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By *punk n gush OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

deal

Does anyone else find it annoying when single men nessage a couple but clearly aim everything at the female as if the male dosent exist especially if they want to meet and have fun with said couple it would go along way to show some respect to the male

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By *rpeggioCouple
37 weeks ago

Baughurst

Nope. Not a problem for us, we don't receive a single message from men

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By *partharmonyCouple
37 weeks ago

Ruislip

I wouldn't say annoying. It's rude and thoughtless, but since we wouldn't meet them anyway even if they showed more respect, it's not something we get upset about.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
37 weeks ago

Llanelli

Single men are blocked from messaging my couples profile but if I'm messaging a couple from either this profile or couples one then I always make sure I talk to both the male and female half

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Does anyone else find it annoying when single men nessage a couple but clearly aim everything at the female as if the male dosent exist especially if they want to meet and have fun with said couple it would go along way to show some respect to the male "

Yes we find it annoying. It's like the male half doesn't exist. Even when we say this a couples profile they still continue to address our profile as a single female.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
37 weeks ago

London

We had some classics on the couples profile. Apparently I'm gorgeous and pussy must be wet. I replied with a negative to both but they kept going.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
37 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Very rarely get that on ours and we get in excess of 50 messages a day from men.

I’ve always thought it mainly because our presence on here is couple orientated, lots of full length pictures of the male as well as female, various pictures of us together in different poses and locations.

Not just the odd grainy dick pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

If message couples i direct the message to both

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By *hinstrapMan
37 weeks ago

Barnsley

Got to be respectful and aim at both etc.

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Does anyone else find it annoying when single men nessage a couple but clearly aim everything at the female as if the male dosent exist especially if they want to meet and have fun with said couple it would go along way to show some respect to the male "
yes i find it very frustrating

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

We get it a lot, sometimes I reply as the Mr or get him too, we did have one get a little upset about it after his wank when he realised he was talking to a bloke.

Mrs

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By *Ci LutherMan
37 weeks ago

Cumalot

Some of us a more tactful, don’t Tarr us all

And as people have said use your filters

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By *punk n gush OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

deal


"We get it a lot, sometimes I reply as the Mr or get him too, we did have one get a little upset about it after his wank when he realised he was talking to a bloke.

Mrs "

That's classic I'll have to try that one

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By *punk n gush OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

deal


"Does anyone else find it annoying when single men nessage a couple but clearly aim everything at the female as if the male dosent exist especially if they want to meet and have fun with said couple it would go along way to show some respect to the male

Yes we find it annoying. It's like the male half doesn't exist. Even when we say this a couples profile they still continue to address our profile as a single female. "

Yes excatly how we feel

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By *oul to soleCouple
37 weeks ago

Near Newbury

It’s mind blowing some of the messages we receive. Couldn’t be clearer regarding what we’re looking for and yet still receive ridiculous messages. I sometimes reply asking if their approach EVER works, but never get a response to that. Usually profiles with very little information and zero verifications. One guy even wanted me to go and pick him up as he couldn’t accommodate or travel

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By *eyond PurityCouple
37 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We get quite a few - we state in our profile about addressing us both so they just go in the bin.

Or sometimes when they just say ‘you’ve got a gorgeous figure and I’d love to fuck you’ I’ll say it’s nice for another guy to compliment a guy - thanks but I’m not bi…confuses them no end

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By *rand Central CoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Got to be respectful and aim at both etc. "

But only splash over the woman!

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By *oul to soleCouple
37 weeks ago

Near Newbury

We literally just had this amazing interaction with Les….

Les - Hi… come over… Les x

Us - Jesus Les, how did you know we’d be sat here waiting for a 68 year old man with a 13 minute old profile to tell us to get to their place now?? Are you psychic? Where and how do we sign up. This is too good to be true!

