FabSwingers.com forum: Don't seem to responses

By *lackheart83 OP Man
32 weeks ago

Uxbridge/ hillingdon

Hi have been using this site since January and sent loads of messages but don't seem to get alot of responses and when I do they say that there not interested what am I doing wrong

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By *olly MistlehoeWoman
32 weeks ago

Somewhere

If you messaged you would you be interested? Valid Q

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

It can be one of many things to a bland profile, a poor opening message or having no pics!!

For me….i find that no matter how amazing the profile or the opening message….if they don’t fancy you….you won’t get anything back!!

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By *ather WickmasMan
32 weeks ago

The Continental

With limited knowledge, all I can offer is that either the recipient thinks your profile isn’t worth responding to. Or that your messages are rubbish and. It worth responding to.

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By *onkeynutWoman
32 weeks ago

somewhere

No pics = instant delete

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By *eroLondonMan
32 weeks ago

Mayfair

The odds are stacked against you: there are far more singleton men trawling this site than women (and couples). Your message will be one of hundreds in their inbox and most women typically look at the profile first before even opening the message itself...assuming they feel inclined to do so.

If they manage to look at your profile I suspect they won't be enamoured: you have a blank profile photo, no publicly viewable images and basic profile text.

How do you feel that you and your profile stands out compared to your peers? What is unique about you or your profile that will pique the interest of the person/s you are messaging...?

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

You gotta remember, women and couples get spammed with numerous messages from guys on a daily basis

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By *naswingdressWoman
32 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

There are a lot more men than other demographics on this site.

Why should people meet you, rather than someone else? Don't tell me in the forum - answer it on your profile. And add some pictures, it helps. (It doesn't have to be a picture of your face. It also doesn't have to be a picture of your dick. It can be literally anything else)

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
32 weeks ago

at work

Your header makes me think you are looking for men as it says males so I would be confused by that if you messaged me.

Read what everyone else has said and see if any of that applies to you

Also re-read your profile and see if it makes sense to someone reading it for the first time.

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By *eroLondonMan
32 weeks ago

Mayfair

"You gotta remember, women and couples get spammed with numerous messages from guys on a daily basis"

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Spammed in what way?

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By *naswingdressWoman
32 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Also lose the disclaimer. It's unenforceable and makes you look like a rube.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
32 weeks ago

at work

" (It doesn't have to be a picture of your face. It also doesn't have to be a picture of your dick. It can be literally anything else)"

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
32 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Hide the dick pic

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
31 weeks ago

Central

It's essential to have realistic expectations if you are a man here. If you're not going to clubs, you're going to have to have patience and luck, on top of hard graft.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. So most messages won't get a reply.

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By *arkheart666Woman
31 weeks ago

Bradford

"You gotta remember, women and couples get spammed with numerous messages from guys on a daily basis

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Spammed in what way?"

24 hrs of allowing single males to message me resulted in over 500 messages. Thats spam.

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By *arkheart666Woman
31 weeks ago

Bradford

Agree with a few on here that hour profile just doesnt jump out. Unless you are super hot you need to put the eork into having a great profile! Artistic pics, an interesting and inviting bio.

Also what messages are you sending? The basic 'hi how are you doing' just wont cut it. Again you have to be creative.

I see poor profiles as lazy. Lazy profile, lazy lover imo

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By *TG3Man
31 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Hi have been using this site since January and sent loads of messages but don't seem to get alot of responses and when I do they say that there not interested what am I doing wrong"
Your profile is your advert one pic for them to look at and you're interested in sex, not much to go on as i guess most of us are, the thing is you're up against many other guys and you don't stand out and its a snap decision they look and exclude you in seconds. We don't know how you message so can't advise you on that. Will you take any advice who knows. Good luck either way

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By *ot to giggleWoman
31 weeks ago

Coventry

sort your profile out - make it more snappy and 'about and eager to please' makes you sound like a puppy

^^^^^^^^^^ they said it all

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By *ornucopiaMan
31 weeks ago

Bexley

"Agree with a few on here that hour profile just doesnt jump out. Unless you are super hot you need to put the eork into having a great profile! Artistic pics, an interesting and inviting bio.

Also what messages are you sending? The basic 'hi how are you doing' just wont cut it. Again you have to be creative.

I see poor profiles as lazy. Lazy profile, lazy lover imo "

Does sloppy typing indicate sloppy vulva?

I'm sure that many hope so!

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By *eroLondonMan
31 weeks ago

Mayfair

"You gotta remember, women and couples get spammed with numerous messages from guys on a daily basis

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Spammed in what way?

24 hrs of allowing single males to message me resulted in over 500 messages. Thats spam. "

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I disagree. You lowered your drawbridge by allowing single males to message you. Those messages were "solicited" and there was a reasonable expectation that single males would message you based on your profile criteria at that moment in time, irrespective of whether they read your profile or not.

I'm not party to your messages (obviously) and there's every possibility that some/all of those messages to you were 'unimaginative'. There are more men on here than woman and as a consequence the volume of messages is 'reasonably' expected.

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By *TG3Man
31 weeks ago

Dorchester

"sort your profile out - make it more snappy and 'about and eager to please' makes you sound like a puppy

^^^^^^^^^^ they said it all "
puppies just poop n piss and make you smile

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

"Hi have been using this site since January and sent loads of messages but don't seem to get alot of responses and when I do they say that there not interested what am I doing wrong"

1 picture, profile sounds desperate but doesn't say much about your character.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
31 weeks ago

southampton

Do you play the lottery?

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By *enuineguy42Man
31 weeks ago

worcester

Your not alone, i think not being able to accom is an issue alot of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

This site aeema a real waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I can accom and visit...i go the gym and apparently big blokes are not flavour of the month anymore. From a load of morbidly obese women...the irony

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By *stwo60Couple
31 weeks ago

Hampshire

For us, bad grammar can be an issue, sounds petty but we’d like to think we would be able to hold a conversation.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
31 weeks ago

southampton

"This site aeema a real waste of time"

I have some success, it really is a lottery. Got to be in it to win it but poor odds.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
31 weeks ago

Kendal

Like someone else has said, couples and women get sometimes hundreds of mails from the "single men" category daily. In most cases just to get your email read is a plus, never mind replied to.

Unfortunately there is so many single men profiles on here compared to couples and women you're just one fish in an ocean of thousands. If there's nothing in your profile to make someone intrigued to message you back they won't do. Add to that there seems to be more couples who look for another female to join, not man, and your chances are even slimmer.

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By *WB85Man
31 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It's very difficult to get noticed on such a male heavy site.

If you find the secret.....dm me

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By *ot to giggleWoman
31 weeks ago

Coventry

"sort your profile out - make it more snappy and 'about and eager to please' makes you sound like a puppy

^^^^^^^^^^ they said it all puppies just poop n piss and make you smile

Not when you got 7 of them!

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By *TG3Man
31 weeks ago

Dorchester

"sort your profile out - make it more snappy and 'about and eager to please' makes you sound like a puppy

^^^^^^^^^^ they said it all puppies just poop n piss and make you smile

Not when you got 7 of them!

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nightmare

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