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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago

I see a lot about various clubs and swinger nights etc. can any veterans give a brief walkthrough to the people that have never been/intruiged about going etc

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By *ather WickmasMan
31 weeks ago

The Continental

There’s no real mystery to it.

You choose which club you want to go to. Find out which nights accept single men.

Turn up.

Sort your membership.

In you go.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
31 weeks ago

Reading

Be friendly. Just chat to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"There’s no real mystery to it.

You choose which club you want to go to. Find out which nights accept single men.

Turn up.

Sort your membership.

In you go. "

even this brief list is an ice breaker i didn’t think there was that much to it, is the membership paid or just for safety etc

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By *osey WalesMan
31 weeks ago

Surrey

I love chatting to 1st time club goers. A comman theme is, i was so scarred to walk through the door, i didnt know what to expect. So..

The clubs i have been too are possibly best described as really plush and friendly pubs, with friendly people in. You can have a drink and approach a couple and chat to them and flirt with them, usually without the bullshit you get in a pub!.

And if you are really lucky, you just may get to be naked with someome and have sex with them!.

So in that regard. Not like a pub !

Its not always wall to wall orgies and there is never (in my e perience) any pressure to join in or do anything you dont want to do.

Clubs, a great night out

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By *osey WalesMan
31 weeks ago

Surrey


"There’s no real mystery to it.

You choose which club you want to go to. Find out which nights accept single men.

Turn up.

Sort your membership.

In you go. even this brief list is an ice breaker i didn’t think there was that much to it, is the membership paid or just for safety etc"

Many clubs ask for you to become a member. Costs vary depending on the club.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago


"Be friendly. Just chat to anyone."

Chatting to anyone isn't the problem. Chatting to people who treat you like you've got two heads because you're a single guy is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"I love chatting to 1st time club goers. A comman theme is, i was so scarred to walk through the door, i didnt know what to expect. So..

The clubs i have been too are possibly best described as really plush and friendly pubs, with friendly people in. You can have a drink and approach a couple and chat to them and flirt with them, usually without the bullshit you get in a pub!.

And if you are really lucky, you just may get to be naked with someome and have sex with them!.

So in that regard. Not like a pub !

Its not always wall to wall orgies and there is never (in my e perience) any pressure to join in or do anything you dont want to do.

Clubs, a great night out

"

this is the perfect reply i think a lot of people dont really know who to go with etc not everyone is fully indulged in the scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Be friendly. Just chat to anyone."

How did you find your first experience

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By *andPextraCouple
31 weeks ago

North West

Just be nice and friendly. Everyone has been there for the first time once remember.

However, slightly tongue in cheek (as im sure most wouldn’t, here are some real life examples of behaviour to avoid, all of which I have fallen foul of)

Fella who was clearly a mechanic or such like who’s hands were covered in oil wondering why I didnt want to chat

Fella who smelt like the bottom of your wheelie bin on a summers day wondering why I didn't want to chat

Fella who started wanking in the changing room, looking directly at me and winking, before I’d even taken my coat off wondering why I didn’t want to chat

Fella who kicked the locked door in to a private room and wondered why I didnt want to chat.

Just be none of these and you wont go far wrong

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By *osey WalesMan
31 weeks ago

Surrey

Dont get me wrong, there will be knock backs and no thank yous and you do need at times, a thick skin. I say its friendly people but not all the time every time!.

Be friendly, dont drink too much, be polite and i'd say rule number 1. Expect absolutely nothing to happen. Going to a club does not mean you will play with anyone or even see anyone else having fun.

But if you do. It will be a good night.

Good luck

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By *osey WalesMan
31 weeks ago

Surrey


"Just be nice and friendly. Everyone has been there for the first time once remember.

However, slightly tongue in cheek (as im sure most wouldn’t, here are some real life examples of behaviour to avoid, all of which I have fallen foul of)

Fella who was clearly a mechanic or such like who’s hands were covered in oil wondering why I didnt want to chat

Fella who smelt like the bottom of your wheelie bin on a summers day wondering why I didn't want to chat

Fella who started wanking in the changing room, looking directly at me and winking, before I’d even taken my coat off wondering why I didn’t want to chat

Fella who kicked the locked door in to a private room and wondered why I didnt want to chat.

Just be none of these and you wont go far wrong "

Omg that's awful !

I'd also add, dont become a member of the wanking dead.

Every club has them and if you dont know who they are or what they look like, you're already a member !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Just be nice and friendly. Everyone has been there for the first time once remember.

However, slightly tongue in cheek (as im sure most wouldn’t, here are some real life examples of behaviour to avoid, all of which I have fallen foul of)

Fella who was clearly a mechanic or such like who’s hands were covered in oil wondering why I didnt want to chat

Fella who smelt like the bottom of your wheelie bin on a summers day wondering why I didn't want to chat

Fella who started wanking in the changing room, looking directly at me and winking, before I’d even taken my coat off wondering why I didn’t want to chat

Fella who kicked the locked door in to a private room and wondered why I didnt want to chat.

