you have.

Mrs x

I also meant that regardless of your criteria I don’t expect for a minute you meet ALL of the men who do contact you?"

I can only speak to a single female profile, but meeting every single person who's ever contacted me is somewhere between life destroying and physically impossible.

I need to sleep, eat, shit, etc.

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By *ather WickmasMan
31 weeks ago

The Continental

I can to read through the thread.

I’ll simply answer your opening question.

No.

Thank you and goodnight.

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By *elloWoman
31 weeks ago

alpha centauri


"

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?"

I wouldn't respond to hi how are you , or any conversation that starts too sexual. I'm more likely to respond to a really interesting joke if I can't work out the punchline then my curiosity has to message them for the answer, or a good logic question. It just has to be something interesting to pique the readers interest.

The fact that people on this site (mostly male) say that they send out lots of messages but rarely get a response is actually reassuring to me that the majority of the members are real, because if people were sending out lots of messages and nearly everyone replied I'd think this place was full of bots and there's no real people.

People can send messages and not get a meet for months even years , yet this week I verified a single guy who only joined 2 weeks ago, because we happened to meet in a clubs hot tub before having some fun.

Op don't bother with messages or using this site to arrange 1 on 1 meets, use this site to find clubs, socials, picnics there's even someone organising a museum outing. Try attending something and show yourself on your best possible way.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x"

Albert Einstein said it

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

Albert Einstein said it

Mr "

Thanks for the sarcasm.

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By *imisugarWoman
31 weeks ago

Rugby

I don't think it is a cheap porn site.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
31 weeks ago

Aberdeen


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

As a porn site its a bit rubbish - as a site to chatter to like minded people, find out about organised meets and make friends across the country with awesome people its really good.

Sometimes meets happen, sometimes they don't. Enjoying the site for what positives you get is a good plan and leads to less disappointment

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

Maybe study and get involved in the lifestyle instead of trying to get a shag

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

Albert Einstein said it

Mr

Thanks for the sarcasm."

I was replying to Mrs Nortyair.

That wasn't sarcastic, I can be a lit more sarcastic lets put it that way, it was generally just telling her who said the quote first...

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

Albert Einstein said it

Mr

Thanks for the sarcasm.

I was replying to Mrs Nortyair.

That wasn't sarcastic, I can be a lit more sarcastic lets put it that way, it was generally just telling her who said the quote first...

Mr

"

Social Darwinism & a lack of compassion is what I expect from this site & you haven’t dispelled that notion so again thank you.

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
31 weeks ago

Yorkshire


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

Albert Einstein said it

Mr

Thanks for the sarcasm.

I was replying to Mrs Nortyair.

That wasn't sarcastic, I can be a lit more sarcastic lets put it that way, it was generally just telling her who said the quote first...

Mr

Social Darwinism & a lack of compassion is what I expect from this site & you haven’t dispelled that notion so again thank you."

Really think you'd be better off not relying on fab as much as you are. As I and many other people have said, this site is a bonus not a secret key to sex.

Put in the effort and network in real life - socials, clubs etc- you never know where it may lead

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

Albert Einstein said it

Mr

Thanks for the sarcasm.

I was replying to Mrs Nortyair.

That wasn't sarcastic, I can be a lit more sarcastic lets put it that way, it was generally just telling her who said the quote first...

Mr

Social Darwinism & a lack of compassion is what I expect from this site & you haven’t dispelled that notion so again thank you."

Really mate I've not said anything untoward to you, I'll not apologise for your sensitivities

Mr

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By *ML49Man
31 weeks ago

Burnley


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

I agree and trying to get a positive reply from a couple or a female is as rare as rocking horse shit.

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By *ather WickmasMan
31 weeks ago

The Continental

Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
31 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds. "

You can look at my gallery for the unobtainable

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

Albert Einstein said it

Mr

Thanks for the sarcasm.

I was replying to Mrs Nortyair.

That wasn't sarcastic, I can be a lit more sarcastic lets put it that way, it was generally just telling her who said the quote first...

Mr

Social Darwinism & a lack of compassion is what I expect from this site & you haven’t dispelled that notion so again thank you."

What do you mean by compassion?

I've seen incredible compassion around here through personal tragedy, helping people when they're down, etc.

If you mean pity shags, then... no, you're not likely to find that here.

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By *avexxMan
31 weeks ago

cheshire


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds.

You can look at my gallery for the unobtainable "

... i wish i could im blocked

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By *ather WickmasMan
31 weeks ago

The Continental


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds.

