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"Yeap, I’m saving up for conversion therapy in the hope I can be turned into a lesbian "  with the therapist? | |||
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"I’m finding it hard to find someone who is genuinely into the same stuff as me, and is looking for a relationship (obviously I’m not looking for a relationship on fab, I’m talking about dating apps etc)… As soon as I mention some stuff that is important to me sexually in a relationship, then the guy turns and it’s like I’m on fab again, they’re just after one thing. But I find it so important that I want to get my wants and needs across early on as if we aren’t compatible then there’s no point… Has anyone else encountered this? Any advice? " I found the most loving and beautiful relationship through fab, don't rule it out now... Mr | |||
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"I’m finding it hard to find someone who is genuinely into the same stuff as me, and is looking for a relationship (obviously I’m not looking for a relationship on fab, I’m talking about dating apps etc)… As soon as I mention some stuff that is important to me sexually in a relationship, then the guy turns and it’s like I’m on fab again, they’re just after one thing. But I find it so important that I want to get my wants and needs across early on as if we aren’t compatible then there’s no point… Has anyone else encountered this? Any advice? " apologies for my previous comment - realistically any relationship whatever the boundaries you set i think is hard to find. I think FAB is more open to discussions about what you are looking for , other dating sites more generic about the relationship side. i dont know if you will ever find 'it' ... maybe just relax about it a bit more and stop 'looking'. but then I am definitely no relationship expert xxx | |||
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"I think I'm gonna be in the same situation soon after the news I recently found out. Had a d*unken one night stand about six weeks ago with a friend, found out two days ago she is pregnant. I am in no doubt as to the paternity, I've known her for a while now and she is not that kind of person. The only reason we had a d*unk one night stand is because we knew each other and it didn't seem weird. As such, I'm gonna be stepping away from here for a while to focus on my first born child. Will discuss with her in the future by dropping the odd hint. If this lifestyle isnt for her, will log in and delete my profile, if it is, I will return to here (for clarification, we have been talking and decided to try dating and being in a relationship considering we are having a child together). Wish me luck everyone, may see you back here in the future " Good luck, hope it works out well for you. J | |||
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"If you have very specific sexual wants and needs, then I think it's always going to be more difficult to find someone compatible. And with dating, experience tells me that the minute you mention sex, then it quickly becomes focused on only sex with (some) men" 
I'm so grateful you included (some), it's nice to see there are women who don't see men in the same way | |||
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"I think I'm gonna be in the same situation soon after the news I recently found out. Had a d*unken one night stand about six weeks ago with a friend, found out two days ago she is pregnant. I am in no doubt as to the paternity, I've known her for a while now and she is not that kind of person. The only reason we had a d*unk one night stand is because we knew each other and it didn't seem weird. As such, I'm gonna be stepping away from here for a while to focus on my first born child. Will discuss with her in the future by dropping the odd hint. If this lifestyle isnt for her, will log in and delete my profile, if it is, I will return to here (for clarification, we have been talking and decided to try dating and being in a relationship considering we are having a child together). Wish me luck everyone, may see you back here in the future " good luck - wish you every happyness and congrats on the baby news xx | |||
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"I think I'm gonna be in the same situation soon after the news I recently found out. Had a d*unken one night stand about six weeks ago with a friend, found out two days ago she is pregnant. I am in no doubt as to the paternity, I've known her for a while now and she is not that kind of person. The only reason we had a d*unk one night stand is because we knew each other and it didn't seem weird. As such, I'm gonna be stepping away from here for a while to focus on my first born child. Will discuss with her in the future by dropping the odd hint. If this lifestyle isnt for her, will log in and delete my profile, if it is, I will return to here (for clarification, we have been talking and decided to try dating and being in a relationship considering we are having a child together). Wish me luck everyone, may see you back here in the future good luck - wish you every happyness and congrats on the baby news xx" Thank you so much! I'm currently in a constant mix of emotions where I'm absolutely terrified I will be a failure as a father, won't know what I'm doing or damage their mental health but also uncontrollable excitement knowing I'm going to be a father for the first time and mid January I will be holding my baby in my arms (I won't lie, it would be as I was sobbing my eyes out from happiness lol) | |||
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"I think Fab is the perfect place to date for anyone who wants to continue in the swinging scene. No awkward conversations AFTER you've both decided you like eachother and want to progress things. No hiding any of your tastes and preferences because you don't want to come across as some kind of weird deviant to someone you meet on a more traditional daying site/app. And aside from a lack of swiping, how is Fab actually any different to any other online dating system? Just keep an open mind, take things as they come and don't leave yourself wife open to being duped or taken advantage of just so someone can get laid. Although that pretty much happens on most dating sites anyway from what I've heard. Why not date from Fab? What's the worst that can happen? " that would be great but I've literally never met anyone from fab that is open to dating. Ever. I mean I can't even find anyone local enough that I want to meet once, let alone date.  | |||