Just be none of these and you wont go far wrong "

this list is hilarious, and I honestly never comprehended things like this to happen i take it the other 70% you had a decent time though

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
31 weeks ago

Cheshire

Pinky loves picking out a newbie. She has a bit of a skill for it. Don't be afraid to approach and start a conversation just explaining its your first time will be a good place to start. Don't start banging on about a recent break up though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Dont get me wrong, there will be knock backs and no thank yous and you do need at times, a thick skin. I say its friendly people but not all the time every time!.

Be friendly, dont drink too much, be polite and i'd say rule number 1. Expect absolutely nothing to happen. Going to a club does not mean you will play with anyone or even see anyone else having fun.

But if you do. It will be a good night.

Good luck"

honestly i’m tempted to go just for a drink with like minded people its less about the art of pulling for me… i just like to meet people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Pinky loves picking out a newbie. She has a bit of a skill for it. Don't be afraid to approach and start a conversation just explaining its your first time will be a good place to start. Don't start banging on about a recent break up though."
just when i thought a found a shoulder to cry on ??

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By *andPextraCouple
31 weeks ago

North West


"Just be nice and friendly. Everyone has been there for the first time once remember.

However, slightly tongue in cheek (as im sure most wouldn’t, here are some real life examples of behaviour to avoid, all of which I have fallen foul of)

Fella who was clearly a mechanic or such like who’s hands were covered in oil wondering why I didnt want to chat

Fella who smelt like the bottom of your wheelie bin on a summers day wondering why I didn't want to chat

Fella who started wanking in the changing room, looking directly at me and winking, before I’d even taken my coat off wondering why I didn’t want to chat

Fella who kicked the locked door in to a private room and wondered why I didnt want to chat.

Just be none of these and you wont go far wrong this list is hilarious, and I honestly never comprehended things like this to happen i take it the other 70% you had a decent time though"

That is but a small list. I could go on. And on….

Such as the man who got down on his knees and basically begged to join in. Pleading. I patted him in the head like a kid who’d come last in the egg and spoon and said “ah bless”.

I say on 40 or so club visits, only 1 has been a car crash (couple of d*unken fights etc and a really bad vibe), 3/4 have been ok, and the rest memorable for one reason or another.

You have to go with ZERO expectations and simply go with the flow. Too many people assume as theyve paid, attended and got in, its like a bus ticket. A guaranteed journey from no sex to sex. far from it.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
31 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Just be nice and friendly. Everyone has been there for the first time once remember.

However, slightly tongue in cheek (as im sure most wouldn’t, here are some real life examples of behaviour to avoid, all of which I have fallen foul of)

Fella who was clearly a mechanic or such like who’s hands were covered in oil wondering why I didnt want to chat

Fella who smelt like the bottom of your wheelie bin on a summers day wondering why I didn't want to chat

Fella who started wanking in the changing room, looking directly at me and winking, before I’d even taken my coat off wondering why I didn’t want to chat

Fella who kicked the locked door in to a private room and wondered why I didnt want to chat.

Just be none of these and you wont go far wrong this list is hilarious, and I honestly never comprehended things like this to happen i take it the other 70% you had a decent time though

That is but a small list. I could go on. And on….

Such as the man who got down on his knees and basically begged to join in. Pleading. I patted him in the head like a kid who’d come last in the egg and spoon and said “ah bless”.

I say on 40 or so club visits, only 1 has been a car crash (couple of d*unken fights etc and a really bad vibe), 3/4 have been ok, and the rest memorable for one reason or another.

You have to go with ZERO expectations and simply go with the flow. Too many people assume as theyve paid, attended and got in, its like a bus ticket. A guaranteed journey from no sex to sex. far from it. "

Some do struggle with the difference between a club and a brothel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"Just be nice and friendly. Everyone has been there for the first time once remember.

However, slightly tongue in cheek (as im sure most wouldn’t, here are some real life examples of behaviour to avoid, all of which I have fallen foul of)

Fella who was clearly a mechanic or such like who’s hands were covered in oil wondering why I didnt want to chat

Fella who smelt like the bottom of your wheelie bin on a summers day wondering why I didn't want to chat

Fella who started wanking in the changing room, looking directly at me and winking, before I’d even taken my coat off wondering why I didn’t want to chat

Fella who kicked the locked door in to a private room and wondered why I didnt want to chat.

Just be none of these and you wont go far wrong this list is hilarious, and I honestly never comprehended things like this to happen i take it the other 70% you had a decent time though

That is but a small list. I could go on. And on….

Such as the man who got down on his knees and basically begged to join in. Pleading. I patted him in the head like a kid who’d come last in the egg and spoon and said “ah bless”.

I say on 40 or so club visits, only 1 has been a car crash (couple of d*unken fights etc and a really bad vibe), 3/4 have been ok, and the rest memorable for one reason or another.

You have to go with ZERO expectations and simply go with the flow. Too many people assume as theyve paid, attended and got in, its like a bus ticket. A guaranteed journey from no sex to sex. far from it. "

i see what you mean, did you go firstly as a single or a couple if i may ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago

This is the thing, i would literally go for a drink i can get my rocks off elsewhere if needs be

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By *andPextraCouple
31 weeks ago

North West

We went as a couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
31 weeks ago


"We went as a couple "
i think ill have to hunt for a friends to go with just to ease the newbie pain, but im always down for an new experience

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