Les - Good choice ! Ox14***

Us - Be there in 15 minutes. Just dabbing a bit of toothpaste on our private parts

Les - Ok

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I dont talk to couples on here because lets be honest its mostly men that run the couple profiles

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By *he love catsCouple
37 weeks ago

South Wales

They are going to be talking to me probably and if they had read our profile they would have seen that I have taken over chatting on the forums and answering message's, if they start chatting thinking they're talking to the wife I know they haven't read our profile beforehand so probably I won't bother answering the message.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Northampton

I (Mr) usually reply back in this instance :

I want to fuck you - “very flattering, but I only like girls”

You look beautiful - “thank you, I’ve been in the gym as Mrs said I was putting on weight”

Here’s a dick pic - “reminds user of the law regarding the sending of unsolicited images of a sexual nature” (this one usually results in abuse in return and then we get blocked )!

You get the drift

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

It isnt particularly annoying as I (Mr) usually check the messages and if they want to forgo the polite request on our profile to be talked to as a duo then it's game on.

Shame, they never want to stick around after they request a pic and I send them my dick

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By *tylebender03Man
37 weeks ago

Manchester

men mostly run the couples profiles so the women got no chance seeing it anyway

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By *he love catsCouple
37 weeks ago

South Wales

It's not true that men always run couples profiles, my Mrs was running our profile and chatting in the forums for the first 4 years, I've only taken over lately because of the messages and abuse from some users, she just couldn't be arsed to keep it going.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"It's not true that men always run couples profiles, my Mrs was running our profile and chatting in the forums for the first 4 years, I've only taken over lately because of the messages and abuse from some users, she just couldn't be arsed to keep it going."
Exceptions dont make the rule

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
37 weeks ago

Debauchery

We don’t block men from messaging because some are men friends of ours on here and we like hearing from them.

I answer most of the messages though, much to the frustration of many of the approaching blokes and I will get at least one message every other day or so which bypasses me and tries to speak direct to Cherry as if I’m not even on the profile. I make a point of the fact that I’m the male half of the couple in my reply.

It frustrates me more that there’s a complete lack of friendly light-hearted original approaches. I have 3 pro-forma messages which I can copy and paste in most replies to most of the messages get, which will see out a whole conversation in some cases.

Hades

x

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By * and R cple4Couple
37 weeks ago

swansea

We have filters on here so we dont experience that.

We have tho at clubs and socials had men deliberately stand in between us with their back to my husband and start talking to me.It,s extremely rude..

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Glasgow


"We have filters on here so we dont experience that.

We have tho at clubs and socials had men deliberately stand in between us with their back to my husband and start talking to me.It,s extremely rude.. "

Yup, we've had that.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Don't worry guys.

I get plenty of messages telling me my wife is gorgeous and I'm a lucky man.

They don't read anything

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"men mostly run the couples profiles so the women got no chance seeing it anyway "

not true although mr does deal with all the 1 liners, ones who dont read the profile and the ones that have no respect. which does tend to account for about 80% of guys messages. but yes i do see them, and i enjoy seeing mr exercise his sarcasm with them!!

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By *EAT..85Woman
37 weeks ago

Nottingham

It's a great way to filter out the non caring or non reading folk though. There's plenty of guys on here that the few that do send respectful, informed messages will hopefully get noticed more.

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By *luefire2Couple
37 weeks ago

just somewhere around here

We just don't reply to them. If they can't recognise that we are a couple it then highlights the level of their intelligence.

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By *he Flat CapsCouple
37 weeks ago

Pontypool

I (Mrs) am the one to post on threads. I am the more active of the two of us in Fab in general.

However, as we are LAT, we have to find time to discuss messages we receive and how or if we respond. Then it could be either of us replying.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
37 weeks ago

huddersfield

When i male couples its allways about both

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I find it odd that anyone messaging a couple would direct their messages to just the female. When I message couples I try to refer to them both as I'm messaging and interested in the couple not just one of them. I assumed everyone did that but now I'm thinking I'm the odd one out for chatting to both. (Assuming anyone actually wants to chat to me.)

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By *oozleMan
37 weeks ago

high wycombe

As someone who messages couples mainly, I’m always polite, respectful and write to both of them rather just aiming specifically at just one person.

I also check the profile first to make sure they don’t mind single guys and won’t message if I’m not matching what they would like.

I don’t mass mail either, each message I send I try to out thought behind.

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
37 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Maybe we've been lucky, but have to say the majority of guys who message us address us both, are polite and also respectful.

Of course every now and again you get some that don't but we just ignore them and don't give it a second thought

S xxx

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