FabSwingers.com forum: Profiles you Skip and those you Read

By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

The subject can be controversial sometimes and many varied opinions, likes and dislikes.

Been on many Swinger sites ever since the Internet came out and found most profiles, for me, to be un-interesting and lacking the important information. LOL but that is just me.

For me, a good profile must be informative with some good pictures (Not Face pics although they can be good in Private Galleries for when arranging meets), some good action Vids but not a must, not to short but not an essay. At the very least explaining who and want you are and some indication as to what you are looking for. Good use of your Status, as this will show what you are looking for now.

These sites are meant to be for Adults looking for Meets for Sex and Parties etc. so the Pics should be less of Posing and more showing the sort of things you are looking to get into.

A good written profile is great but sadly you get many who don't read the profiles and you can get many messages from, generally time wasters, who have absolutely no idea what they are asking of you.

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

I mostly go on these days to read messages, forums and search for those in my area. So a good profile is always a good start for making new like minded friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Am not into action shots so if a profile shows lots of them il pass it by, adult site or not they are just off putting, id much rather see the person and not who they have shagged in the past

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"Am not into action shots so if a profile shows lots of them il pass it by, adult site or not they are just off putting, id much rather see the person and not who they have shagged in the past"

Each to their own and respect your choice. Personally the action shots are what shows their interests in being on the site and hopefully show what I'm interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I’m just here to look at the pretty pictures

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"I’m just here to look at the pretty pictures

LOL

Pretty pics are great but I'm trying to find a partner in crime lol so posing pics are not really for me

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
32 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

I'm quite happy with our posing photo profile. It works well for what we want.

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By *TG3Man
32 weeks ago

Dorchester

I like a pretty penis and BIG breasts

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
32 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"Am not into action shots so if a profile shows lots of them il pass it by, adult site or not they are just off putting, id much rather see the person and not who they have shagged in the past

Each to their own and respect your choice. Personally the action shots are what shows their interests in being on the site and hopefully show what I'm interested in."

I'm not sure you'll find it by telling women how to write their profiles

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"I'm not sure you'll find it by telling women how to write their profiles

Certainly not and never will tell anyone how to write their own profile. Started this discussion to see what people think about profiles and what My personal thoughts are on them.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
32 weeks ago

ashford

Also like to see action shots! Also face pics are important for me! A mixture really x

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By *TG3Man
32 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I'm not sure you'll find it by telling women how to write their profiles

Certainly not and never will tell anyone how to write their own profile. Started this discussion to see what people think about profiles and what My personal thoughts are on them."
C'mon tell men how to write something they just don't know how

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By *eliWoman
32 weeks ago

With respect, OP, I don't think this site is *meant* to be for anything. Perhaps when it was first created but now there's such a wealth of difference in what people are looking for.

I don't think there's such a thing as a "good" profile. Those you're compatible with? Yes. For me, I wouldn't want to see numerous action shots. I like ones where I get a feel for who someone is but that doesn't mean it's from their orifices being filled/someone filling them.

There are women with action shots, fair play to them. Fingers crossed you stumble across those profiles OP.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
32 weeks ago

Kent

I have an essay, posing photos, face photos and no action shots, and I'm not struggling to find partners in crime. Go figure.

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"C'mon tell men how to write something they just don't know how

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By *ealitybitesMan
32 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never been on any other site apart from this one so I can't compare and contrast.

I've no interest in action shots either and while I fully agree that everyone including women and couples should make an effort with their profile, there are many that i don't bother reading.

The first thing I look at in a profile is age.

If that doesn't fit my preferences I don't read their bio or look at their pics and immediately click out of it so in those cases, content is irrelevant.

The next thing I look for is location.

If they aren't within an hour's drive but fall within my age preferences I might look at their pics and then exit so again content is unimportant if I won't ever be meeting them.

I don't agree that the site is all about meeting for sex.

Only 10 percent of all the meets I've had over the years have involved sex.

If every conversation I was to have on here was about sex I would have left a long time ago.

It's horses for courses so what works for you doesn't work for me at all.

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By *TG3Man
32 weeks ago

Dorchester

I do love a vid mind you used to get 2 min vids but now the max is 59 seconds

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"With respect, OP, I don't think this site is *meant* to be for anything. Perhaps when it was first created but now there's such a wealth of difference in what people are looking for.