You can look at my gallery for the unobtainable "

I might have peeked once or twice on previous occasions

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
31 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds.

You can look at my gallery for the unobtainable ... i wish i could im blocked "

That far down the list you're not even visible on the page to unblock.

Oh well

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
31 weeks ago

Aberdeen


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds.

You can look at my gallery for the unobtainable

I might have peeked once or twice on previous occasions "

You have such good taste in profiles to peek at!

Lxx

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By *avexxMan
31 weeks ago

cheshire


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds.

You can look at my gallery for the unobtainable ... i wish i could im blocked

That far down the list you're not even visible on the page to unblock.

Oh well "

,, good girl

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By *elloWoman
31 weeks ago

alpha centauri


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds. "

I hear you're looking for cheap

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By *elloWoman
31 weeks ago

alpha centauri

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By *ather WickmasMan
31 weeks ago

The Continental


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds.

I hear you're looking for cheap "

Who’s been talking? They told me they’d never say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Come on OP seems like you’re a little put out. If I were you I’d concentrate on clubs and socials. I’ve met men and the site does work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

Albert Einstein said it

Mr

Thanks for the sarcasm.

I was replying to Mrs Nortyair.

That wasn't sarcastic, I can be a lit more sarcastic lets put it that way, it was generally just telling her who said the quote first...

Mr

Social Darwinism & a lack of compassion is what I expect from this site & you haven’t dispelled that notion so again thank you.

What do you mean by compassion?

I've seen incredible compassion around here through personal tragedy, helping people when they're down, etc.

If you mean pity shags, then... no, you're not likely to find that here. "

Putting words in my mouth & distorting my point.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
31 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Social Darwinism & a lack of compassion is what I expect from this site & you haven’t dispelled that notion so again thank you.

What do you mean by compassion?

I've seen incredible compassion around here through personal tragedy, helping people when they're down, etc.

If you mean pity shags, then... no, you're not likely to find that here.

Putting words in my mouth & distorting my point."

She asked what you meant by compassion. Explaining that compassion is often witnessed on here and that your version may be different.

It would be helpful to put your actual point across when asked for clarity rather than foot stamp and try to make someone else look like the bad person while still leaving that lack of understanding lying there.

Make your point

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By *ulpgrinderCouple
31 weeks ago

LN11 area

100%

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By *ansoffateMan
31 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"There's no pop up adverts.

I enjoy some pop ups though. Like seeing all the Russian women in my area that are apparently dying to have sex with me. Gives me a proper confidence boost. "

Well we all have to do our bit for the war effort.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
31 weeks ago

Sheffield

There are always plenty of single men in clubs!

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By *TG3Man
31 weeks ago

Dorchester

Yes Op you've sussed it

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"

It's the attitude, it's not endearing.

There are some lovely people on this site and it's not all about dipping your wick (to which a chorus of "oh yes it is" comes from the audience to this pantomime )

To be fair some people are polite & courteous and while not all messages can be replied to a “thanks no thanks” would be great and I have had those but I’m struggling trying to make a good impression ALL the time for little to no appreciation for approaching a perfect stranger in the first place or having your efforts deleted DESPITE me reading profiles before I enquire.

OP, it depends how you approach them and who you are approaching. You've hidden your profile since you started this thread so no idea if you are being realistic in who you approach or your opening gambit.

But if your attitude shown here comes across in your direct messages to people on the site, then I am not surprised that after seven months you've had no meets.

Part of my problem is I’m on the ASD spectrum too so I can be very literal I get frustrated because I have seen so many profiles where the woman says you have to write SOMETHING that will catch her attention and stand out from the herd other than “Hi’ or whatever that get deleted so WHERE do I start with a perfect stranger other than politeness & courtesy?

A Shakespearean or Petrachan sonnet?Wit & humour without getting an inkling of what she is like beforehand?

I’m not a rude,crude or vain man but I get confused & match fire with fire by matching the language used by some ladies on here in their profiles & I get blocked!When you get blocked do you learn from it or rant against it?

Mrs x

You’re missing my point-meh messages get the sender nowhere so how do I start a conversation other than ‘hi’ ‘how are you?’

Starting any sexual conversation is awkward and embarrassing but what if any message you write isn’t engaging enough to get to that point?

Nice gets you blocked & so does crude so I don’t understand what you mean?You are talking about what you have tried. Try something different, evolve how you message someone. If you don't try, you don't get.

If it's not working for you, do something different. Not sure who said it but he was a smart bugger, 'doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting a different outcome, is the definition of stupidity'.

Try something else.