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"I’m finding it hard to find someone who is genuinely into the same stuff as me, and is looking for a relationship (obviously I’m not looking for a relationship on fab, I’m talking about dating apps etc)… As soon as I mention some stuff that is important to me sexually in a relationship, then the guy turns and it’s like I’m on fab again, they’re just after one thing. But I find it so important that I want to get my wants and needs across early on as if we aren’t compatible then there’s no point… Has anyone else encountered this? Any advice? I found the most loving and beautiful relationship through fab, don't rule it out now... Mr " I second this, can be found in the most unexpected places Tinder | |||
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"I’m finding it hard to find someone who is genuinely into the same stuff as me, and is looking for a relationship (obviously I’m not looking for a relationship on fab, I’m talking about dating apps etc)… As soon as I mention some stuff that is important to me sexually in a relationship, then the guy turns and it’s like I’m on fab again, they’re just after one thing. But I find it so important that I want to get my wants and needs across early on as if we aren’t compatible then there’s no point… Has anyone else encountered this? Any advice? I found the most loving and beautiful relationship through fab, don't rule it out now... Mr I second this, can be found in the most unexpected places Tinder" Absolutely it can Tinder, actually saddened me a little to read how people seem to have given up hope Kr | |||
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"Thank you all for the feedback and advice..!! I wonder if I should put on my fab profile that I’m open to dating - so that it’s out there and honest? What do others think about that? x" You can but just be aware the more unscrupulous will say this is something they are keen on and then poof they are gone quicker than Kaiser Soze. | |||
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"that would be great but I've literally never met anyone from fab that is open to dating. Ever. I mean I can't even find anyone local enough that I want to meet once, let alone date. "I get that. They do exist, but the Fab eternal triangle of attraction, not a cockwomble, and local looms large here. Pick any two, but you can’t have all three  | |||
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"I think I'm gonna be in the same situation soon after the news I recently found out. Had a d*unken one night stand about six weeks ago with a friend, found out two days ago she is pregnant. I am in no doubt as to the paternity, I've known her for a while now and she is not that kind of person. The only reason we had a d*unk one night stand is because we knew each other and it didn't seem weird. As such, I'm gonna be stepping away from here for a while to focus on my first born child. Will discuss with her in the future by dropping the odd hint. If this lifestyle isnt for her, will log in and delete my profile, if it is, I will return to here (for clarification, we have been talking and decided to try dating and being in a relationship considering we are having a child together). Wish me luck everyone, may see you back here in the future " Love this! Good luck | |||
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"Any kind of online dating is not great." I met my partner of over twenty years on social media. She approached me and the rest is history. We have had a goodly number of dalliances on our journey. | |||
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"I had fully embraced the reality of being single for the rest of my days - and then I met my partner through am organised fab social.... Sometimes you find something you didn't even know you wanted in the most unexpected places. (It's actually quite inconvenient of him to make me having feelings and all - what am I supposed to do with my spinster rocking chair now!?) "Soz… | |||
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"I think I'm gonna be in the same situation soon after the news I recently found out. Had a d*unken one night stand about six weeks ago with a friend, found out two days ago she is pregnant. I am in no doubt as to the paternity, I've known her for a while now and she is not that kind of person. The only reason we had a d*unk one night stand is because we knew each other and it didn't seem weird. As such, I'm gonna be stepping away from here for a while to focus on my first born child. Will discuss with her in the future by dropping the odd hint. If this lifestyle isnt for her, will log in and delete my profile, if it is, I will return to here (for clarification, we have been talking and decided to try dating and being in a relationship considering we are having a child together). Wish me luck everyone, may see you back here in the future " Congratulations. I hope all three of you (unless it is twins, triplets, or moreplets) have a long, a happy and enjoyable life. God bless. | |||
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"I gave up on the dating apps as they are all dire. I find it easier to just stick with fab and going to clubs." This is my strategy... May or may not work... When my therapist was trying to console me by saying I'll need to kiss a lot of frogs to find my prince... My reply... Hunny, I'm kissing a lorra lorra tadpoles (fab shags) and some turn into frogs (FwB's)... No Prince as yet... ... ribbit... Still I'm having a lorra lorra fun! | |||
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"Thank you all for the feedback and advice..!! I wonder if I should put on my fab profile that I’m open to dating - so that it’s out there and honest? What do others think about that? x" Do it. Can't hurt. And while some will say anything to get you interested, that's as true just for no strings meets. Just a case of having realistic expectations, taking things as they come and seeing how things work out. People have gotten married to others they met on Fab and there's plenty of LTR's from here too. It's as possible to meet a partner here as it is anywhere. | |||
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"Thank you all for the feedback and advice..!! I wonder if I should put on my fab profile that I’m open to dating - so that it’s out there and honest? What do others think about that? x" It can't do any harm. A lot of people with say this is not a dating site and while I agree, you are also likely to meet people of similar persuasions of one kind at least. I generally just say I'm open to all kinds of relationships whether thats platonic/sexual/emotional! Good luck | |||
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"I had fully embraced the reality of being single for the rest of my days - and then I met my partner through am organised fab social.... Sometimes you find something you didn't even know you wanted in the most unexpected places. (It's actually quite inconvenient of him to make me having feelings and all - what am I supposed to do with my spinster rocking chair now!?)