There are women with action shots, fair play to them. Fingers crossed you stumble across those profiles OP.

Thanks. There is obviously many different opinions about everything to do with the subject of what this site is or is not and how people use them. Not my intention to make anyone feel uncomfortable. Just simply a discussion on how profiles are taken by others.

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"I have an essay, posing photos, face photos and no action shots, and I'm not struggling to find partners in crime. Go figure. "

Good on you

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By *aked2sumCouple
32 weeks ago

Coast

Skip profiles with crude pics . Gapping pussies , cocks dripping with cum , toys and vegetables hanging out of every orifice etc also usernames and statuses can trigger a scroll on with no interest

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By *TG3Man
32 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Skip profiles with crude pics . Gapping pussies , cocks dripping with cum , toys and vegetables hanging out of every orifice etc also usernames and statuses can trigger a scroll on with no interest "
I don't mind a vegetable or two you're supposed to eat 6 a day

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By *weet LisaTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Crawley

Action shots can be off putting for me when on a singles profile.

If profiles too long I won't read it, if I see a lack effort in the pictures I could skip.

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By *omRPMan
32 weeks ago

North Curry

I’m the same. I appreciate this is a swinging site, but it’s better to leave some things to the imagination. That’s half of the fun.

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

Yep we are all different and this is where we can all discuss what our likes and dislikes are of them without accusing each other of being wrong for what we believe or like and or dislike.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Am not into action shots so if a profile shows lots of them il pass it by, adult site or not they are just off putting, id much rather see the person and not who they have shagged in the past

Each to their own and respect your choice. Personally the action shots are what shows their interests in being on the site and hopefully show what I'm interested in."

I don't need to see a guy having sex to know he's interested in sex when he's on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I'm terrible at reading them, if you're hot I might start it but if it's long it'll take me a few weeks to get round to it.

Plus i get bored easy so if it's dull o and full of I want this and I can give you that I'll lose interest.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
32 weeks ago

Coventry

I look at age, location, skip through any pics, dont bother usually with the videos.

I like a fun written profile, but appreciate everyone is different.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
32 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Action shots on single profiles is an instant delete from me OP. If they’ve shared vids / pics of someone else then they have the potential to share one of me

Everyone uses the site differently

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By *mily36CWoman
32 weeks ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

You're drawn to profiles based on what you're in to / looking for so it's definitely different preferences all round

... which is what we need, otherwise we'd all be lusting after the same folk ...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
32 weeks ago

Leeds

I look at the pics, if I don't like them I won't bother reading anything else.

What one likes another dislikes.

Mrs

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By *ikesEmBigMan
32 weeks ago

Herts

I've done OK and met people I click with doing my thing so I'll stick within that format

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"Action shots on single profiles is an instant delete from me OP. If they’ve shared vids / pics of someone else then they have the potential to share one of me

Everyone uses the site differently

Definitely Wrong if they have not got permission to do so. But if they have then there is nothing wrong with it and I would think it would show there interests in what they are looking for.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
32 weeks ago

Coventry

"Action shots on single profiles is an instant delete from me OP. If they’ve shared vids / pics of someone else then they have the potential to share one of me

Everyone uses the site differently

Exactly this, someone send me a video of a previous 'friend' ... deleted,

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By *ittlebirdWoman
32 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Action shots on single profiles is an instant delete from me OP. If they’ve shared vids / pics of someone else then they have the potential to share one of me

Everyone uses the site differently

Definitely Wrong if they have not got permission to do so. But if they have then there is nothing wrong with it and I would think it would show there interests in what they are looking for."

And how can I tell the difference? It’s always going to be a no from me for anyone with those kind of images

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

If I want porn I’ll go on hub and find exactly what o want to see, I don’t need to see bad porn on someone’s profile (or worse in my inbox). All action shots or videos do is attract the wanking dead and/or prove (sort of) a grown ass adult has had sex at some point.

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"And how can I tell the difference? It’s always going to be a no from me for anyone with those kind of images "

We are all subject to lies and deceit in all walks of life. You simply don't know. But there is the law to fall back on and hope that everyone is following along with it. Personally I choose to believe people are good until I find differently and then remove all ties with them. Been in many very difficult situations in my life and so far its worked for me.

