FabSwingers.com forum: boundaries

By *r Analytic OP Man
31 weeks ago

Nuneaton

When you read a profile and they say " i have no boundaries"

I call BS on that. Everyone has a nope not going to do that.

So why do they say no boundaries or no limits.

Surely the best term would be I'm open to push to my limits.

So what's your no not going to happen?

I would hope blood, poo, children and animals would be 99.9% no no.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
31 weeks ago

Reading

I think it means they haven't found one yet but i agree that everyone has a limit.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
31 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Children is only 99.9%?

No limits and no boundaries is an instant no from me.

As is liking to push limits and boundaries.

I have my limits and boundaries where I like them. I like people to be secure enough in their own wants and desires to be firm on their own.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
31 weeks ago

somewhere

I'm guessing because they are hopeful it might get them a meet if someone that has a perchant for shagging a sheep while doing a tight rope, eating a kebab while singing bohemian rhapsody (not kink shaming, if that's your jam, crack on!)

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think someone who says they have no boundaries lacks imagination or is psychologically disturbed.

I have a lot of boundaries. Some of which are all but automatic (illegal/involving lack of consent), some of which I've found through trying things.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
31 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Because they'll say anything to get a shag.

But they don't realise it works the other way.

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By *oomlMan
31 weeks ago

Fareham

I wouldn’t meet anyone who says they have no boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I don't like the ones that say "looking to push boundaries" Seriously? It's a boundary, respect it or fuck off.

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By *naswingdressWoman
31 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't like the ones that say "looking to push boundaries" Seriously? It's a boundary, respect it or fuck off.

I think my very first profile text said something like that, looking to push my boundaries.

I'm a bit more experienced now, I know why that's a bad idea. But it was never "I want to do things that will make you uncomfortable". Only ever "I want to step outside my comfort zone"

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By *riel13Woman
31 weeks ago

Northampton

I don't trust people that say they have no boundaries... They are either lying, very unaware or possibly dangerous, no?

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By *ensualMan
31 weeks ago

Sutton

I no longer get concerned about people who say "no boundaries" or "push boundaries" as the key thing is always to understand what they

actually mean by those phrases.

My own view is these phrases stem from a stereotype of play.

Stereotypes such as, to play you must have no boundaries or to be a Dom you must wear black and never pink.

The concern is with "I do everything" is there are idiots who won't check first, take the person at their word and will pursue their own agenda.

In everything kinky it is worth taking the time to understand what people really mean.

Personally I am more concerned about people who say all the right things but have bad intentions.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
31 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I like to think I’m open to a lot of things but still have boundaries. Like pineapple on pizza, not to kink shame but that shit is vile.

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By *herry delightWoman
31 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Apart from the ones you have mentioned mine is feet no no it's not for me sorry but no.

As for boundary as soon as I start talking about CBT or CNC play. Or even sounding they change their minds.

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By *essTTWoman
31 weeks ago

Birmingham

"When you read a profile and they say " i have no boundaries"

I call BS on that. Everyone has a nope not going to do that.

So why do they say no boundaries or no limits.

Surely the best term would be I'm open to push to my limits.

So what's your no not going to happen?

I would hope blood, poo, children and animals would be 99.9% no no.

Everyone has boundaries, even if they haven't found them yet

I actively avoid profiles/people who say they want to push my boundaries as they're there for a reason.

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By *r Analytic OP Man
31 weeks ago

Nuneaton

"Children is only 99.9%?

No limits and no boundaries is an instant no from me.

As is liking to push limits and boundaries.

I have my limits and boundaries where I like them. I like people to be secure enough in their own wants and desires to be firm on their own."

What I ment by 99.9% is i would hope that is the percentage of people that are not into them 3 however there's always going to be exception.

Some people are messed up and statistically you will walk past them kind of people in the street and you wouldn't know.

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By *r Analytic OP Man
31 weeks ago

Nuneaton

"Apart from the ones you have mentioned mine is feet no no it's not for me sorry but no.

As for boundary as soon as I start talking about CBT or CNC play. Or even sounding they change their minds. "

CBT yes but CNC is a hard one for me to do.

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By *r Analytic OP Man
31 weeks ago

Nuneaton

"I don't trust people that say they have no boundaries... They are either lying, very unaware or possibly dangerous, no? "

Have to agree with that statement

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By *herry delightWoman
31 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

"Apart from the ones you have mentioned mine is feet no no it's not for me sorry but no.

As for boundary as soon as I start talking about CBT or CNC play. Or even sounding they change their minds.

CBT yes but CNC is a hard one for me to do. "

Even talking about hot wax or E-Stim Systems is to much for them.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
31 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I definitely would be questioning someone who says they have no boundaries

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By *ansoffateMan
31 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Maybe it just means their experience so far is that other people's boundaries have been the limit determining factor, rather than their own.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
31 weeks ago

Newcastle

I also call BS. Everyone has some form of boundary.

When they say they don’t, it comes across as a desperate or lazy profile. They’re either saying they have no boundaries in order to keep all options for a shag open or they can’t be arsed to elaborate on their preferences.

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