Soz…"Yeah you have deep regrets now don't you!! Serves you right  | |||
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"(It's actually quite inconvenient of him to make me having feelings and all - what am I supposed to do with my spinster rocking chair now!?) "You would know if you've ever watched Debbie Does Dallas....Jus sayin. | |||
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"I don't think you should look for a relationship on Fab Op. Once you start looking you place pressure on things to become more. You'll find yourself feeling disheartened when things don't progress, be dismayed by people who only discuss sex with you or say the right thing with no real intent. I do think you can remain open to the idea of a relationship. To exploring and enjoying the adventures as they happen, seeing how things naturally develop. And then... who knows? One day the timing will be right. It all clicks in to place so easily and you've been able to be authentic because they see all of you. You'll find yourself randomly thinking of them during the day and smiling. Fab can be a brilliant place for love OP, I hope it is for you. x" What a beautifully written response. | |||
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"I don't think you should look for a relationship on Fab Op. Once you start looking you place pressure on things to become more. You'll find yourself feeling disheartened when things don't progress, be dismayed by people who only discuss sex with you or say the right thing with no real intent. I do think you can remain open to the idea of a relationship. To exploring and enjoying the adventures as they happen, seeing how things naturally develop. And then... who knows? One day the timing will be right. It all clicks in to place so easily and you've been able to be authentic because they see all of you. You'll find yourself randomly thinking of them during the day and smiling. Fab can be a brilliant place for love OP, I hope it is for you. x What a beautifully written response." | |||
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"I don't think you should look for a relationship on Fab Op. Once you start looking you place pressure on things to become more. You'll find yourself feeling disheartened when things don't progress, be dismayed by people who only discuss sex with you or say the right thing with no real intent. I do think you can remain open to the idea of a relationship. To exploring and enjoying the adventures as they happen, seeing how things naturally develop. And then... who knows? One day the timing will be right. It all clicks in to place so easily and you've been able to be authentic because they see all of you. You'll find yourself randomly thinking of them during the day and smiling. Fab can be a brilliant place for love OP, I hope it is for you. x What a beautifully written response." Thank you, that's really made me smile. | |||
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"I don't think you should look for a relationship on Fab Op. Once you start looking you place pressure on things to become more. You'll find yourself feeling disheartened when things don't progress, be dismayed by people who only discuss sex with you or say the right thing with no real intent. I do think you can remain open to the idea of a relationship. To exploring and enjoying the adventures as they happen, seeing how things naturally develop. And then... who knows? One day the timing will be right. It all clicks in to place so easily and you've been able to be authentic because they see all of you. You'll find yourself randomly thinking of them during the day and smiling. Fab can be a brilliant place for love OP, I hope it is for you. x What a beautifully written response. Thank you, that's really made me smile." You’re welcome Meli. Actually, thank you. I will be often coming back to this post when in doubt if Fab is a right place for me. | |||
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"I’m finding it hard to find someone who is genuinely into the same stuff as me, and is looking for a relationship (obviously I’m not looking for a relationship on fab, I’m talking about dating apps etc)… As soon as I mention some stuff that is important to me sexually in a relationship, then the guy turns and it’s like I’m on fab again, they’re just after one thing. But I find it so important that I want to get my wants and needs across early on as if we aren’t compatible then there’s no point… Has anyone else encountered this? Any advice? " There are more than one kind of relationship so ever thought of a poly situation or the like? Fab can work with that I have found. C | |||
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"I'm now in a similar situation, newly single.. I'm back on fabs. Would love to find someone who is in the lifestyle as the voyeuristic side is something I miss in a vanilla relationship. I doubt I would find anyone off fabs though although I have had one relationship many years ago through a different lifestyle website.. We shall just have to see what happens.. " Now there's a pair of boobs I've not seen in a long while.......  
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