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By (user no longer on site) OP   
33 weeks ago

This is mainly for woman but I guess also the men who get responses.

What makes a good first message. What is a good starter? I have tried various messages - I write all of my personally so it takes lots of time and 99% of the time get no response. I’m no brad Pitt but I would say I’m not to shabby looking? Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Well this is purely for me but a message that’s from someone I’m looking for, that somehow shows they’ve read and understood my profile and most importantly gives me something to actually reply to other than “thanks” . So many first messages are just one line statements that do t help start a conversation so anything g that makes it easy for me to reply to really helps

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By *ittlebirdWoman
33 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

One from someone you want to respond to that contains more than hi or FAF. The first part of that sentence being the most important

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

I like ones from guys I find hot.

Fairly simple really.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
33 weeks ago

The Continental

There’s no big secret to introducing yourself. What you’ll find is that women are reading through dozens of responses and are likely to check out pic’s before deciding whether to reply or not.

I’ve done short intro’s

I’ve done long intro’s

I’ve done war and peace intro’s

Each have been ignored or answered.

I’d say that as long as you feel you meet the criteria of the person you’re messaging, you’ve personalised it, and refrained from copy and pasting generics……then there’s not much anyone can suggest that will improve reply rates.

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By *TG3Man
33 weeks ago

Dorchester

I always send a first message which starts off _ello darling what you looking for and add a pic invariably i get an answer

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By *ex HolesMan
33 weeks ago

Up North

I find that the ones slackest fannys tend to answer the most

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By *TG3Man
33 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I find that the ones slackest fannys tend to answer the most "
Slack Alice?

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By *ex HolesMan
33 weeks ago

Up North


"I find that the ones slackest fannys tend to answer the most Slack Alice? "

She replied to you as well?

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By *tudmcmuffinMan
33 weeks ago

Swindon

I try to find something in their profile or status that I can spark a conversation from, find a thread and see if you can get a response from it. It also helps when someone’s online as otherwise it can get lost in the vastness of crap messages

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By *uenevereWoman
33 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"This is mainly for woman but I guess also the men who get responses.

What makes a good first message. What is a good starter? I have tried various messages - I write all of my personally so it takes lots of time and 99% of the time get no response. I’m no brad Pitt but I would say I’m not to shabby looking? Thanks in advance "

To be fair, as long as it's personalised that's the best you can do.

The best message in the world won't change whether the lady finds you attractive enough, based on your profile, to respond.

Fab is hard work, especially for single guys, and you've only been here a very short time. Be patient and consider getting to socials and clubs.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
33 weeks ago

somewhere

I like messages that have a face pic attached in the first message, call me shallow but I would rather know who I'm chatting too and if it's both worth our time before going forward.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
33 weeks ago

The Continental


"I like messages that have a face pic attached in the first message, call me shallow but I would rather know who I'm chatting too and if it's both worth our time before going forward."

Nothing shallow about that if that’s how you go about your fabbing.

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By *TG3Man
33 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I find that the ones slackest fannys tend to answer the most Slack Alice?

She replied to you as well? "
well Larry did

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By *mmaleiaWoman
33 weeks ago

Trowbridge

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By *mmaleiaWoman
33 weeks ago

Trowbridge

A week ago, you sent me a message with 2 words & a photo, pretty sure your profile was empty at the time, so didn’t appeal.

Personally myself, I’m not great at communicating online, I’d rather meet somebody at a club, glad to see you will be attending clubs too

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By *elloWoman
33 weeks ago

alpha centauri

How about this,

HEy MiLkY TiTs.

ive got a cock, you've got a minge. Let's fuck and I'll eat your pussy for hours whilst you fall a sleep from boredom.

You're probably not going to message me back anyway, everyone is rude on here unless you've got a 12 inch cock.

Nice guys like me don't stand a chance.

You're fat and ugly so I didn't actually want to fuck you in the first place.

Slag.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
33 weeks ago

The Continental


"How about this,

HEy MiLkY TiTs.

ive got a cock, you've got a minge. Let's fuck and I'll eat your pussy for hours whilst you fall a sleep from boredom.

You're probably not going to message me back anyway, everyone is rude on here unless you've got a 12 inch cock.

Nice guys like me don't stand a chance.

You're fat and ugly so I didn't actually want to fuck you in the first place.

Slag.

"

That’s the one.

I’m C&P’ing that to my notes for future use.

I’ll be drowning in muff.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
33 weeks ago

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
33 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

About 40% polite. Perhaps a bit too polite.

30% I wanna fuck your thicc ass/throat etc

10 % I’m straight but

10% I’m in your area wanna meet

5% your fat/impersonating a woman/other

5% messages from forum (often interesting or funny)

These are guidance figures and should not be relied on as indicative of future messsges. Future messages may chsnges. Self esteem at risk. Get independent forum advice.

Etc

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