Mrs x

Albert Einstein said it

Mr

Thanks for the sarcasm.

I was replying to Mrs Nortyair.

That wasn't sarcastic, I can be a lit more sarcastic lets put it that way, it was generally just telling her who said the quote first...

Mr

Social Darwinism & a lack of compassion is what I expect from this site & you haven’t dispelled that notion so again thank you.

What do you mean by compassion?

I've seen incredible compassion around here through personal tragedy, helping people when they're down, etc.

If you mean pity shags, then... no, you're not likely to find that here.

Putting words in my mouth & distorting my point."

The pertinent word in what I said was "if".

I also asked a question, which you're free to answer.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
31 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

Good for you! "

I think the way you view this site, and what you’re expecting is possibly unrealistic.

Women are free to meet who they like, and they don’t have to shag someone or even reply to them if they don’t want to.

When I was active on here I could get 1000 messages a day, I’m not going to spend all my time replying.

There are now upward of 8 billion people on this planet, are you going to allow the infitesimal amount of women on this site to dictate your behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"I will say OP, it's far easier as a female.

I imagine if women outnumbered men there would be lots of these threads made by women. Maybe. Or we'd just browse Pinterest instead. "

Interesting hypothesis that needs testing.

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By *ansoffateMan
31 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

Good for you!

I think the way you view this site, and what you’re expecting is possibly unrealistic.

Women are free to meet who they like, and they don’t have to shag someone or even reply to them if they don’t want to.

When I was active on here I could get 1000 messages a day, I’m not going to spend all my time replying.

There are now upward of 8 billion people on this planet, are you going to allow the infitesimal amount of women on this site to dictate your behaviour? "

1000... Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

Good for you!

I think the way you view this site, and what you’re expecting is possibly unrealistic.

Women are free to meet who they like, and they don’t have to shag someone or even reply to them if they don’t want to.

When I was active on here I could get 1000 messages a day, I’m not going to spend all my time replying.

There are now upward of 8 billion people on this planet, are you going to allow the infitesimal amount of women on this site to dictate your behaviour?

1000... Really?"

When I was active, and my pics were on page one, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


""Nice gets you blocked"

What are you doing that constitutes nice? There are lots of different forms of "nice". Many of them are boring. Even if they're not boring, you just might not be a match.

Being rude is going to be the wrong answer 99.9% of the time."

It's the 0.1% that gives a glimmer of hope

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By *ex HolesMan
31 weeks ago

Up North

I’m a really really cheap pornstar, in fact I’m that cheap I’d bum you, #yesyou

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Can someone point me to the cheap porn?

It’ll be a distraction from being balls deep in hot birds.

You can look at my gallery for the unobtainable "

Don't do it OP. Once you've seen her gallery you can never unsee it. Ungodly images will be imprinted on your retina. It's all a ploy to lure you away from the cheap pork!

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

Good for you!

I think the way you view this site, and what you’re expecting is possibly unrealistic.

Women are free to meet who they like, and they don’t have to shag someone or even reply to them if they don’t want to.

When I was active on here I could get 1000 messages a day, I’m not going to spend all my time replying.

There are now upward of 8 billion people on this planet, are you going to allow the infitesimal amount of women on this site to dictate your behaviour? "

Some days I can get 10

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By *aitonelMan
31 weeks ago

Travelling


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

Good for you!

I think the way you view this site, and what you’re expecting is possibly unrealistic.

Women are free to meet who they like, and they don’t have to shag someone or even reply to them if they don’t want to.

When I was active on here I could get 1000 messages a day, I’m not going to spend all my time replying.

There are now upward of 8 billion people on this planet, are you going to allow the infitesimal amount of women on this site to dictate your behaviour?

Some days I can get 10 "

Speaking of cheap

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

Good for you!

I think the way you view this site, and what you’re expecting is possibly unrealistic.

Women are free to meet who they like, and they don’t have to shag someone or even reply to them if they don’t want to.

When I was active on here I could get 1000 messages a day, I’m not going to spend all my time replying.

There are now upward of 8 billion people on this planet, are you going to allow the infitesimal amount of women on this site to dictate your behaviour?

Some days I can get 10

Speaking of cheap"

Bargain basement, that's me.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

Good for you!

I think the way you view this site, and what you’re expecting is possibly unrealistic.

Women are free to meet who they like, and they don’t have to shag someone or even reply to them if they don’t want to.

When I was active on here I could get 1000 messages a day, I’m not going to spend all my time replying.

There are now upward of 8 billion people on this planet, are you going to allow the infitesimal amount of women on this site to dictate your behaviour?

