FabSwingers.com forum: Who has had the biggest influence on your life?

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
33 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

I imagine many it's parents or siblings, a teacher or a friend, maybe jesus?

Some may say themselves!

I guess I've had three in my ( Mr) life.

First was my father who taught me manners and respect for others.

Second was my mentor when I was a young apprentice he'd emigrated from Jamaica when he was young Alone with no family,he worked hard and didn't expect any help from anyone.

His hard work ethic and attitude to his work really impressed me and stuck the fact that he was a really funny guy helped, although he did have to very quick temper seeing him taught me self control.

Lastly is my wife she entered my life at a point when things could have gone a different way,she stabilised it and taught me about love and family.

So what about you all?

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By *ot to giggleWoman
33 weeks ago

Coventry

Miss Dodson who was my primary school teacher - taught me that its ok to actually have a crush on someone, I was devastated when she moved schools and wrote to her for ages afterwards.

negative influence - my mother who taught me how not to be a parent!

and my 1st ever therapist - who taught me to believe in myself and that I have done so much, and showed me that there was another life to be lived in a completely different way and totally encouraged me to use my skill set to do what i do now

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By *avexxMan
33 weeks ago

cheshire

my father without doubt,, as you say OP manners and respect..

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

No-one physically but probably Rumi the poet from thousands of years ago. I was in a bad place about 10 years and his poetry got me through tough times.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
33 weeks ago

somewhere

I don't really think of people like this, there are definitely people out there that try and influence me into their way of thinking and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't (less so now as I have begun to change my mindset).

I wouldn't say anyone has had a massive impact on me in my life, aside from doughnut really as he has given me confidence to try things, not worry about who is watching etc.

My father might be another but for negative reasons, he told me I would never drive a manual car and I listened to him and can only drive an auto, he constantly told me I was fat (and still does), I did prove him wrong when he said I'd never drive in France and I have done it twice now!

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By *929Man
33 weeks ago

bedlington

Definitely My dad, my mother although I love her now resented me in the early years as was born after she was done having kids she was on contraceptive pill when I was conceived and doctor kept telling her that her feeling pregnant was just a side effect of the pill so she never got a chance to get rid so most my early years she was quite resentful and angry and showed no Interest and was at the bingo every night my aunty Brenda took me too and from school ect

My dad more than made up for it though I spent every night with him he would take me out with the air rifles every night, always put me to bed at night and read me my favourite story always woke me up excited on Christmas morning and was just me and him downstairs he was as excited as me, later he taught me how to earn a living for myself and learned me his trade.he could make any problem seem insignificant just talking to him about it for 5 mins Wish he was still here today to see his grandson working on jobs with me ect would give anything even for just one more day with him

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By *ealitybitesMan
33 weeks ago

Belfast

I lost my dad when I was 21 and because he worked really long hours including weekends I didn't get to spend a massive amount of time in his company.

He is the only person I can say though who had an influence on me because he taught me to be a good person and to treat everyone as an equal.

My mum was also influential but to a lesser degree. Despite being born in the early 1930s she was very open minded and non judgemental and passed those traits to me and my siblings.

Thankfully I've never been influenced by my peers.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

My old man, definitely.

Taught me to shoot, trap, fish. Taught me to track and how to process what i kill, Taught me much about nature and foraging and of growing food and how to be very comfortable in nature with next to nothing.

He gave me the confidence to do anything I put my mind to (had me driving cattle/stock wagons at 15, before I even had a licence, used to send me down the fields witha 410. Shotgun to play as a kid, I'd usually come back with a pigeon or two or something) he showed me the biggest limitations were those we placed upon ourselves (what do you mean we need a roofer?! We can do it ourselves etc)

He was one of the last of a dying breed of old school men. A capable and hard as an old coffin nail bloke. Only his brother, my uncle comes close but he's back home a long way away so it's rare I see him.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
33 weeks ago

Birmingham

My dad but not in a good way. Even though he is no longer with us his constant criticism and lack of self worth he instilled in me still haunts.

One of my mentors on the kink scene and a very good friend, who unfortunately is no longer with us. Showed me acceptance, understanding and wanting the best for me.

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By *illy IdolMan
33 weeks ago

Midlands

It's probably Nero for me.

If he talks, I listen. If he says jump, I ask how high?

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By *agatoXXXMan
33 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

Spine Malligna, the great comedian and anagram. Absorbing his work as a teenager taught me to look at the world from a different angle (47°).

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Mine have all been peers, rather than people older than me.

2 distinctly I can think of that I worked with..

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

One lad I went to school with, now an award winning musician.

I used to swap tapes with him, back in the day..

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By *ex HolesMan
33 weeks ago

Up North

Jesus Christ our saviour

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By *illy IdolMan
33 weeks ago

Midlands

"Jesus Christ our saviour "

Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Probably my ex for being a complete dick.

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By *ex HolesMan
33 weeks ago

Up North

"Probably my ex for being a complete dick.

I’m not your ex yet

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
33 weeks ago

Leeds

My mum & stepdad they showed me what relationships shouldn't be and how staying together for the kids is never in the child's best interests, it taught me how to stick up for myself & what not to put up with as an adult, I know what I want my kids to see from me & it wasn't what I had.

My Aunt, she was independent and just amazing she was the safe space in an otherwise chaotic and volatile world. I don't think I'd have gotten through my childhood or made anything of myself if it wasn't for her.

And myself because going through so much shit and coming out the other end makes me realise I'm stronger than I sometimes feel.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"Probably my ex for being a complete dick.

I’m not your ex yet "

Hell of a dick though

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By *aitonelMan
33 weeks ago

Away for Christmas

#theyknowwhotheyare

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"#theyknowwhotheyare"

Awwww you

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
33 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

I could go with the family dad mum, they should me both the good and bad....

But I have to say, my friends in recovery, the people I meet everyday through recovery who are, courageous, strong, resilient and stoic, for wanting to turn there life around.

Not using their primary coping stratagem to life, boozing n using. Instead are teaching themselves a new to live and be.

Those males who showed me, taught me, and gave me permission to be emotionally vunerable, by them doing so, because if they hadn't i woundn't....to those men I fucking salute your bravery, and thank you...

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By *rucking-HellMan
33 weeks ago

Northampton

Several of the women who I've been romantically involved with, who are no longer in my life. The grieving from those endings shaped who I am today, and spurred me on in some life changing, soul-shaping decisions/experiences.

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