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"If I want porn I’ll go on hub and find exactly what o want to see, I don’t need to see bad porn on someone’s profile (or worse in my inbox). All action shots or videos do is attract the wanking dead and/or prove (sort of) a grown ass adult has had sex at some point. "

Wow

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

Come on people lol

Lets try and keep this to just a discussion of what we enjoy are don't enjoy about writing profiles lol

Try and keep the Negative feelings out of the forum and not attempt to accuse others of doing something wrong lol

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By *elloWoman
32 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I enjoy a quirky profile, that shows their creativity in the writing.

Also I like a mixture of different photos and videos but play ones on a singles profile I really don't like.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Wow"

I’m cranky this morning

but I do say most things on here with a dose of humour.

Everyone looks for different things on profiles. I like teasing pics, sexy confidence. Others like action. What turns me on will turn you off and vice versa. It’s all good though, thanks god we aren’t all samey samey.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
32 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Yeah pics first - if action shots or graphic then just leave alone.

If you don’t like posing pics OP why are you posing quite a few of your pics?

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By *eroLondonMan
32 weeks ago

Mayfair

I like a well-written profile, detailed, interesting but without being laborious; coupled with clean but teasing photographs. In essence a profile that is imaginative and stands out from the usual banality. If it's quirky and artistic then even better.

I don't need to see vulgar videos of bodily fluids being exchanged or crass photographs displayed in inglorious technicolour.

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

"Yeah pics first - if action shots or graphic then just leave alone.

If you don’t like posing pics OP why are you posing quite a few of your pics?

K "

LOL I don't think posing should be completely off as they certainly would give an indication of who you are looking at. But, and must point out for many LOL, that I THINK some action shots are great.

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By *TG3Man
32 weeks ago

Dorchester

I try and read all profiles I'm interested in but and i guess many are written by men couples wise, the ranty ones who say you have to be verified by 14 couples at least i don't read them and the women who don't like men but want to meet them for sex I'm not a fan of them either, the disclaimer public limited company bla bla bla it doesn't bother me unless it forms just about all of their profile write up and even then it doesn't bother me

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By *owestoft Man OP Man
32 weeks ago

Lowestoft

Agreed lol

To many rants and disclaimers but each to their own hey? For me just a simple profile of Likes and what they are looking for is good. The pics etc are great and is what attracts me to them

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By *ou only live onceMan
32 weeks ago

London

I get bored of profiles that are too long, or just blocks of text that are hard to wade through. People need to learn how to use paragraph breaks.

But can ignore pretty much anything if the pictures are pretty. I'm fickle like that.

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
32 weeks ago

Always on the move

I read them all. I've made the mistake of skimming and then been berated for missing a secret word, a face pic, or not meeting their preferences enough times.

Unless it's like war and peace. Then I get bored, give up, and move on

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By *onkeynutWoman
32 weeks ago

somewhere

I’m just here for the helicopters. Where are they?

For me, action shots are off putting.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Central

I don't want to see pics of the type of sex that someone wants.

I want photos that will give me a clear, accurate understanding of how someone looks, so I can decide whether or not I can potentially stomach them being physically intimate.

It's the quality of the text that's important to me, not the quantity.

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By *llNatural36FWoman
32 weeks ago

Denbighshire

"Am not into action shots so if a profile shows lots of them il pass it by, adult site or not they are just off putting, id much rather see the person and not who they have shagged in the past"

This is the same for me, I also don’t like a profile full of cock pics, one is plenty we all know what it look like

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By *rBobbMan
32 weeks ago

Birmingham

I enjoy reading profiles, even if I am out of their age range I will still happily read what they have taken time to write. If I like their photos I will fab them purely to show my appreciation.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

If she’s a hot chic, I’ll check her out. If it’s a couple with a hot chic, I’ll check them out .. all others have to do something ridiculously cool or stupid for me to read theirs.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

I don’t know how many times I’ve read a profile and thought ok this is well written, interesting, informative, not too serious I like it. Not many though tbf.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
32 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Thing is we all want and like different things, even on here.

I avoid blank profiles with no pics or those where I can see more of other people in the pics than them or where it's just 59 cock pics at different angles.

I like pics that leave something to the imagination and a bio that tells me a bit about them, what they're looking for and offer.

So I can see if there's a potential attraction and if we'd be compatible.

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