FabSwingers.com forum: Smoking

By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
33 weeks ago

Luton

I’m a smoker and my profile clearly states that. As a single woman, I get a lot of messages and always check their profile before replying - if they do not want to meet a smoker, I’ll tell them I am one and wish them good luck. They normally come back and say that is ok with them. I’ve had a couple recently that I’ve agreed to meet but have told them beforehand that I smoke - both got really arsed - read my profile!! Am I alone with this?

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By *uenevereWoman
33 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

A lot of people are so desperate to meet they don't read profiles properly.

I get messages from men and smokers wanting to meet, despite not meeting either ... and bot on my own at all at the moment.

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By *OYFBWoman
33 weeks ago

Jersey (sometimes Notts)

I’m sorry this happens to you, but if people haven’t read your profile, that’s on them.

I think it’s rude to contact someone without reading their profile first (just my opinion)

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By *he love catsCouple
33 weeks ago

South Wales

I do similar but it's ages with us, my wife is 39 and I'm 54, if they wink, message, want to meet etc and their age range is 25-50 we just don't bother replying as it's not what they are looking for as we are clearly out of their range.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
33 weeks ago

Coventry

haha reminds me of the Carry on Smoking clip - do you mind if i smoke !!!!

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
33 weeks ago

somewhere

I stayed clearly on my profile I was a smoker, when I was and I meeting this guy, we was getting on fine and I made sure I mentioned to him I was a smoker prior to meeting (just a social) said it wasn't his favourite but it was fine, I really wouldn't mind but I never hid the fact.

There are people out there that says they are a non smoker but yet you turn up and they are chuffing away, it doesn't generally bother me anymore if they take care of themselves, for example I like bearded men, most I have met that are smokers have been absolutely fine, I met one guy and his beard smelt rank, I didn't see him again and put my off for a while I have to say.

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By *eroLondonMan
33 weeks ago

Mayfair

"haha reminds me of the Carry on Smoking clip - do you mind if i smoke !!!!"

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There's a Carry on Smoking movie??! I must have missed this; I love the Carry On' films.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
33 weeks ago

Llanelli

Some change their minds if bothered by it or not I've found, my fwb gets messages all the time from people that won't meet smokers but yet there they're trying to get in her knickers

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By *2000ManMan
33 weeks ago

Worthing

Just don't reply to messages like that and block.

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been told many times that it's not skool (sic) and I'm outrageous to expect that people read. I've stated no smokers and even have a couple of sentences on my profile as to why. Yet I'm the problem when I am actually consistent and I won't meet smokers.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
33 weeks ago

Coventry

"haha reminds me of the Carry on Smoking clip - do you mind if i smoke !!!!

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There's a Carry on Smoking movie??! I must have missed this; I love the Carry On' films."

my typos carry on screaming

Carry on Screaming. "Do you mind if I smoke" before Fenella Fielding starts smouldering.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"I’m a smoker and my profile clearly states that. As a single woman, I get a lot of messages and always check their profile before replying - if they do not want to meet a smoker, I’ll tell them I am one and wish them good luck. They normally come back and say that is ok with them. I’ve had a couple recently that I’ve agreed to meet but have told them beforehand that I smoke - both got really arsed - read my profile!! Am I alone with this?"

I’d have no issue in meeting a smoker, got a little smoking kink see

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
33 weeks ago

Luton

I was meant to be meeting one today - several telephone convos and and were talking about Covid last night - never got it and thought it might be because my lungs are tough. Then got a message saying he didn’t want to kiss an ashtray - well what made you think you’d get a chance - I was polite and wished him well and then he blocked me - bullet dodged I think

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By *TG3Man
33 weeks ago

Dorchester

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By *ot manMan
33 weeks ago

long eaton

I don’t mind if you smoke

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I was meant to be meeting one today - several telephone convos and and were talking about Covid last night - never got it and thought it might be because my lungs are tough. Then got a message saying he didn’t want to kiss an ashtray - well what made you think you’d get a chance - I was polite and wished him well and then he blocked me - bullet dodged I think "

Yeah, very much. That's really rude. And bad on his part to not read what's clearly there.

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By *issmorganWoman
33 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Not at all, it's same as I write no smokers on mine(im asthmatic).

When a smoker messages me, I'll point them to the bit that says it and they get arsey.

Many people just can't be arsed to take 2 mins to actually read a profile and see if they'd be compatible with them.