Some days I can get 10 "

And she's not talking about messages (it's bottles of rum!)

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?

I meet women and couples, so I'm saying not for me it isn't

You are part of a couple….it is easy for you to say that.

I notice you’re responding to couples, but not to the single men/women commenting.

It’s not about being a single man, it’s about who and what you are.

I’ve met single men on here plenty of times.

Good for you!

I think the way you view this site, and what you’re expecting is possibly unrealistic.

Women are free to meet who they like, and they don’t have to shag someone or even reply to them if they don’t want to.

When I was active on here I could get 1000 messages a day, I’m not going to spend all my time replying.

There are now upward of 8 billion people on this planet, are you going to allow the infitesimal amount of women on this site to dictate your behaviour?

Some days I can get 10

And she's not talking about messages (it's bottles of rum!)"

I'd be a lot nicer on here if that was true!

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"

Some days I can get 10

And she's not talking about messages (it's bottles of rum!)

I'd be a lot nicer on here if that was true!"

Ah, a happy d*unk. I prefer the feisty, sarcastic sharp tongued (well maybe slurred) d*unk.

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By *layfullsamMan
31 weeks ago

Solihull


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

That’s the Dunkirk spirit

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"

Some days I can get 10

And she's not talking about messages (it's bottles of rum!)

I'd be a lot nicer on here if that was true!

Ah, a happy d*unk. I prefer the feisty, sarcastic sharp tongued (well maybe slurred) d*unk."

When I say nicer I mean hornier. No body needs to see that on a regular basis. Iay even start using .

I'd have to slap myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Social Darwinism & a lack of compassion is what I expect from this site & you haven’t dispelled that notion so again thank you.

What do you mean by compassion?

I've seen incredible compassion around here through personal tragedy, helping people when they're down, etc.

If you mean pity shags, then... no, you're not likely to find that here.

Putting words in my mouth & distorting my point.

She asked what you meant by compassion. Explaining that compassion is often witnessed on here and that your version may be different.

It would be helpful to put your actual point across when asked for clarity rather than foot stamp and try to make someone else look like the bad person while still leaving that lack of understanding lying there.

Make your point "

People on this thread HAVE been compassionate & kind and constructive and I thank them all sincerely for offering their points of view & I hate coming across like the fox & the grapes but I find this site beguiling and frustrating in equal measure and of course I don’t expect ANY woman to drop her panties because I’m talking to her.

Maybe clubs are a start for me but my social confidence isn’t that great but messaging people on here isn’t the same as seeing the whites of somebody’s eyes and getting a sense of a person in real time.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


".

Maybe clubs are a start for me but my social confidence isn’t that great but messaging people on here isn’t the same as seeing the whites of somebody’s eyes and getting a sense of a person in real time."

Remember, don't shoot until you see the whites of her eyes, unless you are having her doggie style

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


".

Maybe clubs are a start for me but my social confidence isn’t that great but messaging people on here isn’t the same as seeing the whites of somebody’s eyes and getting a sense of a person in real time.

Remember, don't shoot until you see the whites of her eyes, unless you are having her doggie style "

Very droll

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By *ongandharderMan
31 weeks ago

Rotherham

People do meet I have myself granted not much but still

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By *oiluvfunMan
31 weeks ago

Penrith


"There are always plenty of single men in clubs!"

Of course there are; clubs are just Fab in one building…..

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By *oiluvfunMan
31 weeks ago

Penrith


"Seeing as though single men have next to no chance of meeting single women never mind couples?"

I’ve met a good few single (and not so single) ladies over the years I’ve been using Fab, as well as plenty of couples. Not a flex btw….

As far as “cheap porn sites’ go; I’ve actually met two couples through Xhamster, which is totally free to use, so very much less than ‘cheap’! But that isn’t going to make you feel any better….

Just be patient bud, and chat shit in the forums. It works for me

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
31 weeks ago

Sheffield


"There are always plenty of single men in clubs!

Of course there are; clubs are just Fab in one building….. "

Missing my point….don’t rely on fab.

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By *ucka39Man
31 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

There's every chance to meet up with just about anyone considering their is some kinda compatibility

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By *oiluvfunMan
31 weeks ago

Penrith


"There are always plenty of single men in clubs!

Of course there are; clubs are just Fab in one building…..

Missing my point….don’t rely on fab."

Missing my point….don’t rely on clubs for single women.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
31 weeks ago

North West


"Cheap?! I’ve had to splash out to watch the videos on here. "

Five quid is expensive for a porn site, no?

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