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By *olli_popWoman
33 weeks ago

West Midlands

I have had this a few times, when ive said to them, Did you see i smoke? They say they didn't realise was set to "won't meet smokers" and that they are fine with it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Not at all, it's same as I write no smokers on mine(im asthmatic).

When a smoker messages me, I'll point them to the bit that says it and they get arsey.

Many people just can't be arsed to take 2 mins to actually read a profile and see if they'd be compatible with them."

Either arsey or talking about how much they bathe.

I have gnarly allergies. If (general) you think it's cool to give me a nosebleed (yes no matter how much you bathe etc) so you can have an orgasm, then I don't want to meet you, because wtf.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
33 weeks ago

Leeds

We state we smoke, we get lots of messages off people who won't meet smokers, a few have gotten arsey which is ridiculous it's clearly stated & others have turned up to meet is & we're smokers too they just lied on the profile, there's lots of none smokers sat smoking at the socials.

Mrs

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
33 weeks ago

Luton

I get the taste/smell thing - I consider myself a respectful smoker - I’ve had a FWB who doesn’t smoke - over many sleepovers I’ve never smoked in his company and have done everything I can to mitigate it but it part of me and I won’t apologise for it

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I get the taste/smell thing - I consider myself a respectful smoker - I’ve had a FWB who doesn’t smoke - over many sleepovers I’ve never smoked in his company and have done everything I can to mitigate it but it part of me and I won’t apologise for it "

Absolutely. I respect people's individual choices, even if it means that it's an incompatibility. I'm not in here saying that smoking is bad, I'm in here saying people should read profiles and respect people's wishes.

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By *rgasmatron1970Man
33 weeks ago

Bromley

I'm smokin

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By *syoufindmeMan
33 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Yup had a few "non smokers" message me. I do start out saying "I read your profile and it states won't meet smokers". Then they reply saying "I don't mind". Ffs I want to meet nice and relaxed, fuck then share a smoke!!

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

We are smokers. I always check their preferences in smokers and age. Then I message to say we aren't compatible. It really wastes my time by people not checking our profile. Even when they say they don't mind, I tell them I do, I feel self conscious been around people knowing they don't like smokers and then they wanna be around younger people

Mrs

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
33 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

The vast majority of men do not care if a woman smokes. Any that say they do are just being pretentious for the forums.

And for the tiny handful of men that it's genuine deal-breaker for, there's a queue of about 50 other blokes who will happily overlook it for the chance of sex.

I do find it weird that some men would have this massive hangup with smokers, but are at the same time quite prepared to perform all kinds of oral sex on a total stranger.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
33 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I don't meet smokers, I say this on my profile, yet they still msg. People just don't read profiles... Same for all the other preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"The vast majority of men do not care if a woman smokes. Any that say they do are just being pretentious for the forums...

Where is the survey published?

There are 8.1billion people in the world, approx 4.1billion are men, so if we go vast majority, I am assuming it is a figure bigger than the 52% Brexit supportes, so are we looking at more than 2.1billion.

I don't smoke, and I am probably in your category of 'vast majority' as at least five of my lovers have been smokers (though none have smoked in my house - but then that is probably what lube is for

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By *uddle4uMan
33 weeks ago

Purbeck

I think there just attention seeking and ego boosting themselve sending messages and ooh I got a reply without reading all the detail

I check for compatibilities and politely declined where needed

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By *heCelticGentMan
33 weeks ago

Kempston

I do find it weird that some men would have this massive hangup with smokers, but are at the same time quite prepared to perform all kinds of oral sex on a total stranger.

It’s not a hang up, it’s a preference! I don’t smoke, and my issue revolves around the lingering stench on the clothes and body, and the taste when kissing.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
33 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

I do find it weird that some men would have this massive hangup with smokers, but are at the same time quite prepared to perform all kinds of oral sex on a total stranger.

It’s not a hang up, it’s a preference! I don’t smoke, and my issue revolves around the lingering stench on the clothes and body, and the taste when kissing."

Well I guess its a preference to prefer the taste of a strangers genitalia & fluids (some of which is speculated to be urine

) than as opposed to the taste of cigarettes in someone's mouth.

It's not a preference I understand but there you go.

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By *all_Dark_DirtyMan
33 weeks ago

all over

I state im a smoker on my profile these days, back on my old profile id not declare it and never had any complaints, I wouldn’t smoke before a meet and always made sure I was smelling minty fresh. Now im not fussed about meeting and im just here to perv.

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